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[pumpkinpureeandghostlypearls]

I am suffering SPD (for the second time) and just need to vent without driving everyone else on my pregnancy thread mental. Not that they aren't supportive but I still have 20 weeks to go and I don't want to ruin their pregnancies by talking about mine!

Please come and join me so I don't feel so alone, and feel free to share tips if you have any....

8 more sleeps till I have my c/s!!!!

To that end, I ventured for a spot of waxing today. Ouch bloody ouch! The waxing was bad enough being pg, but getting on and off the bed??!!!! Has now crippled me for the day. Bloody stupid. Should have just let the hospital shave me....

Let it be a lesson to all of my fellow sufferers out there.....

But let's be positive again... 8 MORE SLEEPS - whoopee!!!!!!

Hello

CTOFN .... Thanks for your advise. I've suffered with epression before but not postnatally.. however have some anti-depressents I am considering taking just incase as a safe guard?.... self diagnosis!!!

I now have a date for a c-section... 25th Jan and also see it as a hope to the end of the pain rather than a new life.. my baby. Tempted to ask them to tie my tubes whilst I am there... NEVER want to go thrugh this again.

Has anyone else noticed that the health professionals just dont seem to give a shit. The only sympathetic person seems to be my Physio.

Are any of you on facebook? They have an SPD support group on there..

Take care everyone.. Im finding the hot water bottles are doing good...

I AM being sterilised at the same time as my op next Tuesday. The failure rate for this during a c/s is apparently 1:100, which isn't fantastic odds - to do with swelling, misplacement of your bits and pieces inside during pg etc. However, my "D"H has steadfastly put off/refused to have the snip over the past 7 years since our last DC and his "promise" and I figure this way I am safeguarding myself somewhat.

That being said, because of the failure rate, I am probably unlikely to let him anywhere near me until he has the snip too!!!!

But then again ladies, I am 41 and this is an unexpected DC3 for me and DC6 for DH. Deffo no more wanted in this neck of the woods.

CTOFN ... Good luck...
I too am tryng to persuade my DH to get the snip. Thing is after all he holiday time he is taking to looka fter me and our daughter he wont he time to schedule it in...

7DW - You're brave... One of the main reasons I want a C section s so that I dont go overdue and get this out of me...

My Physio rang today.. tld her no one seemed to care. She didnt really make much of a comment.

Main fears at the moment...

1- This pain contiues after babby.. long term
2 - I dont bond with baby.
3 - Im in lots of pain and dont enjoy Christmas day,
4 - All my friends dessert me cuz I cant stop moaning...

Lucyx

Fetaqueen-

1. thread here for moaning so you avoid loss of crucial friends!
2. Christmas day a tricky one but hoping (for myself) that watching DD and DH open gifts and having others wait on me/cook etc will make it all bearable
3. Bonding will happen, maybe not at first, but that's true of lots of people who don't have our issues with pregnancy. If anything I suspect having the baby out rather than in will make you love them sooooooo much more
4. Don't even go there. Positive thoughts. We are all in denial.....

CTOFN- never occurred to me to get DH done. Until this pregnancy I'd hoped to talk him in to a third!!

Woke up this am with glands the size of hamsters, swollen tonsils and general pain from head to chest. Called docs to get a home visit (SPD + icy conditions= housebound Puree) and had to argue with receptionist. Bloody medical people. Days like this I wish I had a next door neighbour/best friend/postman who was a GP (or no-holds-barred Private cover...)

Afternon

Thanks for all the lovely kind words...

Pureed Chestnuts and 7DW.. cant be bothered to get out of the house much anyway cuz of the pain but this weather doesnt help much.. except when my DH took me town in the wheelchair last week it was so freezing my legs pelvis went numb and painfree for a bit.

My neighbour across the road is etting me black pudding and bacon today for xmas day breakfast... Im a veggi but I want my DH to be able to make his own cooked breakfast.

PC - hoe you start to feel better soon and get the home visit... Ive decided being bed bound and barey going out has one advantage for once.. not ixing with people al full of germs... ha ha

Will check this site out later see how everyone is.. Join the faceook sight too and we can chat/maon more.
xxx

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7DW .. How funny is that.. Think if I got bought one of those I would cry....

I know it sounds awful but I cant help feel a bit embrassed when Im in the wheelcahir... but at least at the supermarket (done it once.) you can spot all the value products...

xxx

7DW - You are loved your DP loves you to bits and will continue to help you put your socks on...

I think you were really brave to attempt to see a friend on the bus.. shame it didnt go to plan.. but thats so much braver than I would ever be.

I know what you mean about the clothes.. I had to do a groin swab at the hospital on Thursday check I dont have MRSA... and my DH had to help me do it whilst my DD sat and watched, I couldnt even pull my own trousers down. It was one of those laugh or cry situations.. and I luckily laughed.

I think the total lack of support you get.. the having t explain stuff to everybody.. the feeling people dont believe you.. the helplessness and reliance on oters all equals to lack of self confidence.

My DH got stuck in traffic and couldnt pick my DD up from nursery today I had to drive to get her whilst the nursery staff put her in the car for me.. Luckil they had explained they werent allowed to belt her up so I'd moved her seat into the front of the car...then a neighbour came round till he got home to help me with her.... I feel like I can't even look after the child I have...

I think the crutches are SHITE... I'd rather not go out than use them.. or just shuffle. Sometimes I just use them to make a point..

Take care all
xxx

Hi all. Please can I join in? I am 17 weeks with DC3 and have got SPD. It's really bloody painful already.

I had it with DC2 quite badly actually and when he was born I couldn't even raise my leg to put my knickers on. He was quite a large baby though, 10lb 14oz.

That was nearly 7 years ago and I have to admit I have had twinges ever since ie when I cross my legs sometimes.

I have been referred to physio (no appointment come through as yet) but I'm absolutely dreading it. When I went last time I was pregnant it was hideous. I haven't got the smallest of bottoms and hips and the Physio made a really big deal out of the fact that none of the belts she had to hand fit me so made a real point of having to search the hospital for a 'larger' belt to fit me. It looked hideous on me and pulled in the flab a couple of inches where it sat on me and gave me the most ridiculous shape. It was so embarrassing that I never wore it out and gave up on it eventually.

These are the things I find most painful:

Walking around for too long (ie 10 minutes max)

Getting in/out of bath

Walking up stairs

Turning over in bed

Sitting in the car for long periods of time/getting out of car.

I've had severe hyperemesis with this pregnancy and have been off work since near the end of October. Feeling much better now and am due to go back in the new year. The thing it involves standing the whole time for between 5 and 6 hours and I'm beginning to wonder if I'm going to be able to do it or not?

Hello

Merry Christmas all.

Ive managed to spend most of today resting and hope I can do the journey to my mums tomorrow and have a nice nough day

My DH has filled the stockings and bought all the resents downstairs and I've done well at staying in bed and listening to it all happening... SO FRUSTRATED I can't do it. ITS MY JOB.

MAMPAM - Welcome.. you will get much comfort from this site.

My great advise is to three quarters fill a hot water bottle.. then place it in painfull areas.. by being not full you get a bit of a massage. some movement from it and its helpd me.. I just over heat a bit.

Take care

Oh ladies, I totally sympathise, I am not pregnant now, ds is 9 months but had spd from about 16 weeks.

I didn't have it nearly as bad as many of you but did find it excruciating when it was really bad. This thread has reminded me of one particularly bad day when I could only move my shuffling in tiny circles....All the going up & down stairs sideways or on my bum, oh getting out of bed to go to the loo at night was horrendous.

The only things I found that helped was rest which was very hard with dd 2.5. I'm afraid Cbeebies was a life saver & I had to totally give up walking anywhere really. Dr did show me one exercise which helped a but when back/pelvis had gone into spasm. Though it was easier said than done.

Lay on floor. legs bent, drop legs to side (together obviously) whilst trying to keep shoulder blades both on the floor. Then legs to the other side. Do about 3 on each side & do 3 times a day. You might need help getting down on the floor & up.

I am now quite cross that mw's & dr did not refer me for physio even though I was in lots of pain. Think I should have made more of a fuss now. Felt like all I did was moan for my pregnancy which was a stark contrast to my first which was a doddle.

My pain did end as soon as ds (9 lb 12oz) was born though my hips still hurt in bed.

If I have another baby will how likely is it that I'll I get it again?

Once again you ladies have my total sympathy, it is terrible & as my friend said ' you walk like you've shit yourself!" I can laugh about it now but at the time I just wanted to cry.

Hello ladies. Well I now have 2 days to go until my c/s and I cannot wait. I am really nervous/apprehensive about the op - or more particularly the recovery period afterwards but I am just so desperate for this pregnancy to be over and hopefully waving goodbye to SPD.

I had a really good stretch a few weeks ago but I must confess to everything coming back with a vengeance last Monday - baby engaged (ouch). Then baby has decided to disengage and reengage several times. I won't lie to you, it's something I was dreading and I was right.

I have spent much of this past week crawling around the house sobbing because I feel so sorry for myself. After sitting for a while and getting up, I move like Peter Crouch doing his robot celebratory move in a desperate attempt to move legs and hips. On top of that, I have now swelled to ridiculous proportions. Hands, ankles and feet - urgh. Sooooo uncomfortable!

Anyway - my little moan over with. Going to now attempt to do some ironing before the rest of the house wakes up.

7dw and CTOFN - You're both having your babies really soon and leaving me...

7DW - I dont like being left on my own much to be honest...

Took Codeine Boxing day.. couldnt talk too well. Was a little amusing.

Did have a good Christmas... however on proper countdown now till my c- section 29 days...

GOOD LUCK TO 7DW AND CTOFN .. I want an update to if the SPD goes and how you both are. xxxx

Morning All

Am just pysching myself up to go to see if my DD needs a new par of shoes. My mum reckons they are too small andas I've been struggling to do stuff I think it was back in Sept when she had a new pair.

7DW - you do make me smile...

Anyone else getting people ask them if they want to do stupid things.. eg .. Do I want to meet other mums a soft play today? Am I going into town new years eve?

Do people just not get it?

CTOFN - Is your c section tomorrow? I will be thinking of you...

Do either of you know the sex?

Yes my c/s is tomorrow!!! I think I am now officially excited to be meeting LO instead of just looking forward to putting an end to the pg!

SPD is now the worst it has been throughout pg though and compounded by the fact that about an hour ago I slipped, just a tinse, in the shower! F*ck - that finished me off.

However, now am undeniably positive and showered, hair done (straightened so don't have to arse around in the morning), bags double and triple checked, camcorder, mobile, camera and ipod charged, book packed... am I going on hols??

And, no, I have no idea what flavour the baby is - that's what is exciting me. This will be DC3 for me and I have one of each so far, but for my DH it is DC6! Between us we have 3 boys and 2 girls so I'm kind of hoping for a girl to round things off!

I will report back in at the weekend when hopefully back home and online!

Good luck to everyone else in the meantime
x

OMG CTOFN- tomorrow. I am so jealous of you. Good luck, and get back to us as soon as you can xxx

7DW- Trust me: at 38+1 I will be in hospital being induced. I am VERY impressed!

WAves to everyone else. 31+3 today. Christmas was utterly exhausting, mainly because I had to do loads, despite the fact that i was surrounded by visitors who should have been waiting on me The tonsillitis is slowly getting better though the penicillin tastes foul (liquid) and the joyful added bonus of giving me thrush which I have never before had. i had no idea how excrutiating the itching could be....

I'm on holiday too so can't see the doc/mw and am still having ongoing undercarriage issues. i tell you, the firdst pregnancy was a piece of piss compared to this!!

Anyway, enough of my misery. How is everyone??