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I'm giving birth to a very poorly 29 weeker tomorrow, any advice?

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Alb1 · 01/04/2017 19:47

I won't go into too much detail as it can be a little quiet on here and I don't want to pour my heart out to no replies Blush

Il be exactly 29 weeks tomorrow, the baby is very poorly and it's been made clear her chances arnt great if they deliver her. But we also don't have any options to help her if we leave her in utero, so she's clearly going to get more sick and die anyway. The doctors arnt giving an opinion of what they think is best so it's all been left down to us, although they said if I was past 32 weeks they'd deliver. So we feel we need to deliver as surly even a tiny tiny chance is better than no chance. Our last baby was stillborn to the same condition (we were told these things don't happen twice, we had absolutely no idea, and nither did the doctors, that it could reoccur) but we didn't find out until hours before she died last time so we couldn't do anything, this time we've been trying for over 4 weeks and have exhausted all options other than delivery.

Don't no what advice I'm looking for, has anyone else had a baby against the odds and how did it go? I think with the doctors not being able to offer an opinion I want to feel like I'm not making a selfish or wrong decision somehow Confused

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whothefuckhas5children · 02/04/2017 04:57
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MrsPringles · 02/04/2017 07:40

Wishing you lots of luck today OP FlowersFlowers

fleur34 · 02/04/2017 07:43

Thinking of you today, hoping it all goes well xxx

WowserBowser · 02/04/2017 07:44

Best of luck today Flowers

iwasagirlinavillage · 02/04/2017 08:02

Thinking of you. My daughter was born at 28+1 and spent 9 weeks in NICU. It is a scary but weirdly comforting place.

It may feel like you don't want to take photos or videos but do it. Even if it seems odd, this is your baby's birth and there's something to cherish there too. Our hospital gave us a memory box so we could keep a tiny nappy, some of her chest wires, her first hat, wrist bands. If you can, see if you can get some hand and foot prints. You will cherish that forever. Try to find the joy in the trauma. It's difficult because it's so overwhelming but there are a lot of things to find happiness in too.

Lastly, my best piece of advice for surviving NICU is to let other people help you. My mum did all of our washing and made us meals which she'd put in our freezer so we could have something decent to eat in the evening. It just took the burden off. People around you will feel helpless and if you can give them little tasks that help you out they will feel that they're doing something.

Good luck for today and I'll be thinking of you and your little girl. Flowers

teaandakitkat · 02/04/2017 08:13

Good luck today, I hope you can enjoy seeing your new baby, and be able to touch and speak to her in amongst all the medical stuff x

CycleHire · 02/04/2017 08:13

Good luck today. You and the medical team have tried everything they can in utero and FWIW I would make the same decision you have. You're taking a chance but you're between a rock and a hard place and you're choosing action, which is my instinct too. Thinking of you.

TheEagle · 02/04/2017 08:19

Good luck today alb.

My twins spent 3 nights in NICU and the people who work there are truly wonderful. They give their all in difficult circumstances and the babies do amazingly well.

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verytiredmummy1 · 02/04/2017 08:22

Good luck OP xx

Blueroses99 · 02/04/2017 08:31

Thinking of you Alb, all the best today.

I'm in a similar position to yourself in that after a stillbirth last year, I'm doing everything that I can to keep my current pregnancy progressing and will have to prepare for the possibility of a very premature birth (it's due to a condition in me rather than in either of my babies).

Good luck Flowers

QODRestYeMerryGentlemen · 02/04/2017 08:38

Thinking of you today 💐

MyBreadIsEggy · 02/04/2017 08:39

Thinking of you today OP Flowers

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ScaryMonstersandSuperCreeps · 02/04/2017 08:42

Sending love hugs and prayers to you. X

MiniMaxi · 02/04/2017 08:44

Thinking of you today OP. NICU staff are amazing and they'll do their very best for your DD. You're absolutely doing the right thing.

Shamoffour · 02/04/2017 08:44

Will be thinking of you and your daughter today xxxx

Lottbarn · 02/04/2017 08:46

Thinking of you today Flowers

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 02/04/2017 08:46

Thinking of you Sweet, praying for the very best outcome, for you and your baby girl. 🌺

Ilovewillow · 02/04/2017 08:54

No professional help but I will be thinking if you all! My sister is a new-natal intensive care nurse and tells about all of the miracle babies and their dedicated parents. My thoughts are with you, stay strong! Flowers

flumpybear · 02/04/2017 08:56

Wishing you all the luck in the world for today - hoping for a lovely reply to say she's safely here FlowersBear

Frouby · 02/04/2017 08:58

Thinking of you today OP. Hope everything goes well xx

LadyDisick · 02/04/2017 09:01

FlowersAlb. I will be thinking of you and your much loved baby today, wishing you all the luck in the world.

Mcchickenbb41 · 02/04/2017 09:04

Dear op my son was born at 30 wks. It was decided he would be safer out. Today he's 6 foot 4 and going to uni this year. I'm thinking of you today Flowers

Glossolalia · 02/04/2017 09:07

Thinking of you, OP. Flowers

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