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I'm giving birth to a very poorly 29 weeker tomorrow, any advice?

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Alb1 · 01/04/2017 19:47

I won't go into too much detail as it can be a little quiet on here and I don't want to pour my heart out to no replies Blush

Il be exactly 29 weeks tomorrow, the baby is very poorly and it's been made clear her chances arnt great if they deliver her. But we also don't have any options to help her if we leave her in utero, so she's clearly going to get more sick and die anyway. The doctors arnt giving an opinion of what they think is best so it's all been left down to us, although they said if I was past 32 weeks they'd deliver. So we feel we need to deliver as surly even a tiny tiny chance is better than no chance. Our last baby was stillborn to the same condition (we were told these things don't happen twice, we had absolutely no idea, and nither did the doctors, that it could reoccur) but we didn't find out until hours before she died last time so we couldn't do anything, this time we've been trying for over 4 weeks and have exhausted all options other than delivery.

Don't no what advice I'm looking for, has anyone else had a baby against the odds and how did it go? I think with the doctors not being able to offer an opinion I want to feel like I'm not making a selfish or wrong decision somehow Confused

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Universitychallenging · 02/04/2017 09:12

Thinking of you and your baby today op

Tattybogle89 · 02/04/2017 09:12

What a terrible position to be put in as a mother. I think u are making the right decision

Wishing you all the best at this difficult time xxx

SteppingOnToes · 02/04/2017 09:16

Wishing you and your family all the luck in the world.

I hope it gives you hope - in the hospital I work at there was a baby discharged home on friday who was born at 24 weeks. A small miracle but he has pulled through and was well enough to go home.

You will be in for a rough and scary time but NICU can work wonders now adays.

pinkieandperkie · 02/04/2017 09:21

Thinking of you x

Itsabeautifuldaytosavelives · 02/04/2017 09:21

Thinking of you today Alb Flowers

Macauley · 02/04/2017 09:22

Thinking of you today x

SummerHouse · 02/04/2017 09:24

Miracles happen everyday. Flowers

SoTheySentMeA · 02/04/2017 09:29

You're giving her the only chance she has. That is incredibly brave of you. I'll be thinking if you today Alb, I really hope it goes well Flowers

Frazzled2207 · 02/04/2017 09:32

Thinking of you and your little girl. From my limited understanding it strikes me that you're doing the best thing. Flowers

cherrypiemay16 · 02/04/2017 09:33

Wishing you so much luck today, make sure you take time to enjoy that first moment of seeing your beautiful baby too. What a scary and emotional time for you. I hope you have lots of friends and family to carry you through. Hydrops is such an tricky condition to manage but babies do survive it and you can be sure all the medical and nursing teams will be fighting just as hard as you. Sending love and positive thoughts xx

ReginaGeorgeinSheepsClothing · 02/04/2017 09:34

Thinking of you today x

JackieOMG · 02/04/2017 09:37

Thinking of you today OP. My baby was born at 24 weeks weighing just under 1.5lb, now a happy, healthy toddler with no ongoing issues. Stay strong Flowers

PugwallsSummer · 02/04/2017 09:37

Thinking of you and your baby girl xx

MagnumAddict · 02/04/2017 09:38

Sending positive wishes your way

ScarlettDarling · 02/04/2017 09:38

Sending you every good wish and positive vibe.

cherryberrymum · 02/04/2017 09:44

Sending lots of positive vibes to you and your little girl. Neonatal teams are all so well trained so you will be supported welll. I hope and pray all goes well xx

TheVeryThing · 02/04/2017 09:45

Thinking of you and your little baby today Flowers

MoreProseccoNow · 02/04/2017 09:46

I had DS at 29 weeks, due to severe PE. He had stopped growing at 24/25 weeks & it was very much touch & go. He came home on oxygen after nearly 100 days in NICU. It was a long & tough journey.

Hoping everything goes as well as it can today 💐

Mumteedum · 02/04/2017 09:54

Much love to you today, alb.

Hobbitch · 02/04/2017 09:57

Best of luck to you and your baby OP. My niece was born at 29 weeks because she had stopped growing a few weeks earlier. She was in hospital for a long time but she's fine now, turning 8 this year. Thinking of you!

WaitroseCoffeeCostaCup · 02/04/2017 10:05

Good luck and prayers to you today ❤️

Gingerbreadmam · 02/04/2017 11:07

thinking of you today Flowers

Smurf123 · 02/04/2017 11:08

Thinking of you today! Flowers

CoolCarrie · 02/04/2017 11:09

Thinking of you and your family today

Imnotacelebgetmeouttahere · 02/04/2017 11:13

Sending love to you all