Found out it's going to be a boy - am shocked! Please tell me your lovely little boy stories!!

[Itsablue]

Have name changed for this as don't want any RL people to know how I feel who may know me on here...

Last Friday we had the 20 wk scan and I have been CONVINCED, absolutely convinced that it was going to be a girl. I don't know why. Maybe because there are a lot of girls in both our families. Before I got pg I totally didn't mind what we had but since the day I found out I was pg, it was "always" going to be a girl. DH and I have stupidly got caught up in this mythical princess baby girl.

Just for confirmation of my sure suspicions, we asked to know what sex the baby was. Imagine my surprise when she tells us "definately a boy".

Now I know I am delighted that the baby is healthy but I must admit I was knocked for six on the day when we found out it is a boy. I found it hard to take in. All I kept thinking was "where's my girl gone?!?!" I cannot imagine myself with a boy - what do you DO with boys, if that makes sense?! (probably not but I am an irrational pg woman).

DH says he's pleased with either boy or girl but I know I was so convinced and convincing that we were having a girl, I've got him all excited about the girl we are now not having. This is making me feel worse.

I am trying really hard to replace all the girl fantasies with boy ones - but it is hard and every time I see baby girl clothes/prams/toys I feel a bit sad. I know its terrible to feel like this. I just see boys as being somehow not as much fun (ridiculous ridiculous ridiculous).

I would find it so helpful if you could tell me your gorgeous little boy stories please, so I can paint out the girl for good and genuinely look forward to my boy.

Oh and Grumpalina, I even got asked by a random person at work, "So how long have you known you were pg for?" He was NOT asking in a roundabout way how many months pg I was as I had already told him, he was just being nosy as to how long I had known before telling work!!!!

Er, none of your BeesKnees, Mr!!

I digress....

DS is only 3.5 but already he loves looking back at photos of himself, and I'm (very slowly, admittedly) putting together albums of his first years. And he likes baby dolls, and playing at cooking in play kitchens... at the same time he likes to run around and be Superman, or dive into puddles, or hang from climbing frames. A lot of what you wanted to do with a daughter you can still do with a son (perhaps not the pink tutu, unless he's keen) (mind you, my SILs regularly paint DS's nails when they get their hands on him).

i always wanted a girl, thought i would have a girl, only got sisters myself, I was slightly disappointed when i found out my bump was a boy, BUT.... now he is here he is gorgeous and tbh, i don't mind if i only have boys.

We are not a sporty / IT / typical male family but there's loads you can do with boys, camping, nature, playing the guitar.

The outfits you are right about tho, the girls clothes are far cuter, and the boys clothes all tend to be either covered in trucks or hammers etc and are so macho they look village people camp or they are tank tops and shorts that look total preppy.

I dress my boy in white velour flares, he looks like elvis! look at my profile

I was shocked too when I heard I was having a ds. Girls were our thing. we only did girls. Was in shock for a little while.

But once I had him, it didn't matter. Now he's 2 and a half and every bit a little boy - loads of energy and such fun. Wouldn't trade him... (mostly!!)

Congratulations - you'll have a lot of fun in different ways.

It's certainly made me appreciate dh more. He keeps telling me about these cars and I am so but now I've got one who is stuck on wheels I can see it's a love affair that has a good 20+ years headstart over me...

I had two girls first, and as there are loads of girls in our family, was actually worried about the possibibilty of having a boy third time around -

I thought looking at others that they seemed really hard work - and I just would have been comfortable with another girl, although my dds are not really that girly at all.

My ds is 16 mo now and I am so utterly addicted to him I literally cannot stop looking at him or kissing him, and have felt like this since he popped out ! Not to say of course I don't feel the same overwhelming love for my girls, as I do, but maybe its his enviable position of the baby of the family and the only boy that makes me lap it up so much...also I now know how quickly the baby days go by, and I am enjoying him while he still needs me!

I love buying the boys clothes, it s welcome break from pink and lilac, which I am not keen on for my girls anyway. I think the fact e is already obsessed with cars and trains is adorable, and the way his face lights up when the Night Garden comes on can bring me to tears. Everyone stops and tells me what a beautiful gorgeous little boy he is...he knows it too....so I'm sure I;ll be in for trouble with the toddler years coming 1

Congrats on your pg, you will feel the same once he is born, without a doubt. I really truly think the only difference between having girls and boys is the whole dressing up pink girly princes thing, which is a total myth, and so not what parenting is about.

Good luck !

So... picture this. absolutely sure i was having a girl. DC was born, handed to me wrapped in a towel..

me: hello my darling lily.
midwife: ah thats a lovely name. she's beautiful.
me: oh isnt she? hello baby.
second midwife taking notes asks first midwife: so its a girl is it?
first midwife(to me): er... is it?
me: yes of course, look...
shocked silence...
me: she's got a... er... you know... a cock.
second midwife: maybe Leo then? Lily is just not going to work !
first midwife: i think you mean a willy dear.

how surreal is that? but the thing that makes me laugh is how concerned the midwife was that i said willy rather than cock.

DS now is gorgeous, plays with dolls and prams as much as cars.

it will be fine, honest!

i am the person to tell about boys

I have wanted yearend for and lamented not having girls

I do have one girl - and 5 boys

boys are no fun to dress and you cannot plait their hair
you cannot go to dance class and they will never be Mary

however

they are LOVING soft sweet scrumptious and straightforward

they really love their mums and hopefullly this will last

little girls are delish and dont rag about as much - are LESS loud and less boistrous

in teenage years you will thank whatever deity that you got a gorgeous handsome boy!

Just read over the threads I missed.Itsablue, afraid to tell you that not all girls like pink and ballet. Have a 9yr old who doesnt like either, lived in tracksuits and runners for the summer, plays rugby and soccer like her older brother. Wouldnt thank you for a barbie doll. She now wants a set of drums for christmas!

LOVE these stories! Thank you PortAndlemon, kalo12, sweetgrapes and Chankins!

Wish I could see your profile kalo12, a mini Elvis, ahhh !!!

Mankymummy ! your story is ACE.

Notanotter - wow, 5 boys and a girl, how fantastic! You must get spoilt rotten on Mother's day (and more so as they get older and appreciate all you must do for them)

Cikecaka - l know its just that whilst they are still too small to really have an idea of the alternatives I could do the pink, and stripy tights, etc . Having said that I remember a tantrum aged 3 because my mum wouldn't let me wear an purple polo neck with red tights which I thought was Beeeautiful and she thought was Ewww. (there was no pink on offer tho so it was that or browns/orange). I turned out to be an unconventional teenager before going back to conventional in my early 20's so I know I certainly didn't always fit a mould...

But seriously, the more time I have spent here the more I am realising the girl thing was tied up in my own background (more than just to do with dresses and dressing up) its about creating a great childhood I didn't have myself. Yes I was fed, cared for and loved - but in a perfunctionary way rather than an indulgent or emotional way. I was aware I was nothing special growing up so I was determined that when I had DCs I would make sure they knew they were super special.

I could only initially picture this with a DD (cos I was one once) but OF COURSE there's no difference between a DD and DS for making a child feel unique and special and knowing you think they are simply the best DC(s) in the world (without making them brats )

Gah I can't half ramble hey!!!!

All you posting with words of support and encouragement are helping make my DS's future experience better, simple as that. Ramble over. And Thanks x

Itsablue congartulations! I have 2 boys and I can honestly say that they are both wonderful and I wouldn't change a thing. They are so affectionate and thoughtful and pay me the most wonderful compliments all the time. IME boys are often a bit easier to figure out than girls and mine are pretty easy to please!

I am so in love with them can you tell?

Little girls are lovely too but I am sure you will love being a mum to a little boy and he will adore you completely!

schneebly.. peeked at your pics and honestly - how gorgeous gorgeous gorgeous are your boys?! Those smiles are to die for, I can totally see why you are in love with your DS's! (I think I am too )

There's so much to look forward to isn't there...

Am in tears reading this Very emotional about my ds2 atm and this post

By Szyslak on Thu 25-Sep-08 10:21:37
They are just so affectionate, and to me, as they often seem to lack the social know how or confidence in understanding the rules of life/school/interaction, in the way girls often more esaily can, they seem more vulnerable, a little more needy of thier Mummies, a little more simple and straight forward perhaps, in a way that makes you just want to clasp them to you forever, and keep them home with mummy (which of course you resist).

really sums up how I feel.

I have a dd and then 2 boys and I think it does tend to be true that boys are so much more affectionate. My ds1 was very hard work as a toddler but at the same time the most loving, cuddly, soppy little boy and as Szyslak said somehow much more vulnerable. DD was easier as a toddles but whereas she got much harder and stroppier as she got older ds1 has just got easier. I think girls tend to be more independant and opinionated whereas boys just need love and exercise!! As a certain posters name says - boys are like dogs!

My ds is like a tiny version of his dad - a lot of their baby pictures look identical. He is 18 months old, and just so cute. I love having a little boy!

He spends most of his days running around with a football, throwing it in the air and shouting "'atch!". Every furry animal is a "tat" or a "dug", and he tries to cuddle books with pictures of cute animals in. He's just started calling me mum, and he'll give me big cuddles and pat me on the back. He just does so many cute things, and makes us laugh every day.

My ds is like a tiny version of his dad - a lot of their baby pictures look identical. He is 18 months old, and just so cute. I love having a little boy!

He spends most of his days running around with a football, throwing it in the air and shouting "'atch!". Every furry animal is a "tat" or a "dug", and he tries to cuddle books with pictures of cute animals in. He's just started calling me mum, and he'll give me big cuddles and pat me on the back. He just does so many cute things, and makes us laugh every day.

aww thank you They do have fab smiles I agree - they are happy chappies!

Although I get lovely compliments all the time DS1 said to me a few weeks back; "Mummy why do you ahve an eyebrow on your lip?"

Time to go for a wax I guess!? I am fair and all - must have been the sun shining on it

Lolol!!

Aww, Pesha! Dont' cry (I have been too but its given way to smiles over the funny and lovely experiences that are being posted!)

Your LO sounds like so much fun TeenyTinyTorya! Bet there's never a dull moment in your house, and lots of love and fun by the sounds of it.

schneebly - How funny! I am beginning to realise we can all rely on kids to "see it, say it"! in the words of er, Catchphrase (Note to self: must keep up with waxing)

I am probably heading off to bed shortly but thank you ALL a thousand times for reaching out to help me and DS-to-be. You truly have been helpful in the fullest sense of the word and I take every kind word as a gift to me & baby. Thanks so much x

Sorry Itsablue not had time to read all your thread but just wanted to add boys are amazing! CONGRATULATIONS!
Like you my little girl disappeared at my 20 week scan, and I had no idea what to do with a boy! Mum was single parent from me being 3 months to 15years, had no male relatives apart from Grandpa who died when I was 5...I HAD NO IDEA, and paniced a wee bit...
BUT my darling boy is now 2.6, and the sweetest most loving, most playful, most cheeky, little angel I have ever met...there is nothing sweeter than your little lad giving you a hug for no reason, and my sons latest phrase...mama your my best friend, heart melt...last month it was mama you so bewtiful...next month who knows? He still holds my face to sleep! I could talk all night about how amazing boys are but I wont bore you...you'll find out soon enough and can then start your own thread and ramble happily about your ittle bundle of blue...
For the record, I'm now 35weeks and waiting for my little bundle of pink to come along...after an initial mad shopping spree for all things pink I'm already bored of the colour, and suprise surprise worrying that I have no idea what to do with a girl, and worrying that I just wont be as besotted with her as I am with her brother...how fickle am I? Boys clothes that I always moaned about are suddenly very cute! You know what though, I'm sure I'll love my little girl just as I'm sure you'll love your baby boy...
One more cute boy story...DS last week when asked his name, introduced himself, then turned around pointed at my bump and said...'and this baby sister!'
I'll stop rambling now, I'm off to stare at my sleeping boy...again CONGRATULATIONS!

Congratulations. I have two amazing boys, 18mnths apart. They are loving, affectionate and extremely cuddly and I adore them to pieces. Above all I count myself very blessed with two very healthy young men.

I'm having a boy and so happy about it...but I wanted a girl originaly too.

I've spent a lot of time observing all my friends' kids (a mix of boys and girls) & have DEF decided I'm v lucky....although of course a girl would've been lovely!! I tend to find the little girls I know can be more precocious, fake and whiny than the boys....they also give and demand affection purely on 'their terms', rarely on their mum's. The boys all seem to have senses of humour from a much younger age, their speech isn't quite as advanced but the things they come out with are utterly priceless, they are more affectionate in short bursts and happier entertaining themselves when needs be - you can also get lovely boys outfits these days!! Girls' single pieces are gorgeous - but you can get complete sets for boys, all matching, & great value!

Plus I always think that mythical mum-&-daughter-doing-girlie-things-together relationship is pretty hard to come by these days, where kids like to be out doing things with their friends. AND when your ds gets a steady gf you'll be able to 'adopt' her & spoil her a bit for some extra girlie company down the line Without the fear of what the heck to do if your little princess gets herself knocked up!!!!

x

I have 3 boys and they absoultely adore me (boys seem to be very kind to their mummies!) Really, I love being the Queen Bee and the only female in the house. Boys are wonderful

Hi, i had my son in feb of this year, we had a CVS and we were asked if we wanted to know the sex, when the results came back male i was to say the least gutted, i knew i needed time to get used to the idea i'm not the kind of person who can hide disappointment hence why i wanted to know before the birth, after a few weeks i got used to the idea and became excited about having a son, well 7 months on i could'nt be without him and we found out today were expecting again bit sooner than we'd planned for but this time i don't want to know but given a choice i think i'd go for a boy. Someone said to me boys always love there mummy's and if you think about it's very true.

I was disappointed when I found out it was a boy, we have a DD and quite wanted another one. I adore him, bonded quicker with him than DD whom I also adore.

Congratulations! Boys are wonderful although I have 2 DD's and a third on the way! All the boys in my family as gorgeous cuddly caring little men, I love them. As soon as you hold your precious baby in your arms, you won't care what it is. I would love to have had a boy but (cliche I know), you get what you are meant to get.

From someone who has 2 girls and another DD on the way, it really doesn't make a difference, they are all children at the end of the day and precious no matter if they wear pink or blue. I love buying girl's clothes as much as anyone but it is such a small part of your child's life that it is not important although I look longingly at blue things sometimes!