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My Waters Went on Monday at 22+4 :(

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WorzselMummage · 28/11/2008 18:02

Hi,

Does anyone have any experience of really premature rutured membranes ?

My waters went on monday as a result of an infection i picked up having an emergency stitch put in last week.

Babys fine and the stitch is still holding, i've not gone in to labour but obviously this is a grim situation and we're likely to lose our baby boy.

I'm on some wacking great antibiotics which are making me feel hideous but i have been discharged from hospital, there is nothing mroe they can do there apparently so i am home on bedrest praying babys lungs develop and he stays put for a few more weeks to at least give him a chance.

Does anyone know anyne who has been though this ?

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Bicnod · 03/01/2009 17:03

Oh he's so gorgeous - that first pic of him with his eyes open is soooo cute... he looks just like I feel in the mornings when I first open my eyes to the light

It must be nice but weird to be not pregnant anymore... make sure you take some time for yourself as well as rushing around after everyone else, you've been through so much in the past couple of months...

Congratulations again - you clearly have a little fighter on your hands x x x

CrochetDivaMadeTheElvesNewHats · 03/01/2009 17:16

Congratulations!

Northernlurker · 03/01/2009 17:18

Great to read an update - sounds like he's doing well. That photo with his eyes open is just remarkable - made me cry to. Go George!

lizziebeth · 03/01/2009 17:36

Don't know on earth how I missed all this!!

I'm so pleased that everything's going so well Sarah. So nice to see the photos.

lizziebeth · 03/01/2009 17:36

Don't know on earth how I missed all this!!

I'm so pleased that everything's going so well Sarah. So nice to see the photos.

stanausauruswrecks · 03/01/2009 17:39

Fabulous news - what a beautiful son you have!! Keeping you all in our thoughts here xxbig kisses for George (and virtual bottle glass of bubbly stuff for you!)

slightlycrumpled · 03/01/2009 18:35

He is totally adorable. Your pictures also made me cry a little. Totally gorgeous.

keels26 · 03/01/2009 20:27

Hi Worzel have just seen your pictures of baby George, he is so cute. Glad to hear he is doing well, hope you are feeling ok. Take care xxx

Nighbynight · 03/01/2009 20:45

oh bless the little thing. But why did you buy him such gigantic nappies??

TeenyTinyToria · 03/01/2009 20:53

George is so adorable - and so tiny! He looked really alert in the photo with his eyes open. I knit for premature babies, and it is so amazing to see how tiny they actually are - sometimes I look at the wee clothes and can't believe that a baby can be so small.

Hope you're feeling ok as well.

stillenacht · 03/01/2009 20:55

oh Worzel he is gorgeous!!!!

Your piccys made me cry too!

Well done you! xxxxxx

Befanasflower · 03/01/2009 22:04

Congratulations!!! just looked at my "threads I'm watching" and realised Baby George had arrived!!! gone all sniffery now... such wonderful news!!! He looks sooooo lovely, and so much hair!! HAPPY NEW YEAR!!

cazzybabs · 03/01/2009 22:18

I hve just had a nose through your photos....he is sooo perefect. Many congrautlations....and I am not broody! And well done to George for being so clever in sticking in there for a long as poss and for breathing on his own - what a clever boy.

flippyflop · 03/01/2009 22:36

Many congratulations!!! Have been lurking for ages & so so happy for you. You did so well cooking him for all that time after your PROM.
Have a great 2009 with that yummy, strong, young man! x x

Jacksmama · 04/01/2009 02:08

I've been looking at Gorgeous George's pictures all day - he's just sooooooooo cute!! The picture of him with his eyes open is just darling. I PMSL'd at the poster who said "but why did you buy him such big nappies " - LOL LOL LOL! But when I look at Jackbaby's newborn pics, where he's in Pampers Swaddlers for newborns, and although they're a bit baggy on him, they fit... it really brings home the size difference!! The picture of you (I assume) holding his foot - OMG!!! I just want to nibble his little toesies!!!
Anything new? How are you doing? Is your incision hurting or is it ok? One of my friends had her DS by section three days before I had Jackbaby (by forceps, no thanks to my cowbag of a midwife) and she was able to walk the next day and checked out of hospital after two days. She hardly had any pain (bitch) (unlike me) I mean, good for her , so hopefully it's like that for you too.
Do you get to hold him much? And is pumping breastmilk going ok? Do you have a good pump?
How is DD feeling about all this? Has she seen her little brother? (Little little brother!) They have those adorable T-shirts that say "I'm a big sister", someone should get her one, since it's true in all sorts of ways, LOL!
Nothing much new with us except this snow business is continuing... we had another dump of it last night. It was fun over the holidays but now I'm tired of it.
Hugs to you and George and the rest of your family!!

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WorzselMummage · 04/01/2009 07:52

Good morning !

Lol at all the question bless you for being so interested !

My slice ( as we have taken to calling it ) is fine, I does hurt a bit but if i am honest my fanny hurt a lot more afer my VB with Grace and the wound is so low down that i'll barely be able to find it, Its very long though and i doubt that it'll shrink back to be a tiny my friends show off as i wasnt that big really no not that stretched. I am regaining my shape already athough i was fairly fat curvacious to start with and i guess some of the few good things about having a prem are a not too ruined body and no stretch marks.. i'd swap them though but never mind. As for moving about i was out of bed in a coupe of hours which was utter agony but since then i have been moving around like normal, its incredible !

I think the main thing i am struggling as a reslt of the surgery is how i am supposed to feel emotionally.. i mean i know i have given birth and i have absoultly no doubt that it was the right decision and i'd not change it but i dont feel the same as i felt after having Grace.. do you think labour changes you ? After Grace i was in protected mother mode immediatly and every second away from her was painfull, i'd sit and gaze in wonderment at this life that created and bore df with endless converstions about he clever we'd been. I guess thats hormones from labour 'cos while i know we have done something amazing getting George to the point we're at now i just have not felt that emotional rush, i am a little numb to it all. I tried talking to df about it yesterday and he listened for a minute then started going on about how he thought he had cut his finger.. i think he has the emotional range of a pumpkin sometimes

Do you think thats because of how i gave birth or because i had to be so detatched during pregnancy, I want to feel it. I hope it comes soon.

We'll DD's 4 today 4 ! amazing. It doesnt seem possible really that it was 4 years ago. She's so big and has done so well.. mega proud mummy moment !!

She's still in bed snoring and so's DF.. i have just been and pumped surrounded by presents wrapped in snow white paper i'd forgotten how much of a PITA getting up twice in the night to do it is yawn yawn.

I am not so jealous of the snow anymore, we have had a few days of really cold (which for here is -4) and getting up in the night is even less fun when your freezing cold ! I dunno how youcope with -10 or more [shudder]

Right i will go and email you now x

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WorzselMummage · 04/01/2009 08:18

I have just read though all the other posts since yesterday and i am and about all the tears !

I am going to have to tell George how admired he is already !

I know i keep saying it but thank you ladies, Mumsnet really is amazing

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Bicnod · 04/01/2009 09:46

Hi Worzsel - I can't believe how active you are already, it's amazing - I was always told that if you had a CS you would be laid up for weeks

With regards the feeling a bit numb - I don't have any experience of what you've gone through (I'm 23+6 with my first baby at the moment) but I can't help but think that the emotional rollercoaster ride you've been through in the past couple of months, the fact that you had to protect yourself by detaching to some extent during the pregnancy because of what was going on, plus the fact that gorgeous George is in the hospital rather than at home and I'm guessing you're not able to hold him/feed him etc as you would have done with your first baby, all add up to one numb mummy.

You've been through so much, please give yourself a break - you have done the best you can possibly do for George and now he is safely in the world and being looked after which is wonderful and all thanks to you.

When my friend had her baby she said she didn't understand what people meant about the 'rush of love' thing until about a week after the baby was born (when it hit her!) - she said she loved him of course, but she thinks she was quite shocked at becoming a mummy and she thinks her brain didn't let her feel things until she was ready to deal with them... I don't know if that makes sense to people who have had children but it seemed to make some kind of sense to me.

Anyway - sorry, I'm not the best person to give advice, I'm sure some of the experienced mummies will be along soon

I've been thinking about you and George so much and sending lots and lots of love to you both for speedy recoveries x x x

Bicnod · 04/01/2009 09:47

p.s. happy birthday to your DD

Nighbynight · 04/01/2009 09:48

Worzel, am guessing that you must be reacting to the stress of the last few weeks. I think it's normal to go through a numb few days, after such an experience. And you have got baby hormones in the mixture too. Hope you feel a bit better soon.

Nighbynight · 04/01/2009 09:49

x post!

Aitch · 04/01/2009 10:48

worzel, i was told that your hormones take longer to settle back with a cs, certainly i got my three day blues on day ten and wondered what they were.

i phoned a local birth crisis person to talk through my feelings about dd2's arrival. it's so much to take in, the 'failure' of your body to keep your baby safe, the intervention, the relief, the sadness, the luck, the fear and the overwhelming feeling (for me, at least) that everyone else was moving on witht he story but that i was still a bit stuck on the delivery adn the fact that it had to happen at all.

it helped a lot. talking about it on here did too.

laumiere · 04/01/2009 10:50

Worzel don't worry about the numb feeling, I had exactly the same thing when I had PROM with DS1, he spent 3 weeks in SCBU.

Part of it is needing to 'let go' a little as you're having to leave your bundle in someone else's hands (for at least part of the time) and I think a large part is discombulation, e.g. 'I've had a baby but my baby isn't right here with me'. I suspect our bodies protect us by going a bit unemotional so that we can continue to function. It does get better (2.5 years on I still get a bit frightened by having another prem babe but can see that DS1's birth was a wholly positive experience).

Please keep posting if you can, it's lovely to hear how you and G are doing.

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WorzselMummage · 04/01/2009 12:11

I know your right it'll come in time i's sure and aitch it's nice in a really roundabout way to know i am not alone feeling ( or not really feeling ) like this. The MW has just been and recomended i try and get some councilling which tbh i think i'm going to need. I think PND is probably quite likely but i hope its just a delay in hormones. The Mw said that speaking to a berevement counciller would probably help as in effect i have lost 2 pregnancies had 3 miscarriges and had all my dreams shattered too many times she's probably right. I hovered on the edge of PND after dd and used to lie on those stupid questionaire cards to get them off my back..

I am not going to be able go and see George till later but when i rang he was fine, they are incresing his feeds today apparently.. DD's not been well for ages and when we took her to the dr on friday she wanted her sent for urgernt bloods as all her glands are up on her neck, they seem to think its Glandular Fever ( or at least i hope thats what they think it is ) bu we cant really take her to scbu and i can't drive so i'm at everyone else mercy transport wise.

I just asked MW about the section and driving and she said i wouldnt be covered from the insurance if i have an accident.. boo rubbish !

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Aitch · 04/01/2009 12:14

the question you ask yourself is 'can i make an emergency stop?'
for me, it took 4 weeks, deffo.

will look up birthcrisis.