Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part VII - Gusset Reporters and Knicker Checkers welcome

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oooh, I do love a new thread

Good luck wheely. Hope all goes well and looking forward to hearing good news shortly!

Welcome to the new arrivals and hurrah for a good scan Lola (bit late on that - sorry).

Thinking of you wheely - how exciting!

Good luck for your scan pootle. Ectopic must be so frightening and, of course, when anything goes wrong once you immediately assume some kind of long-term damage or jinx has occurred..... I'm trying not to worry myself silly each day that passes, but I'm failing miserably. You can read so much into symptoms and come out with any outcome. I'm much less queasy than I was (and I wasn't much) this past couple of days so I am worrying myself about it. And, having read your post Pootle I'm not concerned that a niggle in my LHS is now an ectopic. I just need to get a grip. And actually do some of the work that is drowning me at the moment rather than worrying. And be sedated and wake up when it's all ok like you said. I so hope there's a blob in the right place for you tomorrow

Self-help, this MN business!

wheely ooh exciting, good luck, update us when you can

bunny a belated congrats on the safe arrival of Carys, you mentioned you're having a rough week, hope things improving now?

polly, again a bit late in replying to your post from last week, I had an erpc eventually at the end of my 3rd mc, it had been dragging on for 2 weeks with bleeding but still rpoc. I felt ill and toxic, my joints ached and even my teeth - went to the dentist but nothing actually wrong with them. Felt much better as soon as erpc over and able to begin looking forward again. Hope things are progressing for you this week iyswim.

Just waiting for next tuesday and c/s here, lots of braxton hicks so got my mum to come y'day (she lives 5 hours away) as worried we may get caught short. Walking with a limp and have to crawl up the stairs, wonder if this means another big baby or is it just because I'm 4.5 years older than last time?? DH says I am all bump, but then helpfully added that on reflection my backside was also bigger.

Am back home ! Confirmed waters gone - although probably just hind waters although they're not sure. Won't do anything to hurry it due to previous c-sec so they told me to come home and if nothing happens I will be c-secd on Thurs. Head still high, cervix unfavourable so guess we're probably heading for c-sec (on mother in law's birthday as well - harumph). What a palaver !

Thanks for your support and kind words. I had another scan today. Last week they saw an empty sac - today they saw small yolk sac and fetal pole, no HB and sac still 2 weeks smaller than it should be. HCG levels 10k - have risen since last Thurs when they were 7k but obviously haven't nearly doubled. Doctor wants me to stop taking progesterone as he thinks this may be delaying a miscarriage. He wants to do another HCG level on Thurs and a progesterone test. Am tempted to continue with the progesterone but wondering if just delaying the inevitable. Had IVF which is why I'm on progesterone. Doctor said pregnancy will produce progesterone and stopping it for a couple of days won't make much difference as it's only a small supplement. Anyone else had a similar experience? TIA

extremelychocolatey sorry, no previous experience like yours here but just wanted to send some hugs and say I'm thinking about you.

wheely fingers crossed it works out the way you want. Just think how much you'll be in mil's good books if it arrives on her birthday ... and your lo's birthday will eclipse hers from now on!!

tsom thinking of you on your final wait

waves to everyone else

extremelychocolatey, that's really rough. I don't have any good advice, but I'm sorry.

pootle, I am just on six weeks, and also finding it hard to be hugely excited and optimistic. I keep feeling as if I'll jinx it.

extremely - I'm so sorry to hear your news - it must be horrible still not knowing one way or the other. Can you get a second opinion on the progesterone? I imagine you have enough anxiety already without this decision adding to it...

Thanks scarlotti, tamlin and cornflakegirl. I'm just going to continue with the progesterone and see what happens.

Thanks for that tsom ? yep, that's exactly how I'm feeling: "ill and toxic" and everything aching. I hope everything goes well for you in the next few days.

Well I'm booked in for the ERPC first thing tomorrow morning. We found out I was covered on DH's insurance to have it done privately, which I was really surprised by. Dreading it, but will be relieved when it's all over. I feel like I've already said goodbye to this baby and moved on emotionally. In fact, I've been sitting in bed this morning reading Zita West's Guide To Getting Pregnant, which is a little bizarre when I remind myself that technically this pregnancy is not over yet....

Wheely I'm really excited for you ? hope things work out well over the next couple of days ? not long til you'll be holding your new LO.

extremelychoclatey sorry I don't have any advice for you, but sending you lots of love and good wishes.

It's probably time for me to bow out of this thread now. Many, many thanks to all of you for your kind words and for sharing your experiences. Wishing you lots of luck and love. And I will be back....

Thanks LittlePolly and hugs back to you. Best of luck. I had a missed miscarriage in December 05 and had a little girl in August 07. I'm sure the same will happen for you.

extremelychocolatey so sorry you still don't have any answers I really feel for you.

Polly I hope tomorrow goes as smoothly as it can. Hope to see you back here soon. Don't be surprised if you are up and down over the next few weeks. Just remember that however you are feeling is the right way to feel - there are no rules. Look after yourself.

Wheely sorry it hasn't started the way you had hoped. Am willing that baby to dive dive dive as we speak

At least you know that by Friday you will have your little one. Shame about MILs birthday! Never mind. Just make sure you put your foot down on arrangements next year!

As for me, I started my counselling sessions this morning. Thought I could do with some support as obviously am feeling low and have a history of PND too so want to do all I can to avoid that. She was really nice. Amazing how much info you can get across in an hour.

But am now exhausted. Could happily fall asleep on my keyboard

extremely I had scans with my last mmc where the sac size increased between scans but with no fetal pole/hb/ys. No experience with progesterone though. Not having a definite answer from scans is really hard.

littlepolly thinking of you tomorrow, I found the erpc to be the least bad bit of the whole thing and felt better in myself as soon as I came round from the GA. I expect the morphine had something to do with it... Best of luck for the future and hope to see you back here soon

wheely goodluck for tomorrow - or sooner!

crunch Glad you are getting some counselling now and finding it helpful

I nearly had car rage in the supermarket car-park today when a woman in a two seater sports nipped into the last parents space ahead of me, I couldn't even catch up with her to berate her along the lines of "you do realise my babies head is nearly dropping out" as I couldn't walk fast enough from the parking space I had to then use miles away, grrr . I spent last night having period pains and sitting on my (half deflated) fitball. Asked dh to find the pump, he told me to stop faffing about on the ball as it was annoying .

tsom at your DH and stupid woman! You were perfectly in your rights to ram her and claim pregnancy-related-insanity! I love the ball - it's the only thing that's really comfy to sit on and wiggle Not long now for you either! Fingers crossed a week from now we'll have 2 more bouncing babies

Hi All - still here !

Extremely and polly - so sorry you're having to go through this. Good luck for the ERPC polly. keep in touch if/when you feel able.

Puts my moaning about things into perspective though. Nothing happening here - thought things were kicking off in the night but then I fell asleep so clearly not . So assume I will be in tomorrow for c-sec which isn't the end of the world.

Crunch - glad the counselling went well.

wheely moan away that's what I like about this thread, it covers normal pregnancy aches and pains as well as the emotional trauma and fear we all feel. I was so miserable when full term with ds2. Have you been out for a walk? Works wonders.

C-sec is not the end of the world at all - any healthy baby is a good resuly - but that doesn't mean you don't have a right to feel a bit sad about not having the birth you wanted. Still sending Dive Dive Dive thoughts your baby's way

Thanks Crunch - have been out for a walk - actually went to my eyebrow waxing and plucking appointment which I was worried I was going to miss last night. I told the girls at the salon, where I have been going for years, what had happened and they were shocked i was out of the house - hee hee. I think they were worried I was going to flood them out.

One bit of potentially good news on the c-sec front is that my hospital has reduced staying in times afterwards to 48-72 hours rather than the 72 hours+ when I had dd so fingers crossed I won't have to suffer hte hospital food for too long. Will try adn work out how to post from my mobile though so I cna update sooner.

wheely at flooding them out. Let's hope the eyebrow waxing is an undiscovered method of starting labour.

hello all! And huge belated congrats to wmmc - I missed saying it at the time as I have been so preoccupied with ds - unfortunately we have had a worrying start as he is gaining wieght very slowly and is still tiny. I would post a picture but he has a huge face full of spots as well so will wait till he is more photogenic.

Any news wheely?

wheely hang in there, not long to go now whichever way it ends up being.

crunch good on you with the counselling. I had some after ds as I also had pnd and found it so helpful. Have been back since too when I was finding things a bit tough.

polly good luck for tomorrow and hope to hear from you again soon.

tsom at the lady in the car park! That really riles me - a pet hate!
Told my dh about your ball and pump and he laughed I suspect I'll be getting just as much support if/when I get to that stage

tamlin and pootle am on 5.5 weeks now and still worrying every day as to whether I'll make the second trimester.
Although today I've felt so sick that I've forgotten to worry ifykwim.

waves to everyone else

Waves at DBNO - lovely to see you ! Thanks everyone for your kind wishes - looking like it'll be in theatre tomorrow. Feel nervous now but have come to terms with the idea.

Will be on asap with news....

Thank you so much for your welcome and understanding posts, I feel very at home here

So sorry to hear of those of you having a hard time at the moment, thinking of you x

I had my scan today and all is well so far . Am 5 weeks so probably a few days behind Scarlotti and need a scan in a couple of weeks to check growth and for a HB, but for the moment it is as good as it can be. I haven't had any bleeding today either, so am feeling a teeeensy bit more positive (think it hasn't quite sunk in that it's not an ectopic yet!) but as DH said, we need not consider that again in this pg!

Good luck wheely thinking of you x

Thanks for your post hobnob - you're another day done now !! I think we have to allow ourselves a bit of neurosis - maybe we should patent the "1st trimester sedation system?"

wheely will be thinking about you all day today. Wishing you all the luck in the world. Thank you so much for all the support you have shown me lately, it really has made a difference.

Pootle So glad your scan went well your DH is quite right, what a good way to put it. That's the first obstacle out of the way, fingers crossed for an uneventful pregnancy.

scarlotti hope the MS isn't too awful (this is the only thread where I wouldn't wish it away for you It really can be an odd comfort) and time passes quickly. Funny to think that as you hit your second trimester I'll be graduating from the 3rd (fingers crossed for all of us)

dbno nice to see you! Sorry you've had a worrying time, you're welcome back whenever you feel like popping in.

Hope everyone else is well this morning.

Good luck Wheely. Just think after two years of heartbreak and frustration, you will have your beautiful baby in your arms today. How fantastic.