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Help! When I think of my baby, I always imagine a girl !!!!

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BrandyBaby · 19/07/2009 05:53

I don't know why but when I think of my baby I always say her... and I only look and girl clothes and things. I just have always assumed that my baby will be and is a girl. Then today my girlfriend told me that I should also prepare myself for a boy. I refuse and can't even imagine that! What is wrong with me? I just want a healthy baby. But I just can't see anything but a baby girl.... any advice?

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StealthPolarBear · 19/07/2009 07:10

How far along are you? We were the same with DC#1 and I was shocked to find out at 34 weeks that she was a boy But I quickly got used to it, and now I'd love it if DC2 was too Honestly, unless you have a major preference, when your baby comes you won't be able to imagine him or her being anything other than themselves.
BTW little boys (well IME of up to 2 year old) are loving, snuggly, like giving kisses, blowing kisses, pretending to look after dolls so if you're worried that your DS's first toy will be a transformer, don't be!

LizLemon · 19/07/2009 07:44

I had the same thing - my grandmother only had girls, her girls only had girls and I assumed I would therefore only have girls. I'd had my eye on clothes and christmas ballet tickets and all sorts It was a bit of a shock to find out at the scan that this one is a boy - have to say that within an hour he'd become 'our boy' and we can't wait to meet him. Once it's a fact you just accept it and love it.

Buda · 19/07/2009 07:50

I was the same. I am one of 4 girls and was convinced I was having a girl. Didn;t want to find out as I wanted a surprise. Of course a boy popped out. He is fab! He will be 8 next month.

Longtalljosie · 19/07/2009 07:53

Are you at 20 weeks yet? It might be worth finding out - and if your PCT doesn't tell, your local private hospital will for about £100. It'll either allow you to look at girl's clothes without that nagging feeling in the back of your mind, or give you a chance to bond with your baby as a he...

bitofadramaqueen · 19/07/2009 07:57

I was exactly the same. My DS is now one year old and I couldn't imagining having a girl.

When the baby pops out, all your thoughts of what it might be will go out of the window to be replaced with the reality of your baby.

You might have a girl, but worth thinking about some boys names just in case!

essenceofSES · 19/07/2009 08:02

I have a 10 week DS called Owen.
Up until about 30 wks pregnant I had similar feelings to you about the fact I was having a girl. I had quite a few people guess I was having a boy so I tried to open my mind to having a boy but I felt everytime I tried, my brain wouldn't let me. I forced myself to look at boy clothes, etc and by due date I had no idea whether a girl or boy.
When he came out, I was just so happy to have him and it wasn't so much that he is a boy rather than a girl, he is Owen and I wouldn't change him for the world.

BlackLetterDay · 19/07/2009 08:03

I was the same for my first, just assumed it was a girl really, and luckily she was! Tbh though I don't think I would have been bothered if she had been a boy, I was just so shocked that there actually was a real live baby in there and it wasn't some theoretical exercise. I second the finding out thing, I would love to with this pg but I'm too tight

gladbag · 19/07/2009 08:03

Same as the others. I am one of five daughters, have loads of female cousins etc Had assumed a girl all through the pregnancy, and then gave birth to a beautiful boy. Within 10 seconds the shock wore off and I fell completely in love with him, and now I can't imagine anything else. It's just the way it is. Try not to worry. It will be fine.

skihorse · 19/07/2009 08:03

Ack! What's the worst that can happen? Baby "Brian" spends the first 2 years of his life in frou-frou dresses?

PeppermintPatty · 19/07/2009 08:32

I was the opposite - was convinced I was having a boy. I suppose I had a slight preference for a boy at that point.

This is part of the reason why I found out the sex at my 20 week scan. When the sonographer told me she was a girl, I said "are you sure?" in a really shocked voice and she looked at me like

quinne · 19/07/2009 08:43

I always thought of a boy but kept telling myself not to be silly and made plans for a girl too. But when he was born and the doctor told me the sex, I was surprised that he thought he needed to tell because I already knew. Maybe it was because he kicked so hard - I couldn't imagine any girl kicking like that!!

BertieBotts · 19/07/2009 08:50

I was so convinced DS was a girl - I even bought some girls' clothes from ebay! But it was weird, from the first time I felt him kick I accidentally found myself thinking "he" and then we had the scan and found out, I was very slightly disappointed (but I think more shocked...) for about 5 minutes and then by the time we got home, we'd named him and it all felt more real to me that he was a boy.

DP was so convinced he was a boy as well from early on which was why we chose to find out.

Oh and I gave the girls' clothes to a friend who had a girl and she looked lovely in them

Summerfruit · 19/07/2009 09:14

Same here, I was convinced I was having a boy, I have 2 brothers, my db has 3 sons etc...And I have found out at the 20 weeks scan that it was a girl, I was shocked but over the moon (secretely I was desperate for a little girl!). Second time round, I also was convinced it was a boy (but secretely hoping for another little girl!),this time round dh didnt want to know so we have asked the sonographer to write the sex on a piece of paper for me only to find out ! When I saw female on the paper, I have busted into tears and said to DH oh my god we are having another girl !!!! Thinking about it, I would have been equaly happy if it was a boy I was having !! (I'm now secretely feeling broody for a little boy !!!)xx

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 19/07/2009 09:17

I wanted a girl as I had nannied for a gorgeous one and there wasn't any in DH's immediate family. But, whenever I imagined my baby, it was a boy lying in a cot in jeans and a shirt. I figure I had to consider he might be a boy as I didn't want even one second of disappointment when I was told what I had.

I had to have an emergency section after a scan and when DH told me we had a boy I felt like saying, I know. It just felt how it should be.

Is amazing how your feelings can change.

I now have boy, girl boy.

lowrib · 19/07/2009 20:11

I was convinced I was having a girl at first.

I had a lovely boy and find it hard to imagine imagine any different!

ImhavingaBBaby · 19/07/2009 20:34

hand on heart i have absolutely no preference to boy or girl (26 weeks now) but i only ever say he, i say or she as an afterthought, but i just can only picture a boy. i have bought all neutral colours but i just feel he is a he!! i didnt find out n dont intend to, dont think id be dissappointed if he turns out a she, but would love he to be a he as then i could spout the gumpf about " i just knew!!"

gizzy1973 · 19/07/2009 21:04

I dont mind what i have but am sure its a boy as i am only 15+4 but my bump is all out front already

BrandyBaby · 20/07/2009 04:51

Thank you so much everyone who took the time to post. I feel so much better that I'm not the only one that has had these feelings! I know I will love my baby with all my heart... girl or boy! But, I guess until I find out my baby's sex I will just keep thinking it's a little girl. I am 15 weeks along. I'm going to try and find out as soon as possible! My husband is so dead set on our baby being a girl also... and he always refers to the baby as a girl and a she. So that is most likely another reason why I'm always thinking girl!!! I will take anymore advice that anyone has...

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 20/07/2009 09:47

If you think you might be disappointed to find out baby is a he, I wouldn't find out.

mum27 · 20/07/2009 10:25

I agree3 with FabBakerGirl, I desperately wanted a girl with my last pregnancy and knew that if I'd have discovered at 20 weeks that DC was a boy I would have been devastated. I also knew that when they gave it to me I would love it no matter what sex it was so I thought it was best not to resent it for 20 weeks but love it from birth, thankfully DC was a girl :O

idreamofbeanie · 20/07/2009 15:12

I was the opposite - I really wanted a boy and was totally convinced beanie was a boy. I found out at my 20 week scan that she was a girl and admit I was a little sad (although more because I'm a tomboy and could imagine myself bonding with a boy more easily, I was worried I wouldn't know what to do with a daughter). It lasted about 2 days then I realised all boys and girls are different and my DD would just be her fantastic self. Now I am hugely excited about meeting my little girl. I'm glad I found out at the scan rather than the birth and dealt with all those negative thoughts then although I'm sure I wouldn't have cared once they handed me my lovely healthy baby.

katster37 · 20/07/2009 17:14

I am 22weeks with number 1 and really wanted a girl. But, from the outset I was fairly convinced it was a boy! We had a scan at 13 weeks and the sonographer told us without us asking (we wanted a surprise) that it was a boy. I must admit, I did feel disappointed and then started to think irrationally, I must be only able to conceive boys, and that DC2 (if we are lucky enough to conceive again) will be a boy too... I was quite surprised at the 20w scan to be told it was still a boy, but surprised that I felt so happy - he is going to be our little boy, and now I can't imagine him being a girl! I can't wait to meet him!

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VAB · 21/07/2009 09:59

I imagined I would have some kind of feeling about the sex of my first baby, but I really don't. I do tend to say 'he' (we call baby Little Billy) but I don't think of them as a boy, just don't want to say 'it'!!

I can't wait to meet my little one and really don't care what flavour is it!!

tostaky · 21/07/2009 22:07

i was convinced i would have a girl and i had the most amazing baby boy!!!

Wilkiepedia · 21/07/2009 22:13

I was convinced DS1 was a girl - we didn't find out and I was gobsmacked but thrilled that he was a boy. We found out with DS2, I wasn't surprised he was a boy - disappointed that I won't ever have a girl as he is our last - but he arrived 5 weeks ago and is just beautiful and I now refer to 'My Boys' with pride

Oh and I ALWAYS thought I would have two girls as my family is ALL girls.

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