The sequel - Fab, Sparkly & often Moany 40 + : Preggie or New Mums - come say Hi!

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We've now filled up the last thread - and the two before that! Seems that there are a lot of us old girls out there getting ourselves into trouble

So - if you've just found yourself to be with child or have a LO and you've hit (or about to hit - we'll let you sneak in just under the radar!)the big 4 0, then come say Hi!

There is always a spare comfy chair - plenty of cake and many old ladies to listen to your moans! Think of the lovely ladies knitting shreddies - only we're not sporting a blue rinse, but wearing cashmere and kitten heels

Hello regular ladies. I avoided putting FAT, F*cked or Knackered in the title - tempting as it was

Awww lilibet that's not nice At least you now know - so hopefully you can prepare yourself. Sorry sweet - do keep us posted. Oh and remember - you aren't going anywhere - so if you want to vent with us - then go ahead. ((hugs)))xxxx

tee and bless you too. Sounds a nasty thing to grapple with. I've no words of wisdom or experience I'm afraid.I'm one of life's Labradors - very lucky like that, so one of my greatest fears was PND. Just sending you good vibes and as much cake as you can eat. And, of course, a theraputic boobies straight from Iris who is running around with my bra (from the was basket) on her head

msdynamo HELLO! good to see you popping in - do stay for a chat anytime....lovely to hear from you I was having tests for the peri- menopause when I got preggieDo keep an open mind and I know that accupuncture is popular here for those TTC as I met lots of women in my preggie yoga class who'd been down that route. Seemed innordinately succesful!

A*se to Tina O'Brien. Having been a stylist I know all the tricks....(can I just say foundation underwear - aka corset!) add to the mix plenty of creative photoshopping but I still get

SNOW, SNOW WHAH...runs round wildly for no apparent reason. mrsb* you must get curtains NOW!

((((hugs)))) lilibet No idea what to say other than can't imagine how you're feeling at all

Come back later after you've had your cry and kick our arses. It might distract you for a few minutes

Yeah mrsb. I had no idea how the blood got there just saw it and yelped. On closer inspection where I held her upside down under a magnifying glass, there was none inside the ear canal so can only think she's scratched herself with her claw like fingers.

I want to be photoshopped in real life. I shall as DH if he can manage it.

Talking of which, photos! Just got my new drivers license photocard back and I look like Rose West. My DH concurred. That makes him Fred West then

WHAHAHAHAHAHAHHA am PMSL@ Rose West reference!!

My DP thinks I'm starting to look like Catherine Tate

So, come on girls....who do you look like?!
So far JW Starring as Rose West
Jeanjeannie co-starring as Catherine Tate

Feel free to add yours!

oh lilibet I am so sorry - I know it is a blow to have it confirmed even when you have all but given up hope. The decision you have to make now is a difficult one - depends whether you want it all over with as clinically and quickly as possible or would rather let nature take its course.

as the others have said - please come back and vent when you are ready

xx

I'm so sorry lilibet. What a hard decision to have to make.

Come back and vent at us any time!

so sorry to hear your sad news lilibet. that nasty '3rd way' was the same with my m/c. i could see on the screen that the little mite wasn't moving and looked too small for 10wks. perfectly formed though. they called it a 'missed abortion', which was nice, and instantly suggested i go in the next day for a d&c rather than wait. i felt a bit pushed along but thinking back am quite glad that's how they did it. hope you choose the way that's best for you, and take plenty of time to cry as much as you want and try to rest yourself. xx

Oh lilibet that really sucks. Poor you, and your DH too. Thinking of you both.

Don't go away - you would be much missed x

with my older bob hair cut I have been told I look like a bit like Eddie Reader of fairground attraction

lilibet ((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))) can't say much more cos it would be totally trite. Please hang around here if you want too, the more the merrier.

msdynamo hiya good to hear your news, exercise worked for me when I conceived this LO

Ermintrude How was the D&C? How long did it take you to recover physically? It's ds2's birthday on Friday and we have booked a trip to the Chill FactorE for his friends.

Don't want to spend the time in the loo in tears.

And I have jsut spent the rest of the morning filling in an application form, my computer played up and I missed the deadline. Bum!

Dh is off today and we were supposed to be shopping this afternoon for a hall carpet, but it's cold and horrid here, so we may stay in and play boggle.

Have also this morning got the letter from the community midwives - First line "Congratulations on your pregnancy", dh tried to hide it, but I saw it, cue more tears!

Who called me calm and pragmatic? Pah!

Obvioulsy not just a trip for ds2's friends - he is coming as well!!!

Grrrrr - ill-timed letter lilibet - just what you need! Sounds like you've got loads of stuff to keep you occupied - which gives you a small window for crying - a good balance by the sounds of it. Nah - a few tears (which are allowed) - nice try - I reckon you're still calm and pragmatic

msdynamo forgot to say that exercise definately worked for me - as I did the Reading Half Marathon while unknowingly preggie with Iris I wouldn't recommend it though as you have to keep stopping for the loo and that plays havoc with your timing

lilibet, I recovered physically from the D&C pretty quickly - stayed in hosp overnight and then walked out in the morning and didn't go to bed or anything. It was like having a period - heavyish bleeding for a few days, slightly sore abdomen but no other problems down below. It was a Tues and I took the rest of the week off work but that was for my emotional recovery really - couldn't concentrate on anything. I was on the general gynae ward and there were four other women, all older and having things like hysterectomies and I could hear them whispering about me being 'stand-offish' - because I kept the curtains closed and wept for the 6 hours before the op. Once they realised they were nice though.

You prob won't feel like running a kid's party on Fri, D&C or not, but I'd say there's no physical reason why you wouldn't be able to if they booked you in quickly. Like any op though, you do need to take it easy afterwards, rest, eat what you like. I' sure you dh will look after you x

lilibet if you would prefer to get it over with and in a controllable way then that is probably the option for you. The natural way could take a while and there is always the risk of heavy bleeding if everything doesn't get expelled properly. Sorry if TMI.

True mrsb. Normally I prefer to take the natural route, but in that case I think I'd have been so upset by it that an op was better, and I was reassured that no more gruesome things were going to happen. I'm not squeamish, but I felt very sensitive around that time.

I know what you mean ermintrude you do feel very raw. I didn't have d and c as it wasn't really necessary by the time I had the scan but I was on tenterhooks for days until I knew it was all over.

Need a vent. Every day I have to call into the Diabetes Clinic with my numbers. And every day (or at least every other day) we've had to put my insulin up!

Is it going to be like this through the whole pregnancy?!?! Those of you with GD in the past, did it ever settle down?

Vent over!

Hi

I'm a newbie so sorry in advance - I don't have a clue about acronyms etc. I have a 10 year old son and at the age of 42 find myself 19 weeks pregnant. It was all rather a shock, but I am at last starting to feel really excited about it all.

When I told my best friend my news (same age/no kids), her first words were ?you?re going to be a geriatric mother aren?t you??. Hmmm, great start?

Anyway, I went through the usual worries in the first trimester, esp with regards to tests and in the end decided to go to the Fetal Med Clinic in Harley St for 12 week nuchal scan & combined blood tests. It was the best £150 I've ever spent, they were so thorough and so helpful. Will be going back in a couple of weeks for 21 week scan too.

So my biggest concerns now are
a) all my friends finished having babies ages ago and I don?t know anyone who?s expecting
b) we got rid of every bit of baby stuff we ever had and the thought of buying it all again is a nightmare
c) I can?t believe that there is still such a crappy selection of maternity clothes out there

Oh well, I am glad to have found mumsnet so I can get these things off my (hugely expanding) chest.

Hi sarahmum! This is the place for you, you are not alone. I'm the baby around here, only going to be 40 when my first baby arrives in June. You'll also find that many of us have robbed the cradle, my personal toy boy is 5 years younger than I am.

Older ladies with babies, that's us!

Also, have you looked at Mamas and Papas for maternity wear? We are getting a brand new store here in Belfast in the middle of December and I've been cruising their website and their stuff doesn't look too bad!

lilibet so sorry that you've still got this awful decision hanging over you. Mine (fortunately) came away of it's own accord (in B&Q of all places). And I know what you mean about the letter - my GP didn't tell my hospital and I got the scan letter a fortnight after losing. Brought everything back You can either go down the route of chin up for the kids (or chins in my case ) or you can go and hide under your duvet - but I don't think that's you is it? (hug)

Tee that's one of the downsides of diabetes; ringing in every day. Although I rang in only every week but I only got to 24 weeks before she popped out. It's in your interest that they're upping the insulin and not a lot you can do really...and it'll get worse before it gets better. Sorry. But your placenta will be hoovering that insulin up like it's going out of fashion.

Sarahmum take heart from being ancient and out of touch mother. I'm 42 and took a 17 year gap between my (ex) youngest and my LO. My oldest is almost 23 and I've one at 19 too. It's all really the same as 10 years ago but with a few more frills on top Babies are babies and nothing so radical really happens in the babyworld. They still cry and poo and like nothing more than cuddles, milk and filling their nappies. Oh, and sleeping (if you're lucky!). Nearly all of the high street shops do maternity now; topshop, new look, evans, h&m etc etc.

jj Catherine Tate eh? Nah. You're better looking than her - she has a wonky face.

I'm thinking mrsb reminds me of someone from her profile pic.....Cher! (runs away before she gets a clout)

Hi Tee2072 - Sady I don't have a toy boy - at 47, poor DH is feeling even more concerned about being an older parent than I am!

I got some jeans from Mamas & Papas and a few nice bits from Jo Jo Maman Bebe, but it really surprises me what a limited selection is out there on the high street. Thank god for web shopping!

welcome Sarahmum and congratulations !

Times have changed - it used to be that anyone over the age of 28 used to be medically considered a geriatric mum!!. Nowadays it is most fashionable to be an older mum - you only have to look at the celeb world!

As tee says there are lots of us on here proud to be older mums or soon to be older mums. I am one of the cradle snatchers tee speaks of - my OH is 28 and I am 41 in December and we have a 10 week old son - but OH suffers way more from the tiredness than I do!

re acronyms - the ones mainly used are DP or DH (Dear Partner/Husband
DD and DS daughter and son

you will pick the others up as you go along

re your concerns:

a) great! you will be the centre of attention - and get lots of lovely presents and lots of your friends will be secretly jealous (although others will think you have lost your wits!)

b) fear not - the internet is your friend and there are so many fantastic things to buy especially gorgeous modern baby clothes on sites which you will hear about here

c) yeah, you got me there! maternity wear is still terrible!

tee sorry can't help re the insulin - my GD developed late on so it never got to the point of me needing it - i'd imagine that its a safe bet that you will need to increase the dosage as the placenta grows though...

Cher? eeeeek jw take that back this instant!!!!!!

Thanks mrsboogie. 28? v. impressive!

It is a rather ironic twist that I actually set up a baby gifts website a few years ago www.sprogbox.co.uk

I hardly thought it would come in useful for me though!

Hello and Welcome Sarahmum Older, pregnant girls are all the rage! See - you're IN fashion

I'm 43 and didn't pop my first until 41 and had DD2 5mths ago at 42. I hold my hands up though to cradle snatching - he's 7 years younger....although there are others on here worse than me...tee hee. MrsBoogie and Ladymac spring to mind

I've not found any real probs about being older - in fact it's amazing how many of us there are out there.

So - on this thread we like
a moan
CAKE
gossip
and the word 'boobies' - which, as you mentioned, are usually large!

We're also quite handy as we've been round the block a few times and if you're having a crisis/bad day etc then we can usually offer some words of wisdom!

Other well-used acronyms here. LOL (laugh out loud) and PMSL (P*ss ing myself laughing) So all very jolly!!!

Tonight matthew, said mrsB I'm going to be.....CHER!!!