Medical Termination

[winterbegone]

Anyone else just going through a medical termination? I've took the first tablet today, feeling ok but have no motivation to do anything, worrying and waiting on tomorrow once I've taken the second lot.
I have no one in rl to talk to about it, ending the pregnancy and just come out of a relationship, feeling a bit down but I know I'm making the right decision as I already have 3 children and wasn't in a relationship I wanted to be in.
Anyone else?

@Firtrees if you’re really unsure, please phone the care line of who you went through and talk to someone to see if you need to proceed; it’s also totally normal to be feeling some regret too, although it really does feel like you’re torn. Is it more the fear of the process or the regret?

@Ilovewatermelon I’m not sure if this is helpful but I did get asked what I would regret more - it was a valid question because there isn’t a right choice, all come with their own positives/negatives, I just had to figure out what was best for me and my family. Once I was clear on the answer I knew how I wanted to proceed. I never did waiver tho in fairness which made it easier obviously.

Big hugs to you both.

Also I agree with @winterbegone - take pain relief half hour to an hour before and keep on top of it even if there isn’t any pain, and try and move around/go to the loo every half hour to an hour if you can. I took codeine and two ibuprofen every four hours and topped up my water bottle constantly. I had little to no pain but it was uncomfortable.

@winterbegone

Thank you, your experience shared was really needed. It sounds similar to my situation. Also ending a 6 year relationship with this pregnancy. I've been so up and down but he is so unsupportive and doesn't help with our first child (only financially when It suits him).

I hope there's some confoet with you, as there is with me, that we ate not going through it alone x

@Ilovewatermelon
I'm glad I can be of some comfort and you are not alone, this board has been so helpful to me also when I felt so alone.

The waiting times to get seen by clinics is not great so if your thinking you might not go through with it, make an appointment, you can always cancel if you change your mind.

@YnysMon20

That makes sense, my current situation, as much as it hurts, would not be helped adding another baby. I appreciate the year on example, still hard to think of the what ifs but it's helped cement things x

@Ilovewatermelon we can only make our decision on the here and now, just remind yourself of that when the what if starts. I did huge relief after the process last night. Inbox open anytime xx

@winterbegone@YnysMon20
Thankyou so much for your words last night. They really helped keep me calm and find perspective. All Over now and wasn’t painful just sad. Still feel regret but I’m hoping that’s just for a path not taken and that it will fade in time or I will just have to find a way to live with what has happened. Thankyou again and I’m glad to hear that you have relief, wishing you lots of happiness going forward. X

@Firtrees glad you didn't suffer too much pain. Just try to accept it wasn't the right time for you now and with two young children I'm sure you got your hands full and you can give them far more attention than you could of done. Maybe you'll have another in the future when the time is right xx

Hope you're all doing OK, I spoke to the clinic yesterday but Friday is the earliest they can call me to do a consultation. Pretty up and down becuase I'm scared ill change my mind and judgement will be clouded in between. Trying to stay strong but its hard, I don't think hormones added to the mix help!

@Ilovewatermelon the waiting is the worst, let yourself feel what you need to and have those conversations in your head. I think you’ll know during the consultation, or at least after what you want to do, if you do feel unsure that is. I was really sure, but there were some days where is just thought it may be easier to continue (I had to wait 2.5 weeks for consultation!). My consultation solidified it for me for sure xx

Hi i am going through termination came across this post.. I've had 1st tablet today. Just had a question. How long did u spend in hospital? Glad it was over quick I'm more further along x

@Ilovewatermelon use this time to think carefully about it until your appointment. I know hormones and sickness certainly isn't a help.

@tami2k I didn't spend any time in hospital, I took the first tablet at the clinic and they sent me hone with the second lot to take the next day. I hope your ok, how many weeks are you?

@winterbegone

@YnysMon20

Thank yoy both, I will try to reflect. I just worry because I'm so bad at making decisions at the best of times and also can be quite stubborn so I don't want either of them issues to get in the way of my final decision. Thank you for replying and talking, I have some friends that know but sometimes I do think it's better to have perspective from an outsider but also nice that we are all in a similar boat right now, or not nice depending how you look at it but I really do appreciate the support

I am 14weeks took a tablet yesterday had to come back today currently waiting for it it pass I've been inserted. Guess it's different per clinic or my gestation
Thanks

@tami2k thinking of you, you are in the best place at your gestation with the professionals with you.