Hiya I was wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation to me and can offer advice?
I found out 10 days ago I am pregnant with an unplanned 3rd baby i have to boys who are 7 and 3 all with the same partner we have been together for 11 years and have a strong solid relationship and happy family.
We have discussed having a 3rd baby and had both decided that our family was complete and planned for DP to have a vasectomy, I was used to tracking my cycles and have successfully used this a a form of contraception for the last 3 years we have been under a lot of stress recently and i've made a mistake and got caught pregnant.
On initially taking the test I was shocked and frightened at the result and my knee jerk reaction was termination due to practicality such a having recently financing a car that would be to small, DP being self employed and me currently being a SAHM. I also thought about the impact that this would have on my other children such as what it would take away from them, how hey would feel etc. Taking all this into account a termination would seem the sensible thing to do but in my heart I so desperately want to keep the baby. My DP feels very strongly towards termination and yesterday we visited a BPAS clinic where I discussed my options had a scan and was dated at 5wk 5days. I asked to see the scan and my DP looked at the scan. I was very distressed through the entire process and they would not book me in for the procedure telling me to go home and think about it, my DP does not feel any different and has made it totally clear he does not want the baby but ultimately it is my choice and that he would have to support me.
This leaves me with a dilemma, I have the termination and regret it or I keep the baby and risk the breakdown of my relationship with DP, I daren't tell him that I want to keep the baby as I am afraid of his reaction I do not want him to hate me and resent the pregnancy/baby but I don't know if I can get past my maternal instincts and go through with the termination. Thanks for reading any advise would be appreciated.
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love2shopbags · 31/10/2014 13:46
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