Did you feel grief or relief after your abortion?

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Exactly that did you feel grief after your abortion or relief?

I suppose it all depends on the circumstances but I had my abortion last month and I’m really struggling with grief tbh. I just feel different now like my life will never be the same now knowing how it could have been being a mum. I’m 27 and would have loved to be a mum at this age if the circumstances were different I think it’s really hit me hard. I felt rushed into the decision by 9 weeks so I could have the medical abortion but I feel it was so traumatic that I have ptsd or something now I read post abortion trauma is a thing. Has anyone else felt this way? Or did you feel relief? I wish I felt that way :(

You seem very busy today Sharon

I felt grief at first. I think i was just upset about the whole situation.
I did get past it very well after that though and have hardly thought about it since.
(Was 4 years ago)

You will feel all over the place for a few weeks op. It's because you are human as well as very hormonal and this is not an easy decision even if it's the right one.
You say the circumstances were not right. You are young and have plenty of time to have your kids when it's the right situation.

I'm in my 40's and had a termination around the age you are now. I look at my beautiful kids now and think that perhaps I would never have had them if I'd continued with that initial pregnancy.

It's an emotional thing. Be kind to yourself. And try to look forward. Sending hugs

Nothing but relief for me, I do sometimes wonder if that makes me terribly callous. I've never wanted children though, and even if I had, circumstances were completely against me bringing another life into this world.

I had the biggest rush of relief. Then a couple of weeks later I had a crying fit, not of regret for the termination but regret that I had ended up having to make that decision.
Now, twenty something years later I am just so so relieved I made that choice. What a mess I would have made of two lives.

Incredible grief. I am now a year on and still struggling. My husband didn't want it and I had an abortion at 14 weeks.

I guess both. It was quite a few years ago and I still feel guilty.

I think for me the difficulty was having a termination at 41 and knowing it was my last chance to have a baby. I'd feel better if I could have a subsequent child but I know that isn't going to happen.

Unadulterated relief. But it was 100% the right decision for me.

It was 20 years ago, and I still feel that same sense of relief whenever I think about it.

I went on to have planned DC with the right man, and couldn't be more thankful for my ability to make choices.

I've had two. First time, absolute relief. That was over 14 years ago.. Second time was just 5 weeks ago. I have a 22 month DD and had bad mental health issues after her which I'm not over. I couldn't have another baby at this time. So I'm relieved but sad aswell. Incidentally, the first time was surgical, the second time medical. Surgical was less traumatic.

Grief, I knew it was something I would have to live with when I made the decision, my husband didn’t want any more children, we have 3, we had no room for another baby, in debt, I wanted to give the 3 children I have the best i could. My husband also left for 6 weeks when I became pregnant with number 3 , which he didn’t want either. I knew there was a possibility he’d leave again. They are all good reasons but I also knew if I kept the baby I’d never regret it, and I thought I would be being selfish by keeping it and making life more difficult for husband and children bringing another child into the world. I cried every time we had sex for about 12 months afterwards as it just made me think about what I’d done. I feel a lot better now , 6 years on, I made the right decision at the time for the right reasons, which is how I live with it. If I could go back I’d make a different decision and of got a divorce instead.

Awful regret , grief and sadness on my part.
I had a medical induction at almost 24 weeks due to a heart & genetic condition that was incompatible with life.
Didn't find out until the 20 week scan and it was slow to get referrals and second opinions.
Too slow and awful.
I gave birth to my little girl just 2 days short of the 24 week abortion limit and they had my sit on a bed pan on the toilet to deliver her after a 15 hour labour.
It still breaks my heart almost 15 years later.
I'd had an early miscarriage, then 8 between 16 and 21 weeks previously due to undiagnosed autoimmune issues.
Looking back I was treated appalling through all of it , should have been given tests a lot earlier ( they just assumed it was a pre existing blood disorder I have ) and I have severe ptsd and anxiety now.
After moving ( just to see the then best miscarriage specialist at the time ) to the other end of the country.
I have 2 sons now. DS1 born at 39 weeks & he almost died of the GBS infection because they did nothing for 5 days after my waters broke.
He has moderate learning disabilities and a very weak left side.
DS2 was born 22 months later at 29 weeks and has multiple disabilities ( genetic , chromosomal, non verbal , epilepsy etc etc etc the list goes on) he is like a 6-9 month old baby and at 10 weighs almost the same as me , he's as tall as me and has bigger feet!
Both can walk but tire . Both are hard work but amazing.
Both send me bloody insane but I think everything I went through has made me cope better than I would have.
I'm just so grateful for them.
Although I had a brain stem bleed that has fucked me up for the last few months and they say it's all the stress.
I am 100% pro choice.
I judge no one for your choices because people have judged me for mine.
Big devout catholic family who mostly went NC with me because "I'm a murderer", my kids have only met 4 members of my family.
It's sad.
You have to do what is right for you and don't feel guilty for doing what is right for you.
Your body. Your rights.
Yes I have regrets and grief over my abortion but it was very late term.
However I would make the same choice again because she would have either died in the womb or within minutes after delivery.
To go to term would have been worse.
I'm a feminist and believe only you have the right to make decisions about your body.
The amount of posts where the male partner is forcing or trying to force the woman to terminate makes my blood boil.
You only have one life.
Do what you believe is right for you ❤️

Devastating grief.

Grief, regret and a huge sense of loss. I didn’t think I would feel this way when making the decision. I think the fear of “how would I cope”led me to abortion. I have 3 children already. It’s been over a year and I still haven’t gotten over it. A whole lot of “what ifs” runs through my head 😱

Relief... but now 5 weeks later I’m starting to feel a little sadness for what could’ve been. However, I know that I made the right choice at the time, for us as a family, but I just wish things could’ve been different. I got pregnant on the pill, a toddler and baby, uncertainties of this bloody pandemic....

Grief.

Grief, regret, anger every negative emotion possible. I hate that this is part of my story and wish I had taken the other path. I have two beautiful girls and let my head make the decision not my heart without giving myself enough time to think things through. This was two months ago and I feel more and more like giving up on the life I once loved with each passing moment. If I could go back I would never have chosen this.

Relief. My abortion was five years ago and I was with someone not right for me. A year later I met my husband and we've travelled the world together and I'm pregnant with our first baby, I don't regret it for one second.

Regret. I feel like I want to try for a baby now but not sure if thats the right thing to do or if it will make me feel worse. Has anyone else felt like this?

I wanted to jump out of a window ... violated ... grief stricken ... 2 stone weight loss ... mental breakdown ... suicidal ... psychiatric inpatient treatment