Torn over termination decision

[love2shopbags]

Hiya I was wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation to me and can offer advice?
I found out 10 days ago I am pregnant with an unplanned 3rd baby i have to boys who are 7 and 3 all with the same partner we have been together for 11 years and have a strong solid relationship and happy family.
We have discussed having a 3rd baby and had both decided that our family was complete and planned for DP to have a vasectomy, I was used to tracking my cycles and have successfully used this a a form of contraception for the last 3 years we have been under a lot of stress recently and i've made a mistake and got caught pregnant.
On initially taking the test I was shocked and frightened at the result and my knee jerk reaction was termination due to practicality such a having recently financing a car that would be to small, DP being self employed and me currently being a SAHM. I also thought about the impact that this would have on my other children such as what it would take away from them, how hey would feel etc. Taking all this into account a termination would seem the sensible thing to do but in my heart I so desperately want to keep the baby. My DP feels very strongly towards termination and yesterday we visited a BPAS clinic where I discussed my options had a scan and was dated at 5wk 5days. I asked to see the scan and my DP looked at the scan. I was very distressed through the entire process and they would not book me in for the procedure telling me to go home and think about it, my DP does not feel any different and has made it totally clear he does not want the baby but ultimately it is my choice and that he would have to support me.
This leaves me with a dilemma, I have the termination and regret it or I keep the baby and risk the breakdown of my relationship with DP, I daren't tell him that I want to keep the baby as I am afraid of his reaction I do not want him to hate me and resent the pregnancy/baby but I don't know if I can get past my maternal instincts and go through with the termination. Thanks for reading any advise would be appreciated.

I fell pregnant with dc6 while on the mini pill and found out the day before a meeting with a consultant to get sterilized. Dh wanted me to have an abortion but I couldn't go through with it. When our gorgeous boy was born tho dh loved him just as much as our other dc.

Sounds like a really tough choice. Whatever you decide please be totally honest with your husband.

I was in a similar situation earlier this year (though my husband and I were both unsure and he said he would support me either way) and I did have a termination. I have a lot of regrets but am getting closer to coming to terms with our decision.

Wishing you luck. x

Thank you all this really has been a very tough time for me and my DP we have decided that we are not going to return to the clinic but let the pregnancy continue and deal with what comes as it comes. My DP has agreed to support me in this decision but has been honest in saying that it isn't hat he wanted for our future he is going to need some time to get used to the idea and I have agreed with that and will give him space to come to terms with things in his own time I do understand that it is different for a woman what with all the maternal hormones/emotions. So thank you for advice on this its nice to know there are supportive/like minded people around.

I'm so pleased to hear that, love2shop. You never sounded as if you wanted a termination. I'm sure your DP will come around to the idea, but it must have been just as big a shock for him as well. You're right, give him some time and some space to get used to the idea.

And, finally - congratulations!

Good luck & congratulations.

Congratulations.

Really pleased that your DH has come round, I think you made the right decision.

Enjoy your squishy newborn!