Is there a thread for the old birds who are pregnant and over 40?

[hippychick66]

I'm on a fab thread on the ttc section but am now 7 wks preg .

I know it's early days but I wondered if there was a thread on here for the older pregnant woman who might be experiencing all the same things as me.

God, I hope I'm not tempting fate by coming over from the ttc side!!!!!

And thank God you did start this thread, Hippy. Hurry up and get back on here!

Lindalinda, I'm snappish, feel sick and I'm tired all the time, but I can't really moan, because I've waited so blardy long and been through so much (IVF) to achieve this pregnancy, that I'm just really grateful to be in this situation.

But that will probably last for another 3 weeks and then I'll be moaning my head off - stick around to enjoy it!

A bit late in the day, but can I join too just before I pop? Am 42 and due end of April. Am so over the moon and grateful to have got this far! Know what Kiwikat means about dreaming of joining the pgy pages!

Also feeling much more tired than last pgy 4 years ago. Certainly just as big. Started out being really careful about what I ate and am now reduced to mars bars at dawn (straight from the hospital bag) just can't seemt to help myself...

huge congrats to everyone and good wishes for the journey

Can I have a moan too? I'm 26 weeks now and have had spd for about 10 weeks now. And could have spd for the next 14 weeks. I can't walk anywhere without suffering for 2 days. it's the school hols and dc1 has chickenpox so I'm having to cancel all the carefully arranged plying with other kids as everyone I know has got a really little one who is best not to get chicken pox yet. Actually that's all. I'm feeling ok as long as I don't do anything, baby is kicking away nicely(and sometimes not so nicely,seems to be catching my pelvic floor or cervix) it's a lovely sunny day so the kids can go outside as soon as they start arguing and they're not arguing yet.
I find the most worrying thing about this over 40 thing is the 'threat' of induction at 40 weeks. I don't know how seriuosly they take this and if it's just the policy for my local hosp. What's everyone else been told? I had dc2 at age 39.75 and there was none of this fuss.

Hope you feel less nauseous lindalinda and hope you enjoy TTC Hippy.Nearly there multi! good luck!

Hello LooLOO - re. induction at 40 weeks it might just be your hospital policy - or even just the particular consultant you're seeing. They all seem to have their own take on things. Mine told me that I could go on to 42 weeks before they would interfere. Could you ask for second opinion?

I think you're fully entitled to moan Looloo - it sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now. And anyone else who wants to have a moan, well, that's what we're here for, to sympathise.

I'm 6 weeks pg, aged 44+2, and have my first scan and dr's appt in a week, so haven't been told a single thing about what to expect in light of my advanced age. It's interesting - I wanted SO MUCH to get to this stage, but there were so many steps to achieve before we got here, that I actually hadn't given any thought at all to getting this far. And it's a sobering thought that so many people we've congratulated on MN haven't continued their journey. I don't know if it's because we're older, or because some of them are from the Asst Conception threads, or whether it's because we can speak freely here at a very early stage about our pregnancies, but I was completely unaware of miscarriage during my last pregnancy four years ago, and this time I'm hyper-aware.

But there's no point stressing about it - if you take care of yourself - frequent foot massages, small indulgences of chocolate, cups of decaffeinated tea in bed - then what will be, will be.

Good to get these concerns off my chest - hope I haven't brought you all down.

That's interesting Multi maybe it is just policy about the 40 weeks. My midwife is definitely on my side about it (and told me I could refuse to see the consultant if I preferred) . I'm just hoping this dc will turn up a bit early like the other 2 did.

I don't think it's our age Kiwi that brings out all these worries, but experience. Just keep away from the childbirth threads for a bit or you go straight from miscarriage worries to birth worries. I worried about miscarrige until 11 weeks when the mw let me hear that little heart beat. Nobody in RL ever talks about MC.

OOh,just spotted this thread! I am 32 weeks pg and will be 43 in August. I have one DS, who was born when I was 39, but I simply do not remember being anything like as tired first time round - and I'd thought that being pg at 42 wouldn't be much worse than at 39...

My BP's been a bit higher this time round, but I was managing to get into work 4 days a week last time, now I can only manage 1 or 2, and am thinking of starting mat leave a week earlier than planned. I just feel weird - out of it, wobbly and for the last couple of days I can occasionally hear the blood pounding in my ears, IYKWIM. Had a scan on Tues, all fine with baby, and have MW appt on Mon next week. I don't seem to be experiencing anything on the 'phone the delivery unit if...' list, so am thinking it's just age - anyone got any thoughts?

I'm having a c-section at 38 weeks, made the decision after being induced last time and ending up with emergency c-section. Had a big baby last time and this one seems to be heading the same way, so I also wonder if that's adding to my tiredness.

other than that, nothing to complain about (sorry just realised I seemed like a right moaner). Only decided to start a family relatively late in life and have been very lucky

Hi there whenwill, I think pregnancy is tiring for some people and not so bad for others. and more tiring when you already have a lo.I'm 43 in sept and had my first at 38 (dc2 at 39) and I'm always tired . I just do very little other than look after my dc. I'm 26 weeks and have just started getting that wobbly out of it pg feeling. Why don't you get on mat leave asap? Get some rest and see if that helps.When i had dc1 the mw suggested an afternoon nap in bed and said what seems like extreme tiredness is quite normal.Why don't you give the mw a call and ask if she can see you sooner if you're worried about your BP.
We all seem to be moaning ,not just you!

I have just seen this and am delighted to join in - am 43, will be 44 in June. Feel great, and blessed: I met husband late in life, got married quickly and immediately got pg. DD1 born August 2008, then a miscarriage last summer, and now blissfully 20 weeks pg with DD2. At my age!

Decided to do CVS with this pregnancy as was worried, but all turned out fine and tomorrow have NHS scan and can't wait to see my new baby. Both pregnancies - at least so far - have gone swimmingly, feel ten years younger, full of energy and enthusiasm. I think that being pregnant at our age actually helps - I am not hopeless, but very organised, financially stable, and surely being so happy counterbalances for the first tantrums or sleepless nights! TBH, I am a bit worried about coping with two under two - I am not working and DD1 is going to nursery three afternoons a week, but am considering getting an au pair for six months to help us cope: what do you all think?

lindalinda i broke my tooth eating kettle chips at 13 weeks and then had the worry of having a filling being pg. Eat normal crisps! I would kill for mccoys at 13 weeks and now at 26w it's choc digestives and tomatos and I just ate all the kids' smarties.I was so uncomfortable in my denim below the bump maternity skirt that today I'm wearing leggings and a long smocked tshirt from H and M. So comfy but i look pretty wierd. The smock was only 7.99 so I'm heading back for another even though it looks odd.

pinguina the aupair sounds like a good idea but only if you've got the space. my friend found it great not to have to drag baby out every time she had to fetch her dc from nursery as the aupair could stay with baby.I had 2 under 2 and survived and I'd do it again if I was a bit younger and didn't get spd.

Hello all - I'm another newbie, pregnant for the first time at 40, all being well am due in early December when I'll be 41.

Very early days, just coming up to 6 weeks, but have been v lucky so far. Met OH in late 30s, and in fact got pregnant in March - first month of trying. We're both stunned!

Just started feeling nauseous this week, not too bad and quite glad to feel something happening in there. Have wanted this for so long am determined not to moan, but we'll see how long that lasts!

Docs next week, am looking forward to being labelled geriatric!

Nice to be here, hope you're all doing well.

Well, considering only a few days ago I said I wouldn't moan ...

Impending TMI alert ...

Have been burping and farting for the last couple of days and today threw up in the toilets at work - God, how gruesome.

Feeling a bit better now, after embracing the Lucozade, but am sure it was nowhere near this rough-going when I was pregnant with DS 4 1/2 years ago.

Glad to see so many of us on this thread.

Hello and hope everybody is feeling as good as possible!

Thought I'd give an update on my 32+ weeks scan and consultant appointment.

DD#3 (11yrs) found the scan "awesome" (her words). The sonographer, after doing alot of checks and measurements (all good), took the time to talk her through all the babys' legs, feet, hands and face. DH was relegated to holding handbag, newspaper and jackets and hovering whilst DD#3 sat next to me, gripping my hand and squealing "mummy mummy look!"

Saw the consultant and he talked me through the scan results. It was fantastic to hear the baby is on the 50% centille on everything! I asked him why I had been booked for the scan in the first place. His reason was erring on the side of caution as I had requested a HB. He explained that although HBs are every expectent mothers' right there can be occasions where the midwifery team might be slightly uneasy. By me having a scan, going through my obstetric history with me and a consultation/examination he could put on my notes his confirmation in supporting my choice of HB should I prefer it.

On a different note he said, in his opinion and experience, due to my obstetric history I will probably go overdue. I need to see him at 40 weeks to discuss induction!

I'm SO SORRY lindalinda we had xposts. Please look after yourself.

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Thinking of you too. Take good care.

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Lindalinda - I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Really really sorry. I hope you are surrounded by lots of love. I am sure here a lot of us will be thinking of you. xx

Hi there,

I wondered if I might tentatively join? I was 40 on April 4th and got my BFP yesterday after IVF - Wave to Kiwi who I know from the assisted conception thread.

I think my due date will be somewhere in mid December.

apologies lindalinda, I should have read back. So sorry to hear of your loss.

Lindalinda, am so sorry! I really hope we see you back on here soon - we'll be waiting.

Welcome Dueling! I had my fingers crossed that you'd be joining us today and I'm so excited that you're HERE!!!!!!

And I'm feeling pretty gruesome and sicky too, so we can moan about that together.

How's everyone else doing?