A gentle thread for those starting again after a difficult pregnancy, miscarriage etc.

[woollyjo]

I've just discovered I am 5.5 weeks pregnant.

In the last 2 years I have had 2 mcs and our dd2 was stillborn at term.

So I don't feel like I fit into the antenatal threads, and don't want to frighten anyone with my experiences.

Anyone else out there who needs a gentle thread?

Bowing out again ladies, no heatbeat at scan today 9+4 so hb must have only just stopped
They have agreed to do karotyping this time and I will have the rest of
the tests in 6 weeks and see consultant then, erpc thurs.
Will keep looking in cos I want to all to have beautiful healthy babies and I want to know when they arrive
Good luck to you all
Love Claire xx

oh claire im so so sorry xxx keep your spirits up sweet we are here if you want to talk xx

So sorry to hear your news Claire, I hope the tests come with a way forward for you, let us know how you get on.

Take care xx

I haven't been posting on here long long but wanted to say I'm thinking of you Claire. I'm so sorry. Keep us posted on how the tests go.

Trish

Oh Hairy, feel totally gutted for you. Hope the tests come up with something helpful for next time.
Wishing you so much luck, thinking of you xx And thank you so much for the best wishes xx

Hope everyone else is ok. I'm off to Devon for a few days to visit family & try to chill out a bit!

Take good care ladies xx

Hi all,

Another week ticked off, how are you all doing?

All fine here, increasingly active baby, increasingly knackerd hips and lots of grunting if any sort of bending is required. 12 weeks and counting for me now.

how it going woollyjo

Glad to hear all going well for you Woollyjo. I'm (only) 5 weeks tomorrow, feeling reassuringly nauseaus and keep making mistakes at work due to jelly brain. Have managed to arrange a reassurance scan at 8 weeks. Taking one day at a time.

Hi girls - good to hear you're ok.

DH & I had a lovely relaxing few days in Devon at my parents, quite chilled out now!

I too have a very squirmy big bean in my tummy - think he's gonna jump right out sometimes! Such a lovely feeling though, am cherishing it.

Hang in there Trish - hope all's good with the 8 week scan - it's all such a painfully long wait, isn't it?

I had the worst jelly brain ever at the beginning - couldn't really be trusted at work & had to pretend I had a hormone imbalance as I was just SO stupid! Made sure I wasn't left alone to work as I could only guarantee that I'd cock everything up!! It was a nightmare & such a relief when I could eventually explain what the hell was wrong with me!

One of my RL friends is currently in labour after being almost 2 wks overdue & induced! I'm SO excited/nervous for her!!

Hello. I think this may be the perfect thread for me. I'm 5 weeks and 2 days pregnant (I found out last Friday) and am extremely anxious as I had a miscarriage last Easter at 6 weeks. I'm trying to tell myself that there's no reason why this one shouldn't be okay but I seem to be completely fixated with the idea that I'm going to lose it anyway. The last miscarriage was possibly caused by a polyp in my uterus (which I didn't know about until afterwards) that has since been removed and I'm young (-ish! 31) and healthy, but still I can't bring myself to believe it won't happen again.

Does anyone have any advice on how to cope?

Hi Amelia & welcome - wish there was some concrete advice to offer but we have all been in the same boat & all you can do is share your fears & we're all here to listen & offer some support. I've had 3 miscarriages & the only way I coped really was by telling myself that it wasn't meant to be & to keep trying but you don't have to worry about that yet as hopefully all will go well for you & this little bean
Just try to stay positive & relaxed. Hopefully the removal of your polyp will have solved any complications.
Wishing you lots of luck xx

PS My RL friend had a 9lb 9oz girl by c-section, all fine! How exciting!

Really hope we all get Mother's Day cards this time next year
Hope everyone's ok xxx

Hi All,

Hello to Amelia wishing you all the luck in the world.

Hope you have all had good a good week, at last today we had some proper spring weather and I managed to get some spuds planted (although I have to choose whether to bend or breath these days).

Got my consultant's apt this week. This is the point where they start scanning the umbilical cord to check for blood flow as it is a much quicker way of seeing if baby is failing to thrive (clutching at straws really - Niamh didn't fail to thrive she was 8lb 13oz! her heart just stopped for some unknown reason).

How are all you ladies going through those torturous early stages? one week closer to a scan Trish, hope its going well.

Onebaby 9lb 9oz! ouch! hope your friend is recovering well. I have completely avoided newborns since I had Niamh, hopefully the next baby I hold will be this one.

Hope you all have good weeks.

X

Good luck with your appointment woolyjo. I hope they do everything to reassure you everything is ok.

I'm pretty new to this thread too amelie but welcome aboard. I'm sharing all you fears, anxieties and frustrations - am 5wks 2 days myself.

Feeling very wobbly today ladies. Had some slight bleeding (though admittedly after intercourse) and thought this is it. It's happening again. Has scared me but it only happened once and stopped pretty much straight away. I still feel nauseous with sore breasts so hoping that's at least a positive sign. I still feel pregnant. I didn't when I miscarried. But I also realise I sound like someone desperate to convince themselves they are still pregnant.

Taking my other half out for nice lunch at posh restaurant in the country tomorrow so at least it's not a stressful day. We're celebrating his 40th.

So just keeping everything crossed for now.

So just keeping everything crossed and praying all will be ok.

Trish

Have things settled down trish?

Yes, thank you. Only time will tell though won't it? It's not easy this pregnancy lark is it? I'm still keeping my fingers crossed until I have a scan. I want to see if there's a heartbeat or not - at least that is another hurdle jumped if I can get to that point. I really can't wait now but feeling so, so sick - that must be a good sign. Don't know how I'm going to make it into work/get through the day today.

Have you had your appointment with the consultant yet?

Trish

Pleased things have settled down for you Trish - take it easy & wishing your scan date would hurry up!!

Good luck with the consultant Woolly - any reassurance is a good thing, right? Get as much as you possibly can!

I've got a midwife appointment this afternoon - need to get my MATb1 and maternity grant forms - because of all my 'issues' the only time I've seen a midwife was at my booking-in appointment, I see doctors & consultants all the time! So today I've made an appointment with the midwife to get all this sorted. My baby has become super-active in the last few days - DH is loving how much my tummy moves when he's break dancing in there! So good, don't ever want this feeling to stop! This is definitely my favourite bit of pregnancy!

Are you still hanging in there Kt - hope you've still got your legs crossed and are ok?

I hope you're lurking Mrs & not feeling too bad? Thinking of you.

Good luck everyone xxx

Hi all,

Had my MW apt today - she told me not to expect to be given a date by the consultant tomorrow as she rarely does this far in advance (i'm 28 weeks on Fri) Hmph.... I don't want to be hanging about at home before this baby arrives, I'd rather work right up to my due date.

That said baby is already measuring 2 weeks bigger that she should be and has her head wedged right up in my rib cage so I may be happy to catch up with that lost box set which has been sitting on the shelf a while.

On a completely different note I have found a great soulution to maternity trousers which won't stay up. Tescos have cheap, wide elasticated belts for £3. I wear it with the clasp at the side so the bit which goes under my belly folds a bit (I also wear it inside out as the plastic/metalic detail is a bit naff) wish I had thought of it for my other 2 pgs.

Hello there, can I join you? I am between 8-9 weeks pg - I had a scan on Monday which showed a lille heartbeat, but it hasn't really reassured me at all. I had a mc in January and got pg straight after which was a surprise. I am terrified it is going to happen again. Yesterday and today I do not feel sick AT ALL. I know symptoms fluctuate and tail off, but my symptoms disappeared before the mc last time.

I am supposed to be getting an early scan from my EPU, but have been just transferred from dept to dept, which is why I booked a private one. Now I feel the urge to go and get another scan!

How can I relax??

Hey Woolly - how did the consultant go? Did you manage to persuade them to give you a date? Hope you're feeling ok about it all.

Welcome DomesticGoddess - hang in there & try to relax, difficult I know. Just take good care of yourself & try to stay chilled -there's no easy way to get through any of this - just try to stay positive & what will be will be. Seeing the heartbeat is really positive but if you're at all worried get in touch with the EPU again. Good luck.

I had my midwife appointment - got all my forms sorted. She also said my baby is measuring 2 weeks bigger than my dates & is breech (plenty of time to move yet but coupled with my low placenta I'm SO pleased I'm having a c-section anyway!).
Wish I could stop eating - I've gone from no appetite at all for ages to being an incredible eating machine! I've grown a lot in the last 2 weeks or so!

Hang in there everyone xxx

Hey all,
I'm still here, Lurking a bit as SO bloody busy. I wish I could stop work now, but its just not an option.
Onebaby, glad the MW went well. My little chap is also breech with a low lying anterior placenta so I think is is telling me that a c section is the way to go!
Dommestic Goddess, welcome.. and as Onebaby says, try to relax, however hard it is.
Woollyjo, I'm amazed that they wont give you a date, but I guess that each hospital is different. My consultant only does sections one day a week, and she will be doing it herself. Great tip about the belts. Why hadn't I thought of that! I am constantly hoiking up my mat jeans! Hope the SPD isn't to bad at the moment.

Well I'm ok, other than being super busy. Really counting the weeks now. Only 7 weeks to go which seems unbelieveable. Splodge has become a real little fidget! I am sat here typing watching my stomach move (and wobble) all over the place.. I have a growth/ reassurance scan on monday and I am sort of desperate to see him and check that all is ok still.

Speak soon..
rx

Hello again.
I saw my GP this morning, and explained how anxious I feel. She told me that statistically my chances of miscarrying again are very small, but she going to make sure I get an early scan to reassure me.

I am 6 weeks and 3 days, and I wish I had a few more symptoms. I'm convinced that my breasts are less sore than they were yesterday. I'm so envious of all of you who are close to your due dates! It must be so lovely to feel your little tadpoles moving around inside you.

Hi, I think I will join in on this thread, as I don't want to terrify any first time mums on the antenatal threads.

I am very shocked to be 6 weeks pregnant with dc3, as I had so many fertility problems & never thought I would be pregnant again.

I have 2 ds' (age 10 & 5) who I both had complications on pregnancies. I had a condition called H.E.L.L.P Syndrome which is similar to preeclampsia, resulting in the babies being born at 27 weeks & 34 weeks.

I am hoping that this time it will be 3rd time lucky & I may even get to full term.

well i have made it to 13 wks, with my 4th. i have had 5 cosec misscarriages, in the last 10 yrs, and spent 1 and half trying to concieve, i have had emergency scans and 2 bleeds, so im taking things on a daily basis, i think every pain i get and im going to loose it, i had trapped wind one night, and was a mess with crying, my husband said it was wind xxx

Hi all

Amelia - glad you're going to get a scan soon & your GP was understanding, hope you get some reassurance.

Welcome Prozac - good luck, hope this one's uncomplicated.

Hi again Whirley - hang in there! So difficult but a good sign that you've got to 13 weeks. Hope it all goes well.

Good to hear from you Mrs & hope the scan is all good on Monday.

Try to have a relaxing weekend everyone xx