Nervous and in need of advice

[Clemmers]

Im currently 6 weeks pregnant and after a serious heart to heart with my partner, we agree that we just aren't in the right place financially and mentally to carry on with the pregnancy. He's been so supportive and wonderful but we know that termination is the only realistic option at this point in our lives.

I'm going to the clinic next Tuesday, to discuss next steps but I'm so nervous about the whole thing as I will be going through it alone and don't really know how to prepare for it mentally.

Hi Ladies,

Well after our heart to heart, we've decided to go ahead with the termination. It's not the right time, and we just aren't mentally and emotionally ready for such a life changing event. I go for the first stage tomorrow and the second on Wednesday .

I know it's the right decision. I've known it since the second I found out. So why do I feel so evil? I can't sleep, feel sick all the time because of the hormones, I cry at the drop of a hat. This morning I woke up and the enormity of what I'm about to do hit me like a tonne of bricks. How do I get through this? I want it to be over, I need it to be over but the dread I have is keeping me awake at nights. I just want to feel normal again and I'm terrified that I never will.

It's the pregnancy hormones OP. I felt much the same. It's so cruel because you don't need or want those hormones but give it some time and you will be back to normal again.

I remember those feelings so well.

Yes, you will feel normal again but maybe not straight after. Don't be surprised if you come crashing down - hormones again. I felt awful.

Then again you may feel like a weight's been lifted. Some people do have the immediate feeling of relief.

Good luck.

Well the first stage is now done. I go back on Wednesday for the actual procedure. This has been the hardest decision I've ever had to make. Roller coaster doesn't even begin to cover it.

Big hugs to you, deciding to abort is never easy no matter what anyone says. It's probabky one of the biggest and hardest decisions you'll ever make. As long as you know in your heart you've made the right decision, you'll be absolutely fine. Good luck for Wednesday :)

I hope you're being kind to yourself. It's a truly awful thing to go through. Sometimes we have to make difficult decisions.
Take it easy this week.

Second the others who are saying to just take it easy. Seriously, it'll be done before you know it and you can just put the past in the past and start to move on. I am 2.5 months post abortion and I feel so, so well in myself. I could not have carried on. I've made a number of positive changes to my life since; gone for a better role at work, started going to the gym again, cut out sugar, lost weight, overhauled my wardrobe, made new friends... I couldn't have done those things pregnant. I'd have been too busy trying to cope.

Hi Ladies,

It's all over and I'm now back home. I just wanted to say thank you so much to you all for your advice, concern and good wishes. It's been a stressful few weeks and today was both better and worse than I expected. But now I can start to move on. And I'm going to take a leaf out of WonderingWillow's book. Time for changes to diet and bad habits.

Much love to you all. And thanks again. You've been a real source of peace to me

Faye xx

Glad you're okay! Look after yourself