Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part VIII - Knicker Checkers and Pad Patrollers welcome

[YouKnowNothingoftheCrunch]

Is that ok?

Crunch, there's a full moon tomorrow - maybe the old wives' tale will be true for you?!

What, she's going to turn into a werewolf?

I've got a weird scan situation. When I was in hospital last week, my consultant wanted me to have a scan to check for placental abruption. The ultrasound department got all arsey, and said it wasn't their 'protocol', but booked me in for a scan in two weeks time to check the bleeding hadn't caused growth problems. Somewhat 'shutting the door after the horse has bolted' I thought. Eventually, lovely consultant man got me a scan anyway.

A few days ago, got a call from scanning dept saying that they'd cancelled my 'two weeks after' scan as I'd had one while in hospital. B-b-but... that's not going to check his growth, is it? Surely the original protocol still applies? I've tried phoning, but there's no answer. Grr.

But...

So is a certain little lady called Polly Anwen She's here!!!

Born on the 8th at 8 a.m. weighing in at 8 lbs 10 oz - I'm sure someone could read something into that

So all 3 of my DCs have been born on a Friday, which is a little odd too. It's lucky I'm in no way superstitious.

And the story? Well, I had a show late yesterday and a few contractions that felt a bit more serious, but nothing regular; so I gave up and went to bed. Slept restlessly until about 4.30 when I started getting quite serious pains every 8 minutes or so. Fell out of bed at 5 and ordered H to put up the pool Called MW at 6.30, she arrived at 7 and announced I was at least 5cm dilated and could get in the pool. I got in the pool about 7.30 and almost immediately needed to push. Polly arrived at 8.02 (in time for DS1 to see her before school). No drugs, no stitches, she breastfed straight away... All a bit perfect really (I'lll leave out the pain and the ick)

I feel really well, have been baby gazing all day long! She looked just like Winston Churchill at first but is already looking a lot more lady-like I will sort out a photo when I'm looking suitably fabulous (so... next year sometime?)

I am off to have a glass of champagne now

I will be back I can't wait to see how your stories all turn out.

I can't stop ing

Yay!!!

Congratulations Crunch and welcome to the world Polly

I'm so happy for you.

hurray hurray !!!

Well done Crunch and welcome Polly - love the name. Glad all went well. Look forward to seeing a pic soon.

herby if they're checking for growth issues you need to have more than one scan to see what is going on so you should push for it.

Oh. Emm. Gee! How utterly fantastic! And you had your homebirth! And all was better than well!

I'm grinning from ear to ear.

Brilliant, brilliant, well done, Crunch! That sounds like a lovely birth.

Polly was our girl's name choice for DS, so I very much approve. The Welsh middle name is lovely, too.

Crunch congratulations, love the name Polly.

crunch hooray!! hooray!! Am so pleased for you, and well done on such a straight forward birth.
Nanna coming did the trick then?! Maybe don't tell her that though.

Beautiful name, love Polly and Anwen is one of my favourites.

herb agree with wheely, you should push for the extra scan.

Crunch that is such wonderful news! Polly Anwen is a beautiful name! Congratulations! Oh, wow, CONGRATULATIONS!

Congratulations Crunch
That's brilliant news! And almost lost it laughing at the Winston Churchill comment. Really must do more pelvic floor work

I'm so happy for you and Polly Anwen - such lovely names. Am really pleased you got your lovely home birth, not a builder in sight, and DH was there - the trifecta! Well done!

You have made my day missus. Now promise to stick around won't you? This thread wouldn't be the same without you

Yay Tamlin for the lack of spotting. Am also glad to hear you?ve booked your doula ? you can start to share the burden. about your joints issue ? I guess that answers my question about whether you can do yoga eh?

Ciara and Alana I find not drinking at all is easier than having the odd one but that?s because I?m a) a paranoid control freak about this pregnancy and b) have no self-discipline once I?ve had a sniff of wine so doubt I could stop at just one . What I did in the beginning was order fake drinks like soda water with lime etc ? no-one noticed at all, even close friends who knew I was trying.

Alana your boss should absolutely not have shared your pg news without checking with you. I even think that might be against employment law but we?d have to ask Lola, who I think is a lawyer. Are you about Lola? We miss you!

Hobnob I was like you about the scan pics at 12 weeks, it?s only now, after a clear 21 week scan that I have started wanting to look at any of them. I think we all have our own milestone dates and those may or may not be the times at which we?ve lost babies in the past ? but once we get past them we can start to see our pregnancies as real, different and even (whisper it) likely to lead to an actual baby!
Gentlydoesit are you Gentle or a different poster? Am a bear of small (preg)brain....

Herby I agree with Wheely and Scarlotti ? push for the scan, growth needs to be checked over time, surely? Can you get your midwife or GP to fight your corner?

to everyone else and raises glass of virtual champers to Crunch

Congratulations Crunch! Beautiful name - although I'm slightly disappointed you didn't stick with Trocodile... What do the DSs think of their new sister?

crunch ive been looking out for you....well done! amazing news, so happy for you x

What wonderful news to come back to!!! YAAAAAY Crunch!!! Am so happy for you! What a wonderful birth too, exactly what you deserved after everything you've been through And love the name Polly, it's in our top 3 and seeing it written down in your post is somehow making me like it even more! Whooop whoop for Crunchie!!

Hello to everyone else! Sorry to have been awol for so long, we've been to Turkey for 11 nights () which was lovely, and before that life just got a bit stressful, plus it was the anniversary of the day we lost Thomas on 20th April which was tough - especially as only one person in RL remembered - of all friends and family...

Doing ok now though, 24 weeks tomorrow and feeling movement every day (fingers crossed!) Getting bigger too...!

Had an incredibly insensitive comment at a party the day before we went on holiday. Had had an incredibly stressful day anyway, managed to crash the new car on the way to work (I was fine, car not so good...), then had a hideous case which should have taken a morning as we were meant to be leaving home by 3pm at the latest, all packed, sorted etc, but didn't even get out of court til almost 5. Then was very unhappy with my outfit for the posh birthday do, didn't feel pg, just felt like a "big unit" as my DH would (but thakfully didn't!) say. Saw a girl I hadn't seen for ages, she said "look at you, you don't even look pg, just a bit chubby" I was gutted - any shred of confidence I might have had swiftly departed and I'm ashamed to say my night took a nose dive from then on. Didn't help that I completely agreed with her analysis...

ANYWAY ()

Haven't caught up properly yet, sorry don't think I'll be able to help with any employment law issues, I only do crime, but if any of you have been arrested lately I might have a few tips

Will hopefully catch up properly this weekend, lots of love to all xx

PS Huge congrats to LadyHelen too! Another fab name!!

Me again! ()

Just been catching up and wanted to say welcome to Alana & Ciara - you've come to the right place ladies Wishing you both long and uneventful stays

Sydney I'm so pleased we're both having girls after we lost our little boys - not really sure which of the smilies is appropriate at this point, but I know you'll know what I mean

Hello Ashleigh! how's life with the smoking MIL Really feel for you. Here's hoping the move goes as smoothly and as quickly as possible.

In celebration of the fact that I bought two packs of pampers in Tescos today () as they were on offer, I thought I should finally take the giant step of adding myself to the list.... gulp... Plus it means I can graduate Crunch!

GUSSET PATROL GRADUATES
Cricri - 1st November - GIRL- Elise Vivienne
LackaDAISYcal - 6th November - BOY - Finlay
barbareebaa - 24th November -BOY - William
Jackstini - 10th December ? BOY- Harvey
KD73 - 20th December - BOY - Aidan George
downbutnotout ? 3rd February BOY
dan39 ? 10th February GIRL - Rose
winemakesmummyclever - 17 February - BOY - Isaac Alexander
Bunnyinheadlights - 23 February - GIRL - Carys
Wheelybug - 12th March - GIRL - Lara Florence
TSOM - 17th March - BOY - Seth
Grinningbee ? 4th April ? GIRL ?Amy Florence
Daisy J ? 1st April ? GIRL ? Maya Celine
Scotlass - 17th April - BOY - Nathan James
Swaliswan - 20th April - GIRL
Ladyhelen2 - 2nd May - BOY - Rufus Daniel
Aquababe - 6th May - BOY
Youknownothingofthecrunch - 8th May - GIRL - Polly Anwen

CURRENT CONCEIVED-AIR PASSENGERS

LoobyLou36 - 3rd May
Ses - 10th May
SparkyMalarky - 15th May
divedaisy - 7th May (also 12th, 17th or 19th!!!)
cece - 18th May
joyfuleyes - 29th May
herbaceous - 28 June
Mumface - 11th July
nattythomasandellen - 16th July
Ashleighbeee - 23rd/25th August
HerNameWasLola - 30th August
blogqueen - 31st August
sydneysuze - 15th September
lal123 - 25th October

Ash race ya!

Yay Lola lovely to have you back. Forgot you were going to Turkey - how was it? Did you take doppler in the end? And well done for coming on the list!!!!!!!!!!!!

I know exactly what you mean about having a girl after losing our boys - I'm so sorry almost no-one in RL remembered Thomas's anniversary, that would floor me too

Did you have a weird 'regrief' moment after you found out the sex? I am bonkers I know but even though I was pretty sure this baby was a girl all the way up to the scan, somehow finding out is making me have a little bit of grief for the boy I may still never have, and I know that is all really connected to my baby boy lost. I am aware I must sound completely ungrateful as well as a bit crazy but I do think grief jumps up and smacks you in the head in the oddest ways - perhaps it is all connected to the fact that the anomaly scan was when we had the fatal heart defects diagnosis last time ....

Anyway, sorry ladies, really do not want to add more woe and fears to this thread - what happened with me last year was a fluke, one in a million thing - definitely not something I want to make you all think too much about

Hope you're all having a lovely day in the sunshine - esp Crunch and baby Polly

Cruuuuunchhhh Yaaaay. Well done - sounds like a fantastic birth - I'm so pleased for you. Big un-mumsnetty hugs to you and Polly

Hi Lola good to see you. and at people's complete lack of sensitivity, but you know what, I bet that soon you will look and feel utterly bumpalicious and enjoy showing it off .

Sydney I know what you mean about the grief coming and hitting you at the oddest times, I think we all get that. It doesn't always respect anniversaries either, some days you just feel worse or better for no apparent reason, and I think it's healthy to go with that and not beat ourselves up for feeling sad when we "should" be happy or happy when we "should" be sad.
I don't really think in terms of the boy I may never have, although for no good reason I am actually pretty sure that I will never have another boy. Don't know why, I guess for the same reason I was convinced from the day of my bfp that this pg was a girl in the same way I always knew Thomas was a boy. I more feel that we have had our boy, and in some ways we still have him, he will always be a part of us and no other baby, boy or girl, will ever replace him or take his place. He was our first born, the (very little) big brother to whatever other children we are lucky enough to have. I hope that makes sense. Have made myself cry now! Lots of love xx

Didn't take a doppler on hol in the end, after my lovely consultant (who I think I may be slightly in love with...) told me not to as he's seen them cause so much unnecessary worry for so many people when they can't find a hb. But LO was very well behaved and wriggled around every day so managed to get through the whole holiday with NO panics!! !

Read Tracey Hogg's The Baby Whisperer while we were there, so now I know exactly how to do everything

Hi Daisy How's life treating you these days?

Morning (just) ladies

Lola glad you had a lovely holiday and your lo wiggled around enough to stave off any panics. at the insensitive comment at the party. I'm at the fat stage still and it is truly depressing at times, especially when it's a low day.

sydney I think the grief comes in all manner of ways. We don't know the sex of our lost little one but I'm sure it was a boy. Even though I've passed the time we lost him, I still get dark patches. Think I'm starting to realise now though that it is a form of grief and worry that comes to the surface, and not something that is wrong with my current life ifkwim. Takes me a while to realise and learn these things

crunch ditto sydney's post re keeping in touch with us still waiting, although I guess you'll have your hands full now with 3

Hope everyone else is doing well and glowing [waves]

Crunch! What a lovely birth and at a lovely time of day too! Lots of lovey hugs to Polly.

I probably didn't explain myself very well, it wasn't my boss that told everyone it was the one other person I told. After I posted here yesterday she explained why - she was very sick a couple of weeks ago and everyone thought she was pregnant (she wasn't). So to deflect all the comments.............. she told everyone that I was pregnant instead! Now it all makes sense

Anyway I have now calmed down (otherwise a criminal lawyer may have been more useful to me than an employment one anyway!), helped by having one day with no spotting or untoward symptoms. Feels too early to think it might have actually stopped, but does make a big difference to my mood. Glad to hear yours has stopped too, Tamlin.

Hello to Lola - I remember watching the Baby Whisperer on Discovery Health before I had my first. She always sounded like she was giving the kind of no-nonsense advice my granny would have been handing out if she'd still been around. Didn't manage to put any of it into practice though .

Hellooo Ladies

I have been staying away from this forum and wallowing in a bit of post MC denial and anger, but simply had to pop back in and say congratulations to Crunch - what beautiful names

Have got my first recurrent MC clinic appt on June 3rd, so will return to lurkdowm for a while - wishing you all good scans and a worry-free pregnancies

CRUNCHIE!!!!!!!!!!

I have just done what i usually never do, log onto a comuter on a weekend! Just to see how you are doin! I CANNOT BELIEVE IT! I am so excited to have read all about your little Polly! And you naughty girl trying to trick us knickercheckers!!! Bunny ears grin, all the grins ever! So happy for you!

Lola The race is on, check us out so close together, I am late for everything so i am guessing you'll pip me to the post.

I am mid getting ready to go out now so havent caught up properly, but i will do on Monday, I promise.

Kisses and optimistic smiles to all. xxxxxx