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I'm giving birth to a very poorly 29 weeker tomorrow, any advice?

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Alb1 · 01/04/2017 19:47

I won't go into too much detail as it can be a little quiet on here and I don't want to pour my heart out to no replies Blush

Il be exactly 29 weeks tomorrow, the baby is very poorly and it's been made clear her chances arnt great if they deliver her. But we also don't have any options to help her if we leave her in utero, so she's clearly going to get more sick and die anyway. The doctors arnt giving an opinion of what they think is best so it's all been left down to us, although they said if I was past 32 weeks they'd deliver. So we feel we need to deliver as surly even a tiny tiny chance is better than no chance. Our last baby was stillborn to the same condition (we were told these things don't happen twice, we had absolutely no idea, and nither did the doctors, that it could reoccur) but we didn't find out until hours before she died last time so we couldn't do anything, this time we've been trying for over 4 weeks and have exhausted all options other than delivery.

Don't no what advice I'm looking for, has anyone else had a baby against the odds and how did it go? I think with the doctors not being able to offer an opinion I want to feel like I'm not making a selfish or wrong decision somehow Confused

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billabye · 04/04/2017 06:38

Oh my goodness, congratulations! That's fantastic news!
Hope she continues to thrive and grows stronger with time. You are very brave. Flowers

rhodes2015 · 04/04/2017 06:38

Congratulations alb!!! Flowers fantastic news! X

Ollycat · 04/04/2017 06:39

Congratulations Flowers fantastic news - I hope she makes good progress.

NorksAreMessy · 04/04/2017 06:42

Oh, congratulations Flowers

We are all here beside you, holding your hand and always listening.

Hobbitch · 04/04/2017 06:46

That's fantastic! Congrats! Doctors and midwives do amazing things, hope your daughter will keep getting stronger.

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Aebj · 04/04/2017 06:48

Nothing quite like the first cry. It's magic. So glad you were able to hear her cry. Good luck for the future

PeachyImpeachment · 04/04/2017 06:49

Oh OP - I've read this thread with my heart in my mouth - I'm so pleased your baby girl was born alive. I so hope things continue to progress well Flowers

PenguinPoser · 04/04/2017 06:52

Just been reading your thread, congratulations on your daughters arrival and keeping everything crossed for you all Flowers so pleased she is doing well.

SplodgeBear1988 · 04/04/2017 06:54

Congratulations thats great news. Flowers

Tweennightmare · 04/04/2017 06:55

Another one following this thread and have been keeping everything crossed. I am thrilled you have got to meet your little girl and hopefully she may soon be home so you can begin your next adventure as a family. Congratulations

tiredworrier · 04/04/2017 06:56

Congratulations Flowers** best wishes for all of you.

Kevinbaconsrealwife · 04/04/2017 07:00

Congratulations my lovely on the birth of your gorgeous girl.....please trust that the doctors and nurses will be doing absolutely everything within their power for her.....just as a " by the by"... Exactly a year ago I was given a 10% chance of survival in icu ..... Today I'm happy and healthy .... Happy endings do happen and I hope and pray with all my heart that you get yours...unMN (((hugs))) for you both...xxxx

Afreshstartplease · 04/04/2017 07:01

Congrats op! I bet she's just perfect Flowers

thenightmanageress · 04/04/2017 07:01

Congratulations on your beautiful girl.
Flowers

teaandakitkat · 04/04/2017 07:01

Wonderful news. I hope you are enjoying her, in between all the stress and medical worries x

legoagain · 04/04/2017 07:02

Fabulous news x

blueskyinmarch · 04/04/2017 07:04

Congratulations that is fabulous news.

Fairybella · 04/04/2017 07:05

So pleased for you. X

HeadingEast · 04/04/2017 07:09

Congratulations Flowers

SparePantsAndLego · 04/04/2017 07:11

Congratulations, OP, I've got everything crossed for you.

welshweasel · 04/04/2017 07:11

Fabulous news to wake up to, congratulations!

Scribblegirl · 04/04/2017 07:14

Congratulations on the birth of your daughter OP Smile so very glad to hear she's starting well and have everything crossed Flowers

Footle · 04/04/2017 07:14

All the very best for your little daughter.

saffronwblue · 04/04/2017 07:16

That is a lovely update xx

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