**Trigger Warning - title edited by MHHQ** To ask for a hand hold please just for next few days

[BluePirates]

Going to clinic tomorrow.
Unplanned 3rd pregnancy- due to various issues - finances, house move, mental health issues, no help etc we have decided it’s better to terminate this pregnancy.
We’ve been so stupid and should have been extra careful. I’ve been in tears everyday thinking how we could make it work but we can’t.
I feel horrendous- so guilty.
I don’t know what will happen tomorrow as not sure if I’m under 10 weeks or not so might be able to have the tablet or have to wait for surgical. I’m already showing but no one has called me out yet.
I know it’s completely my/our fault I’m in this situation but I could do with some support will be on my own tomorrow and no one in the world apart from Dh knows what’s happening. I will have to carry on as normal.

Please talk to them honestly.

I’m very much pro choice, I have no issue with a woman choosing to have a termination. However, I’m worried for you because it can really badly affect you if you have one against what you really want and how you feel about having had one - you don’t sound in the right place to be doing this. Talk to them. Give yourself a bit of time.

Have a really good look on ‘entitled to’ and see if you’ll qualify for any help, any sibling discounts for childcare etc it sounds like financially it could be difficult, but it’s rarely beyond being able to cope.

Prioritise YOUR mental health because YOU are the one going through this. Yes your DH’s thoughts are important, but at the end of the day it’s YOU that is pregnant, not him. Look after yourself 🌷xx

@BluePirates
I hope you're feeling better this morning. I know what that feels like except I didn't already have beautiful children like you. I was silly and immature. It's four years since I flew to Manchester from Ireland. One of the scariest experiences but my god the staff in the clinic there were fantastic, and it wasn't as scary as I had it built up to be in my head. I had the surgical procedure and they were very very supportive. The guilt fades too. Sending you big hugs and lots of love, look after yourself girl, loads of self care when you get home❤️❤️❤️

Good luck for today OP, thinking of you

Thank you all just been scanned and am 8 weeks which is reassuring I thought I might be more. I’ve opted for both part 1 and 2 tablet treatments today. Staff are lovely I’ve had a cry and know I don’t want to have to do this but I also know that in a few weeks/months i will know it’s been the right choice for our family. We are not able to go ahead now if this were in a couple of years it might be different. I also selfishly I don’t want to have to do this on my own Dh helps but his work is crazy busy and I will be dealing with 3 on my own no help.

Surreal please be reassured if the staff are anything like I’ve had today it won’t be as bad as you expect - they’ve been lovely.

Thank you Blue very kind of you to reassure me when you're going through it yourself x

I'm so very pleased you have these options and good, compassionate care.

It's a horrible situation to be in, but, I am honestly delighted that you can get the care you need.

Good luck to you both. .

I'm so sorry to hear of your situation.

I’m happy things went well. Be easy with yourself today💐

It will be ok soon, it is very painful with the tablets, have a hot water bottle and painkillers. I don't know if you have been through this before, I can't speak for everyone but sometimes with the release of the hormone, you might find yourself very upset and confused about the decision, this will pass eventually, keep in mind in a month it'll be clear it was the right decision for all your family. Goodluck

Thank you all it’s been fine- not too painful so far like a bad period really but topped up on painkillers. Feel wiped out so just staying in bed - Dh looking after me. Thanks for the support today helped a lot.

Glad you are being looked after

You aren’t alone OP.

It's tough. Mind yourself now.