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There's a possibilty I might have antenatal depression

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dizzymare · 26/07/2009 22:40

If I get to see my gp, can anyone tell me what might happen please. Currently 13 weeks with twins, and things haven't been going well.

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 28/07/2009 12:44

See this as an opportunity to start enjoying life again and grab it with both hands. Don't do what I did and struggle on for years.

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dizzymare · 28/07/2009 12:46

I'll probably still be sat there at 4.20, our drs aren't known for time keeping. Infact it makes me laugh sometimes, especially if you're running say 5 minutes late getting to your appointment, then get chastised by the receptionist, only to still be sitting there a good 45 mins after your alloted time

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Deemented · 28/07/2009 12:58

In ours, if you turn up late they refuse to see you!!! It's a right PITA!

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dizzymare · 28/07/2009 13:11

FabBakerGirl I've struggled for weeks, and that's been long enough. Once I've been and poured out again, I hope I can be helped to get to feeling more normal about this pregnancy. What's been confussing is whether it's the pregnancy that's caused this, the fact I'm having twins, the recent events we've been through, or everything. Even after talking with TAMBA yesterday, I was still none the wiser. But I wasn't made to feel like the freak I had been feeling.

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Deemented · 28/07/2009 13:14

I think asking the doctor to refer you to a counsellor or therapist might be a wise move, Dizzy.

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 28/07/2009 16:46

How was the appointment, dizzy?

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dizzymare · 28/07/2009 16:58

A complete waste of time I don't feel I was listened to at all, and to top it off my own gp wasn't even there and had to see a dr I've not seen before. I'm totally fed up, wasted an afternoon sat there waiting for my slot, and still feeling like total shit. The crux of it was, he believes I'm still grieving, and focusing my grief on this pregnancy. All he's done is refer me on for counselling, which I'll have to wait for.

So, I've made another appointment, which isn't until friday to hopefully see my own gp, and I've complained.

I'm tempted to involve the practice manager tbh

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 28/07/2009 17:02

I am sorry you have had a rough time but why didn't you say something at the time and what do you feel the doctor should have done but didn't?

What was the nature of your complaint?

FAQtothefuture · 28/07/2009 17:07

shit dizzy - that's crap - exactly what the first GP I saw said to me when I was dragged to see him by my best friend. "Oh you're just grieving the end of your marriage, here have some AD's and come back in 4 weeks don't think you're reall depresssed though"

2 weeks later I was hooked up to a drip after taking and OD.

Can you ring and speak to your HV? If you have a sympathetic HV whose willing to listen and not talk over you as you try and explain (And I know how hard the explaining bit can be) you may be better prepared for an appointment with another GP.

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dizzymare · 28/07/2009 17:10

Because I'm weak and me going in the first place was hard enough, then spilling out about how I'm feeling. I don't know what he should have done but waiting for counsellings no good to me when I'm feeling shit now. I thought I might be offered some ads at least.

I've complained about his manner, he made me feel like it was all in my head. This is the first time I've seen him, and I don't want to see him again.

I was hoping to get some answers, and maybe a kind ear and understanding, but instead now I feel like I've wasted his and my time.

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 28/07/2009 17:16

I really don't want to make you feel worse, I just want to get a sense of how you are and your reply tells me you are in a bad way and do need to see someone asap.

Ring again and say you can't wait until friday and need to see someone today/tomorrow.

Call your health visitor to come round.

Call the PND help line.

Don't waste any more time thinking about this doctor, he clearly is behind the times.

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 28/07/2009 17:17

I also think you should write down exactly what you want to say and then give it to your GP to read.

Deemented · 28/07/2009 17:27

Shit, Dizzy - i'm sorry things didn't go well. I agree that writing everything down for the doctor to read might be a good idea, especially if you can't face going over and over it again and again. I also second speaking to your HV.

Yunno, somethhings just occoured to me... it's good in a way that you are actively seeking out help - it means that you do care about what happens, even if it's on some subconcious level. It would be easier to just pretend it's not happening and push it all to one side - you're doing something about how you feel and even if you feel that's not actually doing much good at the moment, you should be proud of yourself.

You can do this.

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dizzymare · 28/07/2009 17:28

FabBakerGirl, I've not got the energy left inside me to do anything else today. I am so tired, and ds is due back from granny soon, so I've got to sort him out somehow aswell, I want to just sleep tbh, but thanks.

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 28/07/2009 17:33

Okay.

Get yourself an early night and then phone in the morning.

I took so long before I tried to get help, would hate to see you suffer for so long.

lynneevans51 · 28/07/2009 17:59

oh Dizzy - this is awful for you. Sorry I wasn't around earlier today on this thread. We all know how much it took for you to call the GP in the first place. Put on a brave face tonight for DS and call again tomorrow - or follow the HV advice mentioned above.

Do let us know how you get on tomorrow and how you're feeling

Weegle · 28/07/2009 19:04

dizzy - I'm late joining this thread but wanted to also lend some support. I'm 14.5 wks with twins and also have an older DS. And I haven't had my DH leave, although I did have a close bereavement in December and was only just starting to 'grieve' them when I got pregnant and the whole thing has at times felt like an overwhelming nightmare! I just wanted to say I can completely understand why you would be feeling the way you are. I, frankly, am petrified by the idea of twins and an older child, and my body doesn't 'do' pregnancy well (loads of bloody complications and pain) so I feel like I have these two hijackers on board at times rather than bonding with two new lives - there I've said it! That's not to say I don't feel blessed, but even without everything else that is going on in your life getting your head around a twin pregnancy IS bloody hard work - toss in the double whammy of hormones and I think it'd be a hard thing to get your head around even if you weren't dealing with everything else that you have been. I think you need to take a day at a time (or even an hour) and say to yourself "right, I got through that" and definitely push for more help. No one is going to tell you AD's are the answer but they might just buy you enough head space to actually be able to process everything that's going on and just feels too overwhelming at the moment.

Really hope they get you in before Friday.

ready2pop · 28/07/2009 20:23

Dizzy - well done for going to see your GP. Sorry to hear he was so useless but the main thing is that you have taken the first step towards getting some help.

It might be worth calling your midwife and talking things through with her. My GP wasn't much help either but my local midwives have a counsellor on staff who they got to call me straight away. To be honest she knew much more about my options than the GP did anyway and was definitely more sympathetic.

Don't let the GP put you off.

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dizzymare · 28/07/2009 23:10

Mums taking over, she's calling the drs, I can't face doing it again. I can't face anything really, but I do thank you for listening and trying to help me with this. We might go and stay at mums for a few days, but I'm not sure if I can even manage doing that right now

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Deemented · 28/07/2009 23:30

That sounds like a plan, dizzy. A little TLC from mum never hurt nobody. Is mum willing to go the doctors with you? I hope leaving things in her hands for a while will give you the breathing space you need to try and get things straight.

If you want to contact me, you can get me at deemented at mail.com and if you do i'll email you back with my mobile number if you like, and i can txt you just to see how you're getting on

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dizzymare · 28/07/2009 23:50

Thanks, my phone's somewhere in the bottom of my bag without any charge, I'll charge it tomorrow.
Yeah, mums going to come with me, I'll probably end up sitting there in tears again so she can talk now because I've had enough and can't be bothered. Sorry, maybe I'll just go to bed

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Deemented · 29/07/2009 06:35

Hope you managed to have a restful night, Dizzy. Take care of you x

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 29/07/2009 11:07

Hi dizzymare.

How are you feeling today?

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dizzymare · 29/07/2009 18:59

All I've wanted to do is sleep all day, and ds isn't well either. High temp on and off, and really not himself, he's dosed up with calpol.Todays been such an effort, plus I've been feeling a bit hot. So I'm in bed now and so is ds. Mum called the surgery, but they were adament there were no appointments left before friday. I really can't be bothered anymore

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charlottesmum5 · 29/07/2009 22:32

Have a look at www.dipcare.org - I'm Una on the About Me/Us page. Hopefully some of the info on there might help, or free to email me anytime xx

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