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November/December babies

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monkey · 10/03/2003 17:42

Hell, I've just found out I'm expecting No. 3 mid November, and am very excited. A bit scared too - I can't remember a thing! How can I possibly have done this twice already??? Hope more of you can join me soon!

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whellid · 08/04/2003 10:40

Grommit, I had a dull ache in about the same spot for a lot of my first pregnancy. I have a few pangs this time, usually after I've been lifting ds a bit too much. If you are worried you should go and see your midwife / doctor, just to reassure you.
Allatsea, I'm now getting used to the idea of having two under two, and am on to worrying about everything else. I'm self-employed so won't get any maternity pay this time - well, except for the £75/week for the maternity allowance. Will have to give a holiday a miss this year! and start to save to cover the months I will be not working.
Got through a big family get together at the weekend by holding my stomach in! Only my Mum and Dad know so far as we thought they could do with some good news.

allatsea · 08/04/2003 10:54

I had my 'performance review' at work this week. My boss asked me if I thought that I'd be having another soon. I'm on a fixed term contract that ends next April, so I don't know what happens about maternity pay etc. She also hinted that they may not be renewing everyone's contracts, there's always something extra to think about! I really can't get my head around it yet. We saw our families last weekend and are doing so again at Easter. There's so much today between now and November, but we can't even talk about the decorating etc until people know why! I cna't imagine how you put 2 children to bed/give them tea etc etc. Oh well, like you, I'm just trying to hold my tummy in whenever we meet anyone - are you feeling really bloated? I feel as if I look 4 months pg already

elliott · 08/04/2003 12:05

allatsea, I know just how you feel about there being so much to do but not being able to tell people about it. I just have all this stuff that I need to sort out whizzing around my head - it would be much less stressful if I could actually get on and DO some of it, but I feel I just have to sit tight for a couple more months...
hmmm, bit cheeky of your boss to ask you about your plans - I'd start checking out the situation with your contract if I were you, so you know exactly where you stand!

whellid · 08/04/2003 12:10

It's so difficult isn't it. My dh said a few things at the weekend that only made sense in relation to having two kids - we managed to gloss over them without anyone noticing (I think!). He's got such a big mouth! We're seeing his family at Easter and as I will be just over 11 weeks then I think we'll tell them - especially if I can't do my trousers up!
So how is everyone feeling at the moment? I had to go to bed at 8.30 last night as I was so tired! Felt really pathetic!

elliott · 08/04/2003 12:17

I've been falling asleep on the sofa by 9 every evening....but then ds has been sleeping pretty badly, and I've been awake half the night worrying about everything...aarggh! Whats wrong with me, I should be over the moon??!!

WideWebWitch · 08/04/2003 12:20

I feel disgustingly lardy and gross too, sympathies anyone else who feels the same. I'm sure I shouldn't have put on any weight yet (only 7 weeks) and yet I'm the size of a house. I think some of it's stopping smoking and substituting fags for food. My boobs are enormous and none of my bras fit so I'm going to have to buy maternity ones soon. Oh, it's all so yuk!

I've told everyone on the basis that I'd tell them if I miscarried as I'd expect their support. And ikwym about the tiredness - I've often gone to bed at the same time as ds at 8-ish in the last couple of weeks.

grommit · 08/04/2003 12:34

WWW - LOL, my stomach looks about 5 months and I am only 5.5 weeks. Why is this pregancy going sooo slowly. Thought I'd worry less with this one but just as bad. It's great to have somewhere to talk about it this time too - Mumsnet has got to be better than any ante-natal groups!

elliott · 08/04/2003 12:42

hey www, you mean NONE of your thirty bras fit??

I put on weight really quickly last time so I am trying to be more restrained this time - still feel hungry ALL the time though. I think I can detect some slight boob swelling at last...but since last time I barely increased by one bra size (even during bf) I am not binning my two trusty bras yet....

WideWebWitch · 08/04/2003 12:50

Elliott, no they don't! But hey, I'm not particuarly feeling like wearing black and lacy stuff atm anyway Glad to hear I'm not the only lardy McLard on this thread...

Rhubarb · 08/04/2003 14:59

I think I should now come out and say that I am Shocked. But no congrats please. I have no signs, no symptoms, but am about 6 weeks (from day of last period). Just wanted to tell someone.

Jemma7 · 08/04/2003 15:03

Rhubarb, Are u not pleased? How are u feeling?

tigermoth · 08/04/2003 15:05

rhubarb, what can I say! Take lots of care and hope the shock subsides soon.

sprout · 08/04/2003 15:10

Rhubarb, hope the shock wears off soon - and that you've got lots of people around you to give you moral (and practical) support as necessary.

Lil · 08/04/2003 15:10

Rhubarb, hope you're feeling OK. What a shock if you're not expecting it. Can I ask how old your youngest is at the moment? I mean the gap's not too big/small is it?

Rhubarb · 08/04/2003 15:15

My dd will be 3 in July. If anyone on here knows of my circumstances, they will know why I am shocked at this pregnancy. I won't deny we haven't thought about another one, but my best friend soon put me into perspective about that one. It seemed too great a risk to take, and I didn't ever want kids in the first place. We were doing just fine with the one. Now I feel very, very sad. And very defensive too. Just all over the place I guess.

grommit · 08/04/2003 15:37

Rhubarb - don't know what to say - I suppose an unplanned pg must be a shock - hope it works out for you

WideWebWitch · 08/04/2003 15:42

Rhubarb, I hope you're OK.

Lindy · 08/04/2003 15:59

Rhubarb - just read your message, I know from previous threads that your views on having another baby are very similar to mine, so just to let you know that my thoughts are with you, I know what I'd be feeling like in your position; good luck.

mum2toby · 08/04/2003 16:02

Rhubarb - I don't know what your views are on another baby, but are you not even a teeny wee bit pleased??

Forgive me for asking when I don't know all the facts, it's just that I'm so broody just now....

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Twink · 08/04/2003 17:03

Rhubarb, I'm just really echoing Lindy's post. Take care of yourself. xx

elliott · 08/04/2003 17:10

rhubarb, I'm really sorry this isn't good news for you. Hard to know what else to say really. have you talked to dh yet?

Demented · 08/04/2003 23:11

Just to echo everyone else's thoughts, take care of yourself Rhubarb, remember you will be all over the place just now, hormones! You've got us lot to help you through this time too! All the best.

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monkey · 09/04/2003 07:49

rhubarb, wishing you all the best. Pg can be fun if planned, but even then still scary and/or hard work too. I hope you get all the support you need and come to enjoy some of the positives, once you're more used to the idea. How's dh/dp taking it?

Thinking of you.

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bells2 · 09/04/2003 09:16

Good luck Rhubarb - thinking of you.