Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part VII - Gusset Reporters and Knicker Checkers welcome

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oooh, I do love a new thread

extremelychocolatey - at 7 weeks I measured a few days out although they did detect a heartbeat but it remained inconclusive until 10 weeks when they decided that my dates must be a couple of days out. Although by 13 weeks they were put back to what we thought. I don't want to give you false hope but there is such a difference in development from one day to next at that stage that a couple of days out on ovulation date can mean a big difference in development. Sorry you're having to go through this.

Crunch - lots of braxton hicks here for the last week in the evenings, getting stronger (enough to make me stop what I'm doing) but not sure how much of a sign this is or whether it could go on for weeks and weeks. I didn 't go into labour last time so have no experience myself ! I'm thinking at least my body is showing some idea of knowing what to do.

Thanks wheelybug - will keep my fingers crossed.

extremelychocolatey no experience, but thinking of you, fingers crossed here too.

Wheely sounds promising Hope it's sooner for you, rather than later. Although it's always a bit sad to wave goodbye to the graduates (sad in a really, really happy way you're just missed is all)

extremeltchocolately No experience here either but am hoping that everything works out for you.
Daisy How exciting for you . Lots and lots of luck.
ashleigh Excellent news. You can start to relax now. Congratulations!
Hobnob I'm going to wait until about 8/9 weeks before my booking in appointment. I did visit GP but asked her not to give me my notes just yet. Don't panic about work - you've got a long time before you're supposed to inform them.
Youknownothing So sorry to hear what you're going through. It's such a difficul time for you and I hope the next weeks pass as smoothly as possible with the best result for all of you.
Cece Poor u! Hope your rep can provide you with the answers you need.
Scarlotti We've only told my parents and my sister for the moment. It wa slovely having the support of our friends after the m/c but it broke my heart and I felt like I'd let everyone down (stupid I know!). Fingers crossed for early scan.
Scotlass I bet you're counting down the days...You DP sounds lovely
Fozzie Excellent news from your scan too.
Lola Have already replied to you. Don't worry lovely. All is going to be fine xx
Glimmer Lots and lots of luck to you for NT.
Sazstar How did it go today? Am keeping everything crossed for good news.
Dan Lots of luck with the breastfeeding. My DD used to make dreadful faces - am sure it was because my milk flow was very fast as she began to feed and she got a bit choked...as your supply regulates I'm sure this wil change.

Hope everyone else is ok.

I've been having a bit of a panic day again today. They seem to come every few days. I've poked my boobs constantly to check they are still sore, sat very still to feel for cramping etc but am starting to feel sick. Do have a bit of backache though but have had that on and off since before BFP when we were away and sleeping on a dodgy bed...Just have to keep hoping for a sticky bean.
Have scan on Friday when I'll be 5+6. Has anyone had a scan at this time? What did you see?

Hi Sparkly. My first scan this time was at exactly 5 weeks 6 days - have just double checked the printout and we saw a gestational sac and a yolk sac. It also says 'uncertain viability' but please don't let that freak you out if you get that on Friday, it just means bean is too small to see the heartbeat. We had a second scan at 8+3 and there was not a dry eye in the house when we saw the heartbeat as I thought I had MCed again at 6 weeks. Good luck for Friday - I've got my nuchal scan on the same day, will be thinking of you

Quick post after my panic yesterday () managed to see a mw at the local health centre this evening, and heard hb striaght away, no probs

Sparkly only 3 days to go - you too sydney What times are your appointments?

That is one if the nicest things about this thread imo, someone says - for example - 'has anyone had a scan at 5+6?' and an hour later someone replies 'yes, I have, and this is what happened' Invaluable

chocolate really hope things work out for you. How sure are you of your dates? As others have said, ovulation a couple of days later than you think then late implantation can make all the difference at this stage. Be very wary of reading too much into hcg readings though, 1 in 5 women whose hcg levels don't do what they should go on to have a healthy pg. Think that's why some hospitals refuse to monitor them. Have they offered you another scan in a week or so?

Daisy I keep thinking about a doppler, but if I had one I know I'd just use it all the time! At least this way I've managed to make it 12 days since the last listen, no way I'd manage that if it was actually in the house Things sound very promising for you, can't wait for your good news!

You too Wheely! Very excited for you! xx

Can't remember who suggested it, but I think a 'kicker checkers rehabilitated' post natal thread is a great idea, what does everyone else reckon? Hate losing touch with everyone once they graduate - though maybe they're glad to see the back of us

Hello!

Good news - am over the moon!

Looks like all is well so far. Had a really bad sickness day today which I am sure was partly affected by nerves, but the scanning lady managed to find bub and a good strong heartbeat. Measuring in at 2cm and 8 wks 4 days (I thought i would be 8 + 2 so not far off)

Life has felt on pause since november so am really pleased that we are now back on track (and even better, I am two weeks passed when I had my mmc)
YEAY!

The private scanning place was really good and felt much better than being in hospital - I was dreading the wait on the horrible plastic chairs, whereas this time it felt more like waiting for a hair appointment.

Hubby had the "aaaargh no!" face and was shaking his head when we first got something up on screen, but she quickly turned on the two tone colour thing to show the heartbeat which was amazing. He thought that there wasn't anything there (it is really hard to see as it is just a little outline in grainy black and white)

He is now sat beaming and chatting away to his mum on the phone.

First mw appt on Weds next week which seems v. early (only 9 weeks) - do they check for heartbeat with doppler thing as a matter of course? have just been reading back on the threads and didn't know they did this.

Final yeay - I get to hang around with you guys a bit longer (and can start counting down to the 12 wk scan)

Thanks for all your support and well wishing again. It helps so much to know you guys are out there and available to talk whenever

PS sorry - pressed enter before I meant to

Lola - glad you are ok

Sparkly - my sickness only really kicked in at 6 weeks so wouldn't worry too much

Extremelychocolatey - hope your next scan is more positively conclusive. Keep your chin up in the meantime - keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Thanks very much for all of your replies-they are reassuring. I am pretty sure of my dates but I guess ovulation is hard to pinpoint exactly. It's also good to know that HcG levels not always a great indicator of what's going on. Fingers crossed for the scan on Thursday.

daisy and sparkly thanks for kind thoughts - all reassurance welcome, just taking it a day at a time at the moment.

sparkly symptoms are always different. Had no morning sickness or any real symptoms with ds1, ds2 some MS, SPD plenty of niggles, this time, very little MS, but huge boobs and occasional cramping early on. The only time I had bad MS and all the "normal" pregnancy symptoms I had a missed miscarriage at nearly 14 weeks. There are no rules about how we will feel it seems.

Sazstar that's great news I was 8 weeks 4 days for my first scan with this one too, now 32 weeks and 5 days - seems like only yesterday (only in hindsight though, at the time it felt like it would take forever )

More babies on the horizon Come on ladies!

extremelychocolatey hope you're ok today, the waitingis tough.

lola it's always good news when we're worrying through neuroticism rather than anything being wrong Pleased things are ok.

Good morning all... Sazstar Congratulations to you!!! I am happy we both had positive outcomes less than a day apart.. I definitely know what you mean about private clinics, although i am reminded often that you get what you pay for! Congratulations again and I hope, like me, you'll notice SUCH a drastic change from one picture to the next! we're 15 weeks and the baby is 9.4cm and when we were 8 weeks 3 days baby was still teeeny tiny 2cm or something similar.. I had my first m/w appointment at 12 weeks - it was just to receive the pack and talk about any issues and family history on health.. No doppler until my 16/17 week appointment. Good luck with it all.

Extremelychocolatey I am sorry that you're in this 'waiting' position - I have no experience myself but i hope you do have a very positive outcome, as youknownothing said, the waiting is tough. I am pleased Lola knew some facts - another reason why this thread is so brilliant.. always someone who knows that fact you're unaware of.

Sparkly as we all know, the symptoms vary from person to person, my boobs were only sore until 9 weeks when I was convinced i was going to m/c fortunately i have had constant evening sickness since around 7 weeks (still continuous) so I try and look at that positively.. I am not sure what you will see at your scan, however I hope it goes well for you...

Daisy & Wheeley you will soon be graduates.. I am SO excited to hear all about your birthing stories and I am pleased that you are still writing on here etc.. On other threads you so often see someone posting the odd once or twice... but here.. we're dedicated to getting through the journey together..

Anyway thank you to all that congratulated me on my scan.. these scans are all that keep me positive.. only 1 week on Saturday until I see the little one again.. oh and we find out whether its a little pink baby or little blue baby.

Have a lovely day girls xx

Hi everyone just popping in to say hello - I love this thread. It's so warm and cosy Hope I can join soon, though will have to concentrate more on my cycle in order to do so, since the MC has whacked it right out of all recognition.

Well done everyone who has just had successful scans. It's so lovely and encouraging to read those posts. My fingers and toes are crossed for all those who are waiting for theirs. Good luck!

xxx

Hi youknownothingofthecrunch and ashleighbee - thanks for your comments. It does indeed show how great MN is for support and advice. We already have a dd of 18 months and feel very lucky to have her - any addition would really be a bonus.

Sazstar - great news on your scan I can imagine the relief you must now feel and now you can get excited about it all and feel positive looking forward.

Lola - am so with you on how invaluable this thread is. I'm amazed at how any question/worry can be easily answered or supported as someone has already been through it.

It's so heartening to hear the wonderful stories that are on here at the moment. Long may they continue as we've all had our fair share of the sad times.

Good luck to the ladies about to graduate and to any that have imminent scans on the way.
Sazstar - can I ask why you went private for the scan? I'm going to ask the doc tomorrow if he'll book me in for one but hadn't thought of the private option if he says no.

Extremelychocolatey - am keeping everything crossed for your scan tomorrow. Sending you lots of positive sticky vibes

Thanks very much scarlotti.

SydneySuze Thanks for sharing your experience. Am hoping we see a yolk sac so at least I know something has developed. Really hoping we get to see a HB in the next weeks because I'll relax a bit then (maybe?!) Lots of luck to you for Friday. .
Lola I totally agree with you about this thread. How is your tummy? Scan is 11.20. Do you think they'll do hcg bloods too?
Sazstar Absolutely fantastic!! Much better to be 2 days ahead than 2 days behind . Are you going to upload scan pics? I love seeing them.
Youknownothing How are things today? Are you still feeling very low? You seem to be coping amazingly well. Still a while before you deliver. Really, really hope that things pick up for you in the next weeks. Thanks for reassurance - You just can't help comparing each pregnancy...
ashleigh Thanks for well wishes. Not long to wait now
Sif Lots of luck to you. Really hope you get a sticky bean soon.

Am feeling a little more positive today (although have lots of trapped wind in my tummy and keep thinking I'm cramping until tummy starts gurgling!!) Boobs are very sore today - I seem to have a not so sore day followed by a sore day and so on...

Other than the terrible physical pain I have done my SPD by throwing myself into housework ( all my own fault so not complaining) I'm feeling ok. If this is what life is going to be like for the foreseeable future then it's not too bad. It does feel a lot more stable around here which is nice.

Still feel sad (obviously) but it's a coping sad, not a devastated sad. I am going to hope for a happy future, rather than any specific future.

We're going to start going to Relate next week to keep lines of communication open and not let things stagnate. It feels like I'm making lots of positive steps.

Yes it's lonely, but it was lonely when he was here too.

We all compare pregnancies, can't help it. And you're bound to feel worried about every twinge (I know I am, although less so now as I have evidence of movement when baby starts pummeling my innards )

YKNOTC That sounds like such a great attitude Friends of ours went to relate recently. They were both convinvced it would be a waste of time, I think their solicitors made them go, that's the stage it had got to between them. And now it really looks like they're going to be ok They're living together again, which was a huge step, and slowly continuing to work things through. Really hope it's the same for you you're right about neuroticism btw, maybe I should change my name to HerNameWasLola,SheWasNeurotic?? Sparkly don't know if they'll offer hcg bloods, it really depends on what the scan shows I guess. Up to you but I would really think twice before agreeing to repeat testing - we went to hell and back due to that during my last pg. It was truly awful and brought nothing but heartache, not even any answers. I think that is why people like Lesley Regan refuse to monitor hcg. At the time when I heard that I thought she was being heartless, but now I recognise she is actually just being wise. Happy to go into more detail if you want it, just don't want to bore everyone stupid Am aware that this is a bit of a pet rant topic with me as our experience was so awful, and totally respect the fact that others may have different views.

Saz for the great scan! Could totally picture your DH as you described him during the scan, poor man. My DH remains quite detatched which I find hard, but am hoping he'll be better once I have a bump and he can feel movement (hark at me, all positive ) I know he'll be a great father though, so not worried about that - or not very anyway Doubt they'd attempt to find a hb at your booking in visit. Some places won't try it til after 16 weeks as it can be really tricky to find early on. The position of your placenta can make a big difference too, if it's at the front that will also make it more difficult. Having said that, last time we heard it at 12 weeks with a doppler (which I guess is partly why I'm harder to reassure this time round) and this time I've heard it at 12+5 and 14+3 (yesterday )

Sparkly tummy fine now thanks - my ultra supportive DH told me I'd made the entire house stink and threatened to sleep in the spare room Have told him he's definitely having the next one He said "well, you got yourself into this mess" What a funny funny guy...!

Latest irritating symptom here is another bl*ody headache. Started yesterday, and when I woke up at 2 o'clock this morning() it was absolutely cracking Have booked to see my acupuncturist tomorrow in the hope that she can help... Bearable at the moment, but it's still there... Have also booked an optician's app for next week in case that's is, but I wouldn't have thought it would be worse at night if it was my eyes?

Sifuentes hope you're back for good soon

Ashleigh you're not that far ahead of me, but it always feels like you're waaay ahead if that makes sense! Am so of you finding out the sex a week on Saturday. I REALLY want to know! Please will you ask them what mine is too??

Rushed post again - why is there never enough hours in the day?

Am going away the weekend down to DH's old work place for his last official army function. Get to wear the evening dress (picked ably assisted by the style gurus on knicjer checkers) with a huge bump this time (33+ 3) - am a bit worried about looking like a swaying beached whale on the dance floor but who cares tis better to be like that than in the hell that is post mc.

YKNOTC you sound like you're making really good decisions. Sometimes we have to accept we can't always have control over what life throws at us and take comfort in what we have. I think relate will be a positive experience for you both if a little painful at times. Wonder if you'll beat me or if I'll pip you at the post. Shame it's North Yorks, I used to live there and we could've buddied up!

lola hope the acupuncture helps - I had dreadful headaches at the beginning with this pg but thankfully they went around 2nd trimester. Make sure you're drinking enough water > It's great your looking towards having a big bump

Aw sif hurry back, I hope your cycle rights itself and you are back on board the knicker checker express.

sparkly yay for sore boobs - lots of luck for your scan

saz about your scan - fabulous news.

extremelychocolaty I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Right really have to go and pack. Have to try and sort out DD's stuff too. I left a list for DH and he is very good but now have to repack as I know madam will have a hissy fit wearing the stuff he got out - oh the joys of 9yr old girls!!

Have a good week-end everyone.

Hello

Still all feels a bit unreal today

Had a tricky day with MS. Firstly sick after eating food this morning. Normally food helps, but couldn't keep anything down this morning. I keep having to go in the disabled loo at work because otherwise people would be able to hear me.

Sparkly Won't be able to upload any pics as don't have a scanner - not much to see anyway - have been looking at them again tonight and you can barely make out anything (just seems really weird that it is even there!)

Scarlotti - we went for a private scan because the doc said that we wouldn't be able to get an early one on the NHS as I had only had one miscarriage - I hear this varies from doc to doc though, but I couldn't have waited until 12 wks especially as I hadn't had any signs of things going wrong last time until the 12 wk scan

Lola am sure your hubby will get loads more excited once he has something he can play with. As soon as there is a bump that he can speak to and prod and see a reaction, am sure he will realise that your baby is actually there (and be able to talk about it). Think it is really hard for blokes because they don't have the symptoms to help them believe that things are really happening. Glad you are back feeling a bit more positive. And on the note about the hubby being really sympathetic about symptoms, mine cracks up whenever I retch - he thinks its hilarious because its so out of control - I however (funnily enough) do not find this very humerous. In fact tonight I have had tinned tuna for tea so I am thinking that I will omit to put the dishwasher on so that I can get my own back a bit (DH abhors tuna and retches when he smells it )

Ashleigh Thanks for your notes on midwife. Good to know what kind of things they chat through. It is going to be really odd to actually to someone so think next weds is going to be a bit weird

Anyway, hope the soon to be graduates are all prepared, can't imagine what the anticipation must be like for you guys! Only 9 days left for you, Wheely (and that's if you don't get ambushed early!)

Hi Scotlass,

Enjoy your evening soiree! Am sure you will look glowing and amazing even if you feel like a whale!!

Like how you are still counting the days not just weeks (don't think this will wear off for me either!)

Sorry for out of sequence posting, I take so long to type that had started writing before you posted and only registered after you had posted (about half an hour later !!)

S

Pleased to report another positive scan here at 21+4 weeks.All looks fine.Baby just above average centile on measurements.They did a sum on the report sheet with measurements which calculated estimated weight at 1lb.Never had that info with last 2.Looks like possibly a boy(have 2 DS'S) but she couldn't be sure.Saw what looked like boy bits,very shadowy though, baby wouldn't keep still.I was really excited about going shopping afterwards to buy pink or blue stuff.Got cream babygoes,cardi & hat instead!

Due 11th July,would like to go on list now.Do i have to re-type it up or is their an easy way to paste it up?

congrats on the scan mumface! Just copy and paste the text of the list in and you can add yourself on.

Sazstar - hope you're feeling a bit better. Lol to the tuna - my dh hates fish too so that's one is definitely banked for future use!

Doc appt tomorrow so hopefully will find out if I can have a scan or not, will look into private options if not.
Had the odd twinge today which made me worry - just so want to get to the point where I can relax a little.

Lola - hope the headache went. I suffered badly a few months ago and went to an osteopath who did cranial osteopathy - she got rid of them completely. That was after I'd visited the optician though and been convinced to buy glasses

Scotlass - enjoy your weekend away