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A gentle thread for those starting again after a difficult pregnancy, miscarriage etc.

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woollyjo · 13/10/2009 14:19

I've just discovered I am 5.5 weeks pregnant.

In the last 2 years I have had 2 mcs and our dd2 was stillborn at term.

So I don't feel like I fit into the antenatal threads, and don't want to frighten anyone with my experiences.

Anyone else out there who needs a gentle thread?

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OneBabyPlease · 25/08/2010 22:38

Comedy re your gout Lunatic - this pg lark is so rock n roll!!

Nancydrew - feel for you re people knowing - I was exactly the same & didn't tell hardly anyone until I was 14 weeks. I hope the CVS goes ok, thinking of you x

Hope you're ok too Fatheadsgirl

Glad to hear all's well with you Trish

Hope you & Seren are well Woolly

I really am enjoying every minute of being a Mummy - it hasn't even felt like a battle yet to be honest Lunatic (plenty of time for that I'm sure!) - I think I waited so long for it to happen that I just want to pinch myself everytime I look at my gorgeous little man! He's smiling & laughing all the time now & so much more aware Grin

We're going away this weekend & coming back on Sunday when I've organised a surprise 30th birthday party for DH - god, it's stressful!! I hope everyone who said they will turns up & it's a good night! The logistics of it are a nightmare - organising DHs mates to get him to the venue etc - argggh! Hope my plan comes together! I've given him a son - I really should've just left it at that for this year's pressie!! I must be a glutton for punishment - I also spent 11 hours putting together a photobook for him online (lost it after the first four hours & had to start again! lol!) - he better bl**dy appreciate it!

Hope everyone has a peaceful weekend.
Take it easy girls & hang in there
Thinking of you all & hope the coming months pass quickly & uneventfully xx

nancydrewrocked · 25/08/2010 22:42

onebaby - what a lovely post Smile

Lovely to have some happiness in amongst the trauma and the angst.

lunatic - gout you poor thing! An old boss of mine had gout and I remember his agony vividly (not to mention the trauma of having to carry his shoe when he couldn't get it on his foot....don't ask!) Hope you're feeling ok.

Best wishes to everyone else.

nancydrewrocked · 27/08/2010 14:07

Thought and check in and see how everyone is doing.

I am about to head off to Dorset to go camping in the rain - excellent!

I have had a tiny bit of bleeding this morning so it is probably exactly what I need to take my mind of that since the EPU can't/won't see me until Tuesday and I have my CVS then anyway.

Happy Bank Hols

JoEW · 31/08/2010 12:19

Hello, thought this might be a good thread to join. I'm seven weeks today with what I hope will be my first baby. I had a mc at nine weeks in May this year - I went for a scan as I'd had some slight bleeding, they thought the scan was ok and saw a heartbeat but they put my dates as six weeks pregnant, which didn't make any sense. Later on the same day as the scan I started to mc.
So, two months later I got pregnant again and I am waiting nervously to get to 12 weeks and the relative safety of that stage! I've has some brown spotting over the past couple of days but I don't really want to ask for an early scan as it didn't help much last time and I think it might be best to leave everything alone. I'm 36 so cracking on a bit according to most websites you read. Anyway, this seems like a nice thread so hello everyone.

whizzymummy · 31/08/2010 17:06

Hi there, I thought I'd join in too if that's alright!
I'm 10 weeks 4 days today. I'm currently on bed rest as I had a very heavy bleed on sunday, I really thought I'd miscarried and took myself into hopsital to confirm it but was totally shocked to see heartbeat and sac all well. So I've been told to rest and come back for another scan on Friday. To say I'm anxious wouldn't really cover it...
I have a bit of a mixed success rate in the past with pregnancies and it's a long story so here's a summary:
pg 1: miscarried 10 weeks
pg 2: DS now aged 4 1/2
pg 3: unfortunately discovered at the 12 weeks scan our little girl had turners sydrome and fluid on the brain amongst other complications which meant she would not survive to term so we terminated :(
pg 4: DD now aged 2 1/2
pg 5: few months back ended in early miscarriage prob 5-6 weeks

So this is my sixth pregnancy and I feel like I'm being tested every step on the way. I really thought I'd seen a lot of what could go wrong early on, I never expected this bleeding.
On the one hand I know I should be positive, I've not actually miscarried. On the other hand it's hard for me to even feel positive with this bleed and I'm not even at the 12 week scan yet which would bring yet more trauma.

Anyway, really long post I know, I just feel like I need to find some people to chat with who know where I'm coming from. Plus this bed rest is driving me mad already.
Look forward to getting to know you all and hope I get to stay long enough to do so.

nancydrewrocked · 31/08/2010 18:46

Welcome JoEW and whizzymummy and glad you found us Smile

Well I am afraid I am feeling rubbish - went for the CVS today and the procedure went well which is a positive, on the other hand I insisted that the professor (no less!) measure the NT which came in at 3.4mm which at 11+5 is too big.

Now I am in a panic - I suppose living the testing thing in reverse: most people know when they go for the CVS that they have an increased NT - which is why they are having the CVS. I was having the CVS because of my previous history and was really hoping I'd come out with extra positive news.

No such luck. Anyway now the wait starts...results probably in on Monday (don't these people have any sense of urgency?!)

I just feel gutted Sad

whizzymummy · 31/08/2010 18:57

Am crossing my fingers for you nancydrewrocked - if it makes you feel any better that is the exact measurement my DS had. They put him at a 1 in 30 chance of Downs or similar and given measurement we had the CVS done ... but all was clear and he's of course with us today, a bright bubbly boy. The consultant when he was born said he thought he'd be a rugby prop player from how solid he was! He also had (has!) an enourmous head and was a big baby.
Did they say anything else - at time of CVS with DS the consultant said he could clearly see nasal bone so that was positive.
Here's hoping the results come back sooner than monday - they never seem to have any sense of urgency in my experience xx

nancydrewrocked · 31/08/2010 19:03

Thanks so much Whizzy - it is good to hear positive stories.

I just so desparately want it all to be OK and I can't begin to imagine how I will deal with this is if is not.

There was a clear nasal bone which I know is another positive and heart "appears normal for gestation" is on the report whatever the hell that means.

It is the unknown and the waiting that is going to drive me to bloody distraction.

whizzymummy · 31/08/2010 19:21

Well keep as positive as you can (know how hard that is though!) and remember that at least there are no other negative markers. The nasal bone and heart are positive so I'd cling on to that if I were you.

nancydrewrocked · 03/09/2010 13:30

Well after the longest 72 hours of my life I got the results back this morning and they are clear.

I am so relieved and absolutely delighted and I can't believe I have actually beaten the odds Smile

I hope everyone is doing well - lunatic are you about? Hope your scan went Ok? Thinking about you

whizzymummy · 03/09/2010 14:02

Congratulations! What relief you must feel! Great they got back to you in reasonable time as I know they can take longer.
Now you can hopefully start to enjoy your pregnancy a little more :)

I'm off this afternoon for my follow up scan, just hoping all is well and little baby has seen off this bleed and everything recovered... kind of freaking out as I feel crampy today but only a few more hours to wait.

nancydrewrocked · 03/09/2010 16:34

Thanks whizzymum Smile

Wishing you well for the scan and I hope you get the reassurance that all is well. I am keeping my fingers crossed.

whizzymummy · 03/09/2010 19:16

Hello, all was well so far, yay! :) Got my nuchal scan in a week so just got to get through another week before next scan...

nancydrewrocked · 03/09/2010 20:14

Excellent news!

Bloody stressful all this isn't it?!

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OneBabyPlease · 04/09/2010 01:22

Great news all - thinking of you & willing you all along Wink

Lunatic - well done for getting through the last few weeks without having a complete breakdown - so stressful for you with pregnancy hormones & grief - stay strong.

Hope everyone has a relaxing & uneventful weekend. Take good care gang xx

nancydrewrocked · 04/09/2010 18:01

Thanks Smile

Glad you're Ok lunatic I was starting to worry! I didn't realise it was Daisy's anniversary that must have been hard - did you do anything "nice" (hope you know what I mean)

Best of luck to everyone over the coming weeks.

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woollyjo · 04/09/2010 20:44

No Lunatic you are not bad - for these ladies it is the closest they hopefully will ever get to going through your/our traumas, I am sure they walk away kicking themselves and wishing they had said something different. That said - it winds me up too.

So glad things are progressing ok for you.

Great to see you all chatting away.

take care allxx

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BreakDancingBadger · 06/09/2010 21:59

Hi girls,
Can i join this thread? I lost my dd1 two months ago, stillborn at 31+5weeks, and we have just started ttc again.
Im hoping i can actually come on here and talk as a pregnant mummy again soon... fingers crossed.

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woollyjo · 06/09/2010 23:15

Hi BDB so sorry to hear about your daughter, my dd2 was stilborn at term and the following pregnancy was very anxious (hence the thread). DD3 is now 14 weeks old but it has been quite a journey ..... welcome aboard I hope things work out the way you hope.

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OneBabyPlease · 07/09/2010 19:16

BDB - welcome & good luck ttc - so sorry to hear about your DD1.

After 3 m/cs & 5 years ttc my DS was born 3 months ago & this thread has been incredibly supportive (thanks again for starting it Woolly). Hope you have good news soon x

Hope everyone else is doing ok too xx

PS Lunatic - I don't think you're not being unreasonable at all - of course m/cs are absolutely awful but how anyone can compare it to losing a beautiful, developed son or daughter is beyond me x

BreakDancingBadger · 08/09/2010 11:01

Lunatic iv just read ur comment and you are not being unreasonable at all.
I completely understand how devastating a miscarriage is but to compare it to having to give birth to a pretty much fully grown baby is very unreasonable.
Iv had to deal with alot of ridiculous comments from a certain family member who compared her miscarriage at 8wks to my daughter being stillborn. She gave birth about a week before me and has since said i shouldnt have told her about my daughter dying as its ruined the first 3 weeks of her newborn daughters life!!

I just dont get some people.

BreakDancingBadger · 08/09/2010 11:11

Woollyjo and OneBabyPlease thanks for the welcome and congratulations on ur new babies :)