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The "4 weeks and bricking it" lounge.

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Thandeka · 27/05/2009 20:41

Hello,
Me and Wasabipeanut thought a specific thread for people in our boat may be nice- as lovely as the knicker checkers thread is and great support but a lot of the lovely knicker checkers are past the evil first trimester and for those of us that have just found out we are pregnant again post MC we thought it might be nice for us to have a sub lounge to huddle in and support each other in these very early stages where in a way we are still in denial about this pregnancy!

We don't have to post due dates or anything scary like that, just more a place to wobble with people going through it at same time.

So I will be only 4 weeks tommorrow and 40 days ago tommorrow I had an MMC at 10 weeks but emby died at 6/7 weeks. So am going to be petrified basically for at least the next 8 weeks and would love some handholding- especially as this time I am not telling anybody except DH and best mate. Parents need not know.

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Dalrymps · 13/07/2009 22:42

Evening ladies,

Jashook - Yes, it is completely normal . I keep saying to dh that i'm scared somethin will be wrong at the 12 wk scan and he should be prepared incase it is . No reason, just unnecessary worrying!

Thandeka - I'm afraid my hornyness has dissapeared with the arrival of my ms! Poor dh. I'm also worried about it causing a mc even though I know for a fact there is no risk!

Jardins - fabulous news on your scan! Great that all the measurements are fine and that baby is doing well. Scary decision to have to make about the other test, hope you manage to come to a decision you're comfortable with

Itsalwaysthequietones - Hi!

mummytopebs - Congratulations on reaching the 12 wk mark! I'm sure everyhing will be fine at your scan by the sounds of things!

I'm doing ok today. Got my booking in app from the midwives today, it's for 3rd aug when i'll be 9 1/2 wks, eek, excited! Nausea a bit better today, hasn't been as constant. Just had it before lunch, before tea, after tea and now. Counting the days away, 6wks 3 days today, going so slooow!

Pinkyblue123 · 14/07/2009 08:51

Hi Ladies,
i have not posted for a while as have been feeling so terrible , all day MS, Yuk. I have scanned all your messages and am glad to hear there have been some positive scans and that some of you have now reached the golden 12 week mark.

i am now 7 +4 and am going to try and book a private dating scan today as I am really nervous about this pregancy as my last one ended in MC at 11 weeks.

Also I a really nervous as there is swine flu at my DS school, so i have been keeping him off school, much to the dismay of the headmaster! But I am firstly worried about him and my DD getting it and secondly worried it might affect my little bean.He is only in reception class so I don't think it is going to affect his education too much. His best friend was diagnosed with swine flu yesterday, so i think I am doing the right thing.

mynameis · 14/07/2009 09:20

Hi ladies.

Unfortunately it is not good news for me. Babys heart has stopped beating and now need treatment for an incomplete miscarriage.

I am so pleased to read all your good news and will keep up with the thread to see how you are all doing.

Hopefully I can join again soon

mummytopebs · 14/07/2009 09:20

I think i would be tempted to keep my dd off if there was swinfe flu in her nursery. DD has just come out in blistery spots, going to gp at 11.30 but think she has chicken pox, she has had it before but has a comprimsed immune system so gets things again

westlondongirl · 14/07/2009 09:33

mynameis I am so sad to see your message. Sending a big cyber hug. You must feel dreadful - hope we see you again here really soon. xxx

Pinkyblue123 · 14/07/2009 09:47

So sorry to hear your sad news mynameis

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Thandeka · 14/07/2009 10:25

So sorry to hear that mynameis thinking of you.
xxx

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Caitni · 14/07/2009 10:30

Mynameis so sorry to hear your news . I was so hoping it would be better news for you. Thinking of you at this sad time .

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Thandeka · 14/07/2009 10:31

I wanted to separate out my posts:
Jardins- that is great news hurrah! Is the nausea easing up at all? (the only thing keeping me going at the min is the thought surely it won't last much longer.

Mummytopebs- yay for 12 weeks!

Dalrymps- your booking in appt is day after my first wedding anniversary- therefore law of Thandeka luck means that all will be fine.

Pinkyblue123 I am a teacher and my school has been hit with Swine Flu. Apparently all pregnant women are beings sent home til the end of term (YAY!) so am waiting for the call confirming (am not in work on a tuesday!) So I think fairy nuff to keep squiglets off- its not long til end of term anyhow.

Love and ginger biscuits (retch) to us all.
(Ginger sets me off now! grim!)

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Pinkyblue123 · 14/07/2009 12:58

Thank you for that Thankdea it reassures me that I am not being paranoid about Swine flu. I rang the doctors surgery this moring and asked for a doctor to call me and advise what I should do re sending my son to school. A nurse eventually called me back and she began the conversation by saying that it would be catastrophic for the baby if I were to catch swine flu and yet she still said that I should send him to school as he could catch it from someone in the street anyway. She then went on to contradict herself by saying you need to spend an hour with someone before you could catch it. I pointed it out to her that her advise was confusing and so I will keep him at home. Sounds to me like the NHS is rather confused by it all at the moment, or just that I got a badly informed nurse.

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Thandeka · 14/07/2009 14:06

Yeah my doc said you need to spend an hour within a metre of someone with it to get it and none of the frontline people at the docs surgert has got it.

Just spoke to school and I am defo off til end of term and possibly sept - perhaps they have heard the catastrophic advice too. Crumbs! My doc didnt say that. I wonder if there have been swine flu sufferers who lost their babies hence this sudden about change? Not reported in news much?

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Pinkyblue123 · 14/07/2009 15:05

I guess it is not reported much as it is all really new. If my son got it I would be the one nursing him better, so chances are I would get it too.

quirkychick · 14/07/2009 15:44

Oh, mynameis so sorry for your news. I hope to see you on here soon (or when you feel ready) with better news.

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Thandeka · 14/07/2009 17:53

oh my what a day- I witnessed a stabbing/fight aftermath- just walking along and a guy runs from a side street shouting covered in blood from a head wound. I phone 999 and get police and ambulance. Loads of people standing around doing nothing. I'm a qualified first aider but he was too angry and agressive so I didnt dare approach him. I had to hide round the corner for a bit as he was running about and i didnt know who he was going to approach and my priority was me and bean. Police came quickly and I walked on (they said I could)- I was really shaking and it was very scary so adrenaline probably didnt do bean much good. On way back past they had cordoned off the area as a crime scene so I spoke to the officer in charge and they took more details about what I had seen and told me I did the right thing especially considering my condition. Phew. Sometimes I don't like living in London!
Perhaps if I don't leave the house for next 6 months all will be fine!

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westlondongirl · 14/07/2009 19:59

OMG Thandeka - well done for helping & protecting your bean! 7 weeks today - had a scan yesterday & it has a heartbeat which is good news. Still being horribly sick & losing weight. Doctor is keeping an eye on me but nothing she has given me has worked. Fell like s**t. The stress of being out of work isn't helping.

quirkychick · 14/07/2009 20:49

Thandeka you are making me glad I don't live in London anymore! But well done you for doing the right thing.

westlondongirl hope things get better for you soon.

quirkychick · 14/07/2009 20:56

Well done, Jardins on your nuchal scan.

I had my private nuchal scan today and I came out at 1:101 with my age(38) so the consultant recommends the integrated triple blood test next week. We are looking for a less than 1:250 or I will be referred for amnio if I want it. Interesting you say the risk is 1:200 in France, Jardins, as here it is 1:100. Are British doctors twice as bad? The measurement was still withing normal range, but at the higher end. Risks for other chromosomal abnormalities was very low. So I feel I'm kind of where I started with in that I know I'm higher risk as an older mummy until I get the blood results back.

itsalwaysthequietones · 14/07/2009 21:31

mynameis ? so sorry about your news, thinking of you.

Thandeka - what a scare, poor you. For what it's worth, I don't think the adrenalin will have done the bean any harm.

westlondongirl - v glad to hear about your bean's heartbeat but you have my sympathy re the MS, sounds awful

HappyBump · 15/07/2009 04:53

hello all
I've just got back from my holiday. I've been taking a peek at this thread whilst I was away but have been unable to post until now. All was good and I'm feeling fine, even the ridiculously long flight wasn't too bad.

mynameis I am sorry to hear your news

jardins congrats on your scan and the move, nice to see you back too

thandeka very scary for you, life is never dull for you and your bean!

quirky it sounds like your scan went well. I was told in my last pregnancy when I lived in Canada that the amnio risk is nowadays more like 1:200 rather than 1:100. Where I live now they discourage any form of testing so I don't know what the stats are. I have age related worries as well.

Olga1 good luck for your scan today, let us know how it went.

mummytopebs I think we might be almost on the same timescale. I too have to wait until next week until my scan ... time is drrraggging!

WLG I hope that you are able to find something to ease the sickness.

big wave to everyone else, it's nice to be back!

jardins · 15/07/2009 10:37

Morning everybody! Lovely to read your news HappyBump. Welcome back.

I have a slightly embarrassing question to ask you all, which is connected to our friend, Morning Sickness' (mine is afternoon and evening and even night sickness, but what the hell). Apart from dry retching (yummy) I have been most fortunate not to throw up. HOWEVER since the early weeks I have had diarrhea, or loose stools most days. I have no other symptoms so am virtually certain there is no bug or food poisoning but I am getting a little weary of running to the toilet now that I am in my 12th week. Has anybody else experienced this? If so what have you been doing about it?

Best wishes to you all.

Ciara11 · 15/07/2009 11:01

Hi Jardins Like you i had diarrhea in the early stages, lasted from about week 6 to week 12 ish. Spoke to midwife who said it was quite normal and to try and eat more fibre and drink loads and eventually it would get better.

Im now 15+1 weeks and havent had it for couple of weeks, however i have now gone the other way and am slightly constipated.

You cant win can you?

Hope you get over it soon.

jardins · 15/07/2009 11:07

Thank you so much Ciara11 for putting my mind at rest. You're a star. One can't help worrying. Just out of curiosity has anybody else had the same symptoms?

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Thandeka · 15/07/2009 11:34

yup i have it now. its not like tummy exoplosion "bum wee" like you get with a bug. but i do poo about 3-4 times a day and they are loose- have had this for weeks now. (the skid marks are a sight to behold!)- boak!

am so beyond embarrassment on this thread now!

I can't eat veg at mo and am getting very little fibre so am sure it will ease up!

don't worry jardins!

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quirkychick · 15/07/2009 14:50

Oh jardins so far I have had diarrhoea, constipation, trapped wind and OMG disgusting smelling wind. Seem to have settled down a bit now, but am eating probably a little more fibre/veg now. Not into fruit though. I think the relaxin makes the bowel muscles really useless sluggish. Sometimes it takes me 30mins to poo, it's so slow!!!

Pinkyblue123 · 15/07/2009 15:00

Jardins i had the terrible runs yesterday too. I am glad I am not the only one, it makes you feel so drained especially when accompanied by the dreaded MS. What joy!

How sacrey Thandeka

Have my booking in appointment today, will be dodging any swine flu sufferers in the surgery!

Also booked a private dating reassurrance scan for Saturday and am now really nervous about it.

Hello to everyone!