Positive abortion stories ?

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Hi
I’ve been reading so many threads about women regretting there choice to have an abortion . Is there anyone who has a positive experience? Obviously I know it’s not something any women would want to go through . But it’s would be good to hear it from both sides .

I had an abortion 7.5 years ago when I was single and went out partying a lot and had a few one night stands. I fell pregnant and therefore got an abortion as I was not at all wanting to have a baby at that time and liked my care free life too much, no regrets at all. I now have a beautiful 6 month old with my partner who I met a few months after the abortion and we were both very ready to enter parenthood!

My sister had an abortion and she said it was the best thing she did, she wasn’t certain who the father was (slept with her ex then someone knew quite close together) so who would want to bring a child into that situation? She wasn’t in a relationship with either of them and didn’t want to continue, she has no regrets, people won’t post to say how it was a good thing for them out of fear of judgement.

I had one as a teenager. It obviously wasn't a pleasant experience but I absolutely made the right decision and do not regret it at all. I realise this even more now that I am older, wiser and have a child.

My sister got pregnant to an absolute narcissist when she was 15 (he was about 30). My brother quietly gave her the money, she told no-one until many years later. She went on to study her arse off until she got her phD and lives happily with her long term (lovely) partner childfree by choice.
My friend had one at 14, she went on to have a good career and a lovely marriage and kids. Both of these women would have become trapped in a life they didn't want if they didn't make that choice and are both very happy with their decision.

I have no regrets or guilt about my choice.

I found the whole process, and actual procedure itself, to be a million times better than I ever imagined it would be.

I have found the friends I have told to be surprisingly supportive.

I am 4 weeks post mine, and the one struggle I am having, is some underlying sadness/resentment/difficulties with my partner. I am hoping it is just early days and we will get through it, but I obviously can’t give much advice on that part yet…

Thankyou for all your replies. I didn’t receive and support or counselling for my abortions so coming on here has really helped me. It’s the only time I’ve really spoken about it ( I have another thread on abortion to ) . Shame there’s not more support in real life .

Think of it this way: women for whom an abortion is the right choice and who move on with their lives have very little reason to post online about it - and research shows that the vast majority of women fall into this category.

I had a surgical termination of what turned out to be a very high risk, complex multiple pregnancy. The procedure was quick and easy. I felt sad afterwards for a while. But it was the right decision for me and I don't regret it.

I had a termination at 16 and I have never regretted it. Of course I would rather not have been pregnant in the first place, but given that I was, it was the best option by far. If I'd continued I would now have a child in their mid-20s and I would have been permanently tied to the absolute wanker who got me pregnant.

Hi. First time posting. I've read so many reviews so so many! On abortion pill at home. I have health anxiety and really freaked myself out so much i was crying. Shaking. Thinking the worst that i was going to hemorrhage or die! I'll start off by saying don't be afraid. You will be fine. Easier said than done trust me! I found out i was pregnant 1 week before Christmas 2022. And i was so ill, extremely tired and sick from the pregnancy. I've been with my partner 15 years, and i wasn't ready for a baby. We decided to get an abortion, i first rang my dr who referred me to an abortion clinic, with it being Christmas i new i would have to wait ages for them to open up, anyway, boxing day i rang the clinic and they said they haven't got any appointments until the 19th December! I couldn't wait that long! So i rang bpas which is private and NHS. Told them my Circumstances, they rang me the next day 27th, and asked lots of health questions, they asked if i would like a medical abortion or a surgical abortion, i wanted a surgical abortion but they couldn't fit me in for 3 weeks. So i choose medical abortion, luckily they manged to fit me in to go see them and have a scan and collect my medication on Saturday 31st (new years eve) in Birmingham central, me and my partner went, the nurse checked my iron levels, all good. And did a scan, i had to have it inserted into my vagina as i have a tilted uterus so it would be easier for the nurse to see on the scan, she did the scan fine, i was 6 weeks and 4 days, i also have endometriosis so convinced myself having an abortion with endometriosis would cause hemorrhaging or something (those 2 things together have never been proven to effect each other) i just have bad health anxiety so was thinking the worst. She gave me my medication, and i left. As soon as i got home i took the first tablet which stops the pregnancy hormones it can cause light bleeding but i didn't have this, this was at 1pm Saturday 31st. I felt fine, didn't feel sick.

24 hours later your supposed to take the other tablets they provide, Sunday morning the nerves really kicked in, shaking, teeth chattering, heart racing (from anxiety).
1.30pm Sunday 1st January i took 4 pills 2 either side of my gums and cheeks (i couldn't put them in my vagina as i have a tilted uterus so the nurse said to put them in my mouth) and let them dissolve fully for 30 mins then wash down with water and to do this again with more of the same tablets 1 either side of my mouth again 3 to 4 hours after taking the first lot. So took the first lot of tablets Holding my partners hand waiting for the worst cramps ever shaking, crying, Nothing happened for about 1 hour, after 1 hour i had bad diarrhoea which is a side affect to the tablets, only had diarrhoea twice. Then started to feel very slight cramps, very light bleeding, for the next 2 hours, my periods are heavy and painful, this wasn't as bad at all! Then when i took the second lot of tablets (1 either side of my gums let them dissolve and swallow the rest with water after 30 mins, that's when the bleeding started to get heavy and lots of blood clots, this was within 30 minutes of taking the second lot of tablets, i stayed on the toilet most of the day for about 5 hours, Purley because every time i got up and lay on the sofa i could feel a gush of blood and a blood clot sliding out, and wanted it to be in the toilet, not in the pad as i didn't want to see it. Hence why i just stayed on the toilet, (i wouldn't recommend that as your supposed to keep an eye on how much blood your loosing in your maxi pads, where as because i just stayed on the toilet i couldn't keep track. But trust me the pain is no worse than period pains, i have endometriosis so my periods are painful. Again i started the first 4 pills at 1pm, then 4 pm roughly i took the last 2 pills (they like you take take the last 2 even if you think you passed the pregnancy with the first 4 pills, the last 2 pills is just to make sure) by 8pm i was still bleeding heavy which is normal its supposed to happen ! I did keep going to the toilet every 30 minutes to check my pad to make sure it wasn't flooding. (I wasn't) went to bed at 10pm as this really does take it out of you. My pregnancy sickness completely disappeared. I could finally eat! Slept fine but was worried I'd hemorrhage in my sleep or something (again because of anxiety) the next day (Monday 2nd January i felt so much better, bleeding was Moderate and no more blood clots apart from 1 but that was early hours in the morning when i went to the toilet about 5am. I felt so much better, so decided to do a food shop with my partner, and help him build our ikea wardrobe we have had for 2 weeks! Then on that night i started to bleed heavy (not flooding a pad) just heavy ) because i did to much. Like shopping, and building. So don't do that. Just rest. Today is Tuesday 3rd January, woke up with blood up my back but that's because the way I sleep it also happens when I'm on my period. So today i decided to just rest, had cramps still but since 12pm today (Tuesday 3rd) my cramps have completely disappeared and my bleeding has really glowed down its very moderate now. So please don't be scared of the abortion pill. Most scary posts have been made up by anti abortion people. The nurse told me the only reason i would die is if i let myself just sit there and hemorrhage! You will know if your hemorrhaging (if you FLOOD 1 maxi pad in 30 mins for 1 hour) so please don't be scared. I'm the worst person for heath anxiety. You can do this!

Hi everyone i had an abortion (abortion pill) Sunday. I think so far its all gone okay. Bleeding lightly yesterday afternoon and today, But today i did have a huge clot. Anyway, when i cough my lower belly hurts and so does the left side of my pelvic area?? and i struggle to "squeeze" a "fart out as it causes pain in my right side of my pelvic area. sorry if its too much information . has anyone else had this?

Thankyou

Did you have more children after that?

Hi @Candlelight1997
I know this is an old thread but I am very grateful to be coming across your particular message as I am pretty much in the same boat as what you were in (just found out I’m pregnant with a third - I already have a just turned 2 year old and a 6 month old).
I have an appointment on Tuesday to discuss my options but I’m really struggling right now to find any positives about keeping this baby as awful as that sounds.
Do you still find it was the right decision for you now you’re further down the line?

Hi @emmayou90, I'm not the op but I did find myself in the same situation pretty much a year ago now (although with a 3 & 5 year old so children a little older than yours).

For me it absolutely was the right choice not to keep the baby, it was a hard choice, going through it was tough but I definitely don't regret it. Nearly 12 months down the line & things feel so much different now, I don't think you ever get over it as such, it will always be a part of me but I feel completely at peace with the decision & have moved on as much as I ever will. Of course I still think about it but it certainly doesn't consume me.

It's such a personal decision & everyone copes differently but here if you need anything

Thank you @Jsh125 i really appreciate your response and kindness.
I’ve never thought something over so much in my life and I honestly still don’t know what I’ll end up doing. I’m hoping Tuesday will give me a bit more clarity x

Hi @emmayou90 you're welcome, it can be such a lonely time & I found places like this invaluable, people who have been through similar but with the safety of them being strangers on the internet - I don't know about your situation but aside from my husband I didn't share it with anyone & that was hard as any other situation I'd speak to close friends, but I just couldn't bring myself to say it to anyone else.

Hope the appointment on Tuesday goes well & they can give you more info about what to expect if you do go ahead, if you're unsure on your decision then there is a counselling service you can access (there is with BPAS anyway but imagine there is with any other provider). Although we were fairly certain of our decision I found it really helpful to talk to them just to help process it all & talk to someone impartial so I'd definitely recommend it.

Please feel free to ask any questions or to private message if you prefer if I can help in any way.

Hi @emmayou90 , I got an email saying someone had commented on this thread so thought I’d have a look. So glad to see you’ve replied to me comment from all that time ago. Hope you’re doing ok. I know how scary that can be with the two young children.
Now I am further down the line I wanted to give you some positivity and reassurance. I 100% made the right choice for myself and my family, without a doubt. My oldest is 3 and a half, my youngest will be 2 in a few days and I could not imagine having a 10 month old in the mix as well. Mentally I would not cope with another as I’m a SAHM and find it pretty exhausting most days.

I am content with the choice I made and I don’t feel any regret for what I chose to do. Obviously I think about it sometimes but I am not grief stricken or regretful. I am happy, my family is happy and I know I did the right thing for me. The emotional toll of it became easier to manage after a few months. I hope you find the answers you need for your family, wishing you all the best.

You can never be sure.

Sometimes you can.

Hey. It took me about 6 months - maybe abit longer to get to a place where I was at peace with the abortion. I went through a tough grieving stage. But 5 years later I am glad I made the decision and do not regret it. It was a decision I made for myself. I will be honest and say I think about it but as a memory that makes up my life story as opposed to it being doom and gloom. It would be great if women received more emotional support afterwards.