40+ mums-to-be and those who've 'popped' - come say hi, pull up a chair and have some cake!

[jeanjeannie]

Hello everyone - yet another thread. I'm expecting a call anyday soon from ITV - as I imagine we'll be prime candidates for taking over the Loose Women slot when they need a break

So, for anyone interested in joining in with us - just jump in and say Hi - we don't bite - unless you're disguised as a chocolate sponge cake

Ladies..................Take it away

ermintrude if you're having a home birth, why not fill the pool with jelly? If you don't get a move on with the birth then you'll be set in it. Doubles as an energy snack too. Only problem is you'll hear that sucking/slurping noise as you have to spoon the baby out

I don't know the flavour of candle you mention. This one is by Pecksniffs and is fressia and poppy. I like it even though it smells like a tramp's armpit (apparently).

Aye I could be a pirate. Long 'johnworf' Silver.

tee enjoy your last few months of plague freeness yourself Just think, all this could, nay shall, be yours soon enough.

Ah. The joys of parenthood

I don't do violent films. Can't do with anything more violent than the fight scene at the end of the Lion King. Seriously. Violence really upsets me.

As for the 2 kiddies in the loos well.....you'll find that people parent very differently. I've seen kids of 8 walking the streets at night a mile or so down the road on the council estate. I'm sure they'll come to no harm but really, should be in bed.

Hi everyone, just popping onto the thread to ask a question, then I'll pop off again. I'm TTC #2 at the advanced age of 43, and wondered what is/was the oldest age to conceive on this thread? Go one - give me hope!

kiwikat I think that it's 45. But we certainly have someone of 43 who is a mum to her second

Ooooo I love a quality smelly candle - especially Eau de Sweaty Scrotum by Diptyque I've noticed a lack of nice candles since not being single - DP just raised his eyebrows and occasionally sneezes as if to make a point!

JW Never thought of Eric as being a sparrow's name. I had them down as more of a Clive or Collin....

And as for the Times fashion....MMMmm, me thinks it's definately not the sort of stuff your average Times lady wears - unless quilted silk trousers and padded foam knickers have become de riguer without me noticing. That's it isn't it. You're all wearing them and you've not told me....I feel such a fool

Oh the thought of birthing in jelly Mind you - better than eating it.

mrsB poor you DP is getting better - horrah! But how cool of your OH's parents to do that. I love the IKEA bedding - I got Iris a fab duvet cover - it looks like Gerald Scarf style drawings on it.

tee it may have been uncomfy, but well done you for getting out.

Time for bed yet?

kiwikat we did have some time ago, a lady who was 48/49 when she had her LO and all went well I'm 43 and I've only got an 18mth age gap - a late starter but i soon caught up!

Just get stuck in and home some fun Seriously, I think with our mature years we've got to take as many opportunities to get preggie as poss Enjoy yourself and hope all goes well!

hi kiwikat well we have at least one lady of 45 but I'm nearly sure there's one of 48 knocking about somewhere - so yes there's hope in them there ovaries!

tee I don't think it would be that unusual to see 2 girls of that age alone in the loos and it doesn't immediately strike me as a bad thing.

jw no way could I even look an alcoholic drink in the face. Tea is it for me.

'ere jj them foam knickers would be just the job in an sneezing or laughing emergency if one had neglected one's pelvic floor exercises...

Fantastic news that there are ladies older than me on here! Thanks for sharing. Hope all goes smoothly with your beans, and I hope, hope, hope to be joining you all on this thread with a BFP some time soon.

Yes kiwikat get your skates on then come back and join us - we'll save you some cake !

JJ is there something you aren't telling us? Are you strutting around your living room dressed like Lady GaGa? See through bubble suit with flesh g string? Well, who would have thought that life in suburbia was so wild?

Are people really wearing foam knickers?

Eau de Sweaty Scrotum! That's it! With all this male objection to scented candles praps it's a woman thing (yes, my name is Sherlock).

For the record, I don't like scented candles either. Most of them smell horrible to me!

And now I'm off to bed. Night!

kiwikat I had my pfb 17 months ago at 43. A pal of mine had her ds at 47 (natural conception)and is trying again now at 50. I hope you get your bfp very soon.

mrsB LOVE that quilt set. (whispers - you know you?re not recommended to use quilts ?til they?re one year old don?t you)

MrsJ very, very cute pictures.

jw ta for the info. Sounds like a tough one with your boy but at least you found a way to live with it.

finally got back on the PC after PIL have left for home after an 11 day stay. Dd is going to be devastated when they're not here tomorrow (although she did wave them off this evening). They are really lovely and very chilled - but it is great to get the house back to ourselves. Off now to flop on the sofa wearing PJs .... go to the loo with the door open and leave dirty cups in the kitchen sink for more than a few hours!

bonzo no I didn't know that - eek! but thanks for telling me! I take it there's a great risk of suffocation? He does like to sleep with his blanket over his face too.

Well we are all at home today - and the cross is painted on the door - me and OH full of cold so not going to inflict it on our workmates. It's a shocker this - I have had more colds in the past month than in the previous 5 years.

Hope all are well and the situation has improved at jjs emporium of lurgy

OOh mrsb slap your legs young lady! I haven't got a quilt for that reason although I've seen lots that I'd love to use. Just blankets and a sheet still until she's one. Strangely, K sleeps with her taggie blankie on her face too. I usually go in and take it off once she's asleep.

bonzo I'm the same as you re leaving the loo door open. I think it's a hangover from when my older 3 were little and they used to want to come and chat to mummy while I was sat there DH and DSS just think I'm odd.

No chance of my PiL staying; MiL died last year and FiL is in a nursing home. Katherine hasn't even met her grandpa yet. I just can't take her to the home as it's always got some bug or another going around. And sometimes there's a notice on the door saying no visitors allowed due to gastro trouble. How can I possibly take her in there?! We don't bring him home on a sunday anymore either as his legs often give way (and he's about 17 stone) plus he's incontinent. I've got enough changing one bum and there's no way DH would do it It's a shame really.

Lordy mrsb You are having a crappy time of it aren't you? Maybe you both need to take a week off and get yourselves right before mixing with the great unwashed again. Do you have air con at work? That's often a great way to spread bugs around a building.

I'm off to beautify my gnashers for the dentist this morning. Hoping that I don't need any treatment. I had enough last time. I am going to ask him how much it would be for whitening though. B'day/anniversary present to myself. Well, my DH wont be bothering.

well I don't know where'd we 'd be without you lot sometimes the duvet will remain in its wrapping for six whole months...

jw what can you do? its a shame but there isn't any alternative at the moment is there. Hopefully he will still be around when K is a bit older and can be taken to visit him.

No air con at work - just a little germ factory here at home It is just another cold but I am a bit worried that having had three now in a row my immune system is compromised by knackeredness and it will keep happening. Need something like Echinacea that actually works.

Morning all.

I am feeling horrendous today. Totally nauseaous. Trying very hard not to throw up. So glad I'm off work for another week.

mrsb I didn't know that about quilts either!

What is the current view on cot bumpers? My mum totally freaked out when I said I was going to get one. I thought they were fine now so long as they were firmly attached? Or has that changed again? Why do I feel like the child should just sleep, on its back, on a hardwood floor?!?!?

tee cot bumpers are not recommended by FSID. I bought one and then read that the article I've compromised and bought one of these. K spins around in her cot and often has her head resting on the wooden bars so these bumpers are fab

Sorry you're feeling so crappy. Hopefully, one day soon, we'll all be on here at the same time and all be feeling brilliant! Hope that day comes very soon

mrsb I take echinacea. It does work but make sure you get a quality brand as the cheaper ones you end up taking numerous tablets instead of just the one.

Thanks JW that looks like a great compromise. I could think about was the poor little thing hitting its head on the cot rails!

I used to take Echinacea but I read that research had found it didn't work.

tee maybe that's why people say to put them sleeping in a drawer...

Poor you lot with all those germs. Hope you all feel better soon.

jw that airflow thingie looks great. Was a bit unsure on the bumpers thangs but that does the trick.
Shame about your PIL. Mine are so much fun and great with M. They're in their 70's but really fit and active. Took M to see her Great-Grandad yesterday - he's 91+ and still in his own home - so a real champion and really lucky. M thought his budgie was brilliant.

MrsB - glad I mentioned about the quilt. Didn't know whether to or not. If it's going to be sitting in its bag for 6 months ... I can look after it for you if you like

thanks again bonzo I freely admit that I consider myself a first -timer in all but name- with the gap being so big between D and my older son and so many things have changed - I'm sure there's lots I don't know. I have only just discovered that we are advised not to give babies cow's milk before 1 year because it is lower in nutrients and NOT because it is really really bad for them like I have always thought! I was wondering what all these babies custards and yoghurts were made of if it wasn't milk.

mrsb I wasn't going to give K cows milk before a year old anyway. I've always had the follow on milk for my older ones back in the olden days too. Back then they had SMA Progress which they had from 6 months to 1 year old. Not sure what I'll do with the milk K is on. It's on prescription and it's Cow & Gate Nutriprem 2. If there is a follow on milk or she'll just stay on this until she's a year old. I'll have to ask her consultant I guess.

The Airflow wrap is lovely. A great find recommended on Bambino Goodies website. I had a cot bumper for all of my older 3 and surprisingly, they all lived to tell the tale I'm not risking anything though and will fall happily for any old marketing ploy that says otherwise.

mrsb I'm a bit like you that we had our older ones back in the days when you just licked their dummy if it fell on the floor and were told to put them to sleep on their front or side. I just feel sometimes that the powers that be are trying to reinvent the wheel. I mean babies do survive and have done for centuries and now we're getting worried about germs and quilts and organic socks I'm just as bad I'm afraid

mrsb I'm also steering away from eggs. It's what I did with my older ones. Also my 4 year old nephew cannot even go near eggs. My sister gave him an egg when he was 6 months old and he went into anaphylactic shock. Other than that, she'll be crawling around picking up dirt, fluff and dog hair soon enough and be fine, I'm sure

Oh Oh! claps hands. No dental treatment here. And there was none for DH too when he went last week. Methinks the Sonicare is paying for itself already