A gentle thread for those starting again after a difficult pregnancy, miscarriage etc.

[woollyjo]

I've just discovered I am 5.5 weeks pregnant.

In the last 2 years I have had 2 mcs and our dd2 was stillborn at term.

So I don't feel like I fit into the antenatal threads, and don't want to frighten anyone with my experiences.

Anyone else out there who needs a gentle thread?

Hi

Glad your scans went ok Winjy & Mrs.

Shame about the house Onebaby - good luck house hunting in the new year. We bought our first house when I was pg with DD and moved in 4 weeks before she was born (and 2 days before DH's mum died )it was a very busy time on all sorts of levels - don't think I would recommend it!

Hi I am tentively joining this thread having got a +ve test earlier this week.

I lost my DS2 at 22 weeks; after a seemingly normal pregnancy we were told at 20 weeks that he had would not survive the remainder of my pregnancy and two weeks later he died in utero. A CVS before he died showed that his symptoms were Down's related. I delivered him a few days later after a 5 hour labour and my heart broke.

I knew this pregnancy would be tough and at the moment I am still knicker checking every 10 mins (i have had an earlier mc too) but I had no idea how absolutely sick I would feel.

I have spoken to the consultant who dealt with DS2 pregnancy and she is recommending a CVS or amnio as the risk of downs is now 4x that which it would have been. I am terrified already. The risk of the CVS with DS2 was irrelevant due to his circumstances but now there are real choices to be made and I feel really really scared.

Anyway just thought I'd say Hi - I'm desperately hoping this thread will be my support for the whole 9months.

PS I am a namechanger - not trying to hide anything but realised waaaaaaaaaaay to much info posted under my old name, and was recognised in RL. Just didn't want anyone who might recognise me to be

Hi Nancy,

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

So sorry to hear about your DS, My heart goes out to you.

If you've had a read through you will see all of us here have had tumultous journeys to get this far and a fair few are still going through huge piles of shite.

I'm sure you'll find the support you need here. So welcome aboard, and wave your anxieties freely here!

Last day at work before xmas - better get on and do some!

mrs i hope u dont mind me asking but how much was the private scan u just had?

Hey Nancy - congratulations & welcome!
You're certainly in the right place to air your anxieties & fears - hope this time it all works out for you. Good luck x

Woolly - yeah, I'm hoping we get moving a bit earlier than you did! Will be SERIOUSLY house hunting in the new year!

Hope everyone else is doing ok, wishing you all a peaceful & happy Christmas period.

Merry Christmas gang & here's to a Happy 2010 xxx

Hello,

Been lurking a while but thought I would post as I am very worried about another scan tomorrow.

Lost a DD at 30 weeks condition that was incompatible with life. Had to deliver and was 48 hours in labour. Horrible horrible experience.

2 x miscarriage since then conceived DD now 2 and I am so glad she is here.

Had to terminate at 14 weeks earlier this year with the same condition we had previously had. Was told that it was incredibly rare (1 in 10,000) and would never reoccur so incredibly shocked when Sonographer broke the news. I actually laughed as I thought I was dreaming. Having undergone Genetic testing we found out we have a 1 in 4 chance of this reoccuring. We will not know until 12 weeks but there are early markers that can be detected. We have another scan tomorrow and I am beside myself with worry about what the outcome is going to be. I know that this is not definitive but am hoping for some good news before Christmas.

Anyway, enough of a ramble. Thanks for listening. I have never actually written this all down before and now I am crying. Off to find a tissue.

Hi allstar

I often have a good blub whilst posting about my experiences with DD2. Whilst I have the opportunity to talk about it with friends in RL here it is different as many really KNOW how bloody awful the whole journey is/has been.

Is your scan tomorrow?

Yes - tomorrow morning.

Hopefully it will all be ok but I am really starting to panic now about seeing something that we do not want to see. I keep thinking of the 3 in 4 chance that it will all be fine but today my brain is absolute mush and keeps finding patterns in things that sway towards a negative result.

Thanks for the tissues. They do come in handy.

You are right about friends. I feel that after a while it is not fair for them to hear me witter on about something that they cannot really understand or help with.

Thanks for listening.

Allstar - let us know how you get on.

I'll be thinking of you - hope you manage to get some sleep.

Just to let you all know. Had a very reassuring scan today. There are no early indicators present so I am feeling hopeful. We have our next appointment in 2 weeks so should see more then. I know it is not a guarantee but the sonographer said I can only see exactly what I would expect to see at this gestation.

I am so pleased I can relax over Christmas and enjoy it with the family.

Thanks for thinking of us.

Forgive me - thread hijack.....

woollyjo - I'm lighting a candle at home this evening for Niamh and your family. I wish you all the very best at this difficult time and send you much love from the July 2009 thread xxxx

Blimey...I go away for a few days and such a lot happens.

Nancy & All stars - welcome to the thread. I hope that you are both here for the duration.
All stars - I am so pleased that you had a positive scan today.
Winjy - My anomoly scan was £159, you can get gender ones cheaper but I just wanted to know that all was ok with splodge before christmas. It was at baby bond in the city.

Anyway, was just popping by to wish everyone as happy a christmas as you can manage.
Here is to a good 2010 for us all.
Much love,
rx

happy christmas to u and ur beans!! here's hoping 2010 is the year we finally get to meet our beans....xxx

Wishing you all a very happy Christmas and a fantastic 2010 xxx

Well that's me for tonight - if it hasn't been done, it isn't getting done!

So glad your scan was reassuring allstar and I hope you can all settle down to a lovely xmas.

Hi Jetli hope you & the girls are all doing well with your bubs over there.

Onwards and upwards for 2010 xx

Hope everyone had a happy christmas - not too much joy here. I started bleeding on Christmas Eve. My DS#2's due date. I can't believe what a crappy coincidence that is.

Part of me just feels so worn down. The emotional rollercoaster of TTC is exhausting I want to do it again but not sure that I can, although of course I know I can't stop trying anymore than I could choose to stop breathing. I am fed up with all the pity - I seem to have become something of a tradgedy this last year. I just can't believe my year is ending like this.

Sorry for self pitying rant - sometimes it just gets too much you know?

Anyway I am wishing you all the very best for 2010 and maybe I'll lucky enough to join you again in the New Year

So sorry Nancy - Sometimes we wonder what on earth we did to deserve it eh?

take care xx

Hi Ladies,

I have been following your thread for a while whilst TTC, and could now do with some friends who know what I'm going through.

I'm 5wk+5 and for the last week have been spotting, with on/off cramping or dull aching 'down there'. Most of the spotting was brown but know is becoming more red, with occasional tiny tiny clots. It is also worse when I have BM (TMI - sorry!!)

I had a TV USS last Monday which showed a gestational sac measuring (mGS - am guessing this means mean gestational sac??) 4mm, but no other structures were present ?? too early?? There was also free fluid in the uters ?? implantation bleed - but this would have been too late by my calculations.

Am being re-scanned on Thursday, which is still 3 days away (I have been slowly going mad over Xmas as everyone is celebrating and I feel like I'm melting inside) and am really worried that I'm miscarrying, have a blighted ovum or molar.

Has anyone else had similar experiences?? I would really love to hear from anyone.

Thanks,
A x

Amylouise28 - I have just posted a response on your other posting. I have my fingers crossed for you.

Sending out my thoughts.

Hi ladies
I haven't read your posts yet so get that confession out of the way!

I've been on the TTC after MC thead for a while, I had a traumatic MC at 14 weeks in early September following scan where there was heartbeat and all was ok etc!

So had my BFP yest, at last and am obviously not tellng anyone in RL for a long time this time! So could do with virtual support from some understanding peeps

If this pg goes to plan it will be my 2DC I have a DD who is 3.5
I had a really positive feeling about this yesterday but today its faded fast, pg post mc is a def double edged sword!

Also I guess I have to tell work as I work in psychiatry and am based on a forensic intensive care unit so risk of violence is very high! luckily nt back til 4th Jan so can work out my stratergy by then, its crap having to tell people when you REALLY don't feel ready to yet, its like cursing something!!

OK ramble over,I will catch up with your thread and be positive from now on I promise, oh that is if you'll have me of course

Hi Cakes,

Congrats!! Your worries are completely normal and I can totally sympathise.

It is crap having to tell work - I work in Maternity and therefore had to tell them as I have booked at the hospital!! Now wish I hadn't!

Sending you lots of love and good luck vibes

Keep me updated
A x

thanks fingersx'ed!

I'm slowly catching up with your posts,
not upto page 13 yet tho!!

My experiences are obviously insignificant to alot of you tho!

Hi all - well, there's been lots happening on here while I've been busy gorging myself on Xmas chocolates!

Welcome newbies, and amy/fingers - good luck for your scan on Thurs x

Nancy - so sorry to hear your news - wishing you lots of happiness in the new year.

Wishing everyone a great 2010, good luck to us all! xx

Hi all and welcome to the newbies, here's hoping for a smoother 2010.

DD (3) is having some sort of regression and yesterday did a huge wee on the doorstep (at least that was outside) and just now on the sitting room carpet! she is now in the bath being supervised by DH.

Aggh! how do I stop this?