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Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part VII - Gusset Reporters and Knicker Checkers welcome

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SparkyMalarky · 17/01/2009 18:01

oooh, I do love a new thread

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Wheelybug · 18/02/2009 13:56

Rachel - how about a private scan in a couple of weeks ? So its between now and your next scan if you could wait a couple of weeks. Then its not so long until the next one IYSWIM.

Ashleigh - sounds like you need to go to maternity clothes. Or you can do the hair bobble loop trick where you somehow loop a bobble so it goes through the hole on one side and round the button on the other (someone else might be able to explain it better) I did at the same point and again was a size 10 with only extra bump. I don't suppose you have extra short legs ? If so, I could send you a pair of jeans I had at that point that don't have loads of bump room as they no longer fit. However, I have v. short legs and had them shortened ! Good luck with the appointment tomorrow.

ashleighbeee · 18/02/2009 14:08

Ahh thanks Wheelybug - the hair booble trick sounds interesting, maybe i should try and do this for a little bit?!! Unfortunately I am 5'6 and my legs are fairly long but that would have been FAB!! I will try and buy a pair tonight when we go shopping, and try the hair bobble trick on the few that are generous 10s - how are you getting on now with trousers etc? Are you still only carrying extra bump? And thanks for the well wishes for tomorrow.. I just have NO idea what to expect?! x

herbaceous · 18/02/2009 14:22

Ashleigh - google for a belly belt. They're bits of elastic with a button on one end and a button hole on the other, and mean you can expand your normal trousers for quite a while. V good!

dan39 · 18/02/2009 15:02

Hi all..thanks for advice re bfing - I think I need to chill a bit as she will pick up on my anxiety...she is eating and pooing and only lost 20g so its fine - but she has had an 'unsettled' 12 hours and I feel like I am not making her world perfect!

scotlass splendid idea, I am feeling a wee bit in mourning at the thought of leaving here!

wmmc thinking of you - can't wait for news!

Rachel1963 · 18/02/2009 15:43

Hi all, thanks for the responses. TBH, I think just getting my worries down on paper has helped. I'll talk to DH re a private scan but I suspect that even if we have one and it's fine, it'll only keep me reassured for a couple of weeks! I like Wheely's idea of waiting for a couple of weeks and think I might well try that - and if by then the midwife has found an hb, with luck I'll be generally more together!

grinningbee · 18/02/2009 16:20

Rachel I know exactly how you feel. I remember feeling very much in limbo at where you are now - between scans and too early to feel bean moving.

I went from having a scan at 12 weeks to having to wait until 21 weeks for the next one. Add that the MW failed to find the hb at my 16 week check and I almost went insane!

If it would reassure you and you can afford it, I would go for a scan midway between your last one and the next one. It isn't easy waiting, but at least after the 20 week one you should be able to feel movement to keep you sane.

Hope that helps a teeny bit

Wheelybug · 18/02/2009 17:07

Ashleigh - I'm doing ok with trousers, am still all bump (a boy bump everyone keeps saying !) but still wearing size 10 maternity trousers although finding I need bigger tops to cover the bump so am now down to a couple of pairs of trousers and a few tops that fit but am not going to buy anything new with 3 ish weeks to go !

Wheelybug · 18/02/2009 17:09

dan - sounds like you're doing really well, don't put too much pressure on yourself !

A postnatal thread sounds a good idea Scotlass

LittlePolly · 18/02/2009 17:22

Hi - hope everyone is well.

Congrats on your new arrival Dan ? Rose is a gorgeous name (quite near the top of my own list if I am ever lucky enough to have a little girl of my own). And so lovely to hear about all the successful scans.

Tracyea how's it going? Hackneybird are you still around?

I'm still lurking around here, quietly, kind of trying to pretend I'm not pregnant as I'm so bloody anxious at the mo. 7+6 today and four weeks to wait til my scan. I'd been hoping for an early scan after a mmc last time, but midwife says no way, unless I have bleeding. I do kind of think that an early scan would probably only reassure me for a couple of days anyway, and then I'd just go back to worrying.

Thing is, I felt really sick earlier on and had really sore boobs, but both those symptoms seem to have worn off in the past couple of weeks. The last baby stopped developing at 6 wks and I mcd at 12 last time, so I'm thinking the worst. Did another pg test two nights ago and it came up with a really strong line, but I know this doesn't necessarily mean a thing. Aaaaaagh. Someone tell me to pull myself together.

glimmer · 18/02/2009 19:19

LittlePolly and Rachel - we have all been there.

Rachel, this is two-sided advice, but some women get their own doppler and can check the heartbeat of the baby themselves. Has anybody experience with this? The problem is that you might not be able to find it for a number of reasons and then you would be really worried.
But I think some found it really helpful, especially in the time before you can feel the baby.

LittlePolly - your worries are very understandable. Your are right: as reassuring as it is to see the little baby on a scan, one can never be sure that thing won't go wrong in the future. It's so unfair that in some places you can self-refer to a EPU and in others you cannot.

I had no bleeding at all in my mmc detected at 12 weeks, but I bled for three weeks with my little son. That whole bleeding argument is flawed.

winemakesmummyclever · 18/02/2009 20:31

hi guys - just a quick catch up,

thanks for all your lovely messages. Isaac Alexander was delivered safely yesterday at 10.49 am, weighing 7lb 4oz. Everything has gone really well, so well in fact that we are home already .

Dan - no advice re bf - sorry - but your little Rose is absolutely beautiful!

Off for an early night - hospitals are really not good places to get a good kip in!

Good luck to all those with scans & appointments this week, and positive, sticky vibes to all of you who are just starting out on the scary journey of pg post-mc. Hope things go well for everyone of you x.

ladyhelen2 · 18/02/2009 20:56

The babies are coming thick and fast aren't they??! Congratulations wmmc. And well done on being home so quick. Hope you manange some sleep tonight and please post your birth story when you can.

Wheelybug · 18/02/2009 21:22

Wowee WMMC - that's the best advert for an elective c-sec . Is it beacause your DH is a doc they let you out early ??

Welcome to Isaac - a lovely name, is on our long list too ! So pleased all went well. Now no studying for a couple of days .

Wheelybug · 18/02/2009 21:29

GUSSET PATROL GRADUATES
Cricri - 1st November - GIRL- Elise Vivienne
LackaDAISYcal - 6th November - BOY - Finlay
barbareebaa - 24th November -BOY - William
Jackstini - 10th December ? BOY- Harvey
KD73 - 20th December - BOY - Aidan George
downbutnotout ? 3rd February BOY
dan39 ? 10th February GIRL - Rose
winemakesmummyclever - 17 February - BOY - Isaac Alexander

CURRENT CONCEIVED-AIR PASSENGERS
Supersteph
bunnyinheadlights - 26 February
Wheelybug - 13 March
Tsom - 17th March
Grinningbee - 26th March
Daisy J - 30 March
Scotlass - 21st April
Swaliswan - 25th April
Youknownothingofthecrunch - 25th April
Aquababe - 1st May
Ladyhelen2 - 3rd May
LoobyLou36 - 3rd May
Ses - 10th May
SparkyMalarky - 15th May
divedaisy - 7th May (also 12th, 17th or 19th!!!)
cece - 18th May
joyfuleyes - 29th May
herbaceous - 28 June
nattythomasandellen - 16th July
blogqueen - 31st August

tracyea · 18/02/2009 22:13

Congratulations WMMC what a lovely name! I'm sure that I must be being dim - you can't possibly have had a c section and gone home the same day!!
Littlepolly - I'm ok but I feel like crap most of the time, I eat constantly and still retch all day! Sorry for being a moany cow but half term is proving testing. I'm going to phone up the EPU next week and try to book a 8 week scan. When I had a mc last time they told me that next time I could go in for an early scan - I don't think they thought it would take 2 years!
I am already getting "bonny" due to continuous food intake - GREAT

tsom · 18/02/2009 22:27

congrats wmmc, can't believe you're home so fast

all my maternity trousers now rolling down at the waist, went round town today with one hand holding ds2 and the other trying to hitch them back up all the time, a classy look. May resort to tent dresses soon

hope all those in the nerve racking 1st trimester (and 2nd and 3rd) are hanging on in there, awful when you feel terrible and are wishing the next few weeks away, keeping my fingers crossed for everyone

ashleighbeee · 19/02/2009 13:16

WELL DONE WMMC!!!! I am so happy we have another graduate! Congratulations to you and your family!

Littlepolly I am sorry to hear that you're having a bit of a worrying time, I know what you mean about the scan only reassuring you for a few days - i think this is how i ended up having 4 private scans between 7+4 and 12+3 :S a bit OTT perhaps? I really dont like what seems to be the 'postcode lottery' on EPUs and Self Referal! If you are increasingly anxious and worried I think you should try and call them directly, the worst they can say is no to having you in for a scan.. No words can make you feel more reassured.

We have been to the hospital this morning to see about the screening - we dont have to have it as it doesnt pose a risk to pregnancy told very bluntly that we're a low risk pregnancy and we're being referred back to Midwife at GP practice - I am over the moon.. Although shot myself in the foot - a student midwife was in there and was wondering about listening for the baby's heartbeat, she said that she might not be able to find it, I tried to sound upbeat and said its okay I was reassured by the scan that i had on Fri so if you can't hear it i think i'll be okay to be told 'Ahh if you only had a scan on Friday then there is little point us trying to listen' I got all excited about it too! Although pretty pleased that she didnt just in case she couldnt hear - I'd have demanded a scan there and then! I am only 13+2 anyway and she said it works better after 14!

Wheelybug I am guessing you're not planning on finding out the sex of the baby.. I love the tales of 'how i knew it was a girl/boy' or 'how you can tell if its a girl/boy' i'll be interested to know if all the people analysing your bump are right ...

Anyway, i think i've blabbed for long enough.. better do some work since i've been out all morning! xx

bunnyinheadlights · 19/02/2009 14:33

Huge Congrats to wmmc!!! love the birth story - hope mine goes as smoothly!! also love love love the name! enjoy your little bubs! x

HerNameWasLola · 19/02/2009 17:18

Massive congratulations to WMMC - fantastic news!

Ashleigh really glad it all went well at the hospital, shame they didn't listen to the hb, but it would be terrifying if they couldn't find it, purely because they were looking too soon.

I trotted up to the mw this afternoon for no real reason other than she told me to pop in whenever I wanted to (foolish woman )She reassured me about various things I'd managed to get myself worried about, including the 2 day cracking headache I had earlier this week, and listened to the hb Was SO great to hear it. My next scan is 2 weeks on Monday so I'm hoping that will keep me going until then, but if not I can always go back Poor mw has no idea she's created a monster

to everyone else

aquababe · 19/02/2009 17:20

congrats WMMC

Ashleigh glad scan went well

LoobyLou36 · 19/02/2009 20:20

congratulations wmmc great name

and dan congratulations - she's lovely!

grinningbee · 20/02/2009 08:53

Congratulations WMMC I'm impressed that you're out so quick!

I seem to be getting scarily close to the top of the list.... eeeeeeeek!

Had my 35 week appt with the MW yesterday. She doesn't want to see me again for 3 weeks - can that be right? Seems like a long time at this point... I'm measuring 42 weeks now, hahahahaha. Must be down to Freddy Fibroid. We heard the heartbeat again and it was a galloping 155 Nipper did not like being poked to see how she was laying, and kicked the midwife, finishing with an impression of Alien - my tummy really tented up in the middle. Poor sausage hated being disturbed.

I'm feeling rather pleased with myself as I did some essentials shopping yesterday with all the various vouchers you get and a gift card, and got £55 worth of things for the grand sum of £1.84. I now have a nice pile of nappies (had to get one out to see how little it was!) maternity pads (joy) mats to protect the bed, and a changing bag. I feel a bit more prepared now! Just the big stuff to get which hopefully I'm borrowing from a friend next week.

Right, time for porridge methinks.

winemakesmummyclever · 20/02/2009 12:32

Morning - thank you very much for all the congratulations. Still cannot quite believe that he is here safe and sound. Not really much to tell re delivery as was planned cs. Pootled up to theatre at 10.10, dh's colleague did my spinal, and Isaac arrived crying his lungs out at 10.49. Had a little cry as it was so much better than the awful silence we had with ds's emergency section (he needed resus for a good few minutes, but was/is fine thank god!) Was very hypotensive, itchy and sick post-procedure, but a small price to pay for such a precious and beautiful gift.

wheely - more than likely because we both worked there at one time or another and they know we aren't complete eejits. I was as surprised as anyone - I only asked if they had any idea when we could go home. There were some raised eyebrows and someone my husband spoke to on the delivery unit asked if I was self-discharging - as if I would be so cavalier with my baby's welfare . But the docs okayed both me and Isaac, and we were home by tea time the day after the cs. In honesty, I had needed minimal analgesia, been totally self-caring from the first night and both myself and nipper were doing absolutely fine, so don't see why I should have taken up a much needed bed and valuable staff resources for another night.

MW has just been for first visit and all still ok (they forgot about us yesterday). I'm not recommending going home the next day for everyone, but for us it has worked really well. We're able to relax better and get some kind of vague routine together. Dh is off until the end of the month and is looking after me a treat and ds 1 is getting to know his little brother. Only the dog is sulking as he has been pushed down the pecking order again .

ashleigh - great news that you are considered low risk - still, take good care of yourself all the same.

grinning - glad the mw appt went well. I think I was seen about twice by cmw and 4 times at anc through my entire pg. Not much when you think about it really. Am sure you could always pop to see your cmw should you have any worries. Good shopping skills btw

Hope that everyone else is getting along just fine and dandy, especially those ladies who are just starting out in that awful pre-scan stage. I found that the few weeks after the 12w scan until I could feel ds move were the most uncertain as I had already begun to believe that things could possibly be ok, but didn't want to trust that belief and for things to go wrong again iykwim. Just felt, personally, that I couldn't believe he was growing as he should until he was able to make his presence felt. All of us cope with the stress and doubts differently - there is no right or wrong, just what works for you at that particular moment in time.

Anyway, enough waffling from me. Will try to upload some pics when I get the chance. Have a good weekend everyone .

cornflakegirl · 20/02/2009 13:00

Hi everyone - I haven't posted in ages but I've been lurking and reading everything.

Big congrats to wmmc and Dan! I'm so happy for both of you. Beautiful names too.

I had a consultant appointment this morning - actually saw his registrar, who wasn't particularly useful, but the midwife I saw beforehand was lovely, and she found the baby's heartbeat, so I've now definitely made it past the first trimester, which is a huge relief. I will be 15 weeks tomorrow. I've just told my boss - it feels real now.

YouKnowNothingoftheCrunch · 20/02/2009 13:14

Haven't posted for ages and haven't caught up with everyone's news yet.

Congratulations wmmc and what a lovely name

Things fine with baby here, nearly 31 weeks.

Sadly it looks like things with H are coming to a close. He's going to be moving out for good in just over a week. He's been depressed and nasty with it for a very long time and it's finally gotten to me too. I've been there for him through all of this for over a year, and he can't even be there for me when I need him. I'm about to start counselling now. I've been waiting for him to wake up one day and start treating me with respect, but I can't wait anymore. I need some strength left for when this little one arrives, and for ds1 and ds2. So I'm hoping this will be a positive and not necessarily permanent step. I hope he will sort himself out and come back as the man I knew but... (I really don't want to finish that sentence).

I am resolved to be positive from now on, and look to the future with all my beautiful dcs.

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