Pregnant again! - I'm happy, but DH not!

[baggybear]

Hi! I haven't been on for a while but I need somebody to chat to who is impartial!

I've just found out I'm pregnant with #4. I'm happy but my DH isn't. Not really sure what to do. I does love me, I know that and he has told me. That is why this is so hard for him. I feel as though I've got to keep any symptoms quiet (just starting to get a bit of morning sickness)so its not in his face. I know he'll come round in the end, but I need some friendly words from somebody.

Has he said anything tonight?

No. baby and pregnancy not mentioned once today. Did make a HUGE unintentional boo-boo tho. I mean, I HAD to watch Desparate Midwives!!!!!!!!! When he came downstairs from getting ready for work and saw it was on he left the room again - oops!

Oh no really?!!!

Was it only yesterday that he found out?

Hmmm. but I don't think he was cross with me for watching it, just that it was a bit too much to take in whilst he was trying to get his head round things. Bless him, i do feel pretty bad, but its happened and i can't change that. Well, i could but that just isn't an option for me.

I was the same when expecting ds2.
I remember having just found out around carnival time too & we had an almighty row that night.

Was he cross when he found out, or just upset?

He had prior warning that i could be. Was due on tuesday last week. Tuesday came and went so thought i would come on wednesday. Wednesday came and went!!!! So thursday was starting to get a bit worried. Didn't say a word to DH as i didn't want to scare him. did test at friends on thursday but was neg. wasn't convinced i did it right so tried again on friday. there was the faintest line that i had trouble seeing. thought i was making it up!!! still not convinced so got a First Response test and did that friday night and there was a slightly darker line. Told DH then that I could be but not to worry yet. i showed him test and he saw line straight away. said i would do another on sunday. at that brings us up to now. there was a BIG pink line saying "hi ya! i'm here!!!"

I don't think he had any emotion - just shellshock!!

he's going through all emotions now - anger, disappointment, worry, crying.....the list goes on!

Oh dear, poor dh!
Was he almost speechless?

His first wordds when i said i might be were " you're kidding? oh, bloody hell!!!!!"

Poor you too. It is horrible isn't it?
You feel so out of control don't you?

Any ideas how i can make him a bit happier? not about having another baby asuch, just in general.

I was shaking so much when I had to break the news to dh that I suspected I was pregnant.

It's a tricky one. Lots of TLC I guess!

& reassurance that things will be ok.

Doing that now. Made a big roast dinner yesterday and have promised him his fav shepherds pie tomorrow! I don't want to exhaust myself tho. I can only do so much. soon i'm going to need him to be understanding.

I am sure he will get there. It is early days ATM.
Are you feeling ok in yourself other than this?

Well, mornign sickness has kicked in (surprise, surprise!) and i'm getting those wierd crampy feeling in my abdo. and all the usual things that go with the first few weeks. got rotten back ache today. think it might be where body is used to this now and joints are softening already

Oh no! MS already?!
Is it quite mild ATM?

Its not too bad although i woke up this morning and thought i had been drinking last night!! already lost 4 lb coz i can't eat very much at a time. not been sick yet though. So, yeah, suppose it is mild!!!!

have you gone? or have you found an internet bargain??

Lets hope it stays that way!

Was just flicking through ok magazine!!!