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There's a possibilty I might have antenatal depression

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dizzymare · 26/07/2009 22:40

If I get to see my gp, can anyone tell me what might happen please. Currently 13 weeks with twins, and things haven't been going well.

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dizzymare · 03/08/2009 17:59

At 1.30 when ds is in bed, I am doing my best here FBG

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lynneevans51 · 03/08/2009 18:00

That's better Dizzy - and do listen to some of the other posters on here - they have prior experience...!!

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 03/08/2009 18:06

Oh, please don't be

I was trying to be big sistery and say come on now, listen to someone who should have taken her own advice.

Sorry.

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dizzymare · 03/08/2009 18:12

It's ok, it's just everyone is trying so hard to help me I get bogged down and overwhelmed sometimes, not knowing which way is up doesn't help. And being scared mostly of not knowing what the fuck I'm doing or is going on half the time, and ds has emptied rice on the kitchen floor i'll be back

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chezza18 · 03/08/2009 18:42

yes sorry it was a typo. Perinatal. I only discovered today at my first ante-natal check that they exist. I went through ante-natal depression 9 years ago, not with twins, but I was on and nearly over the edge. As a result, I didn't have anymore children. 9 years later and at the very ripe old age of 44 - I discovered I was pregnant. Went from being devastated I was pregnant to elated. Told the GP i was considering a termination as I couldn't go through another 8 months of sheer misery.
I was given a few weeks to think about it, and I have decided to go ahead, subject to all the tests (especially for us old grunters) being ok.
9 years ago I had no support, I have been promised that isn't the case anymore. They recognise ante-natal depression more then ever. I can only wait and see.

I do understand how you feel. Pregnancy for some women isn't all its cracked up to be, mine was completely miserable, I'm hoping for a better one this time. Go and speak to your GP tell them exactly how you feel. You will make the right decision for you, either way.

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dizzymare · 03/08/2009 23:03

Thank you I'll think about what you've said

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Deemented · 04/08/2009 07:07

I really hope you get to speak to your HV today Dizzy, i can only imagine how hard this is for you, but you can do this.

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 04/08/2009 08:54

I hope you can see someone today, dizzy.

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dizzymare · 04/08/2009 09:00

Ds had me up at 6, I'm so tired I can just about walk in a straight line, he's full of himself. Why can't I sit in bed and cry all day, plus it's chucking it down so I can't even poke him out in the garden. Maybe I'll call granny to take him for a while, or the day. Maybe she can take me aswell

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 04/08/2009 09:07

Why not?

Go to granny's and let her look after both of you.

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dizzymare · 04/08/2009 09:14

I can't really go, not with my hv coming. And I can't talk about this stuff with mum hanging around in the background either, she'd have a dicky fit. Otherwise I would go. Right, ring mother and pray she can have ds even for a few hrs, so I can get some kip.

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dizzymare · 04/08/2009 14:54

Hv has been and gone, and I do feel much better/lighter than I have done in a long time. We spent ages talking about my pregnancy with ds, and various issues which arose post birth, which in all honesty I'd forgotten about with time. I had a bit pnd with him, and hv seems to think this is my complete fear of a repeat pattern, plus fear of the unknown. She's promised, well as much as she can, to be there for me as much as she can possibly be. I mentioned the perinatal thing, she is going to get in contact for me and see is I can talk to someone there, but it means a trip to Winchester she thinks. But I'll know more when she gets back to me. In the meantime, thank you to everyone who's held my hand over the last few weeks. I think I'll be alright, even though this is being typed through tears.

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CantThinkofFunnyName · 04/08/2009 15:16

Glad to hear it Dizzy - keep the chin up and we're all still here to chat.

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 04/08/2009 16:01

Well done dizzy

I know how hard it is to do this sort of thing.

Get yourself an early night tonight.

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dizzymare · 04/08/2009 17:00

It's bloody hard, but I think I can say todays been a bit of a breakthrough, and I'm by no stretch of the imagination out of the woods so to speak. There's a feeling of calm at the moment, and not feeling like I have to 'pretend' I'm alright. FBG, I know I got a bit stroppy the other day with you, but I knew you were right but just wasn't willing/ready to accept itToday that's different, well it wasn't so much this morning, but it is now, so thank you.

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 04/08/2009 17:06

I was sorry I had upset you. I wasn't bothered how you were with me, I was just worried I had upset you.

You will get there. It just might take some time and tears.

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dizzymare · 04/08/2009 17:13

Yeah it will, but I'm ready to do this now. Still feel shit, but the difference now is I'm hopefully going to get some proper help and not just drugs, and here come the tears again ffs
Mums got ds, so I'm off for a kip I think.
Thank you again.

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 04/08/2009 17:21

See you later

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 05/08/2009 13:04

How are you today, dizzy?

Deemented · 05/08/2009 14:18

Not sure if you've seen [http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/802722-I-need-some-help-please-blood-traces-on-tissue this thread]], FBG.

Hoe eerything is ok for Dizzy and her babies.

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 05/08/2009 15:29

Thanks Deemented - will take a look

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dizzymare · 07/08/2009 13:43

Today's not panning out well at all. First thing I was kind of ok, and really pleased to see ds after not getting to say night to him last night. But I've kind of slid back down, am very tearful and uptight and it's very hard to not let ds pick up on it or see me upset. I feel so sorry for him, and I'm not much use to him today either. What can I do with myself? I've already slept and I'm still crap.

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FAQtothefuture · 07/08/2009 13:44

you could join FB (if you're not already on it) and add the Farm Town application - you'll spend so much time tending our farm, and your neighbours farms and soliciting for work in the market that the time will fly by

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dizzymare · 07/08/2009 14:02

I haven't got the concentration FAQ, my mind feels like it's all over the place one minute then shutting down the next. Like a numbness, and I want to snap out of it but I can't. And I still haven't heard back from my hv about me being able to see anyone from perinatal, I should chase it really but I can't even be bothered to do that.

There's so many things I need to be thinking about except I have no ability to be rational about any of them. H's role in all this, consultant appointment next week, practical stuff like sleeping arrangements, buying baby stuff, but it's all overwhelming me.

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FAQtothefuture · 07/08/2009 14:10

oh you don't need to think hard at all - it just gets rather addictive

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