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Help! When I think of my baby, I always imagine a girl !!!!

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BrandyBaby · 19/07/2009 05:53

I don't know why but when I think of my baby I always say her... and I only look and girl clothes and things. I just have always assumed that my baby will be and is a girl. Then today my girlfriend told me that I should also prepare myself for a boy. I refuse and can't even imagine that! What is wrong with me? I just want a healthy baby. But I just can't see anything but a baby girl.... any advice?

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BrandyBaby · 26/08/2009 17:16

Thank you!

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Meglet · 21/08/2009 07:08

Aaaw, brandy congrats. .

BrandyBaby · 21/08/2009 06:32

I have always imagined having a little girl... and that she would be my first child. A few weeks I found out I was pregnant I had one dream that I had a one year old son. Weeks later when I found out I was pregnant; I just knew it was a girl. I dreamed about her, I bought girl things, I had her named picked out a whole year before I got pregnant! (Arabella... my little Bella!) Plus all of my friends and family thought it was a girl as well. It was so strange! And when I went to my sonogram and I saw her moving and kicking... it was so amazing. Its such a miracle that she is inside of me!

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fifisboys · 12/08/2009 11:08

When i was pg with ds1 i didnt find out what i was having but i knew he was a boy..i only picked boys names, looked at boys clothes etc...and when i had him and they said its a boy i was like 'yeah i know' in a stroppy kind of voice

With ds2 i was convinced he was a girl...picked girls names etc and when i found out at my scan he was a boy i was disappointed for a few seconds..then the disappointment faded.

I am pg with dc #3 and have absolutley no preference at all this time round

mogend77 · 12/08/2009 11:01

Have you dreamt of the sex? I read somewhere that women dreaming of their baby are astonishingly accurate at getting it right.

BrandyBaby · 12/08/2009 04:34

I just found out what I'm having...A GIRL!!!

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BrandyBaby · 29/07/2009 22:28

I will find out soon enough! I go august 10th to find out! Thank you for all the responses.

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cory · 22/07/2009 08:56

I was so convinced I was having a boy that I remember looking round the room in a dazed way after dd had been delivered, thinking "what have they done with my boy?".

But this really did not interfere with our bonding; I was able to recognise the irrationality of my thinking and see that as something separate from my love of my gorgeous little baby girl.

Next time I got pregnant, I checked at the 20 month scan. And yes, it was a boy. But by then I really would not have cared one way or another.

Wilkiepedia · 22/07/2009 08:24

Although I agree with Salleroo re not finding out like we did with DS1, if you think you will be disappointed with a boy, personally I would find out at 20 week scan to prepare yourself but that is just my opinion.

Salleroo · 22/07/2009 00:13

I really wanted a boy first time and got a girl. Was convinced I was having a boy second time and out popped another girl.

Our only regret is not being able to use our boys names . You will adore whatever comes out.

I'd wait and have a surprise and just enjoy your pregnance, part of the fun is wondering what your going to get, it's one of the few true lovely surprises in life.

MissyBellatrix · 21/07/2009 23:56

I think if you feel you might be disappointed if it's not a girl then you should find out in advance.

I was convinced I was having a girl, absolutely convinced. I bought a few dresses and a pink blanket when I was around 16wks pg. It was a total shock when we asked the sonographer at the 20wks scan and she said it was a boy. Had I not known in advance, by 40wks pg I would have been knocked sideways with the shock, so total was my belief it was going to be a girl in there!

I still look a bit wistfully at pretty baby girl clothes, because they are nicer to look at than boys clothes, and I still have the dresses and the pink blanket I bought (unopened and tagged, just in case I do have a girl one day) but that's about it. The baby that you get is the one you'll love no matter what the sex and anyway, as I see it, this way I get plenty of time to indulge in my endless girlie hobbies when DH takes DS out for football etc in the future, so there are some extra hidden benefits

Bubbaloo · 21/07/2009 23:40

When I was pg with ds1 both dh and I deep down,wanted a girl.We had the scan,found out we were having a boy and after a few days,got used to the idea of having a boy.After having him,we then realised how wonderful boys really are and when I fell pg again we really hoped the baby would be a boy.We now have 2 lovely boys,are thinking about a third,and really don't care if we don't have a girl,now.

lilacpink · 21/07/2009 22:29

My DH wanted a girl and so I 'protectively' thought about having a boy to try to even things out. Maybe this is what your friend is thinking - may help if one of you look at lovely little boys playing and the v. cute baby boy clothes about. TBH like most people here the moment you know, you know and it's fact and is lovely. I'm ~14 weeks now and can honestly say I see advantages to having 2 DDs or having a DD and DS. We'll find out at scan as I personally loved knowing and planning.

Wilkiepedia · 21/07/2009 22:13

I was convinced DS1 was a girl - we didn't find out and I was gobsmacked but thrilled that he was a boy. We found out with DS2, I wasn't surprised he was a boy - disappointed that I won't ever have a girl as he is our last - but he arrived 5 weeks ago and is just beautiful and I now refer to 'My Boys' with pride

Oh and I ALWAYS thought I would have two girls as my family is ALL girls.

tostaky · 21/07/2009 22:07

i was convinced i would have a girl and i had the most amazing baby boy!!!

VAB · 21/07/2009 09:59

I imagined I would have some kind of feeling about the sex of my first baby, but I really don't. I do tend to say 'he' (we call baby Little Billy) but I don't think of them as a boy, just don't want to say 'it'!!

I can't wait to meet my little one and really don't care what flavour is it!!

katster37 · 20/07/2009 17:14

I am 22weeks with number 1 and really wanted a girl. But, from the outset I was fairly convinced it was a boy! We had a scan at 13 weeks and the sonographer told us without us asking (we wanted a surprise) that it was a boy. I must admit, I did feel disappointed and then started to think irrationally, I must be only able to conceive boys, and that DC2 (if we are lucky enough to conceive again) will be a boy too... I was quite surprised at the 20w scan to be told it was still a boy, but surprised that I felt so happy - he is going to be our little boy, and now I can't imagine him being a girl! I can't wait to meet him!

idreamofbeanie · 20/07/2009 15:12

I was the opposite - I really wanted a boy and was totally convinced beanie was a boy. I found out at my 20 week scan that she was a girl and admit I was a little sad (although more because I'm a tomboy and could imagine myself bonding with a boy more easily, I was worried I wouldn't know what to do with a daughter). It lasted about 2 days then I realised all boys and girls are different and my DD would just be her fantastic self. Now I am hugely excited about meeting my little girl. I'm glad I found out at the scan rather than the birth and dealt with all those negative thoughts then although I'm sure I wouldn't have cared once they handed me my lovely healthy baby.

mum27 · 20/07/2009 10:25

I agree3 with FabBakerGirl, I desperately wanted a girl with my last pregnancy and knew that if I'd have discovered at 20 weeks that DC was a boy I would have been devastated. I also knew that when they gave it to me I would love it no matter what sex it was so I thought it was best not to resent it for 20 weeks but love it from birth, thankfully DC was a girl :O

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 20/07/2009 09:47

If you think you might be disappointed to find out baby is a he, I wouldn't find out.

BrandyBaby · 20/07/2009 04:51

Thank you so much everyone who took the time to post. I feel so much better that I'm not the only one that has had these feelings! I know I will love my baby with all my heart... girl or boy! But, I guess until I find out my baby's sex I will just keep thinking it's a little girl. I am 15 weeks along. I'm going to try and find out as soon as possible! My husband is so dead set on our baby being a girl also... and he always refers to the baby as a girl and a she. So that is most likely another reason why I'm always thinking girl!!! I will take anymore advice that anyone has...

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gizzy1973 · 19/07/2009 21:04

I dont mind what i have but am sure its a boy as i am only 15+4 but my bump is all out front already

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ImhavingaBBaby · 19/07/2009 20:34

hand on heart i have absolutely no preference to boy or girl (26 weeks now) but i only ever say he, i say or she as an afterthought, but i just can only picture a boy. i have bought all neutral colours but i just feel he is a he!! i didnt find out n dont intend to, dont think id be dissappointed if he turns out a she, but would love he to be a he as then i could spout the gumpf about " i just knew!!"

lowrib · 19/07/2009 20:11

I was convinced I was having a girl at first.

I had a lovely boy and find it hard to imagine imagine any different!

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 19/07/2009 09:17

I wanted a girl as I had nannied for a gorgeous one and there wasn't any in DH's immediate family. But, whenever I imagined my baby, it was a boy lying in a cot in jeans and a shirt. I figure I had to consider he might be a boy as I didn't want even one second of disappointment when I was told what I had.

I had to have an emergency section after a scan and when DH told me we had a boy I felt like saying, I know. It just felt how it should be.

Is amazing how your feelings can change.

I now have boy, girl boy.

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