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I'm giving birth to a very poorly 29 weeker tomorrow, any advice?

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Alb1 · 01/04/2017 19:47

I won't go into too much detail as it can be a little quiet on here and I don't want to pour my heart out to no replies Blush

Il be exactly 29 weeks tomorrow, the baby is very poorly and it's been made clear her chances arnt great if they deliver her. But we also don't have any options to help her if we leave her in utero, so she's clearly going to get more sick and die anyway. The doctors arnt giving an opinion of what they think is best so it's all been left down to us, although they said if I was past 32 weeks they'd deliver. So we feel we need to deliver as surly even a tiny tiny chance is better than no chance. Our last baby was stillborn to the same condition (we were told these things don't happen twice, we had absolutely no idea, and nither did the doctors, that it could reoccur) but we didn't find out until hours before she died last time so we couldn't do anything, this time we've been trying for over 4 weeks and have exhausted all options other than delivery.

Don't no what advice I'm looking for, has anyone else had a baby against the odds and how did it go? I think with the doctors not being able to offer an opinion I want to feel like I'm not making a selfish or wrong decision somehow Confused

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Footle · 01/04/2017 21:20

I don't see what other decision you could make. Wishing your daughter and her brave Mum and Dad strength for tomorrow.

RachelRosie · 01/04/2017 21:28

Sounds like you are making the right decision and give your little one the best fighting chance. Will be thinking of you and your daughter Flowers

MadeForThis · 01/04/2017 21:33

You are very brave. Stay strong for your little one. Hopes and prayers will be with you xx

Glamorousglitter · 01/04/2017 21:43

Adding my kindest thoughts and very best wishes for you and your baby's and family and medical teams today and in the future.

purpleporpoise · 01/04/2017 21:53

Keeping everything crossed for you op

grainmum · 01/04/2017 21:55

Sending lots of positive thoughts for tomorrow alb hope you get some rest tonight, lots of love xx

grainmum · 01/04/2017 21:55

Sending lots of positive thoughts for tomorrow alb hope you get some rest tonight, lots of love xx

danTDM · 01/04/2017 22:01

Sending the best of luck and love Flowers

user1471530109 · 01/04/2017 22:07

OP, my 29 weeker turned 4 a few weeks ago. She is an absolute delight and apart from tiny, is totally fine.
Nicu is emotional and I'll be honest, still is hard to think back on. But I know so many preemies who are doing well and various ages now.

You say your baby is a girl. I was told that girls do so much better than boys in the nicu. For some reason this has stayed with me and it bought a lot of comfort in those first few days.

Good luck to you and your dd Flowers

Phalarope · 01/04/2017 22:19

Thinking of you tonight as well as tomorrow. Flowers

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 01/04/2017 22:40

I'm sending my love and prayers too, @Alb1.

Remember to look after yourself - hospitals are hot places, so drink plenty of water, and eat as well as you can.

{{{hugs}}}

Whywonttheyletmeusemyusername · 01/04/2017 22:44

Very best of luck for tomorrow Flowers

eurochick · 01/04/2017 22:52

Best of luck. I had a 34 weeker who was growth restricted so the size of an average 30-32 weeker. She was tiny and had some ups and downs in hospital but is now two and half and petite but doing just fine. X

MrsMozart · 01/04/2017 22:55

Thinking of you all xx

DoubleR · 01/04/2017 22:56

It certainly sounds like you're doing the right thing to give your daughter the best chance. Good luck to both of you for tomorrow and every day after. Flowers

GlitteryFluff · 01/04/2017 22:59

Will be thinking of you tomorrow.
Flowers

notapizzaeater · 01/04/2017 22:59

You have yo do what you think is right, good luck tomorrow x

Ollycat · 01/04/2017 23:00

I have no advice but am thinking of you and your dd tomorrow Flowers

Gingerbreadmam · 01/04/2017 23:02

alb it all sounds very positive from the hospitals perspective. they know they're stuff.

JimWithTwoNoses · 01/04/2017 23:22

I'm sorry you are going through this, especially with your previous loss it just sounds so unfair. I wish you and your family all the best for the days ahead and hope it's the best possible outcome for your baby Flowers

dailydance · 01/04/2017 23:36

Nothing to offer except a hug, a handhold and best wishes Flowers

Venusflytwat · 01/04/2017 23:51

I don't think you have a choice really. You've got to get her out.

Wishing you both well x

Esker · 02/04/2017 04:44

I'm so sorry you are going through this OP. Best of luck tomorrow for you and your baby. It sounds like there is an amazing medical team there. I have a 27 weeker who is now 12 weeks old and still in NICU struggling with illness. It's a long old journey but the doctors, nurses and support staff are just wonderful and doing everything they can to help our ds. It's scary and overwhelming at first but all fingers crossed they stabilise your lovely baby asap and then can take the steps they need to help her heart recover. FlowersFlowers

PotOfYoghurt · 02/04/2017 04:50

Sending you and your baby healing thoughts alb. I'm so sorry for the loss of your first baby and for the trauma you've had so far. Flowers

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