A gentle thread for those starting again after a difficult pregnancy, miscarriage etc.

[woollyjo]

I've just discovered I am 5.5 weeks pregnant.

In the last 2 years I have had 2 mcs and our dd2 was stillborn at term.

So I don't feel like I fit into the antenatal threads, and don't want to frighten anyone with my experiences.

Anyone else out there who needs a gentle thread?

Lunatic.....how are you getting on?

Good to hear you are being looked after. Seren is lovelly although her big sister is still very jealous of Daddy having anything to do with the baby (she's not bothered about me!).

As Seren starts to reach milestones I am finding it hard on the odd day, all the what ifs, and how would Niamh have been if all had been well. For the first time I am starting to consider counselling but I'm not sure what I'd get/want from it.

Hope everyone else is ok.

Got my first scan tomorrow...I'm pretty sure I am still pregnant but god I hope it is alright.

My sis has taken day off work to come with me (even though I insisted I'd be fine) which is great as of course I wont I will be an emotional wreck either way!

Hope everyone else is doing well.

Thanks Lunatic.

Scan went well - we had every man and his dog watching and it was pretty tense at the begining. I couldn't look at the screen and either they hadn't put the sound on or you can't hear the heartbeat at 10wks (which I had been expecting to)

So they start scan and I can't hear a heart beat. I am looking at my sister and she is smiling but I know her and it is faked. I am about to cry. An hour passes (ok probably only 3 minutes) and then they consultant says "well are you going to look at your baby - there is the heart beat..."

Jesus - you'd think they could get that out before they've had a good look and pointed out my bloody ovaries to the trainees!

woolly I think counselling helps enormously if you find the right person. I haven't and so it hasn't really worked for me. Do you have contact with Sands? I have found their monthly coffee mornings invaluable - talking to other mums who "get it" has been brilliant.

Thanks lunatic - how far along are you now? I thought I was 10 + 3 but they put me at 9 + 4 although I did point out that since DH was only in the country for two days in June I'm pretty sure of dates!

I didn't cry actually. I think I was genuinely in shock that it was ok - I mean you tell yourself it will be...but deep down...

But it was fab having my sister there we got to do an indepth post scan analysis along the lines of "well you'd think they'd let you know straight away wouldn't you" and "god bloody drs, they're so bloody blase" in the way only woman can...it was almost fun.

That would be nice for your mum...I don't know how old you are but I guess she probably didn't have her own pregnancy scans.

Will your next scan be the dating and nuchal fold? I will be skipping that now as I am booked in for the CVS in 15 days but will obviously get another look then.

Today it just sunk in how long (fingers crossed) the next 7 months are going to be.

DH was very disappointed that he couldn't be there but he now has a photo of the scan pic on his mobile.

Sounds like they are taking good care of you

Did you lose Daisy at 32 weeks? Is that why you wont go further? Obviously tell me to mind my own if you'd rather I would.

I am off to be booked in by the midwife this morning. Hope she is a nice one.

Thanks booking in went well. M/W very sweet although to be fair I think I knew more than her - although she is not going to be "my" MW. I will actually meet mine at 16 wks - feels like a very long way off.

Goes without saying you have been through a terrifying experience. Is there a risk that it will happen again or a more personal decision? I can see why you wouldn't want to wait in either event.

Have you told anyone? My closest friends and family know but it is certainly not generally known...trouble is I am really showing. Fingers crossed I'll be able to share two weeks tom - I can't wait to tell my DD.

How terrifying. There are no words really are there? You were so fortunate in some repsects, in so far as they could save you and your DD didn't have to witness the horror but you don't get immune to feeling that it is just so bloody unfair and wrong

In some ways I feel "lucky" because once I get over the CVS I feel we're over our major hurdle but I know I wont truely relax until the baby is in my arms, alive and well.

DD is 5 now (4 at the time) and I also have DS1 who was 3 (now 4). I think on the whole they dealt with it very well - from a selfish point of view having them around was an enormous support. They were and are very matter of fact and keen to talk about F which I so desperately needed to do. Equally it was a very strange and unsettling time for them and I know my DD would love another sibbling (DS1 hates the idea!)

DD is a natural mother type and we have just been staying with friends who have a 20mth old and she was glued to him. Holding his hand, pushing his buggy, always insisting on sitting next to him. I am almost more excited for her than I am myself

(Oh and I'd love to kid myself that I was all baby bump but lots of fat being pushed up and out here too. I just posted on another pregnancy thread that I reckon I am about the same size I was at 24wks with my first... )

If anyone else is about please don't let my ramblings put you off

Ramble away nancy that's what this thread is here for.

Just a quick note to say I'm still here, still pregnant (28 weeks now) and hanging on in there.

Hope all is going well for you woollyjo and onebaby.

Trish
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Thanks for asking Trish - I'm still here! Yes, everything is great - DS is beautiful & a joy to have - hard work but it's worth every tired moment!! He's 10 wks today.
Great that you're 28 wks - hope the rest goes quickly & smoothly for you!
Same goes for you too Nancydrew and Lunatic - you've had such a hard time, got everything crossed for you all xx

I remember posting a similar comment to onebaby and woollyjo all those weeks ago lunaticfringe, and not daring to think I'd even make it this far. And I'm still taking it one day at a time like everyone else.

I have been absolutely enormous too since around week 8!

Good luck everyone else on this thread.

It's great to hear you such a happy mummy onebaby.

Hi all.

Feeling the stress today about next weeks CVS. I think it has been exacerbated by a close friend accidentally telling another close friend (you following?!) who I hadn't yet told about my pregnancy.

Just feels too much now that people know. And I know she was just trying to be helpful but the "I am sure evrything will be just fine" comments make me want to scream....

Anyway I have posted in antenatal tests as it is all a bit speciifc but I just want it all to be over...fast forward to the baby in my arms.

I'm not sure how I can do this for another 25+ weeks.

Hi all,

Nancy Your scan story actually made me cry lol

Lunatic So glad to hear your good news too

I have appointment at Queen Charlottes RMC on Sept 7th. Very, very nervous but trying to be optimistic