Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part VII - Gusset Reporters and Knicker Checkers welcome

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oooh, I do love a new thread

Quick hijack to say congratulations to WMMC - you got your happy ending and give me hope!

And can I say such fabulous taste in names - my DS is Isaac James and I've yet to come across another one up here in Scotland! Be warned though you will get lots of cards saying 'congratulations on the birth of Issac' - argh! drives me insane...

DH and me are back on ttc after getting my ERPC on NY Day (if you remember I had a confirmed 2nd mmc on 22nd Dec at the dreaded 8 week reassurance scan). Bounced back quickly though and truly feel we will get our DC2 one day.

Glad all is going well WMMC - if I end up with a c-sec I shall have to remember to try and look capable and sensible () to get early release. I hated staying in after my last one as had been in about 4 nights already by that point and ended up having to stay an extra night because some foolish doctor took me off the blood pressure tablets too early so it went up again.

Cornflake - congrats on getting through the first trimester. Hope the 2nd and 3rd are a breeze.

Crunch - so sorry to hear things have reached a head with DH although maybe better now than when the baby has arrived ? I so hope he sees the error of his ways soon and sorts himself out.

I've spent about 4 hours at the antenatal clinic this morning - saw consultant who took bp and it was slightly raised although she didn't seem to concerned. Then she felt the baby and couldn't find the head so did a quick scan and found it to be diagonal which I had to admit it did quite a lot. Well she said, old policy used to be we'd admit you until it moved or I delivered as it could be quite dangerous if my waters break but as I live close to the hospital I have to go in immediately if there is any sign of labour. And, if baby hasn't shifted by next week (38 weeks) I will be booked in for c-sec at 39 weeks. All DH could do was laugh - it really feels like my VBAC is a bit unlikely ! She did then say even if the baby had moved she'd book me in for a c-sec at term with the hope I went into labour. I said I'd like to go a bit over that if all was ok and she agreed but sounds like I probably have a maximum of 4 weeks but it could be 2 .... or even less.

Anyway, I then made the foolish error of asking if she thought my bp was anything to worry about and so she took it again, it was the same so she sent me off to the DAU. The magic of the DAU worked and it came right down so they were all set to release me when my eyes went a bit funny so thought I'd better mention it so was then back to the doctor who quizzed me and we decided it was the funny lights in the DAU and so was released.

So, blood pressure remaining fine I have been repreived for another week.

Have just dashed into town to buy nursing bras as that was all I had left to buy. So that is done, my parents are here to help get the nursery furniture out and up tomorrow. Then I just need to cull the playroom following christmas and dd's birthday and then we're ready. Once I get to Tuesday I will relax a bit as I will be at hte same gestation as when I had dd and this baby is considerably bigger so I know things should be ok. Then everything should be ready too !

Hi, sorry I haven't been on here for a while, had horrible week with ill baby! All better now though

Congrats dan and wmmc, fantastic stories. wmmc I know exactly what you mean re: silent baby / screaming baby at the birth, just like my two - the latter much more preferable!

dan, the worst advice given to me in hospital was that bfing shouldn't hurt if you're doing it right. After a few days it shouldn't hurt after a few minutes, and after a while it shouldn't hurt at all... but in the beginning it's agony!

Am 8+2 today... slowly getting there!

And hi to everyone else who has joined since I last posted eons ago

Just a quick post to say congrats to wmmc, I thought the birth announcement would take a couple of days but wow, you did really well.

Will catch up with everyones news when have more time, for now I need to sleeeeep zzzzzz. Have a really sore spot on bump though - think there's a foot wedged against the front of my belly I keep trying to gently shove it back!

Well done wmmc - love the name and glad it went well - good luck with adjusting to life with a newbie!!

I am really missing you all but still trying to catch sleep when I can!!

For the record dh has been an amazing support - if i didn't love him before I do now.

Been a bit quiet on here of late !

Hope you've got some sleep over the weekend Dan - am pleased DH is being a trooper.

I been stressing all weekend, culminating in me not sleeping very much last night. Worrying about what would happen if I went into labour with baby still in odd position. I know there are lots of factors which need to all coincide for it to be a disaster (I have to go into earlyish labour, my waters have to break and particularly with a gush, the baby has to be in odd position still and the cord has to prolapse and then me not be able to get to hospital in time.....) but you know, you never stop worrying do you ? Sobbed for about half an hour to DH this morning as I didn't want him to go to work but stay at home in case something happened but I know realistically he can't. Am seeing MW tomorrow to discuss my birth plan (ha ha ha) so will have a chat to her which may or may not make me feel better. If not, might get my Mum to stay for a couple of days (which she will come up no probs but I'd rather get on with life normally if I can).

Apologies for indulgent moan...

Hope everyone is ok - not long for you now Bunny. Hope you're feeling ok/ready.

Hello again,

Have been loitering in the background since my first post a couple of weeks ago. Started to feel properly MS last week and the weekend was horrendous. MS doesn't cover it, I have nausea all day through (with perhaps a half hour break after each meal (except b'fast). Still petrified that things may not be going ahead to plan so booked in for a private 8 wk scan because the Miscarriage Assoc website said that there is a 98% of succcessful pg if they see a heartbeat at this stage (at 6 weeks it is only 70-odd%. So I am going next Tuesday and the meantime worrying!

Had some cramps on Friday night and went to sleep crying thinking that everything had gone wrong again, but woke up feeling rancid and sick without any pain. Spoke to EPAU and they said that this may just be things settling down and suggested taking some paracetamol- Has anyone else had something like this? Obviously am further on than the date I lost the last one as a mmc (but the worst thing is not knowing this one is ok)

Also didn't help that I slipped on our front step on Sunday and fell on my side (which really freaked both me and hubby out) - had no pains or anything afterwards so think I managed to avoid disaster (my arm bore the brunt of it)

Congrats to the new mums - the breastfeeding bit really worries me too as I can't even think of anything touching them at the moment so can't believe they were designed for this

Anyhow, it's my b-day in a couple of weeks so am just hoping that our scan shows a little hb (this was be the best birthday present in the world)

Hello everyone

Hi Sazstar ? I'm with you in the worry camp, I'm afraid. Was awake all night last night with pain low down, similar to what I had before my mmc last time. It's so frightening, isn't it. My lovely DH phoned the EPU this morning and they have agreed to give me an early scan on Thursday morning, when I should be (please,please,please) 9wks.

The plus sign is: no bleeding. And Saz if you've still got strong MS that's surely something positive for you to hold on to. The EPU told me lots of women have cramps in first trimester and to try to relax about it.

Fingers crossed for you on Tuesday.

Hope everyone else is well.

Thanks LittlePolly

Good luck for Thursday.

Have not had any horrid nightmares this time, so am hoping that everything is ok - subconscious isn't telling me anything this time!

DH is currently feeding me Smarties as we have just come back from the weekly shop - surely they should have the answer!!! [GRIN]

Hi all, its been a little quiet on here over the past couple of days...

Sazstar and Littlepolly I hope that both of your scans go well... I hope that we have fabulous news wheny ou both get back.. I dont know too much about Smarties giving you the answer Sazstar.. but maybe I should start taking that approach to them then perhaps people might'nt think i am just a hoover!

How are you doing Wheelybug? have you spoken to midwife yet??

Dan I am pleased that DH has been such a massive support to you and little Rose!!

I am counting down the sleeps until we see the little one on the screen again - 6 sleeps to go.. and i'll be 14 weeks 6 days!! I never thought i'd be able to say I am 14 weeks today!! I am slowly getting more positive though.. my sickness hasnt subsided just yet.. Im hoping that wont go too soon as then I am in that awkward stage... xx

Hello girlies

Little polly - I've got an 8 week "reassurance" scan on Thursday so hopefully by Thursday evening we may be a bit less anxious.
I am terrified they are going to say the "I'm sorry but..." sentence that I've heard before. Hopefully not this time!

Still feel like crap and keep throwing up what would appear to be battery acid! DH says this is good - I tell him to f* off and try throwing up acid several times a day and see how he feels! I'm a real joy to live with at the moment.

Hope everyone else is hanging on in there and doing ok today

Good luck with your scan too tracyea

x

Good luck for the scans Polly Tracey and ash

I saw the MW this morning and LO is head down, although posterior and not engaged. So, a big relief. She also managed to alay (Sp? that doesn't look right) my fears and down played the risks so made me feel much better. Was also talking v. much like I was having a normal birth so I am back to thinking that rather than the early c-sec I had begun to think I was going to have. Now at least I'm prepared for whatever happens.

I am also now officially more pregnant than I;'ve ever been before. DD had growth issues so had to come out in the early hours of 37+4 which is what I am today !

Hi all.

Wheely, glad to hear things looking good! Could be any time now then.

YKNOTC, sorry about you and your DH. Hope he sees sense soon. What a difficult time this must be.

I am knackered. DS woke at 4.30am this morning and then was awake for the rest of the day! I tried snoozing and bringing him into our bed, but he then proceeded to wriggle so much that he ended up headbutting me (accidentally of course!) right at the top of my nose. Ow. I saw stars!! He was trying to cuddle me/lie on my head at the time. We have moved him to the upstairs bedroom in anticipation of new arrival. His new room is lovely, and he's really proud of it. Only thing is, he wakes in the early hours and comes down to us. I cannot face carrying him back up as my bump is quite big now and daren't risk it and DH "sleeps" through the invasion. Grrrr. We've got to put a stop to it as he can't be doing this when the new baby is here. Can't believe I'm staying "when" and not "if" now! At 30+2 and an active bump , its beginning to seem like its really going to happen now.

We've just agreed to buy a friends pushchair of them. A Mutsy Lite (?). We had a Mutsy Urban Rider for DS which I loved - particularly the lie flat adjustable car seat which I CANNOT RECOMMEND HIGHLY ENOUGH. Shame I broke it! We were going to just buy a new one of those but then this friend said she was looking to sell her complete Mutsy package so for £100 more we get a new chassis, carry cot, footmuff, car seat. So ours will be going on Ebay soon.

God, this turned into an epic. Better get back to work!!

ladyhelen sounds like my house, ds2 now goes to sleep in his own bed (he is 4) but 95% of the time will get in with us in the night. I have moved to the spare room as can't sleep with dh, ds2, me and bump in one bed. Think ds2 will carry on coming in when baby arrives but am worried about him squashing baby. Can't think how to get this resolved in the next three weeks - ?threats or bribery or stick my head in the sand and hope it goes away. Ds1 now stays in his bed all night and reads or whatever until 7am when he wakes early (often 5-6am) but he is 7 and has only started behaving in the last year . Clearly have failed to sleep train them properly.

Ds2 also had an upset tummy with unexpected runny poos over the bedsheets x3 this week so most of laundry cleaning sheets, hoping the weather will improve soon so can get babygros and blankets freshened up. Having quite a few BH contractions over the last few days - concerned enough to pack a bit more of my hospital bag

good luck to those of you having scans this week

things sound exciting wheely, not long now

Tracy Best of luck with your scan tomorrow ? I'll be thinking of you. Hopefully we'll both have some good news.

Hi all

Mind if I join you? I've just found out I'm pg with #3 - I had a m/c at 5 weeks in august and then another at 10 weeks in December, ending in an ERPC on xmas eve

We waited for a full cycle to go past before ttc again in case that had any bearing on the 2nd m/c. Did a first response test yesterday morning and there's the line. I am 3+5 today (barely pregnant really!)

I'm in denial I think that this one will actually work. DH and I have a ds (dd from a previous relationship) so we know that it does work, but after 2 failed attempts I guess my confidence has gone.
I have no idea if I can request an early scan or anything - any advice most gratefully recieved.
Am going to wait until I'm about 5 weeks before going to the doctor so at least I'll have passed the first m/c milestone.

I feel like I've been knicker checking for months now, constantly was with the 2nd m/c and now again. Sad thing was that with the 2nd one I was sure we were fine as we'd passed the 7 week mark, so I started telling people around the 9.5 week mark, only to have to share the awful news a few days later.
Now I don't know when to tell anyone anything. Only me and dh know, but we'll probably tell dd soon as she's 14.

All such a worry when it should be a lovely happy time.

Hi scarlotti. Sorry to hear about your previous mcs. It must have been horrible to feel that you were safe, and then find out you weren't.

Judging by this thread, it seems to really vary as to whether you can self-refer to your local EPAU for a reassurance scan (or several). Maybe call your GP / midwife and find out what the policy is. Alternatively, ashleigh (on this thread) swears by her regular private scans (assuming funds permit).

You'll probably want to wait until you're 7 weeks before requesting a scan though, as they generally can't reliably see the heartbeat before then.

I had a scan at 7 wks with my current pregnancy (after 3 mcs). It really helped, as it was further than any of the mcs had got (although one was missed, so I thought I'd got further). The reassurance only lasted a few days though. Knicker-checking and worrying is the name of the game...

Hope this time works out better for you

Hi all - no time, no time, gotta sleep!!

She is two weeks old and is putting on weight and getting more alert and looking at us but I am still so anxious, will life ever be normal? Cheers for support on bf-ing (ie the fact that it bloody hurts) and I will try to get back here more often - having withdrawal symptoms after 9 months of daily contact with lots of you!!

Bye for now, zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

hi everyone thought i would share my good news, i have one ds aged 3 and had 2 miscarriages in 2007 one of 11 weeks one of 6 weeks

am now 12 weeks pregnant, had my 12 week scan yesterday and baby is perfect was jumping around and everything!!!!

im over the moon!!!!!!

That's fantastic news franfoxy - congratulations!

Excellent news, congratulations!!

Hello all

Looks like it is all over for us. Went for a scan this morning. Had to have a vaginal scan as I have a very retroverted uterus. Should have been about 9 weeks I think, but scan showed only about 7 and no heartbeat. I've been told to expect to miscarry in the next few days. Had an ERPC with the last one and can't face it again.

I'm feeling incredibly shocked, even though this is what happened last time and I have had warning signs that there might be something wrong. It was so sad seeing the tiny baby right there on the screen and knowing that now I am never going to get to hold him or her in my arms. DH is completely in pieces too. At 39 I don't know whether we will have another chance at parenthood.

Tracy I am praying that you have had better news today.

Love to everyone.

LittlePolly - am so sorry to hear your news

Wishing you and dh lots of support and sympathy. Be kind to yourself and shut yourself away from the world for as long as you need.

Afternoon all - I'm back after a wee while away from this thread. Little Polly - thoughts are with youxxxx

To bring up to date - I have one dd (5) and in the past year have had 2 mcs. I've just found out I'm pregnant again , I think I'm about 5 weeks or so. Sooooooooooooo worried that its going to happen again.

Putting off phoning EPAU, just want to pretend its not happening and that way fate might just let it all happen OK.