Medical Termination

[winterbegone]

Anyone else just going through a medical termination? I've took the first tablet today, feeling ok but have no motivation to do anything, worrying and waiting on tomorrow once I've taken the second lot.
I have no one in rl to talk to about it, ending the pregnancy and just come out of a relationship, feeling a bit down but I know I'm making the right decision as I already have 3 children and wasn't in a relationship I wanted to be in.
Anyone else?

I've had one in the past. Sounds like you've been through a really tough time.
I would prepare for feeling very low for a short while after as your hormones adjust.
Take it easy and be kind to yourself the next few days and have lots of luxuries to hand.

My tablets are coming tomorrow, so hoping to start then. Virtual hand hold xx

I had one during the first lockdown. It wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be, a few hours of heavy bleeding and some cramping and then like a normal period.

Take care of yourself

@YnysMon20 hope it arrives for you tomorrow, let us know how you get on.

Good to hear of others experiences too, hoping it's not much worse than a bad period, I already suffer with bad ones anyway.
@BrianOfHull I'm glad your experience wasn't as bad as you thought.
I've been through labour and it can't be as bad as that, that's what I keep thinking.

hard having to wait until tomorrow when I just want it over with.

Once you have inserted the second tablets and waited half an hour, try and move around as much as you can - it seemed to help speed things up for me.

One side affect of the tablets was shivering, I had nothing else but it was a bit unexpected.

I’ll be thinking of you and hope it’s over with for you soon x

Thanks @BrianOfHull I will try moving around when I can.
Thanks for your support too.
I told the father I went to the clinic today, he didn't even ask how I was.

@winterbegone @BrianOfHull I know this is really invasive to ask - but are you dissolving them in mouth or inserting? I’m terrified of not inserting them correctly but I know the mouth method means more side effects. I don’t know what to do.

I plan to insert as hoping it won't cause sickness and it's closer to the womb I don't know if it makes a difference.

ThAnks @winterbegone I will thinking of you today xx

I inserted too, it’s really easy and then you just lie down for 30 minutes to make sure they don’t come out. Make sure you have a drink to hand and have been to the loo etc before you do it then you can just rest for half an hour.

That’s awful @winterbegone. The father of mine went back and shagged his ex while I was bleeding at home. We deserve better x

I've taken the second lot of tablets, I laid down for two hours as I was scared the tablets would fall back out but knew I had to get up before 3 hours to check to see if working just incase I needed any additional ones, looked at my pad after two hours and some bleeding started, mild cramps, I went down stairs to make a cup of tea and a wave of dizziness came over me, very suddenly and felt like I was going to faint so I sat down until I felt stronger to get up again, I have passed some clots nothing too big I was only 6wks so I don't know yet if the pregnancy has passed or if I will definitely know? It's now been 4 hours since I took the tablets.

@YnysMon20 have your tablets arrived today?

@BrianOfHull that's awful about your ex, at least now he stays firmly in the past. X

@BrianOfHull it has arrived! Going to take first pill this evening as I’m probably going to do it through the night when my little girl is asleep - although I do just want to start it all now. I’ve heard clotting can depend on the person - but you won’t see anything unless your 8.5 weeks and over (nurse said). He did say that clots can be small up to the size of a lemon. I hope you’re doing okay xx

Sorry I meant to tag you @winterbegone as well above xxx

@winterbegone sounds normal - I didn’t have any big clots, but the cramping eased off after about six hours and that’s when I knew it had passed x

@YnysMon20 I consider doing it through the night, but a friend of mine seemed to think lying down delayed everything and she just bled heavily the day after instead? Unless your planning to stay up until the bleeding starts? Maybe if you take them around lunchtime/early afternoon the bleeding may not start until she is in bed anyway? Just another option, you absolutely should do what is best for you x

Just be kind to yourself Op.
Lots of treats to get you through

Had a medical abortion in November so if anyone wants a hand hold or any advice please feel free to message. Thinking of you xx

Thank you
Feeling better now, I haven't passed any more clots (nothing the size of lemons thank goodness) so I'm hoping Ive passed the worst of it. I've been up and cooking food so I'm grateful it was over quick, still a bit crampy but not enough for anymore pain killers. Sore, heavy boobs and sickness has disappeared.

Surprisingly I'm doing ok emotionally, better than I was a week ago, once I made up my mind to terminate I knew it was the right decision for me.

Hope you’re both doing ok x

@BrianOfHull Thank you for thinking of me, means a lot. I'm doing fine, much better than expected, physically and emotionally.

@winterbegone glad to hear you’re okay, I’m the morning after the night before - wasn’t as bad as I was expecting but feel quite ‘hungover’ with it this morning!xx

@winterbegone really pleased to hear you’re doing well

Hi, I hope you're all doing OK.

I'm sorry to jump on post, currently sitting here crying not knowing what to do but I think I'm leaning towards termination.

I'm only 6 weeks gone but since I found out (2 weeks ago) I had planned on keeping it and thinking of names, situations, the lot and all family and friends know and were happy for me.

The issue is I was in denial and my' 'relationship' is a disaster!! We already have a DS now 2.8 and I dont get much support with him as it is. I was actually thinking of giving him 6 months 'trial' and to sort my sh*t out for a plan to leave and then this happened unexpectedly. I think I got caught up in the moment, perhaps forgetting all the crap and thinking what a perfect little family, ive always wanted another and said after my son was born 3 years would be a good age gap.

So I'm really grieving for the what ifs I think. I'm not 100% sure but I think it is the right thing to do to go ahead with the termination and get out of this relationship.

I guess I'm just posting to add my story and following others.

Has anyone had any regrets afterwards or do you think your gut was always the right thing to do?

Also being 6 weeks does anyone know how long the bleeding would go in for? And how will I feel afterwards physically, and mentally does it get easier real quick? I'm scared in case it's the wrong decision

Xx

@Ilovewatermelon it's not an easy decision is it, I was a bit like you at first, I was going to keep it mainly because the father was pleased, he was even thinking of names and told everyone but our relationship was not good (not even living together) and I tried to fool myself it could be ok but reality hit, it was on/off we argued, he couldn't commit to move in with me, I've had children so I know how hard it can be and didn't want to do it with a part time father that I didn't like most of the time.

No one can tell you what to do but for me I kept going through the scenario in my head, how it would be if I had a baby and how my life would be without a baby.

It's tough, I lost both the pregnancy and relationship this week (my choice) but I know I've done the right thing, I have hope to start my life better to make better relationship choices next time.

Only you know how your relationship is and if it's a good time to bring another baby into it, give yourself a little more time if needed x

Sorry to jump on. I am having one today, will wake up at midnight for second lot of tablets. I’m not doing great emotionally at all, fear I’ve made the wrong choice and wonder how will I live with myself?
Also as I’m 10 weeks I’m terrified of what I’ll pass. I have 2 young children already and always wanted a third but when it happened accidentally I freaked out. No money, small house and no head space. I feel now though I could have made it work somehow.

@Firtrees so sorry your going through this. You will live with the best choice you had at time, it's not always because you don't want the child but financially/living arrangements can't just magically work when least expected and overall you want the best for your children you have already.
The anticipation of what to expect is worse than it happening, I haven't been through it at 10wks so I can't say what to expect at that stage, has the clinic talked you through what to expect?

There will be cramps so take painkillers at least 30mins before hand, lay down for at least 30mins after, be very careful getting up and moving around too quickly as this caused the worst part for me, I was scared when I became dizzy and faint. Hopefully the worst of it will be over in 6 hours and remember it's not forever, the time will pass . Keep talking on here if you need to x