A gentle thread for those starting again after a difficult pregnancy, miscarriage etc.

[woollyjo]

I've just discovered I am 5.5 weeks pregnant.

In the last 2 years I have had 2 mcs and our dd2 was stillborn at term.

So I don't feel like I fit into the antenatal threads, and don't want to frighten anyone with my experiences.

Anyone else out there who needs a gentle thread?

Hi all & welcome newbies - you're in good company here.

My scan went well thanks, I'm 11+2 but the size was 12+1 so a bit bigger which is cool. Could see the head, shape of the face, arms, legs & heartbeat which was great. Only about another 6 months to get through!!
Feel really reassured, the fear that this won't work out is too much to contemplate, it's just not an option! Feel excited for the first tme, DH came & it was the first scan he'd managed to get to this time which was lovely.

Nuchal next week - next hurdle to get through!

Hope everyone's doing ok, take care gang xx

Hi All,

Julez, I always get really worried before a scan. Hope the cramps subside and are just down to stretching etc.

Glad you had a good scan onebaby, hope the nuchal goes ok. I find that unless I believe this is all going to be ok I just couldn't function.

Nightxx

Hi Lunatic, good luck with the scan. The cause was cord entanglement. Thanks for the welcome.

Morning all,
Julez - I know exactly how you feel with pre scan nerves - as well as the early need for maternity wear!
Memory Glad to hear you hear baby's heart beat at assessment unit. I am sure that stalling won't have caused you any problems.
Lunatic Good luck for tomorrow
onebaby great news that the scan went well. Hope that the next 6 months flies by for us al!

Well my nightmares have returned :-( . I spent all last night dreaming that I was bleeding, then dreaming that I'd woken up and it was fine, then dreaming that I was dreaming that I'd woken up and it was fine, and that infact I was really bleeding. Woke up properly in a terrible state.
Not sure where it has come from, relieved that I have the MW tomorrow, so that she can check all is well.

Hey all,

Just a quick update. Scan went welll, everything is perfect. No more scans now until 12 weeks whislt im relieved to have a normal pregnancy I cant help but worry how on earth am I gonna make it through the next 6 weeks and stay sane without panicking??

Heart was beating very very clearly

6 weeks exactly

Great News Julez!

How did your coffee with the SANDS lady go Mrs?

The only time I rang SANDS I couldn't get through and haven't tried since.

How are you getting on Oz?

Hi - am having a huge panic - all of a sudden last night I just didn't 'feel' pregnant anymore - boobs seemed a bit deflated, tummy just felt like an ache. Woke up not feeling much different - freaked myself out so much, went to see GP & got referred to EPU - gotta wait for an emergency scan in the morning as they're full. Whilst waiting to go in to see GP nipped to the loo & there was a bit of pink discharge when I wiped (sorry TMI). Nothing since this morning, tummy just a bit tender & boobs are a bit sore & feel fuller again.
Help! Any advice, similar experiences, words of comfort anyone please?? Will be 12 wks on Saturday if I get there . . .
VERY scared.

Lunatic - I'm so sorry Look after yourself x

Onebaby - with DS2 I had bright red and pink and brown blood from week 5 to week 20 - scariest time of my life! DS2 is 3 in feb and normal delivery - well section but normal for me!

TMI but did you have sex last night, over do it a bit? Could be just cervical erosion. Good Luck for the morning let us know how you get on. Remember you had a brilliant scan a few days ago and baby was ok then

Morning ladies,
Lunatic, I'm so sorry. . This life just seems to be so very unfair sometimes.
Onebaby, I hope all goes well today.

It seems the week for it. After a great visit from my MW in the afternoon, where she persuaded me that I do not need another reassurance scan as everything is going so well. I ended up in A&E last night after having a massive lump of blood streaked mucus discharged. I absolutely panicked and my MW recommended that I go to a&e to get checked out. Thankfully after a 3 hour visit I was totally reassured that it was just one of those things. Cervix as closed as it ever is when you have had a baby, and she thinks its probably something on my cervix that bled into the mucus. She said it might happen again, but if its any worse to go back.

Exhausted this morning....

Jeepers, what a week.

Lunatic - so sad to hear your news, thinking of you. Take it easy in the coming weeks.

Mrs - what a scare - hope you're feeling better today, you must be shattered.

As for me - no more pink discharge, went to the EPU this morning - scan all fine - arms & legs waving around etc - so relieved. Dr said the sudden loss of pg symptoms probably due to the placenta taking over. Pink discharge was minimal, even wondering if I imagined it in a panic - god, this pg stuff messes with your head.
Thanks for the reassurance Julez.

Have a peaceful weekend everyone x

Lunatic..Im so sorry

Oh Girls what a time you are having..

Lunatic I know we are all meant to be strong but sometimes there just aren't enough swear words to describe how bloody crap it all is. I had a similar situation with my first MC but we didn't know until 9.5weeks when I started to bleed.

Onebaby Phew, you must be so relieved.

Mrs After my short bleed they told me to expect more for upto 5 days but no longer. I hope this is the end of the trauma.

Take care everyone x

julez when is ur due date? i havent had a scan yet but my dates are exactly the same as urs...im 6+1 now today so thats exciting...may chnage with scans mind but at the moment were plodding in the same race

lunatic i am so sorry to hear ur news...its exactly what happened to me in june...good thing was that because it wasnt viable mc happened pretty quick so didnt have to go to hosp for the day. it is bloody crap but things do get better...stay strong...

onebaby thats amazing news bet ur so relieved, i cant wait for my scan hopefully to put my mind at rest, its driving me mad now...

is anyone else feeling that their womb is really full?? may seem really stupid but iv had the strtchy cramps and now i feel like its all full up is this normal? its my first so have no idea whats going on!! hoping this is good. my boobs are still in agony, had really bad ms past few mornings nearly threw up on my lap in the car yest in front of my friend who doesnt know im pg. really hard to explain how the feeling came and went...3 mornings

lots and lots of friday love to you all xxx

I have no idea winjy! I have narrowed it down to July 30th LOL

As for the full womb feeling I am already in maternity jeans - well technically they are slighty too big but my normal jeans I couldn't fasten and they are much more comfortable! I am on my 3rd though so expecting a pronounced bump by xmas!

Mrsrvc - How are you doing?

I have a horrible headache today - I think this is something to do with hormones!

We are off oop north tomorrow to take teh DC's presents to my mums for xmas and it's DH's birthday so we are going to blackpool for a walk, the amusements and donuts - I have a weird desire to eat loads of fairground donuts - asda's didnt quite do it!

Hope everyone else it well x

Help please ladies! I am in a dilemma, and not sure what to do. I have just found out this morning that I am pregnant again. But now I am not sure what to do about whether to take the progesterone to support this pregnancy. This last month I have got the swine flu jab, had two weeks of antibiotics, taken antihistamines, and steroid nasal spray and decongestants, I can't see how the heck I managed to get pregnant with that lot, but now I have a prescription for progesterone to help support a pregnancy, but if there is something wrong after all I have taken, perhaps it is better to just let nature take its course???? I am so confused as to what to do. I really don't want yet another miscarriage, but what if it will happen anyway due to everything that I have taken this month???? Sorry I am waffling, I am just not sure what to do for the best at this point in time. What do you think?

Lunatic - sorry to hear that the first scan did not look good. Thinking of you.

Congratulations willit!

I would advise you book to see/speak to your GP as soon as you can - wouldn't know what else to suggest.

Willitbe,
Congratulations again.
I would take the progesterone. If you are very early on then none of the things you have done will have affected the pregnancy at all. If it were going to do anything then it may have stopped it getting this far. I would maybe check with your doc, but definitely start the progesterone as soon as you would anyway.

Hope everyone else is well. Its been quiet on here over the weekend.

I am doing ok after my scare. We had the remembrance service at our hospital on saturday and it was a lovely service. Can't help feeling like it should all be so different.

rx

Willit - Congrats & I'd suggest the same as Mrs.

Had my nuchal yesterday - all fine which was great, low risk of Downs etc.

However my life has been truly upturned by the revelation yesterday that DH is gambling again. I'm not talking a few quid, he had a problem a few years ago, it seemed sorted but he has now taken out a £2000 bank loan behind my back he says to pay off gambling debts(bad enough), I think to gamble. He has reverted to being a liar instead of the lovely man I married. He is at work, I think I'm going to pack a few things & go to stay with friends for a few days. Our life should be great right now but he seems determined to ruin things & I'm struggling to cope. Luckily nothing's in his name & he can't access the savings for a deposit to move to a bigger place for when the baby comes (hopefully). I am ashamed to be married to such a man & am humiliated to share it with you lot but I truly am at a loss. And now it looks as if I will be a single parent. I'm devastated. Any advice?

Onebaby, I couldn't leave this unanswered when I saw it but I would be completely out of my depth to try and give you any advice.

I really hope you can both make it through this.

I'm glad your nuchal went well but under the circumstances you probably are struggling to enjoy the reassurance.

Makes my completely bafoonish mistake of sending an email (which announced my pg to a good friend) to my entire address book this morning seem like nothing. Considering never sending an email again!

Take care

Your bafooning made me smile though - thanks.
Not sure how to deal with any of this but I'll get through it somehow (hopefully with a baby at the end of it & maybe my lovely hubby again) xx

I'm sorry your going through the mill Onebaby, my only advice I can offer is to give yourself some space. I hope you can work things out if thats what you want.

Woolly - you made me laugh too and I needed it.

I am in the midst of my first hormonal teary breakdown and now they have started I cant stop them! DS2 (2) is really testing my patience today! And alot lately.

Sickness is now full blown vomiting daily and I ca't even take solice in the fact in a few weeks it will stop because I know it probably wont as I had it right the way through with both my boys

Willit - pleased to hear all well at the nuchal, but so sorry you are having a tough time with dh. I hope that he can manage to sort himself out.
Woolly - love your bafooning! made me giggle. No more keeping your bump a secret then!
Julez - sorry to hear you are struggling at the moment too. (((())))))

Things ok here. Time seems to be going slowly this week which is a pain, but hey ho. We've booked a private gender scan for a week monday which is good. I just wanted to check that everything is ok in there before all the christmas stuff.

Julez - I find mornings with DD really hard, I can't even blame MS anymore but I feel so rough. Its not helped by DD waking consistently 5-5:30am and being VERY awake.

As kids we would never know what was upsetting our mum as she would sulk but already at 3 (in 2 weeks) DD can explain to all and sundry that mummy is grumpy because she wakes me up too early!

Hi all - just to let you know I'm ok, staying with friends for a few days, thought it was good to put some space between DH & I before I throttle him! We've spoken a fair bit & I'm feeling quite positive that he can sort this out. We've agreed some rules for when I go home in a couple of days & he's well aware I won't continue to put up with this. Just very poor timing when everything should be really good for us at the moment. Thanks for your concern & support girls, much appreciated x