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I'm giving birth to a very poorly 29 weeker tomorrow, any advice?

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Alb1 · 01/04/2017 19:47

I won't go into too much detail as it can be a little quiet on here and I don't want to pour my heart out to no replies Blush

Il be exactly 29 weeks tomorrow, the baby is very poorly and it's been made clear her chances arnt great if they deliver her. But we also don't have any options to help her if we leave her in utero, so she's clearly going to get more sick and die anyway. The doctors arnt giving an opinion of what they think is best so it's all been left down to us, although they said if I was past 32 weeks they'd deliver. So we feel we need to deliver as surly even a tiny tiny chance is better than no chance. Our last baby was stillborn to the same condition (we were told these things don't happen twice, we had absolutely no idea, and nither did the doctors, that it could reoccur) but we didn't find out until hours before she died last time so we couldn't do anything, this time we've been trying for over 4 weeks and have exhausted all options other than delivery.

Don't no what advice I'm looking for, has anyone else had a baby against the odds and how did it go? I think with the doctors not being able to offer an opinion I want to feel like I'm not making a selfish or wrong decision somehow Confused

OP posts:
squirre1 · 02/04/2017 18:51

Hope you're both ok

FraterculaArctica · 02/04/2017 18:55

Thinking of you and hoping everything has gone as well as it can today x

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 02/04/2017 18:57

Still here OP, hope you and your sweet baby girl are doing fine.

AFawnDawn · 02/04/2017 19:06

Fingers crossed for you and your baby. Small but mighty indeed Flowers

Rawesome6 · 02/04/2017 19:28

Fingers crossed and wishing you both strength

TiredCluelessMummy · 02/04/2017 19:34

I hope everything went as well as could be expected today, OP. You're both very brave and I'm sending love and positive thoughts your way Flowers

chanceofrain · 02/04/2017 19:41

I've been thinking of you today, OP. Echoing the thoughts of everyone here who is pulling for you and your little daughter.

OpalIridescence · 02/04/2017 19:49

Thinking of you and hoping for you all day. Truly hope your little girl is here and you are able to begin on a path to recovery, you really deserve it.

MackerelOfFact · 02/04/2017 20:10

Thinking of you OP. FlowersBear

Lalunya85 · 02/04/2017 20:19

I hope you have had some good news today. Much love and strength for whatever journey lies ahead for you now.
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purpleshortcake · 02/04/2017 20:38

Hope today has gone well OP. I've just put my 4 year old 27 weeker twins to bed, they love to hear stories of when they were in Neonatal ICU and they are fascinated looking at the pictures of them intubated taken very shortly after birth. These are kept next to our bed. I saw these exact pictures of them before I actually saw the babies in the flesh as they were whisked away so quickly and the lovely doctors brought the photos round to show me as I was convinced they had not survived. You will draw upon reserves you never thought you had. You will become part of a community of preemie Mums who may become long term friends. Thinking of you and your baby daughter. I echo what a PP said..baby girls do have a better prognosis than boys. My son was in ICU much longer than his sister, survived Sepsis, had 4 blood transfusions, was on oxygen at home for 6 months. He was 2lb 3oz. His nursery teacher just told me last week he is hitting every milestone and is excelling in maths. Hope all is well Flowers

purpleviolet1 · 02/04/2017 20:39

Thinking of you today Alb xxx

Elvisrocks · 02/04/2017 20:44

Oh OP, your thread has made me cry. I so hope there is some good news.

imjessie · 02/04/2017 20:48

29 weeks is very early and I know you don't want to hear that but my son was prem and in scbu for a month . I saw a lot of babies , some were fine , some not fine .. however I wanted to point out my son has sn ( not related to being prem ) and I haven't yet met a doctor who has anything positive to say . They always always err on the side of caution . I believe because if the compensation culture . The scbu nurses and staff are amazing though and I'm sure they will do all they can to save your baby.. I wish you luck x

minmooch · 02/04/2017 20:54

Belatedly wishing you much love today. I so hope it all goes well and you meet your daughterxx

MagnumAddict · 03/04/2017 09:40

Sending you strength for whatever you are facing today Flowers

It's important to get as much rl support as possible but don't forget there's lots of virtual hand holding here if needed too, especially if you find yourself needing to chat in the night

yikesanotherbooboo · 03/04/2017 10:19

Thinking of you

Katie0705 · 03/04/2017 10:24

Alb. Thinking of you and your DH

BigBrownSofa123 · 03/04/2017 10:34

Another one wishing you all lots of love and luck. I think you've made the right choice.

3boys3dogshelp · 03/04/2017 11:37

Thinking of your family today x

BusterGonad · 03/04/2017 14:34

I hope things are working out op. It's a tough road ahead but you get the strength to walk it from somewhere. Xx

Alb1 · 04/04/2017 06:35

Hello everyone, thank you all for thinking of us, I never expected much response at all!

We got delayed quite a few times but our baby girl was finally delivered yesterday evening, came out crying and is currently stable and doing well, although it's very early days Smile

I'm quite shocked by the whole thing and trying to take in having a live baby but il update again in a few days once I'm not in such a haze

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FurryElephant · 04/04/2017 06:36

Congratulations! So so pleased she's doing well GrinFlowers

Jetcatblackcat · 04/04/2017 06:38

Awww congratulations on the birth of your precious little girl, bet she's beautiful Flowers

pinkieandperkie · 04/04/2017 06:38

That's wonderful news. We are all thinking of you.