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I am suffering SPD (for the second time) and just need to vent without driving everyone else on my pregnancy thread mental. Not that they aren't supportive but I still have 20 weeks to go and I don't want to ruin their pregnancies by talking about mine!

Please come and join me so I don't feel so alone, and feel free to share tips if you have any....

7dayweekend... its a manual one.. Dont think I will venture out wthout my husband!!

Lying in bed with a hotwater bottle on my pelvis.. hoping I can move tommorrow to join my toddler at a xmas party....

Please more success stories...

Naetha- our first baby. Congratulations and grea news about your mobility.

I'm quite envious of you CTOFN, and ladies with wheelchairs. They just wouldn't work with our long gravelly drive.

[waves to all]

Oh dear. I've had SPD for weeks now (I'm 27 weeks) and only just got the midwife to put in a referral to the physio because I'm too stubborn. Doing just about anything hurts but I've been going for walks assuming that not doing so would be worse for me. Do I gather I was wrong?

Also rather worried about the labour comments. I've really got to have a home birth because I get horrible awful screaming vomiting days-long migraines from flourescent lights, which are endemic in hospitals. Am I not going to manage?

Of course you will manage Susannah, but worth checking out local facilities to see if they can accomodate your light-sensitivity, just in case. I'd really suggest not walking anymore than you abolutely have to- based on my experience, it will get gradually worse and there may be a point where sitting/lying is as uncomfortable as being on your feet. It's a very personal condition, as you will see if you read back, so I cna't say for sure how your SPD will progress but:

1. get all the help you can
2. take it very easy, especially if you are planning a home birth
3. make sure you have exlored all options for birth.
4. keep coming back!!

Hi everyone can I join you on the sofa? I'm 24 weeks and feel like SPD is just starting to set in. I've had it in 2 previous pregnancies, so not really surprised. I'm still fairly mobile and it's very mild so far, just feeling a bit achy and having to remember to keep my knees together when turning in bed or getting up off the sofa. Nothing to moan about compared to some of you poor ladies, but I'm very glad to see the thread for all the good advice.

Welcome Reindeer and sympathies.

29 weeks here: spending the weekend as a single parent and chomping painkillers like they are going out of fashion. DH is going to pay [cackles evilly]

7dayweekend - I've not much to say but didn't want your post to go unanswered. The reason this thread is here is for precisely the reason you have posted - basically to rant!

7DW- I TOTALLy get what you mean. It is utterly demoralising and pathetic that a little thing such as pregnancy should reduce us to infirm/incapable senior citizens. I know so many people who jet off all over the place when pregnant and work until the day they give birth and its jus so unfair. On the plus side 236+3 means not much longer. Are you being induced/delivered early?

My turn for a rant today....tried to get out of bed and sort out the dog at 5.30 when DH let her loose, but legs didn't support my weight, so I fell and couldn't get back up. Spent two hours calling for DH (who was working downstairs it transpires), and crying. I was so mad and stiff and miserable and in pain by the time he got to me at 7.30. I was on the verge of weeing on the floor...

I just hate feeling so debilitated. It's so humiliating. To compound things I have had my rother living with us for the last 6 months, now his pregnant fiancee has come to visit for Christmas (4 weeks!!!) (long story about Brother.) and they just don't get it. She lays in bed all morning and complains about feeling sick still, then whisks DD away from the nanny and they leave everything a mess and I'm just generally pissed off. They would say that they do everything I ask them to, and they do, but it's not what I need. I have hired a nanny because I'm still tidying up after them and doing things that I shouldn't rather than can't. They don't get that they should be doing everything and I should be doing nothing. They just don't get it. I want to kill them. I don't want them to be witnesses to me being so incapable. I'd like to suffer in private. Gah.

Poor DH, poor DD, poor nanny. They're going to have to deal with me in this mood all day.
Sorry all.

Oh Pureed that sounds absolutely hideous. I hope your day got a bit better.

Well I'm now 37+1 and despite having a really good run on the SPD I now feel crippled again. Just the past couple of days really I've been ceasing up and today I can barely move. Boo hoo....

Still I have a c/s in 1 week 4 days so there is most definitely light at the end of the tunnel - a different type of pain to recover from!!

Major ctofn!

I feel very sorry for myself today and quite tearful. Feel like my body is being tortured.

1. I have a urinary tract infection and am on antibiotics after the UTI causing lots of contractions past week;
2. SPD re-crippling me in the past few days; 3) I now appear to have thrush.

TMI ALERT. I say "appear to have" because basically I don't have the horrid itching inside but my labia are sooooooo swollen and literally hanging between my legs - like when you have thrush and have been ripping yourself to bits by scratching! I cannot put my legs together because of the swollen labia (v sore too), I am having trouble sitting down because of the swollen labia.... and add to that the fact that having legs apart is agony with the SPD.

DH went to the chemist this morning to buy emergency supply of pessaries and canesten cream. Am now hoping it clears bloody quick.

I only have one week 3 days to go until c/s but I just can't believe the extra stuff this pg is throwing at me.

Sorry for my rant.

CTOFN it's obviously going round. I have the swollen issues without the itching. Had to give a swab yesterday (basically a smear, which is sooooo fun with SPD!!) and the nurse actually gasped and asked if doc had examined me. Didn't seem impressed or surprised when I said no.....

3 days though. 3 FUCKING DAYS!!!!!!!!! Counting with you xxxxx

Pureed - ONE WEEK and 3 days..... boo hoo....

God Im glad I've logged on tonight... I woke up this morning and just wanted to cry. So frustrated and fed up. Its Christmas... I should be going out.. having fun. Instead I dont actually want to leave the house it hurts too much and isnt worth it.

I dont want to see friends as Im just so embrassed by what a wreck I have become.. I dont shower/bath for days. My DH helps me wash my hair over the sink.

Any advise on how to cope with the hour car Journey to get to my mums Christmas day?

The only thing that keeps me going is my toddler.

I worry... will I bond with this baby which has caused me nothing but pain and unhappiness?

Havent forgotten but since i have finished work SPD is not soo bad only at nite and so im coping!

Im so sorry for all you that are suffering and cant get any relief! im actually counting down days for you CTOFN - it feels like such a long road for you and others - good luck to all who can see the end of the tunnel C-Sections planned!

1. christmas - hope you can really put your legs up you have an excuse and hopefully the help! xx

Fetaqueen - I'm with you honey.... I'm embarrassed to say that I am not particularly looking forward to this baby being born, other than to get it out of my body. It was unplanned DC3 at 40 yrs of age and whilst at the time I didn't consider doing anything about it, the whole pg I have wished that I had due to the constant array of pg complications, pain, unhappiness etc.

I was saying to my DH the other day that I wondered whether I would bond, get PND etc because of the way I have felt throughout the pg.

His advice to me was, don't worry about it, we'll deal with that if or when it happens.

I had an awful day yesterday too and spent much of it in tears, feeling soooo sorry for myself. For Xmas Day, take painkillers before the journey and perhaps some of your cushions/pillows. When you get to your mum's, find the most comfortable seat for you, arrange your cushions etc just so and be waited on. Let everyone else look after your toddler (they would probably enjoy it) and you!

I have 8 pax for dinner on Xmas Day but thankfully, DH will do the majority of the work. Still, no doubt, I will feel like a party pooper and a slattern for sitting on my a*se! Hope today is better for you.

Hi ladies, I'm new on this thread, glad to meet you all

I'm 23wks with twins and the SPD started at 8 wks but this last week has made me pretty much disabled. Midwife is craaaaaaap, she doesn't even know what SPD is but I was diagnosed with it with DD1 so I know full well what it is. She has passed my number to the physio who is part time only and never around - this is totally the wrong time of year to catch people isn't it.

I need crutches so bad as am crawling around the house at the moment and as you can imagine the bump is getting much bigger and heavier every day! Arrrrggghhhhh! I too am dreading xmas as I will be on my own for 3 days from Boxing day as DH and DD go visiting which I just can't manage.

Do you think a walking stick would help? I might ask DH to make me one

I wonder why this is happening to us all? Has anyone else heard that extra iron might help?

Peasplease- I bought my crutches on Amazon for £30 (ergonomic too) and MW said the other day they are better than hospital ones. Totally worth getting a stick, and a belt (although you presumably know that) FIGHT YOUR CORNER lady. I had MW who didn't know what it was last time and am taking no shit this time. It helps that I hurt so much more.

It would alsio help if DH were around to listen but he's snowed under- story for another day.

For those with concerns about bonding, I never had a problem last time, and had SPD this bad as well.

CTOFN- less than 10 days......I have less than 10 weeks. You're still ahead. And if I didn't sympathise, I'd hate you

[waves to all- sorry if I missed you.]

I am giggling at the thought of a crutches-shaped parcel arriving up our drive

7dw that is so kind, if you live anywhere near north wales i will send DH straight round! I am seeing a consultant this afternoon and will pester them until (hopefully)i get somewhere. I mean, how difficult is it to get some crutches in a hospital!?