Medical abortion- waiting for appointment

[Chunk9]

Hi

Just after moral support from anyone maybe going through the same. Just discovered I am pregnant, I have 2 children and we are just not in that place any more to be having any more babies. I am
absolutely gobsmacked that I am pregnant. Decided to have a medical abortion and just want it done asap. Soonest appointment from BPAS I could get is Friday. It seems like forever away and I am in complete limbo. I can’t think of anything else. I’m so upset that I have to do this!!!! Is anyone else in that waiting phase? I just want it to be over with!

Sad noone has responded to this! But if anyone stumbles on this- I called them again this morning and they managed to get me a cancellation appointment for today, medication is on the way. Midwife was lovely and supportive and has really put my mind at rest.

Hello, i don't think I have anything very helpful to say im sorry except I understand and am going through the exact same. I can only get an abortion appointment for next Monday and just feel horrible about it. I have no children and would like them in the future but just don't think now is the right time for us. That and I'm very scared of pregnancy. I hope everything goes well for you, and I'm glad you were able to get an appointment a bit earlier. Good luck and best wishes

Hi,

I don't think this forum gets much traffic as no one responded to a post I put up a couple of days ago!

I have one DC 2 and at first was pleasantly surprised by the positive test but when it started to sink in I realised another is really not something we can take on at the moment and I feel sheer relief at the idea of not being pregnant right now. Pretty gutted to have found myself in this position though.

Anyway I phoned the service on Monday and my appointment isn't till next Tuesday, so still another 6 days. Feels like forever and doesn't help that my nausea is ramping up by the day.

Please let me know how you get on with your termination. I have been reading "positive" stories about it being straightforward which has made me feel better about the whole thing.

Ah I’m sorry you have such a long wait. I’d really suggest calling as soon as they open tomorrow, 8am is it? I just explained I was struggling mentally with the wait and was there any chance there had been a cancellation, luckily enough the had a cancellation for just 2 hours later. It’s always worth asking, what have you got to lose? I’m feeling ok mentally, I stand by my decision being right for us, we have 2 children and after an early miscarriage back in summer we discussed the fact that it was fate and infact we just don’t want to have any more, we are happy how we are now. It is just the long wait and anticipation to get this horrible procedure done.

im hoping to receive the pack tomorrow, i will keep you posted if you like. I have found it reassuring to read other people’s positive stories.

I hope you’re ok and I really hope you give them a call and try and speed things up for yourself x

Same here OP. I found out on Mon, had been praying it was anovulation cycle. Apt booked for Monday morning. I can wait, but head is all over the place, my nausea is getting worse.
How is the appointment? Said in the email can last up to an hour.

@Chunk9 thank you. I've booked time off work for it next week and would rather not have to think about childcare while going through it so think I'm just going to stick with the Tuesday appointment, otherwise I'd be doing it over the weekend.

Glad you're feeling confident in your decision, it makes the thought of it easier. We only have one and definitely want to give them a sibling at some point, but this just feels too soon. I'm also lucky to have never had negative influences on my opinion and so am very pro choice- sounds like it is the right choice for all of us on the thread and we are just so lucky to have it!

Would love to hear how you get on.

It was about 30 mins, the midwife was lovely, just ran through the medical questions then a chat about how we came to the decision, she was very clear in making sure I felt there was no judgement in the question, simply something to chat through. It was very comforting, and allowed me to ask the questions I needed to. I felt better after the call. I have received a text from Royal Mail to say they have the parcel and it will be delivered within 3 days. X

Absolutely we are very lucky to have this choice available, and it is such a comfort speaking to people going through the same. It wasn’t a decision I ever thought we’d have to make, we always said if it happened unplanned we would just go with it. But when faced with the situation it was very different. I’ll let you know how it goes, just have to sit tight and wait for delivery. The telephone appointment absolutely calmed me down about the situation x

@Chunk9 fantastic glad to hear appointment went well. Take care and be kind to yourself, hope it arrives soon for you.

I've said exactly the same that I'd just go with it, never thought I'd be in this position. I know it might sound terrible but I'm hoping for a miscarriage, that way nature decides. As i say, my heads all over the place.
I think in my head I'd love another of my daughter, but that won't happen, they aren't the same and i can't go back in time to her babyhood.
Also my step sister in law went for a second and it was twins which scares me.

It doesn’t sound terrible, it’s exactly what I have been saying. And comforting myself in the wait for treatment thinking- maybe nature will take care of it for me before the tablets arrive. It’s a horrible way to think but would have felt so much better for it happening naturally. I’ve had a few miscarriages in the past, I’m assuming this will feel similar? Maybe more intense as it’s being brought on by pills?

you just never know how a pregnancy would go. I had my son and then was desperate to give him a sibling, I miscarried twice in between and it seriously affected me mentally, I was just obsessed with pregnancy- I missed out on that time with my son because I was consumed by the idea of having another. Couple of years later I had my daughter. I stressed the whole pregnancy. I feel so lucky to have them, and we’re so happy, I don’t want to put them or myself through another pregnancy.

this whole process needs to be less taboo and made more available for women, the one thing I’ve found in this is how little positive reading there is on it! It’s very hush hush! That must change!

@wineandmaltesershappyme if it makes you feel any better, there is also a significant part of me which is hoping for an early miscarriage. Do you have an appointment yet?

I just read this which I found quite empowering

https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/world/commentisfree/2023/dec/09/mothers-of-course-have-abortions-and-its-time-to-accept-they-are-the-experts-in-their-own-lives

I do have an appointment for Monday morning. It does need to be less taboo, i haven't spoke to anyone in real life so i'm so thankful i found this thread, it's really helping.

@mindworkingovertime absolutely definitely makes a difference being in touch with people going through it at the same time. ❤️

I found this thread too if it helps https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy_choices/4963140-another-positive-medical-abortion-story

This is fantastic! Thank you

Just an update, my pack came about 12pm so 24 hours after our appointment. Waited until after the school run and took my first tablet at about 5. Feeling a little woozy but I think I’m just generally wiped out. No queasiness or sickness! Yet!

Glad your pack came so quickly, hope you don't feel too unwell for the rest of the evening and are able to keep it down!

All good so far. Planning on plonking myself in front of Netflix and heading to bed for an early one! My mom is coming over tomorrow to hang out during the main event… more Netflix and plenty tea!

Good plan OP. Hope tomorrow is ok.
My plan if all ok and i get sent a plan is pill 1 Friday after school run, next lot Saturday or Sunday as advised, husband will keep 7yr old occupied

Do they tell you when to take the second medication?

next day/ day after. It doesn’t really matter which. I just want to get it done so I’ll do it in the morning. She said you can take it tea time, then get up next morning and do the next bit. She said it’s quite relaxed x

Thank you

Hi everyone, I had a medical abortion this week at 9 weeks and 6 days.

If anybody has any questions around the procedure feel free to ask.