Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part VII - Gusset Reporters and Knicker Checkers welcome

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oooh, I do love a new thread

I'm just ignoring my own situation - works for now and hopefully Monday will bring good news, otherwise it's going to be a long way to fall.

Hang in there - won't be long now before your lo arrives and then you won't have any time to dwell on it all so much - sometimes it's not good having time to think.

scarlotti you are a wonder. Sending very sticky thoughts to your little one right now.

Too much time to think is definitely bad.

I'm feeling much better now. You've helped me so much today, I can't thank you enough.

Thanks for posting the thread, just to repeat myself tho.....

I'm just over 18 weeks pregnant, and things seem to be going well. Im suffering with some minor stomach pains but my MW assures me it can be normal.

I just cant help thinkin something will go wrong as Ive had 5 miscarriages in the past. I have never had a pregnancy exceed 12 weeks so this is completely new to me!!

I just cant help getting worked up and worried that the past is gonna repeat itself.

Can anybody please give me relax with some advice or experiences. I am very much appreciativeto anyone who can help

You're very welcome itsallnewtome

Stomach pains are very common as everything moves and stretches. If you start to get period type cramps that get stronger and are regular then it would be worth getting to a MW to ensure all is well, but as I said other aches and pains are normal.

Are you having a scan soon?

Yeah, ive got my anomoly scan next week 20/03.

Its just nerve racking waiting till then to know everything is okay

It certainly is, and everyone expects you to be so happy and excited about being pregnant - which you are, but you can't let yourself be happy because it's so far to fall if the worst happens. Feel free to air any worries at all here.

Will have my fingers crossed for your scan next week.

Oh Crunch I really feel for you ? cannot believe the counsellor was so subjective ? especially as you are clearly sitting there pregnant and vulnerable. Am v.angry on your behalf. I thought Relate was supposed to help not reinforce previous out of order behaviour? Grrrr.

Scarlotti I?m pleased to hear your spotting has stopped. It?s always so awful when you?ve had a mc before to see any kind of blood, so great that this sounds like a bit of cervical erosion and good lovin' , nothing more. Are you Rhesus Neg? I am and my midwife reminded me today that after 12 weeks if there is any kind of blood at all it is important to get Anti-D.

Welcome to Knicker Checkers Anonymous Itsallnew and congratulations on your pregnancy! As Crunch says, stomach pains are common ? just think of all your organs shifting around to make room as your baby grows! Your digestion also slows down quite a bit so that can cause discomfort too.

I had a lovely midwife?s appointment today ? no scan but blissful relief to hear the baby?s heart beating. She has said I can go back every week if I want to ? I feel very lucky to have such an understanding MW. Must be because she?s an Aussie too!

Hugs to all the rest of you ? off to grab giant box of Kleenex and lock wallet safely away before Comic Relief.....

crunch anytime sweetie

Itsallnew welcome to our thread - let all your neuroses out here, you're in good company

sydneysuze not rhesus neg so no worries on the anti-d injection. It is strange how any blood can set us off isn't it - I even wore white pants today so I could monitor the situation exactly! Now how warped is that

Sitting here watching comic relief - as if my hormones didn't make me weepy enough I'm now listening to how awful some others have it. I am a glutton for punishment!

Morning ladies

Suze Great news on the appointment, your MW sounds lovely . I'm really hoping it's going to become clearer in the second session, but if not then perhaps Relate is not for us. I got a really pretentious e-mail from H talking about how he really wanted to avoid simplifying things for the counsellor into "aggressor/victim" with him as the "aggressor" and that's why he'd stressed all my faults and excused all his behaviour

It kind of felt like the nail in the coffin.

I had a horrendous night (putting H to one side). SPD left me literally unable to move in the middle of the living room and screaming in pain. Luckily ds1 was there and he got my crutches for me otherwise I would still be there. That boy has been a complete star. He was so sweet as I apologised for crying. He's going through so much at the moment. Thank goodness ds2 is too young to really understand.

Then I had a sort of leak that I'm still not sure if it was my waters breaking or just very watery discharge (sorry for the TMI ). My stomach definitely feels smaller, so either baby has descended or it was waters. Baby is still active. I'm seeing MW on Monday anyway so unless it becomes obvious that it was waters I'll talk to her then. But obviously added to the panic.

My hips are a lot more painful than they were and I can no longer bend down at all (so toys are lying where they've fallen). No one to call to come and help I think I might bribe ds1 to help - don't want him to feel put upon though.

So all in all, not at my best.

pops nose round door looking for any news from wheely........

I'm a recent (well 19 weeks ) graduate...where has the time gone????? I've missed a load of births on here as well...wmmc, dbno, Jackstini,
KD73, dan39, Bunnyinheadlights big big congrats, and good luck to the imminent arrivals. crunch, so sorry to read about things with yoour DH . I hope you are doing OK.

congrats on all the pregnancies and wishing everyone all the very best . This thread rocks and I'm loving the addition of gusset reporters in the title

Fin is doing great, after a decidedly rocky start with colic and nocturnal habits. We are all a bit poorly at the minute though with viral this and that and I had my gallbladder out on Thursday so am catching up on lots of old news as laid up resting...(ha ha withh three kids and a poorly DH )

take care
daisy xx

crunch so sorry to hear you're having a rough day today. To heck with the toys, as long as you can flip them out of your path with your crutch I wouldn't worry about it Your ds1 sounds like a star.
Maybe you could have a nice day with them instead of thinking about the email and relate (who quite frankly should focus on you next session) - am not sure how little movement you have with your spd, but maybe you could do a carpet picnic for lunch, followed by all cuddling up with a movie on the sofa (if ages of ds' allow)

Daisy - great that Fin is coming on so well. Hope you all get through the illnesses soon, never fun with little ones in the mix.

scarlotti sounds like a plan How are you doing today?

Daisy always nice to hear from the graduates Hope you all feel better soon, and you're managing to rest.

Oh my goodness I?ve missed so much on this thread, it?s taken me ages to catch up!

Think the 4am party stint caught up on me this week and am now struggling to sleep due to hellish heartburn. To top it off I now have a streaming cold and flu so feel rubbish. Never mind, I?m so grateful to be pg and am wishing the next 5 wks away. Had a growth scan yesterday as was paranoid my bump is too neat ? only to be told the baby is actually on the large side ? eek! Am now thinking OMG how am I going to push it out (have bad memories from last labour experience 10yrs ago). Bonus was got a lovely picture of the babies face, front on, it?s weird seeing a perfectly formed sleeping babies face, I still can?t quite seem to relax and let myself think it?ll be all right though.

YKNOTC so sorry to hear the relate counselling wasn?t much help to you. Perhaps it?ll feel like it gets worse before it gets better? Your DH can?t carry on taking no responsibility and if he?s not going to listen, digest and act on what you?re saying perhaps it is better for you to be more formal with the break. Thing is you?ve got so much else going on at the moment (hormones really can?t be helping, SPD and looking after the kids) perhaps you need to take a bit of a step back and concentrate on getting through the pg and make it clear at the next counselling session you?re entitled to be cautious when you?ve had your hopes dashed in the past. Whatever happens, just know you?re not alone and we?re here for you.

scarlotti I hope you?re doing OK. As the others have said brown blood is not always a sign of the end. I had it with DD and also this pg, my 3 mc?s the small amount of bleeding I had was always red.

itsallnewtome congratulations and welcome. As you can tell the neurosis just carries on through the pg and at nearly 35wks I?m still a nervous wreck! I have tried to accept there?s no control over the situation and focus on the next milestone each time. I did hire a Doppler and found it helped during the second trimester but others would say otherwise and say dopplers are more of a worry.

wheely can?t wait to hear the news!! Will def be checking late on.

ronny and daisy it?s lovely to hear from you guys, you were such an inspiration in the deep dark days of mc and 1st trimester pg to me, I hope you?re enjoying your little bundles.

I love having my DH home but it?s seriously interfering with my mumsnet time!!

crunch and scotlass - am feeling quite positive about it all today. Spotting was short lived and brown. I was the same as scotlass in that both my m/c were bright red.
Managing to keep occupied too, so Monday's scan will be here before I know it.

Am hoping that I can convince the EPU that they will need to see me again after Monday as am not sure my sanity will cope with waiting another 6 weeks for the dating scan. Not that I want to waste nhs resources though obviously!

scarlotti very pleased to hear that spotting hasn't happened again. Not long until Monday now, still got my fingers crossed for you.

scotlass thanks. We are very much stuck until he starts to take responsibility for all he has done. He's just been round. We had a long talk - which he started with the words "But this situation can't be simply because of my actions, it takes two to make a relationship work"

Sadly he then revealed that he has lied to me this week (which I kind of already knew) and broken the only promise he had left unbroken

After a long pause I told him that I thought that under the circumstances we should make this a proper split. I've taken off my wedding ring

Tomorrow will be a better day - it has to be.

Hello ! I'm back and very pleased to announce Lara Florence was born on Thurs 12th at 3.42pm weighing in at 7 lbs 1oz.

I think you know most of hte birth story but we were quite lucky in the end - went into hospital at 1 and we didn't have to wait too long at all. Found the prep for the c-sec quite stressful (hadn't been entirely with it last time) and was in tears but actually wasn't anywhere near as bad as I'd thought. We had the screen lowered when she was delivered so found out the sex ourselves which was nice.

Was then on recovery until 3am because my temp was slightly raised and they deicded to run tests. THurned out I had a slight urine infection. FInally got to the ward (which in my hospital is private rooms which is quite nice) at 3.

Not had much sleep since - Lara seems to have night and day a bit mixed up. For those who are worried about sorting out bfing second time round - so far things are going relatively well although v. early days and finding it stressful as no idea what she's taking.

Feel a bit weak and watery now I'm home but guess its only been 48 hours and probably need to sit down a bit.

Will try and catch up probably tomorrow - although I see Crunch needs a good old hug.

She's got an absolutely lovely name, Wheelybug! I'm glad that you had a nice section experience, I've heard that the elective section can be very calm compared to the crash.

Congrats, and good luck with the day/night thing.

wheely big congratulations and welcome to Lara, that's a lovely name. You're entitled to feel weak and watery, remember not to over do things just cos you're home. Good luck with the bf'ing, hope she susses out night times sleep time and day time's for playing soon!

crunch wish we could take away some of the pain and stress you're having, stay strong - you'll come out the other end of all this a wiser woman I'm sure. Break ups are horrible - big hug for you xx

scarlotti fingers crossed sounds like the brown spotting may be nothing other than cervical erosion or hormonal. Good luck for your scan tomorrow and yes - DEMAND another reassurance scan in a couple of weeks - I think if they realise a 5min scan would help stabilise your emotional health hopefully they'll be sympathetic - it's a shame post mc pg care seems to vary so widely depending where you are.

Oh Wheely congratulations!
Lovely news and such pretty names. Well done you! Bet you do feel exhausted - give yourself a huge pat on the back (gently!) for all you've achieved. Smashing news.

wheely congratulations on little Lara's arrival, wonderful news

crunch well done on being so brave and telling him it's a clean break. I do think you'll feel better in the meantime for it. Big hugs to you

Thanks everyone !

Gilly - thanks so much for popping in. I hope you're on this thread soon - how's the ivf going ?? Big cheesy hugs to you.

crunch - hugs to you too. Sorry things have reached such a finality with dh. Do you think there is any hope or time to really move on ?

scarlotti - gladthe spotting seems to have calmed down.

Tamlin - yes, a planned sec was so much calmer. DH got to choose the music (I said 'whatever the surgeon likes is fine by me )), people were laughing and joking and chatting. Quite bizarre really !

Having had my heart set on a VBAC for so long, I had a bit of a weep before going in to theatre on DH but as soon as it was over and dd2 (!) was safe and well it couldn't have mattered less. A year ago we were coming to terms with the idea that dd1 might be our one and only and now we are so lucky to have 2 - 3 years in the making and worth every stress/worry/tear/test. I can't believe it really.

I've put a link to some facebook photos on my profile - they are bitmaps so I can't download them to MN. I will delete the link tomorrow or something if i remember !

Wheely that is fantastic news Beautiful pics of Lara. Hope you manage to get some sleep at some point. xxx

Wish I had better news here. Feel like I'm falling apart. I won't ever give up hope that my best friend will come home to me - but I wish I could

I feel so lost.

hi guys i dont know if any of you remember me, i havent been on here since about 10 weeks lol!
i am now 22 weeks, and thought i should report in as ive had my 23week scan.

got to go back in three weeks, as was told the baby had slighty to much water around it, and they want to rule out a problem.

how is everyone else? i see we have a few nearly ready to drop