Please someone help me :-(

[Halleberry]

Does anyone know anything about the accuracy of clear blue digital? I'm absolutely terrified at the moment. My husband and I have had a rough year due to a major family
Incident. We have seperated,got back,separated,so on and so forth. My husband and I had a "dinner date" to try and work things out. We slept together that night (the 25th August)....And the following morning and for 3 days in a row after. Then we had a massive row resulting in another break up. We stayed apart a few weeks. On the 7th of September I stupidly had sex with my very best friend. To much wine and tears and one thing led to another. 1 week later I didn't feel right and was tempted to take a test. I did so, and what do you know..... The test said I was 2-3 weeks pregnant. My husband and I are back together and having couples coincilling. I am
Now terrified that this baby could be my best friends (this would ruins relationship with my
Husband who I do love dearly) and we have tried so long to have a baby :-( I'm so happy but also not at the same time. What are the chances of a clear blue saying 2-3 weeks pregnant only 1 week after conception?? As i said, when I slept with my best friend it was Sunday the 7th September. I took a test exactly 1 week later and it said 2-3 weeks pregnant. Is it more likely to be my husbands?! Please help as I'm considering a termination over this even though this child has been long wanted by both my husband and I.
Thanks for listening

slithy: OK, I can see there may be different approaches in different trust. Where I am (the SW) I couldn't get an early scan for anything other than bleeding.

I completely agree that they are useful for emotional and physical reasons. In an ideal world we'd be able to get free early scans for emotional distress as well as physical stuff. I can't tell you what I would have given to have one when I was terrified my symptoms had disappeared.

Under the current system, however, it's rare that you get offered that. I am not condemning fabricating bleeding, because I understand the desperation, but I'm pointing out that it's putting more pressure on an already-creaking system.

Petra's suggestion sounds like a really good one.

different trusts, sorry.

Agree with you totally adam

I couldn't read and run.

I was in a similar situation years ago.

Do not tell you DH a thing. Make this, a few early weeks, just you and health professionals before you make any decision. It may be hard not to spill the beans but take care.

I had a termination. I was young and not used to the parlance of pregnancy but on reflection there was much more I could have done before making that decision.

Years go by but I'll never be sure whether it was the right thing to do.

What I do know is that I should not have involved the men at that stage because of the complicated situation. It was ultimately my decision but with a little more information life might have turned out to be very different than it is today.

Give yourself time and get as much information as you can.

Thanks again everyone. Your help has been amazing. Sorry you were in a similar situation in2theblue. It's horrible. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. I'm not going to involve anyone but the doctors right now. I will not be telling DH or "friend" Said "friend" sent a group text to all Friends in his phone book last night including myself and my DH informing us that he is going to Spain to stay with his sister until after Christmas. I'm relieved about this However I'm worried he and I have sent off a vibe to my DH and he is suspicious (but that could really be my own paranoid ripping out of me). I'm going to inform my doctor today that Im
Pregnant and I believe I am far on and I would like a termination so I think a Scan ASAP would be appropriate. Perhaps it's not the most moral thing to do. However it is part truth (if this is my friends baby I simply ant continue with the pregnancy) and also my mental health is deteriorating FAST. I have barely slept and I have lost a stone the past few weeks. Intjiugjtninwas going to faint yesterday with lack of food,sleep deprivation,worry and panic. It was very scary and the girl in the shop tool me through the back as sat me down and gave me a glass of water. It's the best thing I can do for me and for the baby if its my DH. Surely this stress cannot be good for baby???? I read about someone who did get an early positive after exactly 1 week. She was having twins though so I guess that will be why that was the case for her?? What a horrible time this has been :-( xx

That sounds like a really good idea halle.

I know others have said that an early scan is not that useful for dating, but my experience is that they're accurate enough. What's happened to me before is that my pregnancies haven't grown at the right rate: the embryo has been very small on the early scan, and then I've lost it. The staff who have scanned me have expressed concern about the pregnancy size. From this I know that some variation is normal (it's hard to measure a little grey blob inside your uterus) but only up to a certain point. An embryo measuring two weeks small means either 1) you've got your dates wrong (or in your case, it's one event rather than another) or 2) it's in trouble.

By my calculations, if you conceived with your husband (which sounds very likely) you're just under 7 weeks pregnant. There is a big difference between and embryo of 5 weeks and one of 7 weeks. A heartbeat, for a start, which is something they'll look for.

I hope that it gives you the information you need. It sounds like you're having a really rough time and going to your doctor is a good move. The 'baby' is just a little blob of cells no bigger than a blueberry right now, so you won't be doing anything dreadful to it by being stressed. Don't add that to the pile of things to worry about

Thinking of you, and hoping your appointment has a good result

You don't have to consult your doctor you could go to family planning clinic and talk your option over there if you are worried about talking to your doctor or contact bpas. When I went to see my doctor she just have me the number for bpas and told me to ring them.

I have an app at FP clinic next week. Fingers crossed for me :-( xxx

Hi

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I really think it's your husbands. I am a POAS expert having had ivf. I tested from 7 days post ovulation every day and my twins didn't show up as a faint line until 12 dpo. I think its so unlikely unless you are pregnant with quads and the sperm had met the egg immediately.

I had a positive test 9 days after sex. It was twins.

Best of luck!!! x

OP, I'm sorry you are in this difficult situation

Just from an outsiders POV: given the erratic history between you and your DH, have you thought seriously about how having a baby may impact your future more? I just worry OP, as from what you've written he doesn't sound like an outstanding man and you've already said you can't be a single parent. Even if this baby is his, are you sure you want this?

I also don't think it's a good idea re-starting a relationship with secrets. You need to tell your DH about OM, it will come out sooner or later.

My DH is a wonderful man ... Hence the reason I don't want to hurt him. Our break up and on and off relationship was alot to do with me tbh. He is understanding of everything.... But he would never understand my sleeping with our friend. Just as I couldn't see past him doing it. Even if baby is DH I'd only be telling him for selfish reasons (eg. Releaving my own guilt) .... It would not benefit him or our child's life if I told him xxx

As others have said it is most likely that DH is the father.
It sounds to me like you might benefit from counselling, someone you can talk to confidentially who would be able to help you deal with anxiety. You could probably get counselling through your GP or pregnancy/abortion clinic... Just make sure it's a qualified independent counsellor and not someone who has a hidden agenda (eg anti-abortion or being judgemental about unplanned pregnancies).
You said that the issues in your relationship are mostly down to you, why is that? For that reason I also think counselling might help you (and your relationship).
Try not to beat yourself up but do get support from a professional who can help you work through things, make the right decision for you, and give your relationship the best possible chance.
I honestly think if you do that you will be able to cope much better with the guilt about sleeping with your friend (we all make mistakes).
The only thing I would say is that if you decide to keep the baby, you should tell your friend that the timings confirm it's not his, otherwise he might freak out. Not good for him but also if he acts weird your DH might suspect. And if you want to be 100% sure it's not your friend's baby you could get him to do the DNA test (but not your DH). I don't think that's necessary though.

Hi all ... Well my scan points at DOC being approx 1st of September!!! So here I am still in a panic because I KNOW we didn't have sex exactly on the 1st as I stayed at a friends and I've read they can be wrong by a week :-( so they are saying 1st sep, I slept with DH a few times over his period and my friend ONCE on the 7th and a week later (14th) my
Pg test said 2/3 weeks pregnant! I absoluty don't know what to do :-(

Xxx

Halle, I wish I could help in some way I feel your emotions so clearly through these messages. At the end of the day you will love this child unconditionally whoever fathered it. Fast forward 8 months and you'd be so in love you couldn't ever imagine not having him or her. I know your situation must feel so utterly hopeless but I would just give yourself a little more time. Please try to not let this get way way too scary in your head because it will only bugger you up and you need looking after! Do you have any form of support from friends or family? Or are you dealing with this completely alone?

7 days is too early for a positive result. DOC is a few days after you last had sex with your husband = makes sense. Forget the other man; we all make mistakes.

this strongly reinforces the rest indicating that it is your dh baby. you were with him 25-28th, the sperm hang around for a few days, conception usually occurs a few days after sex so 1st sept would be right. also this doc would be likely more than a week wrong if it was om's.
please accept this good news, try to stop worrying and giving yourself a hard time. you and your dh are having your much wanted child, relax and start to enjoy your pregnancy
have you told him yet?
sorry that you have had such an anxious time, but now it's time for congratulations

test not rest

Id say your husband s too

Halle - your DH sperm can stay around for 5 days after the deed an egg only lasts up to 12 hours so if conception date 1/9/14 I am thinking 100% DH, thoughts are with you

Hey Halle did you ever figure out who's? I'm going through this situation rn

Hi there i have a question I've been trying to make sure it's right about the day you have conceived. My Dr told me I did conceive may 13-14. Does that mean on this days already I was 2 weeks pregnant? HELP ME OUT

When I got pregnant with DD the GP told me that '2-3' on clear blue means 1 month medically. That's how the NHS dates pregnancies.

I need help!!

I had unprotected sec with my ex partner on the 20th of feb, had a period on the 27th of feb

Then had unprotected sex with a friend on the 13th of March
Took a test it’s positive showing 1to 2 weeks on a clear blue ?

I’m confused how the tests work who’s the farther 😭