Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part VII - Gusset Reporters and Knicker Checkers welcome

[SparkyMalarky]

oooh, I do love a new thread

dan39 - don't worry, the more she suckles the more you'll produce. The colustrum you produce for the first few days is really thick, so it's harder for them to get out, hence the faces they pull! Am sure it's delightful for her ..... unless you had a curry for tea

another trick is when she starts to slow down sucking, take her away from the breast a little and she'll wake up again as it's disappeared.

What a little sweetie!

If this isn't your first and/or I'm teaching you to suck eggs then I'm sorry, didn't mean it to sound so patronising

littlepolly I am so sorry to hear your news. Please don't give up hope.xx

Tracy so glad to hear your news ? I was sure it was all going to be ok for you and I've been checking to see when you'd post. Look after yourself and I really hope everything goes smoothly for the rest of your pregnancy. Thank you for your kind words.

Hackneybird thanks for your message. How are things with you? Have you had a scan yet?

hello all from a very tired bunny. i had a c section on monday 23 feb and had a little baby girl - 7 lbs 11, we've called her carys section was a little more complicated as it was my second and they couldnt stop internal bleeding so was in surgery for over 2 hours!! (that's the very short version - let me know if you want more details!!)

but all is well and am on the mend. didnt manage to match wmmc's record of leaving the next day but we did go home on wed morning. it has been mayhem since - a blur of painkillers, feeding, looking after dd (who loves her little sister) and generally surviving. we've had many sleepless nights last night she slept on me most of the night which is how we all managed to get some sleep. so today's the first day i've managed to even get close to a computer! i think recovery this time around seems to be slower than my first c section - and more painful!!! but it's all worth it

thanks for all your kind thoughts and wishes. i did have a massive weep when i came home with my little angel and it really hit home that i have a real life baby in my arms!! it's been such a long journey - the past year and half have been fraught with so many ups and downs. i want to thank you ladies, past and present knicker checkers, who have kept my spirits and hopes up during those dark days post mc, and who made me feel that i wasn't facing this journey on my own (it can get really lonely in RL when it comes to mc). and also keeping me sane through this pg!! there were days (esp after second mc) where all hope was lost and i thought the pain would never end and that i was cursed. little carys has not replaced my lost babies but she certainly has brought a bright and positive light into my life, and taken some of the pain of loss away. and indeed i now feel blessed - i wouldn't have believed anyone who told me i would be saying this a year and half later. for all the ladies who have recently lost babies or are going through the anxieties of pg post mc, please dont give up hope - you Will have your baby, and never stop believing.

ok - think my hormones are raging - little bunny is making feed me noises so i have to go but will check in soon again. sorry havent had time to read through all the posts in the past week, but sending everyone a big hug and wave

bunny huge congratulations on Carys' arrival. Lovely lovely news and what a touching post. You have bought tears to my eyes!

Yeah Bunny - great news ! Welcome to Carys. Lovely name. Sorry to hear the section went on a while (were you awake all this time - must have been stressful). Hmm.. now everyone's experience here and in RL had begun to convince me an elective c-sec won't be so bad if it comes to it.... but I guess it goes to show you never can tell (and lets face it, a natural can go on and not be ideal). Although am impressed with how soon you were out, especially in the circumstances.

Hello to the new people and good news on the positive scans. polly - I hope you're taking good care of yourself.

see dan - you posted twice yesterday, you're getting back to normal already .

Ashliegh - good luck for the scan.

GUSSET PATROL GRADUATES
Cricri - 1st November - GIRL- Elise Vivienne
LackaDAISYcal - 6th November - BOY - Finlay
barbareebaa - 24th November -BOY - William
Jackstini - 10th December ? BOY- Harvey
KD73 - 20th December - BOY - Aidan George
downbutnotout ? 3rd February BOY
dan39 ? 10th February GIRL - Rose
winemakesmummyclever - 17 February - BOY - Isaac Alexander
Bunnyinheadlights - 23 February - GIRL - Cerys

CURRENT CONCEIVED-AIR PASSENGERS
Wheelybug - 13 March
Tsom - 17th March
Grinningbee - 26th March
Daisy J - 30 March
Scotlass - 21st April
Swaliswan - 25th April
Youknownothingofthecrunch - 25th April
Aquababe - 1st May
Ladyhelen2 - 3rd May
LoobyLou36 - 3rd May
Ses - 10th May
SparkyMalarky - 15th May
divedaisy - 7th May (also 12th, 17th or 19th!!!)
cece - 18th May
joyfuleyes - 29th May
herbaceous - 28 June
nattythomasandellen - 16th July
blogqueen - 31st August

Ooh look at me at the top of the list ! That makes me quite excited (dons rose tinted glasses) - thought it might make me terrified.

(I've taken Supersteph off the list - hope that's ok but assumed she's had the baby but not posting .... if you're around Supersteph let us know how you got on).

I saw the consultant yesterday and was preparing for being told I'd have to have a c-sec next week.... but it was the quickest appointment I've had in a long time - all fine and we've agreed I have until the 23rd March (Term + 10) to go into labour (although she will do a sweep at term if the baby has started to engage) otherwise I will have an elective c-sec. DH and I are talking about having the c-sec at 41 weeks which would be 20th as it would be a friday so easier with dd probably (and if it comes to a c-sec we may as well do it when its convenient to us). I think DH thinks I should go in and have it next week as he can't bear the uncertainty but he knows I want to give it a shot.

So, I might not be next, Tsom (and Grinningbee) may well pip me to the post !

Hi! Not posted in ages but appreciate you keeping me on the list.

Congratulations to all the new babies since I was last on and also to the the new BFPs! Hope you have a good long trouble free stay.

Things have been fine with me. Everything seems to be progressing well and what with the bump and the movements, I'm slowly coming out of my denial that this is all finally happening! I'm 30 weeks tomorrow and am still working full time until 3rd May, so another 5 weeks.

Mid-Feb was hard as it was last year on Valentine's Day (and the day before my birthday on 15th) that we found out I was pg the first time. I always thought it would make that time extra special every year but as it turned out it after the mmc that followed, I was just v sad and emotional. (Probably not helped by pg hormones!)

It's taken me a while to start thinking about buying things for the baby but have now ordered the buggy and am today looking at cotbeds and nursery curtains/bedding online - quite scary but v exciting!

Sorry this is a "me" post but will try and keep in touch a bit better!

Congratulations Bunny,

Another success bringing hope to us all! Not long for you either Wheely. You must be really excited

I am starting to get really nervous about scan on Tuesday although MS has now progressed to all day sickness (and doesn't stop until I'm asleep!). Really hoping this is a good sign because it would be horrible to have a bad scan again (still quite raw about as was only November).

Just opened a tin of horribly smelly furniture wax to then read on the side "HARMFUL TO UNBORN CHILD" on the side which freaked me out a bit . With falling down the steps of our house last week is starting to feel a bit like the film Final Destination! Really hoping everything is ok.

DH and I had a bit of a cry last week as there was a successful scan on TV (Gavin and Stacey ep 3) - he still seems a bit sore about our MC however getting more positive and starting to talk about babies a bit more.

Fingers and toes crossed for anyone else waiting for scans in the next week or so (and also to those due in the next couple of weeks)

Congratulations bunny that's fantastic news and well done for coping with what sounds like quite a traumatic c-section. It really does make it all seem possible for knicker checkers everywhere to hear such lovely outcomes - fingers firmly crossed for the rest of us!

I also have a scan next week saz, I'll be 12 weeks on Tuesday and my scan is Friday afternoon. Am facing it with the usual mixture of utter dread / nervous excitement, I always seem to have to be dragged into the room but whenever I am lucky enough to have a positive experience in there I end up loitering for ages like a drunk in a bar!

Where are you up to in scan-world lola? The biggy for us will be a special fetal heart scan at about 18 weeks (if we make it that far of course, here's hoping!). I must say I feel fine, apart from zombie-like half asleepness most of the time, but this does not reassure me as much as it should. Am off to a party this evening and alas am showing already - not much chance of keeping this one secret much longer!

Congrats bunny and welcome to little Carys, gorgeous name btw.

Good luck to all the ladies about to go for a scan. How you've kept sane over the 12 weeks I don't know.

What is the consensus on telling family and close friends? We're trying to work out what to do. Am 4 weeks with a doc appointment at 5 weeks. Hoping to ask for an early scan at say 7.5 weeks.
We lost one at 5 weeks then another at 10 weeks.

Guess I'm wondering how much to tell, if any, and to whom? We'd certainly need support if the worst were to happen again.

Any experience or advice gratefully recieved.

Wow bunny well done not just on the birth but on postimg here so quickly and so eloquently! What you said about the support on here made me fill up as I feel the same - I really don't think its an exaggerstion to say I could not have gotten thru the 9 months without mn and all the lovelies on here who helped me thru. What now???

Birth story - will post in birth thread too but putting here cos you lot are my homies!!

So my birth wasn't what I was after...we started at home and had a nice 24 hours wityh tens and Bill Bailey DVD's, midwife first visited mon am and said I was no where near (despite cx 4 mins apart) and left us to it. Drank lots of hot water with honey in. DH fab. 10pm waters broke and so we called mw's again - 2 came out and looked at the waters (more came out when they were there) and they said meconium in water so we had to go to hosp. Was feeling okay about it as was scared, really...so off we went in an ambulance which was horrid as journeys go...DH followed in car with all the gubbins including cd's we had made and we settled intot delivery room.

CX got worse, used gas and air and water kept viciously flooding out making me leap off the bed (I could only do the g+a lying down for some reason - oh I was also on continuous monitor for baby's hb) - 2 pints my arse by the way..

By morning I was 4 coms, at some point they broke a little bubble of water that was in front of baby's head but it didn't help, they then talked about syntocin and said it would make the cx much more painful, so we talked it thru and I agreed to an epidural. Rememeber being really scared I would have a contraction as they tried to put it in...

Lunchtimeish got to 9 and a half cms but a few hours later no further and around 2 they said had to be c section. Had a little weep but was so tired by then didn't mind - the op was hilarious as I was practically hysterical with tiredness and relief and was demanding water to drink all thru; asked the surgical team if they were sure they were qualified as they all looked too young; insisted on my Mozart cd being played...

When I heard her cry me and dh just LOOKED at each other in shock...they showed her to me but I was too tired to focus so had no idea what she looked like!! DH had her in the recovery room and was cuddling her and talking to her when they took me in - which ws gorgeous. I do love him. Rose was born at 3.27pm, and was 7 lb 10oz, dark hair and a dimple. (yeah - just one??)

And since then its been lots of staring at her!

Great to hear your birth story Dan - sorry it didn't work out quite as you'd hoped but remember its the end result that matters as I'm sure you well know now.

Bunny just realised I spelt your dd's name wrong on the list - soooo sorry. Really shouldn't try and do anything which requires any brain power at the moment. Will amend straight away !

Scarlotti - we told my parents as soon as we found out I was pg as (like most of us here) it had taken a looong time and they knew we were under the hospital. We then told DH's mum a couple of week's later after a scan and then some close friends as we went on hols with them at 7-9 weeks and usually it would have been a drinkathon ! Then slowly told a few more close friends around 10 weeks. We then didn't tell most people for a few weeks as DH was rushed into hospital and was seriously ill for a few weeks so we kind of forgot about it so I ended up being about 15/16 weeks before we told most people.

When we told people early we did it in a 'this is great news but we dont' want to get our hopes up so no congratulations yet please' and everyone was really good about it which helped. It meant we would have had support if the worst had happened.

GUSSET PATROL GRADUATES
Cricri - 1st November - GIRL- Elise Vivienne
LackaDAISYcal - 6th November - BOY - Finlay
barbareebaa - 24th November -BOY - William
Jackstini - 10th December ? BOY- Harvey
KD73 - 20th December - BOY - Aidan George
downbutnotout ? 3rd February BOY
dan39 ? 10th February GIRL - Rose
winemakesmummyclever - 17 February - BOY - Isaac Alexander
Bunnyinheadlights - 23 February - GIRL - Carys

CURRENT CONCEIVED-AIR PASSENGERS
Wheelybug - 13 March
Tsom - 17th March
Grinningbee - 26th March
Daisy J - 30 March
Scotlass - 21st April
Swaliswan - 25th April
Youknownothingofthecrunch - 25th April
Aquababe - 1st May
Ladyhelen2 - 3rd May
LoobyLou36 - 3rd May
Ses - 10th May
SparkyMalarky - 15th May
divedaisy - 7th May (also 12th, 17th or 19th!!!)
cece - 18th May
joyfuleyes - 29th May
herbaceous - 28 June
nattythomasandellen - 16th July
blogqueen - 31st August

Hi everyone. It?s been so long since I managed to get on here that it?s taken me over an hour to catch up - RL just gets in the way of MN sometimes! to have missed dbno?s, dan?s, wmmc?s, and bunny?s births (omg, I?m now fourth on the list). Congratulations, proud mamas . Dan, hope the bfing gets easier soon ? it?s the part I?m most nervous about, I must admit, but everyone I?ve spoken to says it does get easier.

It?s funny what everyone was saying about Dan calling her tutor before she could go into labour. Having had this weird feeling for the past couple of weeks that I was going to be early, I suddenly became convinced yesterday that I wouldn?t have the baby until I did all the paperwork I?ve been putting off for months!

Lola ? lovely to see you here . Every good wish to you for a healthy happy pregnancy. Great that your MW is so approachable, too.

Crunch ? sorry about the situation with your H. You sound like a very strong person, and you?re obviously making the right decision for you and the dcs. Must be very sad for you, though.

Littlepolly ? we haven?t ?met? I don?t think, but I?m so sorry for your loss ? it?s heartbreaking to feel that it may be too late, but there are so many wonderful stories here ? please try not to give up hope. Look after yourself in the meantime, and hope to see you back here soon.

Hi, ses. It?s lovely when you feel confident enough to buy baby things, isn?t it. I had a real moment last week when I got home to find DH had washed all the baby clothes we?ve been given, and there was a blue airer and a pink airer in the spare room/nursery. I got a bit weepy looking at all the tiny clothes and had to keep going back in there to see them.

As for me, I still have another two weeks to go at work, but fortunately my maternity cover is coming in for that time to do a handover, so that should lighten the load a little. Went to pick up a birth pool today from a local MNer, who had her baby the day of the snow so didn't get a home birth - we finally decided that's what we would like, although best laid plans . . .

Just can't wait to be off work so that I can put my feel up and relax in preparation. I guess you never feel totally prepared, though.

Will try to keep up from now on .

Off now to unpack our crib and baby bouncer that arrived yesterday.

xx

Ladies - have been rubbish (sorry) but Huge congratulations to all the new mummies and babies Will post more later to catch up properly....

Daisy thanks for the good wishes. Can?t believe you?re about to start mat leave! Think I?m right that we both conceived at about the same time with our first and second mc?s? (Sept 07 and Jan 08) Hopefully seems like we both do much better when we don?t! (iyswim...) Or was than me and Bunny...? Brain has gone already Sorry.
Bunny what a beautiful post I tried to read it to my mum earlier and my voice kept cracking You summed it all up so beautifully. I?m so glad you now have little Bunny here safe and sound Photos please!
So it?s top of the list for Wheely! Come on Wheelybug, get cracking, we want more babies!
Saz please try not to worry about the furniture polish, everything I touch seems to be ?harmful to the unborn child? ? as long as you didn?t try to use it as a moisturiser I?m sure you?ll be fine Good luck for your scan on Tuesday, will be thinking of you. How many weeks will you be? Let us know how it goes
Sydney I loved your description of waiting for scans, sums me up totally I told my consultant they?re my most and least favourite things. He said he was very offended. Bless My next one is a week on Monday when I should be 15+2. He?s going to do an early anomaly scan, so I?m hoping to feel a lot more reassured if/when that goes well. But there always seems to be another hurdle waiting around the corner though doesn?t there? Presumably if you have a good nuchal that?s a promising sign that the baby?s heart is developing ok? I know 18 weeks will be the big one for you though. Am still keeping everything crossed for both of us. How was the party? Did people notice? I?ve got to the stage now where I think I?m really starting to show, but no-one else seems to notice Think they all think I?m just getting lardy They?re probably right too, think it?s 99% cake, 1% baby

Scarlotti 7.5 weeks sounds like a good time for a first scan. I had my first one this time round at 7+2. It?s difficult to know what to say about telling people. My parents knew more or less straight away, my mum guessed () the day after I found out, but we didn?t tell any other family until between 9 and 11 weeks. We told whichever friends we saw as I knew there was no way they?d believe any antibiotics/detox excuses. For the most part I was pretty relaxed about telling most people, but DH wanted to keep it quiet. I just figured that when it was people who would find out eventually, however things turned out, then it didn?t really matter if they knew really early, and tbh it was nice to have the support. Have only told a couple of people I work with though ? none of their business imo! Will probably go public after 20 weeks/when they notice, but for some of them I imagine that will be about the time I go on mat leave! Good luck whatever you decide, hope the doc?s app goes well on Friday and that they are co-operative re early scans etc. that it seems to be such a lottery... (Btw my mc?s were a mmc at 8 ish weeks followed by an erpc at 12 and my second was at 17.5)
Dan I do love a good birth story Thanks for posting it on here! Sorry things didn?t work out as you hoped, but so glad you now have your beautiful little girl Lovely to hear you sounding so gooey about your DH too, be careful lady, or the next one will be on the way before you know it

Lots of love to everyone else, especially those with anniversaries/scans coming up.

Wheelybug and Lola - thanks for the date advice. I suspect we'll do something similar - mainly family and then keep everyone else at bay until after the 12 week mark. Will have to think of a way to explain to any friends i see on a night out though as I never normally refuse a drink!

It's such a dilemma, part of me is terrified it will happen again so not to say anything, but then lots of me desperately needs some support and also wants to enjoy this and have some of the joy I've had in my previous pg's that comes with acknowledging it's happening.

It's lovely to read all your stories of succesful pg's and gorgeous babies - proves it can work out in the end

Shhhh - can you keep a secret? I had implantation bleeding yesterday and the faintest of faint bfps on a 10miu hpt this morning.

I had a mc at 4+3 in July and a mmc at 9wks in December, so am finding it hard to know how I'm feeling. Positive, I think. More so than last time when I just knew something wasn't right from the day of my bfp. Fingers crossed I'm right.

I just needed to tell someone.......

Congratulations to Bunny and hobnob.

I haven't been on here that much as am always so busy, but am desperately waiting for a scan- 30th March.

Regarding sharing the joy - I have only told a couple of close girlfriends (to explain the Not Drinking which is is very unlike me), but no parents yet. I feel so much pressure from them all to produce a child I don't want to get everyone's hopes up after the disappointment of last time.

In a way I am enjoying this period of DH and I just sharing our secret together. And as you will of course all appreciate, we don't want to have to 'untell' everyone if this one goes wrong too.

Currently feeling down about poor mat care so far though. Went to doctor on Monday to get booked in, he went on about how badly organised antenatal care is in our area and how paperwork gets lost all the time and basically frightened the life out of me. He then gave me some forms and said I had to go to the hospital myself, in person, in order to make my own scan appointment! At that point I burst into floods of tears. So he got the receptionist to ring the hospital for me and made me an appt then and there. That's just for a scan though, no mention of seeing a MW.

Arrgh. According to my doc it's supposed to be about patient control, but I don't want to be in control, I want to be told what to do and where I'm supposed to be and when! As a first timer I am feeling very frightened and alone.

Congratulations Bunny that's great news!

I will try to keep up from now on, promise.

DH (or H) moved out yesterday. 8 weeks 'til due date. None of this is good timing. He's got a lot of issues to work through. I hope he does. I hope he can come home one day.

MW appointment this afternoon. Gp should have been in touch with her to tell her how down I am - she's very nice but I'm not looking forward to it. Just trying to hold it all together. The house is a tip so that'll keep me occupied. Wish SPD wasn't keeping me awake.

morning all.

Scarlotti - I'm in same position - about 5-6 weeks preg, waiting for a scan on 17th March and not knowing who (if anyone!) to tell. My Mum has MS - along with anxiety and depression. She had a run of mcs when she was younger, so we haven't told her this time - not til the scan says everything is ok. And if we don't tell her, we can't tell OHs Mum either!

Might have to tell my boss, to explain the time off for hospital appointments - but apart from that we're keeping quiet.

Thread hijack
Sorry
This is for Hackneybird
I used to live in Hackney and close preg friends still do. They have both (successfully) asked for a transfer to UCH which is apparently a very good hospital. I think antenatal care is pretty bad everywhere in London because they're so stretched but I heard Hackney (Homerton?) was particularly lame.

HTH
xx