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There's a possibilty I might have antenatal depression

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dizzymare · 26/07/2009 22:40

If I get to see my gp, can anyone tell me what might happen please. Currently 13 weeks with twins, and things haven't been going well.

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dizzymare · 02/08/2009 16:50

I think so yes

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 02/08/2009 17:49

Lovie, that is good.

I know your head is all over the place but these babies need you and they will be what gets you up in the morning. Cherish this time.

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dizzymare · 02/08/2009 22:21

It doesn't feel good at all, it feels too real even though I've seen a scan. Plus I haven't got my head in the 'ok yes lets do this' camp still and time's running out. If what I think I felt is what I think it was that makes this all so much harder, and never ever did I think this would ever be what would happen in my life.

My head and my heart aren't in a good place at all

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Deemented · 02/08/2009 22:38

Dizzy,

What i'm about to say may sound really horrible and harsh, but it's meant with good intention.

I know you're really struggling to come to terms with this pregnancy... but it doesn't have to continue. If it is making you so down and depressed and you do sound awful, then perhaps one option could be that you don't go through with the pregnancy at all.

I think you need to balance out the thought of termanating against perhaps living the rest of your life feeling robbed of a future that your son and you could have had together and maybe even feeling resentful towards the twins for that.

I'm sorry if this upsets you.. it's not meant to. But you do have options.

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dizzymare · 02/08/2009 22:51

I'm 14+1, a state and I think I need to see my dr or midwife again really soon, because I don't know what I'm doingI can't say anything else that would make any sense right now I can just about see what I'm typing

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Deemented · 02/08/2009 22:55

When are you due to see doctor again?

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dizzymare · 02/08/2009 23:05

Not for a few weeks but I'm due to see mw again this thursday, then with a consultant at the hospital the week after because the scan showed only one placenta Deemented I am a fucking wreck

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Deemented · 03/08/2009 07:05

Oh babes - sorry, i had to go to bed last night.

Is there any chance you can ring your midwife and see if you can speak to her? Or even ring your doctor back and ask for another appointment?

Are you taking your AD's?

You know you can't go on like this - you really need to speak to someone professional, imo. What about speaking to your local community psychiatric team? You just need someone to listen, to take your concerns seriously.

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 03/08/2009 07:34

Dizzy - do you live anywhere near me?

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dizzymare · 03/08/2009 11:00

FBG I don't think so, I think you're london aren't you?

I can't go on like this, you're right.But there's no way I'm getting involved with psychiatrics, I don't think I'm that bad am i? Maybe if I can get my hv round, she's lovely I know she'll listen to me. These ads aren't working quick enough, I need to feel ok asap, and it takes weeks before you're meant to feel any difference.

I don't feel anything

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 03/08/2009 11:21

I am in Kent.

All I can say is taken from my own experiences. I wish I had bitten the bullet years ago as I am sure I wouldn't be in this mess now.

However bad you think it might be to see someone, do you really think it is worse than how you feel now?

lynneevans51 · 03/08/2009 11:22

Where are you based Dizzy? I second Deemented's comments above - it doesnt matter that you are 14+1, you can still choose to do something about this. It is your body and your life. If you think, even fleetingly, that you might actually get on better with your life just you and your DS and would NOT feel too bad about terminating, then I would suggest you go to see your GP urgently to sort. My dear, you can't continue like this. I know I've posted about thinking I have AND, but I have my good days too. You don't seem to having those. FWIW, I had a termination at around 16 weeks when I was 17, it can be done (and I am now on my 3rd pg since with no problems as a result). x

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dizzymare · 03/08/2009 11:27

No, I feel shitand things are starting to slip here aswell, I mean house stuff. I've currently got 2 days of washing up sitting in my sink, and that'll probably end up being 3
If I call my hv she'll fit me in somewhere, but I don't know that she's really the right person now is she.

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lynneevans51 · 03/08/2009 11:30

Dizzy - go to your GP again (YOUR GP). Can you take your mum? Can you talk to your mum again - perhaps about terminating? Where do you live?

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dizzymare · 03/08/2009 11:45

No I've not spoken to anyone about this, let alone my mum. But do I want to terminate, or is it this mess my mind is in wanting a quick way out. Would I regret it later? I think I would. Am I looking for an excuse to not have to deal with what's going on. H would never forgive me, not that I give a flying fuck what he thinks

Ok, help. I don't want to end up in the midst of mental health, so if I can get to my dr again can she get me to see a couseller quicker do you think, or anything really. I don't want to wake up feeling like this everyday, and as much as I'm trying to stay on top of caring for ds things aren't like they should be iukwim.

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lynneevans51 · 03/08/2009 11:48

The thing is Dizzy, you wont know unless you go back to the GP. I would tell her you NEED to see someone urgently. That you are struggling to care for DS and do not think you can continue any longer like this

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dizzymare · 03/08/2009 12:09

I have to take ds out now for a while, if I can find the balls again, maybe I'll just go in.

Thank you for listening.

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Deemented · 03/08/2009 14:50

If you feel you can speak to your HV, then definately contact her. She will help, once she knows how bad you're feeling - even if it's to put you in touch with someone else out there who can help.

Thinking of you, Dizzy x

chezza18 · 03/08/2009 16:22

Dizzy speak to GP and ask to be referred to the Perintatl support team, they deal specifically with depression in pregnancy.

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dizzymare · 03/08/2009 17:19

Ds was playing up so I didn't get to go in the surgery,so my hv has said she can come out to see me tomorrow. But what is a perintatl team, is that like mental health because I really don't fancy getting caught up in all that

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lynneevans51 · 03/08/2009 17:25

Perinatal means "during pregnancy" I think (well its not post-natal so kind of makes sense to me).

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dizzymare · 03/08/2009 17:27

Oh perinatal, chezza confused me with a typo

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lynneevans51 · 03/08/2009 17:35

Ha - yes I see that now... come on Dizzy, laugh a little (or smile...?)

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dizzymare · 03/08/2009 17:42

how's that

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 03/08/2009 17:55

You are not listening to me, dizzy.

It isn't about getting caught up in the mental health team, it is about starting to get yourself well again.

What time is the HV coming?