what you REALLY want to say when asked "how are you?" but don't!

[heth1980]

All throughout my pregnancy (am nearly 37 weeks) people have been asking me how I am and i always say "fine thanks". I've been a bit more honest recently and have even admitted to being a bit tired to a couple of people, but what I really want to say is:

1. I'm so tired I can't think straight anymore
2. I feel like someone has deposited a concrete boulder in my pelvis and it's slowly splitting me in 2
3. I am SICK of going for a wee
4. I cannot get comfy no matter what I try 5)I am scared of having to give birth again 6)I am scared I won't be able to cope with an oppinionated toddler and a newborn
5. I am scared that my piles will get so big they will take over the world.

anyone else like to tell me how they really are?

This morning I answered that question with 'well, I'd be better if the databases were working so I could do my job'.

Poor woman only meant 'hello', she didn't really want to know how I was at all.

Damn, came here off Active, didn't notice it was in pregnancy. Sorry.

Why, oh why, do you have to bring your pot of wee??? Why can't you just do the sample THERE?

I don't understand that at all. WIll add it to my list!

'cos I was told to!
I only worked out a couple of days ago that using the toilets at the doctors made sense...now i just have to find them

I have the opposite problem to many of you in that I want sex all the time. Sadly no-one wants sex with me!

Do you think there's a website out there for over-horny heavily pg women who's husband won't come up with the goods!

Let me add...

Can't get in the car
Can't reverse the car as can't turn
Paranoid about bumpign the car (again)

Bump is so tender and sore the baby feels as if it's coming out alien style

Finally I dod indeed have an exceptionally large bump and I have had 8 months of well-meaning people make the oh so incredibly funny comment (heard on average 10 times a day): 'are you sure it's not twins'

YES I AM SURE IT'S NOT BLOODY TWINS THIS IS THE 21ST CENTURY AND WOMEN HAVE SCANS IN PREGNANCY

Total troll, as I'm not even pregnant... but from last time:

I'm feeling tired quite alot, but still managing to bicycle short trips (39+1).

SPD better than last time thankyou dear chiropractor and pilates instructor.

Feeling really sexy all the time, masturbating is fantastic for getting back to sleep when I wake up at 2am, 4am and 5:30am.

Really looking forward to the birth, it was so fabulous last time (slightly worried in case it turns out much worse, sods law and all that).

Needmoreenergy - its sad that you're worrying about the bills. Couldn't you talk to your DH about it; they're his children too and you are married, not passing acquaintances?

I kind of go "ooh, I'm... OK" in a vague manner then change the subject - to closer friends I say "don't start me moaning, I will never stop".

34 weeks -
I can hardly walk with pelvis falling apart and vast bump.
Awful heartburn.
Wake up all night with SPD, heartburn, needing a wee, not being able to breathe - or if I manage to get a snooze in between all these, DS going "muuuum, my duvet is wonky/I falled out of bed/my leg is itchy"
I worry non-stop about the baby being OK, is it moving enough etc.
I'm desperate to stop work - just over a week to go...
Just to top it all off, yesterday I developed bloated cankles as well. Nice.

Normally say "fine thanks" when really I mean
"fine thanks, considering I haven't had a shit for four days"

No, your observation ' you dont look 36 weeks' is not correct, I am 5'11'' and people dont carry all the same, baby is measuring fine and is expected to be 8lb odd !

My ankles are now cankles and are so swollen they look very comedy!! My shoes dont fit! Im wearing flip flops!!

My wedding ring and engagement ring dont fit since 30 weeks, and I have CTS which is keeping me awake, and the splints are itchy..

Im sleeping with 6 pillows!!!

No, I cant just drive over to you now Im on maternity - getting in the car is painful!!

(whispers) but Im sure Ill miss it all!

Albinosquirrel, It was the royal you, if there is such a thing! I was flummoxed when the MW handed me the pot and told me to bring it with me to the next visit. They really discourage you (I mean One) from doing the sample at our surgery but I rebel. I am not carrying a pot of wee in my purse.

In answer to that question today especially would be- great thanks sorry do you mind if i down some more gaviscon? Also- better if i could function as a human being. as being very responsible at work (and the long hours) and at home not a complete dumb scatterbrain is clearly too much for me whilst growing a baby. Let alone being able to cook. Im sure dp will shout at me soon. Im not fine i cant poo and have terrible headcold that i cant take anything to shift. Also ask me when its my last day at work before mat leave and i will tell you im fu*king brilliant.

This is funny.... i have an 8 week old ds and am still tired, fat, have massive veins, a few stitches.... well a 10lb 11oz baby was not getting outta there without help!! BUT ds is gorgeous, sleeps through, feeds pretty well, and quite frankly i could eat him.

ITS ALL SOOOOOOOOOOOO WORTH IT (I has morning sickness 24/7 for 3o weeks!!!)

Oh yes, this is a good one. I too have started telling it like it is when people ask.

1. I am sick of feeling sick. And yes, even if you frown, I am still sick at 30wks. I KNOW!

1. If one more person says "not long to go now" I will offer to text them every time I am up at 4am, feel sick, can't get comfy or can't breathe properly, and see how soon they get fed up with it

Chins up everyone

My hands feel like meat.

disclaimer: not been pregnant for 14 months

"Fine thanks a bit tired"

It's 2.20am and I am on the internet, not snoring away. Am 34 weeks - I want to sleep on my tummy and I want to have sex. Not at the same time, that would be dull.

BBB - I was awake las night from 2-5.

I'm so sick of insomnia

I am 31 weeks myself, and i had so much fun reading this post! Luckily no back pain, but almost everything else.

For gothgirl77, I also had horrible skin, despite moisturizing twice a day, and the other day I tried a new cream, only because it was massively discounted at body shop (i think their stuff is generally quite expensive). Anyway i tried the hemp body butter, and it solved my skin mega dryness in a couple of day. That's been amazing, so I wanted to share that tip. It's not super exciting to use, the smell is ok, nothing more. But I stopped having all these horrible skins, and am almost not itchy anymore!

Insomnia getting to me too (31+2). All thanks to DS (2.2). Last night he called me on 5 separate occasions to tell me:

1. There were "bits in this mouth" - I had to wiggle my finger round between this lips and then assure him that the bits had all gone.

1. That he wanted the torch so he could look for spiders under his bed.

1. That he wanted a kiss, and that he also wanted a kiss from Daddy.

1. That his duvet had come off.

1. That he wanted me to sing the rainbow song to him, but only if every colour is blue.

As the first was at 1 AM, and I haven't been back to sleep since, I don't feel particularly competent at work today....

And to DP, what I really want to say is: Please stop nagging me to eat more; I am eating plenty during the day, you just don't get to see it; it's physically impossible for me to eat much in the evening because the baby is pushing on my stomach reducing it's volume; and if I eat everything you want me to then I will be sick - GO AWAY!

I am now 27+6 and am still enjoying my first pregnancy. My bump is compact, so other than the extra trips to the loo and the feeling of there is no way I can possibly stretch any more, I am very lucky to say I have not yet reached the uncomfortable stage. The more pregnant I become, the stronger the digs in the ribs are becoming, but I find this all so satisfying knowing my prawn (as my bump has been called throughout) is getting ready for its own journey.
I am sure this lovely stage is due to change very soon, so I am aiming to saty as upbeat for as long as possible.

"I'm fine thanks, lets not talk about the baby again"

(I am obviously REALLY pleased to be preggers but I simply cannot keep having the same conversations)

Oh god... that question!! I don't think I've ever found it quite so annoying as in the last 8+ months!!

During the first half of being pg my secretly-thought reply was:
"Absolutely awful and wishing that I was not pregnant anymore so I can feel like myself again !!! And don't even dare to say that the sickness will be over soon... that's what you said 2 months ago!!!"

Then for a while (around 5-6 months mark), it was:
"How do you think after a scary case of peritonitis? In pain, tired, weak but happy my baby survived & didn't pick up an infection. No, I'm not bored of being at home on sick leave... I quite like pottering about by myself and anyway work is now at the bottom of my list of priorities!"

For the past 2 weeks, it's been: "Pretty fed-up actually; I'm ready for this baby to be OUT! Yes, I know I should make the most of these quiet last few days to relax and rest-up... but WTF do you think I have been doing for the last 4 months (since Op!)???"

Grrrrrr ...

Can you tell I'm one heck of a hormonal monster during pregnancy!??!

am nearly 37 weeks and have sausage fingers - I cry when I look at my cankles.

(34 weeks)

I'm desperate to have some time on my own during daylight hours to do some cleaning/nesting/shopping/sleeping. Could you look after my 2 kids for me!?

Also: I feel rubbish that I don't have any energy for looking after my kids and guilty that I'm going to be even less useful in 6-8 weeks time.