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Pregnancy post-MC, bring your cake but no more wine or tightie whities - Totally's Grads continued part 3....

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clareanna · 03/07/2010 10:28

Alba- your wish is my command!!

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diggingforvictory · 06/07/2010 18:24

That's excellent news, Redhead.

clareanna · 06/07/2010 20:24

fab news redhead digging and muser

unbuffy I HATE it when you seen the trainees - they are worse than useless. I think you can choose to see the consultant, but if you don't specifically ask (and often aren't prepared to wait even longer) they automatically give you an SHO.
I'm sure there are lots of people on MN who can give you informal advice on VBAC? I will be a ECAVB I guess (elective caesarian after vaginal birth) this time?!

gi1da consider my finest phillip treacy for the interview, but didn't feel I could quite pull it off... went really well though (phew) just got the scary all day assessment centre next monday to get through, then scan the next day - hurrah!

lovely to see Bunder and Moof too!

Meita feeding tops are great - especially in the winter, also feeding vests that you can wear under other clothes are also helpful, or anything with buttons. Also handy to have scarves / pashminas too, but before long you'll find yourself whipping them out without a moment's thought, and being so sleep deprived you'll go into sainsburys with your feeding top undone and hanging down,,, or is that just me?!
you can always sell stuff you don't need on ebay or at NCT sales

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Gi1da · 06/07/2010 20:31

Unbuff sorry you're feeling mizzogs. Here's a yummy cookie just for you . It's not much of a conversationalist, but maybe enjoy it with a nice cuppa and a dose of radio 4.

Muser, Digging, Reds good news all around. Celebratory bunting a go-go.

And also for Muser and BUnder congrats on joining the list. Honestly it will really surprise you when you look again in a bit and see how far you've moved up it.

Oops not finished posting but my supper is on the table, must go. Laters!

randomimposter · 06/07/2010 21:05
Gi1da · 06/07/2010 21:31

I stand corrected!

How's the lurking going Jolls? Is it a bit like hanging out on the stairway or kitchen during a party? Although frankly I always thought that was the best place to be. Is Moof there with you? Am tempted to come and join you for a cackle or two!

Hope all's going ticketyboo on the duff front. (A bit like the home front, but with more knicker watching).

WestYorkshireGirl · 06/07/2010 22:49

I haven't been able to get online much last few days as been v busy and am away with work tomorrow night, but wanted to say hi and great news on all the scans and great to see the lurkers showing up (what took so long.....)

Unbuffy · 07/07/2010 13:32

hello all

Twas a bit tumbleweedy around here yesterday - I'm sure I heard echoes...oes...oes...oes!

Meita I second the cotton scaves/pashminas idea - great for protecting the modesty and don't look foolish wearing one (like those butterfly things). I had a couple of feeding tops but did find them a bit fiddly, and low tops you can just whip down below the boob are easier really (imho)! And whatever you wear, muslin squares are essential as otherwise it can go everywhere - and it's amazing how far pressurised milk can spray... wait and see...

Clareanna yes, it was a bit pointless (and naturally involved a 40 - minute wait, grrrr) But hopefully appointment with Chief Midwife will help, basically because I am really scared about being on the ward while in labour - I'm a very shy and nervous person in rl and I tend to suffer from stress and anxiety attacks. The pn ward was hideous after dd was born (and being cs I wsa there for 3 days) and gave me claustrophobia and panic attacks. I imagine that in labour this could be sooo much worse... The trainee went mmm and ah and well a lot but can't actually help - so what the hell was the point of all that waiting?

And breathe.

Very glad for all the good news, my hooray flag is looking a bit tattered from all the waving! But waving it anyway!

Happy go girl on the bubbles (I saw your other thread thingy), sounds good to me! Just don't try to hunt for them every day, the paranoia sets in. Am thinking of either starting a thread / subtitling this one Will The Paranioa Ever Stop - reassurance from the Ladies At The Top?

Hope all are well otherwise x

PS The puppies are moving! I felt them kicking! Oh for a 9 week pg like that...

sarahmia · 07/07/2010 19:33

hi all,

my name is sarah...

I lost a baby 3 months ago to triploidy at 26 weeks. I got a BFP on Sat night.

Am a bit to scared to join properly so i will lurk a little and talk a bit is that ok????

BUnderTheBonnet · 07/07/2010 19:46

I've been feeling sick constantly for the last two days. And then feeling guilty for being grumpy about feeling sick, when I've been desperate to be pregnant.

Also, the wretched gods of pregnancy have been sending twinges and cramps today, which have sent me scuttling into the loos every 20 mins. Booooooooooo!

unbuffy I went through a stage of panic attacks and have always found hospitals quite accomodating over them. I couldn't face insisting about it during labour though and knew it would stress me out, so that was one of the reasons I homebirthed. Having said that, I did have dealings with the chief midwife over other stuff and she was extremely sensible, and seemingly far more important than any doctor in the place - her word was law - so you should get somewhere with her.

AlbaDeTamble · 07/07/2010 19:51

Hello everyone, been keeping up but really really tired so this is a very quick post, just checking in.

Welcome to the rollercoaster Sarah, it's petrifying at times, but the lovely ladies here will hold your hand.

I'm off to bed, exhausted....

sarahmia · 07/07/2010 19:51

hi all,

my name is sarah...

I lost a baby 3 months ago to triploidy at 26 weeks. I got a BFP on Sat night.

Am a bit to scared to join properly so i will lurk a little and talk a bit is that ok????

Unbuffy · 07/07/2010 20:06

Hi sarah, lurk away we have several pop-in-and-outers

BUnder would LOVE a home birth... unfortunately I think it's out of the question as dd was cs (breech) and the hopsital is an hour away. I want to try and compromise, but whether they will let me into the birthing centre (where pool is located) is another matter. We shall just have to see. Sigh.

More tumbleweed about today... must be the weather.

Unbuffy · 07/07/2010 20:08

PS Sarah that really does sound awful, to get all that way through and then to lose it. Very best for this time.

LadyBee · 07/07/2010 21:28

right...just plodding through the days really. At the moment my major mood seems to be exasperation at my body and then myself. Very few symptoms here, a little boob 'heaviness' and still just the tiniest waves of nausea - so mild it makes me wonder whether it's happening. Not sure if sense of smell is heightening or if that's my imagination too. So worrying about the lack of symptoms then getting cross at myself as last MC had strong symptoms all the way.
Then trying to persuade myself that heartbeat is excellent sign, then remembering that best friend had MC after seeing heartbeat.
Then thinking 'well, no symptoms like cramping or bleeding, you've just got to assume the best', only had no symptoms of MC last time either, was discovered on scan.

All in all, am driving myself a bit mad. It comes down to Just Wanting to Know, doesn't it. And there's now way you can know, so just have to have faith. And that comes very hard when your body has let you down several times.

Sorry ladies, this is nothing you don't all know and haven't been through. Just trying to get it out as have been Dwelling the last few days.

In other news, the builders/decorators have stopped messing about with plaster and have started putting paint on our walls, and doing skirtings/covings etc. It feels like our days of camping in the lounge are about to end. Maybe this time next week when the carpet goes in.

Oh, and I've been asked to travel for work to India for a week, at the end of August. Guess I should work out how many weeks I might be then, should be ok though - will just be really careful about food. Hmm, I wonder what temperatures will be like then?

Enough about me!

diggingforvictory Congrats on a good scan! I'm curious about this doppler. What do you have? and when did you get it? And how often do you check and do you always find the heartbeat and if you don't does it worry you? questions questions.

Unbuffy I got quite worked up about the whole 'Well, why do they put a single date when this research CLEARLY STATES there is a large range'. Nearly wrote a letter suggesting that put a range on. Didn't though.

What is it about being on the labour ward is it that is worrying you? On the postnatal ward there are lots of other people around, but for labour it should be more private, you'd be shown to a labour room when you arrive (unless they think you're not established? maybe they'd put you in a multi-bed room then while they checked?) Or is it something else?

Have you found the VBAC support thread that was on here? I think it's on the Childbirth section. Also, in addition to the Radio4 suggestions, you might like to try the Pregtastic podcasts? They're American, but the ladies are generally pro-midwife and I haven't found the differences to be too annoying. They're available on iTunes but also from the pregtastic website. There are hundreds of them, and I've been listening to them since I was pg with DS back in 2007/8. Very informative and chatty. Might help fill some of the adult conversation void?

Muser great news about the scan the other day. V pleased indeed to hear it's all in the right place. Well done for joining the list. You too BUnder, nice to see you jump on. Those twinges and cramps are awful aren't they, but I think it's really normal to have them when it's all bedding down.

Meita your message about boys growing fast and girls growing slow was a little ray of sunshine. DH is not-so-secretly hankering after a girl (he reckons it takes the pressure of number 3 ). That would be lovely.

BFing tops, I think the 'clip-down' vests are really useful, especially if they're nice and long. Then you can wear normal 'easy-access' tops over top, hike them up or to one side and unclip the vest part without revealing post-pg tum, back etc. One of those and some lovely floaty tops would work fine. I also found boob tubes quite useful, same idea, wear under another top, hoick top layer up and boob tube down, but without lots of straps getting in the way.

Redheadgal how's the telling people? Have you had any odd reactions? Really pleased that you got a diagnosis about the fancy cervix - must be a little more reassuring to have a reason.

Clareanna, all day assessment centre sounds scary. I've never had to do anything like that, looking forward to hearing how it goes.

Sarahmia how lovely to see you here, I haven't been on to the ttc thread for a bit so missed that news, Congratulations!!! Really wishing you a textbook normal pregnancy with no scares of any sort. Buckle youself in

Waves to Goodluckbear, how's the head? Louisesh, SamB, Moof, HappyGirl, toomuchteaching, Gi1da, WYG and Alba and a semaphore flag greeting to Jollster perched on a hill somewhere in the distance.

Limelight · 07/07/2010 22:56

Hello! Can I join? I had a MMC in Jan (twins at 7 and 7.3 weeks). But am now 13+5 and due on 7 Jan. I've got a 3 year old DS too.

We had our 12w scan on Monday which was pretty traumatic after our last experience but there was a very definite waving somersaulting baby there so hooray hooray! DH massively amused by my saying 'I don't care if there's a head. Is it alive?' to the poor unfortunate scan guy!

Nice to meet you all!

diggingforvictory · 08/07/2010 13:27

Welcome Limelight, good to meet you. Congrats on your scan. You should be able to relax now (and tell people - presumably like me you have a fairly obvious bump by now?)

Ladybee, I have a HiBebe Sound Only doppler. I got it during my last pregnancy at around 10 weeks because I'd had a reassurance scan at 8 weeks but wasn't getting another one until 22 weeks. It was too complicated getting time off work to go for private scans, so I got a doppler. I picked up the heartbeat at 10+3 last time (it took about half an hour of trying though). Over time it got quicker to find it, and I'd find the heartbeat most times. I always got very worried if I couldn't find the heartbeat, but I'd try again the next day and it would be fine. I stopped using it once I could feel the baby moving.

This time I picked up the heartbeat at 11 weeks and can get it quite quickly. I use it every couple of days at the moment.

BunnyBaby · 08/07/2010 13:42

Hello Limelight and Sarah and welcome.

I'm a worrier too, I can feel little movements now and worry if they're not as strong some days as others. (Like today for example)

So revert to leaning forwards with one leg crossed over the other which results in a squirm.

Digging I am tempted with a doppler, but I know I'll be obsessed with it, lol!

AM worrying as morning sickness now settling down (same time as last around the 16 week mark), and now I miss the constant reassurance, though feel better when I feel sick when hungry.

Unbuffy it seems you are not alone in your worries.

I do have a bit more energy now, but still get tired.

HappyGirl1 · 08/07/2010 15:42

Hi Everyone,

Feel bad even posting today cos I'm just in a rubbish mood so sorry ladies.

Bunnybaby I was the same when the morning sickness subsided, it's so weird how feeling ill actually makes you feel better. I just tried your crossing legs and leaning forwards technique - I didn't feel anything though unfortunately.

Yesterday I felt a little bubble there in the afternoon, same time as the day before but last night i was just so exahausted I went to sleep before the big bubbles had started the night before. Hopefully things are okay.

We go on holidays next week for 10 days and come back and have the 20 week scan the next day so I think I'm just starting to worry a bit.

Digging you make me want a doppler! I'd be too afraid i'd be come obsessive though!

Unbuffy how are you today?

Limelight congrats on your scan that's excellent news. this is a wonderful thread!

Sarahmia welcome also - hope it's really plain sailing for you this time you poor thing having been through that.

I might have to have some chocolate I think to get me through the rest of the day - not the answer I know i know

Goodluckbear · 08/07/2010 17:29

Welcome Sarah - glad you're here, sounds like you've been through the mill. Congrats on your BFP, here's to a straight forward next 8-ish months. Lurk away!!

Limelight welcome too, I think we were on similar threads in Jan, I had a mmc then too. Congrats on having a good scan, what a relief!!

Sorry you aren't having a good day Happy. Where are you off on hols? Here's to more bubbles happening soon.

I'll have to love you and leave you as I've got to go yell at our estate agent (again). Looks like our house purchase is falling through now, a waste of a couple of grand on fees and we'll be stuck in our tiny top floor flat with no lift with a new baby . At least we will definitely not be having the family over for Christmas!!

See you later ladies, sorry I haven't namechecked but hugs to everyone having an anxious or bad day, waves to the lurkers out there (you know who you are).

xxx

clareanna · 08/07/2010 18:30

glad you've found your way here sarah

limelight welcome and congratulations! I too remember your name from the Jan MC threads - so happy to see you here.

Big waves to everyone else - lol at bunny performing contortions to get a reaction!

things a bit with me had a voicemail from a friend who knows I'm pg this morning in a real panic wanting to check I was OK as she had an awful dream about me last night where things went wrong again.
So pleased she shared that with me as I enter my danger week (at 12wk scan was told baby stopped growing at 9+3)

Am reminding myself that I have wildly inappropriate dreams about Robert Pattinson and there's NO CHANCE of them coming true either...

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Moofold · 08/07/2010 19:23

Can't believe your mate told you that Clare, what on earth was she thinking. She obviously wasn't! Its clearly just an anxiety dream on her part, I'm sure she doesn't have special powers. Put it out of your mind x

Hi Limelight, I think I remember you from the TTC after MC thread - great news! Good to see you here too Sarahmia

Hi GLB, not lurking - honest! Gi1da join us for a cackle any day. Jolls are you lurking? Haven't seen you on the other thread for a few days, hope things are good with you and Muser

Happy I always remember you living up to your name but everyone's entitled to a grumpy day. Bunny that's great you're getting so much movement now! Digging I think the doppler would just feed my fears, you're a brave lady!

Ocht Ladybee, hope you're feeling better. Almost everything you said in your post I'm feeling too - no symptoms when I had lots both times before, I had a MMC too discovered at 12 week scan. Really feel for you, wishing the weeks away for us both so we can just get past this stage.

Hope everyone else is good

Moofold · 08/07/2010 19:24

PS BU - jealous of your sick as a pigness! Being willing myself to be sick for days - hope you're still rotten x

Gi1da · 08/07/2010 19:54

Thursday's List

Meita - baby#1 - (not telling) - 34+2 wks, due 17th August
Boodleboot - baby#3 - 1DD {10} 1DS {5} - 30+1 wks - due 12th Sept - next scan 2nd July
TFLS - baby#1 - 29+1 wks, due 23 Sept
LeeWT - baby#2 (DD1 2yrs) 28+1 wks, due 30th Sept
Louisesh - baby#1, 27+6 wks, due 1st Oct
Effilump - baby#5 (ds 22,15,16mnths. dd13) 25+2 wks EDD 18th Oct
SamanthaB123 baby#3(2x DD's 11 & 9 yrs) 25+1 wks, EDD 20th October
Sarahlou8 - baby#3 (DD 11, DS 9) 24+6 wks, EDD 22nd October
DomesticGOddess - baby#? 24+5 wks, EDD 22nd October
emmielou81 - baby#5 (DS 6, DD 3) - 24 wks, EDD 28th October
BestLaidPlans - baby#1, 21+1 wks EDD 14th November
Unbuffy - baby#2 (DD 17 months) - 19+5 wks EDD 27th November, scan 13th July
HappyGirl - baby#1, 18+1 weeks, EDD 8th December
Zayja - baby#1 - 17+5 wks, EDD 11th December
Goodluckbear - baby#1, 16+5 wks, EDD 18th December
Malteser1981 - baby#1, 16+5 wks, EDD 18th December
Gilda - baby#1 - 15+5 wks, due 25th December - next scan 9th Aug
BunnyBaby - baby#3 - 15+5 wks, EDD 25th December
LucyT66 - baby#1 15+2 wks EDD 26th December
sparklyrainbow- Baby#1 15+1 weeks EDD 30th December
AlbaDeTamble - baby#2 (DS 2) - 14+3 wks EDD 3rd January
toomuchteaching - baby#1 14+1 wks EDD 5th January
Redheadgal - baby#1 14 wks EDD 6th January 2011 - next scan 20 August
diggingforvictory - baby#4 (DS 1) 12+5 wks EDD 15th January, nuchal scan 5th July
Marrow - baby #6 (DD 4) 11+2 weeks EDD January 25th
WestYorkshireGirl - baby#1, 12+2 weeks EDD January 18th
Culina - baby #3, 1DS, 11+1 weeks EDD 21 January 2011
Clareanna - baby#2, one DS 9 weeks EDD 11th Feb 2011 NEXT SCAN 13TH JULY
LilRedWG - baby#2, 1DD, 7+6 weeks EDD 19th Feb
LadyBee - baby#2, 1DS 7+5 weeks EDD 20th Feb 2011
Muser - baby#1, 6+4 weeks, EDD 27th Feb, Next scan 19 July
BUnderTheBonnet - baby#2, 1DD 6+2 weeks 1st March

We share the pain and mourn the loss with:
Jollster - one DC, two babies lost, recent MMC w9/@11, 26th Feb
Cheepz - one DS, recent MMC w9, 26th March
Freezing - one DD, recent MC w11, 28th March
BarrenBrook - third and most recent MMC 12th May
MsJL - 4th and most recent MC determined 8th June

MIA
JodieO - baby#4 (DD 8, DS1 6, DS2 3), EDD 25th December
MrsRigby - baby#2 (DS 15 months), EDD 14th October

The babies are arriving! Huge congratulations to:
Totally with daughter Faith Juliet, 9lb5oz born Tuesday 16th February 2010
Amyboo with son Matthew James, 4.714kg (10lb3oz) born Tuesday 30th March 2010
Hoops with son Benjamin Scott, 7lb4oz born Friday 2nd April 2010
Memorylapse with daughter Olivia, born Friday 16th April 2010
Jacanne (due 29th April/6 May) awaiting news
Becky78 with son Thomas Christopher born 22nd May - 9lb 1oz

Gi1da · 08/07/2010 20:02

Thought I'd try to be useful so there's the ol' listy. Hope it's ok, am on the iPod. Everybody's a little further along.... Softly softly win the baby...

Moof hope you feel crap soon

Clarea

Welcome Limelight it may be a bumpy ride but it's destination Babyville!

brief post as am eastendering. Get out of the car Denise!!!

BunnyBaby · 08/07/2010 20:50

HappyGirl I only felt bubbles / squirms at 18 weeks last time, probably only feeling them earlier as everything is stretching more this time (look 20 weeks at 16).

Clareanna people are really silly aren't they. A 'friend' who had her 2nd in March sent me a text to say that a pal of hers had a miscarriage very early, is still testing pregnant a week later and wanted to know when symptoms subside. I sent I nice note and a poem and explained it's different for everyone at all stages. Yet - I wanted to scream, mine wasn't natural, it was a MMC, I had an inkling as lost symptoms at 11 weeks, I then ended up in hospital with medical management and haemorraged. By the time I got over that lot, the last thing on my mind was a pregnancy test, and I knew our little boy had gone as we saw him and said goodbye. She knew the whole story, but still emailed and asked. Sometimes it just feels too hard having to relive it. I was left wondering if I an oversensitive or if she is unsensitive.

To comfort you, bad dreams often mean good things! I dreamt another friend died, and someone told me it means a new life and possible pregnancy. I called her to ask if upduffed. She replied she wasn't then phoned two weeks later to say my dream must have coincided with her conception.