Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part VII - Gusset Reporters and Knicker Checkers welcome

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oooh, I do love a new thread

only about 2 hours to go.

I've been deperately trying to find out more re the chances of things being OK if they find a heartbeat. THe problem is that I think most of the research will be based on "average" pregnancies - so no individual information about the chances of everything being OK if a heartbeat AND you've had previous history of mc? I would love Dr (or mw) to say "there's a heartbeat - chances are x that everything will be ok" - but I don't think that's going to happen!

off to have a cup of tea (what IS a COMFORTABLY full bladder anyway??)

Littlepolly - Glad everything went as ok as these things can. Take care of yourslef and good luck.

Scarlotti - great news on your scan !

Lal - good luck today.

Ashleigh - congrats on finding out about your little boy. Lovely.

Bunny - so sorry to hear about your infection but so pleased you're all ok now. How scary.

crunch - good idea on taking the letters - hope your next session goes better.

I think we have another baby arriving today... as its St Patrick's Day I think Tsom is going in for her c-sec today. Good luck !

Lal good luck, our sonographer was helpful at our 7 week 4 day scan and actually told us the percentage but for the life of me i cannot remember what it is.. she got her little book out to have a look, but obviously still said there is still X chance that you could miscarry etc. I hope you have a wonderful time.

Thanks Wheely - i am VERY excited but equally nervous.. i have got a niece but no nephews and i know this sounds silly but being a very girly girl... I dont know what boys like... partner is Arsenal season ticket holder so i imagine... he'll be into the football!ha!

17 weeks today and 2nd midwife appointment, i didnt think i'd get this far.. my confidence grows every day xx

Lal there is no such thing as a comfortably full bladder IME will be thinking of you. Good luck.

ashleigh good to hear you sound so positive, boys are great - I have one who is caring and sweet and one who dives into everything headfirst

Wheely how're you and Lara doing? You must be shattered.

TSOM hope that little one is popping out as we speak. Can't wait for more good baby-news

Hi everyone,
Haven't been on here before but feel in need of support.
I have a nine week viability scan on Thursday because of my two last pregnancies ending in mc.
I am so scared and worried there will be no heartbea adn am analysing every twinge!
I bled with all my mcs (3 in total). Do you think it's a good sign that I haven't bled? (thus far). Or am I just as liely as anyone to have a non-viable pg even without bleeding.
Am sick with worry.

Gateau welcome. The waiting is so horrible. I think any difference can be a good sign. I can completely empathise with analysing every little ache or pain. I can only offer a shoulder from afar and wish you all the luck in the world for Thursday. x

Thank you crunch.
Very kind words.

wheely How utterly marvellous. I bet you just can't believe it. And what a lovely name. I was thinking of Florence for mine - it was my nanna's name... don't think the baby boy would appreciate it greatly, however.

Crunch - I do feel for you. You must be feeling very abandoned. I have a feeling all will be well, and he's in a maelstrom of confusion. But stick to your guns.

All you girls waiting for scans, it really is the most nerve-wracking business. I was always convinced they'd gone wrong, all through this pregnancy, but keep the faith - for those that don't know, I've had five MCs, and am now 25 weeks, so hold on!

As for me, it appears I've got SPD. Very painful groin, sometimes when I'm not even moving. Having physio today, but afraid about what it will be like if it gets worse. Already have to walk incredibly slowly, and keep finding googles about women ending up in wheelchairs...

Ash - the longer you can put off disney princess the better IMO !! We have just realised that wiht a 4 yr age gap just as DD1 will be growing out of princesses, dd2 will be growing into them.... sigh.... At least we know what we're in for !

Crunch - shattered yes, but its worth it

Gateau - hugs. Its such a hard time for you. Good luck for your scan. I would think you cna take some comfort from no bleeding. Hope you can relax a little bit soon (although I didn't stop worrying all the way through - even the day she was born I was analysing every movement to check she was still moving...).

That's just like me at the moment Wheelybug. Even DH keeps asking me if nipper is moving. The worry doesn't seem to stop after mc, although it does lessen a smidge.

Kickboxing is a more accurate description of her movements at the mo! Can't believe there's only 9 days until edd now. Although of course it could be waaaaay later.

I'm plumping for April 1st cos it's our wedding anniversary!

BTW - Florence is going to be her middle name as it is/was both our mums middle names too

Can I just say to everyone waiting for scans, it isn't the nicest experience, but you can have good news. I remember having to wait in the same waiting room as before after getting pg again. During that time I watched three poor women coming out obviously having been told what we were the first time, and when I was ushered into the very same room I was told in before I was convinced it would be bad.

I couldn't believe it when I saw our then tiny little jellybean with a heartbeat at just over 7 weeks, and when DH and I got into the corridor afterwards it was all we could do to stay upright holding on to each other crying.

Hopefully in the next couple of weeks he'll be flat on the floor with me having punched him during labour .

Good news here too - just had my scan and measuring 8+2, with a strong heartbeat. Told to just contact my GP for normal booking in as everything seems fine

Guess its time to tell the prospective grannies! (Least it gets me out of a dreaded night out on Friday!!!)

Gateaux - I know how you are feeling - I'd take the not bleeding to be a good sign - all the best for your scan.

Delighted for you lal. You must be so relieved.

well - of course I'm pleased - but I don't think I'll be relieved until I have another baby in my arms. DP asked if this meant I could stop putting my hands in my knickers every 10 mins - I told him it meant I could cut it down to every 20.

lal that is brilliant news! I am very happy for you And you're past the dreaded 8 week mark too.

lal fabulous news on your scan! So understand how you feel now though on the relief front. It's only been a day since my scan and already I'm paranoid again

I think I'm going to book in for a private scan around the 8-9 week mark, unless I can convince my midwife to give me one on the nhs when I see her next week.

Gateau you're in good company here. We all understand your worries and concerns. I'd say that the lack of bleeding is a very good sign. Try and not drive yourself too mad between now and your scan. I'm about 6+4 so in the early stages too.

herby fingers crossed it's not spd, or if it is you can find a way to manage it. I didn't know what spd was, so made the mistake of googling it Now it's become something else for me to worry about getting, as if I didn't have enough as it was.

lal just found the following stats on my searching mission (was looking for a local scanning place)

At 6 weeks gestation 78% of pregnancies in which a fetal heart beat is identified, will continue to term.
At 8 weeks gestation 98% of pregnancies in which a fetal heart beat is identified, will continue to term.
At 10 weeks gestation 99.4% of pregnancies in which a fetal heart beat is identified, will continue to term.

Hope that gives a little more reassurance

Hi Everyone, just a quickie to say congrats to ashleigh a lovely little boy thats great news.

Congrats to you too lal123

Will have to catch up and read back a few pages so much seems to have happened since I was last on here.

Lal congratulations on your scan result! It?s such a relief isn?t it? And you really cracked me up with your pants fiddling comment ? don?t think I?ve ever been so obsessed with what?s going on in there in my life! I?m like a small boy ....

Scarlotti thanks so much for unearthing those stats ? very helpful, where did you find them?

Crunch been thinking of you a lot, hope you manage to resist socking the Relate counsellor (sp?) in the chops at your next session , I think bringing the letters is a good idea. Really hope it all works out for the best for you.

Herby bad news on the SPD ? have you talked about it with your MW? Really feel for you as it?s bad enough being a paranoid knicker checker without a whole other set of worries to obsess about.

Gateau welcome ? and I agree, not bleeding is more than likely a good sign. Fingers crossed for your scan on Thursday.

Ashleigh congrats on your blue flavoured baby! How cute that he was proudly displaying his bits!

Bunny I?m so sorry to hear about your infection and happy you?re recovering ? well done for getting yourself to A+E despite rubbish advice hope it all goes smoothly from now on in.

Now ? any news from Lola? And what about TSOM - fingers crossed a baby is emerging right now! As for me I?m 14 weeks today! Have got to the sort of shape and size where colleagues are looking at me funny so may well have to go official about it soon. Can?t shake the feeling that would be tempting fate somehow though.

Hi to everyone else ? hope everyone?s bean stays safe.

Woo hoo, Scarlotti, good to see I didn't just pull that 2% figure out of my arse... Am waiting until I'm closer to eight weeks to try to beg for a viability scan from my doc.

Herby, I had SPD with my son - it was horrible, but it DID go away straight after the birth. Try to keep your knees together when getting in and out of bed and in and out of the car and for the love of God, don't do breaststroke kick when swimming (no clever advice when it comes to stairs, though!)

tsom - hope everything went well for you today ? am very excited about another birth announcement!

lal that?s fabulous news about your scan; it all sounds good to me. LOL at you fiddling with your pants, what mc does to us eh? I had to invest in quilted toilet paper I was so obsessed with knicker checking and wiping , also couldn?t wait to have a play with the hired Doppler and had to try and look inconspicuous in the car outside the Royal Mail delivery office . Hope you had a lovely time telling the prospective grannies.

scarlotti the early stages are so slooooooow, hope you get another scan in a couple of weeks, early scans definitely kept me slightly saner during this pg. Sending you positive sticky vibes.

herby poor you with SPD, hope it?s not too painful and you?re able to rest when you can.

yknotc how are you? Is your next relate session Thurs? I hope the days aren?t too dark and lonely for you just now, are your 2 gorgeous boys providing a good distraction?

gateau welcome and here?s to a long and uneventful stay. No bleeding is definitely a good sign. I?m on my 4th pg after 3mc?s so miracles can happen. Hope it?s the same for you. Good luck for Thurs. Use us to air your worries, we all understand having been there ourselves.

grinning OMG you?re so close to giving birth!! My DH also asks regularly about movements ? I suppose our worry is abated slightly by feeling the gymnastics going on in our tummy whereas they have to rely on us to reassure them. No punching allowed in labour though ? remember you?ll need him in the weeks after!!!

I?m now 35+1wks, have only 3 more working days till mat leave and am so looking forward to finishing work now. I feel like I?ve been pg forever ? 4 pg?s in last 18mths I feel like I?ve constantly been pg!! It?s funny but I?m still petrified about jinxing things and am terrified of baby shopping. I really need to go out next week and get stuff for hospital bag otherwise I?ll be wandering round the supermarket in labour. I wish I knew if this is definitely a boy but at growth scan last week he/she had her ankles crossed and was not in an exhibitionist mood, DH doesn?t want to know so I chickened out asking, I only have an unconvinced consultants word from the 20wk scan to go on. Oh well I suppose it stops me buying clothes just now!

Hope everyone else is well

Hi, new here. 7 weeks pregnant after miscarriage last december. This time around I've been sick, tired, sore boobed, bloated - everything a pregnant lady has a right to expect. Last time never really felt much more than sore boobs so have been relishing the sudden runs to the loo and gagging mid conversation!
But yesterday afternoon bright red blood, like a period but very heavy and clots. I'm clinging on to straws like "but there's no pain" and "its stopped now" not to mention "still fell sick" and "boobs hurt like hell."
But....

sydneysuze I will try not to sock her, but I can always pretend it's the hormones. Not overly optimistic about Relate. H went a bit nuts last night, ended up headbutting the wall and storming out (without the dcs)

Haven't heard from him since. Keep telling myself he's not my responsibility anymore. But it's hard.

scotlass my boys are being adorable there are good days and bad days, but we're coping. 35 weeks on Saturday (why does 5 weeks to go seem a lot less than 6 weeks to go?). I've got my scan on the 2nd so I'm really hoping baby will confirm (or deny) she's a she.

Hello to everyone else.

tattifer are you ok? Have you spoken to GP or EPU?

Hello Crunch
Yes, I spoke to midwife last night (very lucky, its a small practice so same lady) and she's calling this morning for and update and presumably arrange an early scan (cue impending sense of doom and deja vu..)
Ah well

Morning all,
Tattifer, hope the bleeding amounts to nothing negative.
Wel this time tomorrow I'll be sitting in the hospital - my legs firmly crossed - (They always say my bladder is almost TOO full!) waiting for the scan!
Am analysing every twinge and ache. Last night I got an ache on one side and then later on, on the other and I was convinced that was it - again. DH and I were so glum.
That's what happened last time I mc'ed. I got cramping and then I started to bleed later that night.
No bleeding thus far, though - touch wood!
Is cramping okay as long as it's not accompanied by bleeding?