Positive abortion stories ?

[Mylifeisruinednow]

Hi
I’ve been reading so many threads about women regretting there choice to have an abortion . Is there anyone who has a positive experience? Obviously I know it’s not something any women would want to go through . But it’s would be good to hear it from both sides .

I fell pregnant at 19 with a boy I'd been sleeping with for a month (although he's now my husband).

I booked the appointment without a second thought and it was the best thing I've ever done. If I had had a child I would never have had the career I wanted, the education, home, children I have now etc.

I know many other women who feel the same.

Initial feelings of grief are very common but I personally did not find it as traumatic as I thought I would. It was unpleasant and I felt sad for a while but I wouldn't change anything about my life now, my decision to abort that fetus included.

I already have one child and I got pregnant by accident. I knew I didn't want to have another one as my daughter is enough for me and had abortion at home during covid time and never look back since. No regret at all. Only you know if you truly want to have a child or not

I found out I was pregnant when my youngest children's father and I split.

I booked an abortion. Told nobody. It was fine and I don't regret it for a minute. I felt nothing but relief.

Not a "positive experience" but no regrets at all and no guilt.

@Itsthemaybelline
Yes sorry I didn’t quite know how to word it . I know it’s a very controversial subject .

No regrets here either. I was in an abusive relationship and got pregnant very quickly after having a child. It would have been a disaster. We split up and I met my now-husband the month I would have been due if I hadn't had an abortion.

It's still sad and not to be entered into lightly but absolutely right decision for me at that time.

Thanks for the replies . I’ve never talked about my abortions before so I was interested in other women’s experiences . I’ve had 2 myself.

I wouldn’t describe it as “positive” because it wasn’t a situation I wanted to be in.

But I guess it was as positive an experience as you could expect. DD was 11 months and I got pregnant, i was barely back to myself after severe PND, and financially two children that close together was not feasible. I called BPAS and explained I have a phobia of sickness so could I have it done surgically. They agreed and I had it done surgically at 5.5 weeks - which I believe is basically the earliest they’ll do surgical ones.
The procedure was quick, almost completely painless, and afterwards it was like a period.

DD is now nearly 3, and I’m pregnant again. It’s planned pregnancy and we’re in a much better situation to have another baby. The abortion was 100% the right decision and even if I hadn’t got pregnant again, I wouldn’t regret it.

I have had several abortions. One for medical need and two due to contraceptive failure ( implant and Pill). I was a little sad afterwards on two of the contraception Failure abortions, but I think that was more me focusing on "what could have been" and that slowly faded over time. I'm now 17- 20 years on and I know it was absolutely without a doubt the correct thing for me and my family. I am so glad I went down the route I did.

Hi OP I had a medical abortion last week, I was around 9 weeks.

I already have a 13 year old with ASD and a 9 month old baby. However my reason for abortion was horrendous sickness/nausea. It got to the point I couldn't care for my baby, DH's mum had to come stay with us.

I did a phone consultation with BPAS, the lady was lovely very understanding and informative. I received the pills the next day.

I was fine after taking the first pill, I felt a little upset and anxious as I'd never been through it before.

I took the second pills 10am the next day, I inserted them vaginally as I was worried i would throw them up. I slept for a few hours then woke in pain.

I then had labour type pains for a few hours, they were very strong despite me taking codeine and paracetamol. I laid in bed during the process.

A few hours later I started bleeding heavily, passing clots. The pain then ended.

I am now 4 days post abortion and I feel fine. I have heavy bleeding but feel fine in myself.

I am glad i made the decision as tbh i was suicidal with the amount of nausea i was suffering.

Hope it goes well for you op

@Itsthemaybelline

Not a "positive experience" but no regrets at all and no guilt.

Same. I was already a single parent and I got pregnant by someone I knew I didn't want to be in a LTR with so I had an abortion. It was over 15 years ago and sometimes I forget I even had an abortion, so no regrets or guilt at all.

Also my DM had an abortion and she never regretted it. She didn't want another reason to be married to my father for any longer than she had to.

@Sunnytwobridges

I wish I could feel like this! It’s horrible
Feeling guilty about it all the time .

I had an early termination a long time ago. I don't regret it. It was the right decision, and such a relief.

All my close family know because it's part of my story of me, of who I am, of how I came to be me now, in the same way they know that I had a hysterectomy in my 50s. No hushed tones and secrets.

I’ve had two abortions. One when I was 17 and too young to be a parent. One at 42 when I felt too old to be a parent.

In between I had 4 DC, one still birth and three miscarriages.

On both occasions it was absolutely the right thing to do for me. I have no regrets at all.

I had a termination at university when i was 19. Agree with pps, it wasn't a 'positive' experience but it felt very much like a medical procedure, clinical and necessary and not overly emotional.
I am late 30 now, married with 2 DC and i can honestly say i very rarely think about it. I have never regretted it.

I think a lot of it is pro life groups making me feel more guilty/ bad about it. I’ve got 4 kids had my abortions after I already had children and knew how hard being a parent is . I’m a single mum to so even harder.

I had a termination at 19. I was too young, and I was just about to start at university. I had a surgical abortion and it all went well. That was 40 years ago and I've never had any regrets.

@PegasusReturns

Sorry to read you had a stillbirth . I can’t image how hard that must have been for you .

I had one when I was about 24. I had been with my partner for a year and it was a complete accident.

I knew it was the right thing to do. Being pregnant just felt completely wrong. I felt gross. I had no interest in children whatsoever and had no idea where to begin. I also barely knew my partner after only a year.

I had the abortion at around 6/7 weeks pregnant and although I was upset after, I still knew it was the right thing to do.

3 years later, we had our first Daughter. We also have a 2 year old. Definitely the right decision at the time though.

@Mylifeisruinednow thank you, it was difficult but also a long time ago now - I mentioned it as one of a series of events in 30+ years of fertility and pregnancy.

Do not let third parties make you feel guilty. You did nothing wrong. You prioritised your existing children and yourself. That was the right thing to do.

@Mylifeisruinednow

I think a lot of it is pro life groups making me feel more guilty/ bad about it. I’ve got 4 kids had my abortions after I already had children and knew how hard being a parent is . I’m a single mum to so even harder.

They're not "pro-life" at all.

They're anti-abortion and pro-guilt-tripping women. One in three women (and rising) in the UK will have an abortion. Most of them are or will be mothers. To say they're not pro-life is ludicrous.

It's the anti-abortionists who have the dodgy belief systems.

Thankyou . I seem to be very fertile having gotten pregnant once on the depo injection and the other one after taking 2 morning after pills. Even though I really didn’t want to be pregnant again or have another baby I still feel bad aboout the abortions. I can’t believe what there doing in America now , it’s the worst feeling ever being pregnant when you don’t want to be. I would always support another women going through an unwanted pregnancy. Don’t know why they feel the need to make women feel worse about themselves

Hi OP @Mylifeisruinednow

I had a medical abortion on the 26th Feb this year. I fell pregnant using contraception, my son is 2 and my daughter was 5 months when I fell pregnant and not long over 6 months when I had the abortion.

I was in pieces the weeks before the abortion, I was ashamed, Terrified and completely torn in my decision. However, for my family I chose to have an abortion. I would never want to be in that situation again, the emotional toll was excruciating.

Once my decision was made, I wanted the process to be quick. I had the phone consultation, next day the pills arrived and I took the first pill at 2pm. No side effects. 2nd pill I took at 2pm the following day, period cramps started about 2-3 hours after, bleeding started about 5 hours after. The bleeding was not extreme, more like postpartum bleeding for me. I passed the baby and sac all in one go. The bleeding subsided after that. I was sad and wondered if I would be punished for what I had done.

Fast forward to now, I’ve just finished my first period since the abortion which was 6 weeks later, and it wasn’t bad either.
My mental health is in a good place. Of course I still think about the pregnancy, in the back of my mind I’m reminded when certain dates arrive. But I know that the decision was right for my family and myself. I hope that you find peace with your decision.

@Candlelight1997
Hiya. Yes I hope I never ever have to go through it again . I don’t think you should feel ashamed though. I don’t think any women should. My first abortion was when my daughter was a baby too, think a couple of months old. So I understand how hard it is. My second was when she’d just finished preschool and I couldn’t face starting all over again when I’d just got abit of freedom. I know that sounds incredibly selfish but I’d been a mum since 18 . Also I didn’t know how I’d manage getting my
Youngest 2 to school while being so sick and the dad made it clear he would t be any help. I just get so sad and guilty about it now . I am not going to have sex again now as it’s completely ruined it for me as I’m petrified of becoming pregnant. I’m waiting to get sterilised but I’ve even heard of that failing .