Found out it's going to be a boy - am shocked! Please tell me your lovely little boy stories!!

[Itsablue]

Have name changed for this as don't want any RL people to know how I feel who may know me on here...

Last Friday we had the 20 wk scan and I have been CONVINCED, absolutely convinced that it was going to be a girl. I don't know why. Maybe because there are a lot of girls in both our families. Before I got pg I totally didn't mind what we had but since the day I found out I was pg, it was "always" going to be a girl. DH and I have stupidly got caught up in this mythical princess baby girl.

Just for confirmation of my sure suspicions, we asked to know what sex the baby was. Imagine my surprise when she tells us "definately a boy".

Now I know I am delighted that the baby is healthy but I must admit I was knocked for six on the day when we found out it is a boy. I found it hard to take in. All I kept thinking was "where's my girl gone?!?!" I cannot imagine myself with a boy - what do you DO with boys, if that makes sense?! (probably not but I am an irrational pg woman).

DH says he's pleased with either boy or girl but I know I was so convinced and convincing that we were having a girl, I've got him all excited about the girl we are now not having. This is making me feel worse.

I am trying really hard to replace all the girl fantasies with boy ones - but it is hard and every time I see baby girl clothes/prams/toys I feel a bit sad. I know its terrible to feel like this. I just see boys as being somehow not as much fun (ridiculous ridiculous ridiculous).

I would find it so helpful if you could tell me your gorgeous little boy stories please, so I can paint out the girl for good and genuinely look forward to my boy.

Oh little boys are absolutely wonderful.

They are just so affectionate, and to me, as they often seem to lack the social know how or confidence in understanding the rules of life/school/interaction, in the way girls often more esaily can, they seem more vulnerable, a little more needy of thier Mummies, a little more simple and straight forward perhaps, in a way that makes you just want to clasp them to you forever, and keep them home with mummy (which of course you resist).

But don't worry, your love for your little boy will be overwhelming.

Boys are fun! Girls are too, of course, but I've got boys so I am biased

Everyone in my family has girls, I was convinced ds1 would be a girl. When I found out I was having a boy I was disappointed and I was shocked. Like you, I had just assumed I'd carry on the tradition! My sister had a girl, my mum had 2 girls, my grandma had 1 girl..

I had a name picked out and everything!

However, when I found out I was pregnant with no2, my first thought was "I hope it's another boy." Which he was! And they are brilliant.

You will love him so much you'll want a dozen!

And now my niece is going through puberty and has the raging hormone monster, I sit back and I think "phew." ime, (and this is totally selfish!!) boys are a lot easier

i'd echo all thats been said about the cuddles - my little ds (1) plays very happily on his own or with people but every so often he comes crawling over to where i am and holds out his arms for a big cuddle - he's so gorgeous.

I originally would have preferred a girl too if I had to make a choice, but now that I have a boy - I wouldnt change it for the world, and I have to admit that now I'm quite happy when I see all the pink things that girls are meant to play with, while cute - a lot of the boys stuff looks much more fun.

Ah, don't worry itsablue. I know I would have felt exactly the same when I was pregnant with my first if they had told me it was a girl. I clearly remember saying to myself in my head 'please say boy,please say boy' when I asked the sonographer what the sex was .

I know many girls now who do not fit the girly stereotype and I think they are fab. Just as well I am not having any more.

OK, I can sympathise with you as I was SO shocked to discover I'd given birth to a boy - was convinced it would be a girl! It was a good kind of shocked though. My DS is 13 months old now, and absolutely adores me - he is the cuddliest, snuggliest little boy, but not clingy, IYSWIM...he will happily sneak off to play/flirt with other babies and their mummies

There are 10 girls and 2 boys in my antenatal group of mums, and I can say that the boys are definitely the most affectionate

Must go as he has just woken up and I can hear him chatting to his teddies!

I have 2 girls and i hope this one is a boy. I love my girls to pieces, but i felt the same way as you when i found out dd2 was another girl (i wished she was a boy). After the initial disappointment i got into buying girl things etc and couldnt wait till she was born. In the end it your precious child and the gender wont matter! good luck x

We have all these preconceived ideas about gender, don't we? However my ds (3.8yrs) is gorgeous, very energetic, very cuddly and affectionate (he tells me I am a princess!) and is actually a very sensitive soul with a gentle demeanour despite his high energy. I am pg again and would love a girl (you know, good for a change) but if I get another boy I will still be delighted because they are so adorable!

Thank you, thank you! All your stories are really lovely and are making me feel better already!! It really helps to hear about some fab little boy personalities.

I grew up with a sister and whereas we got on ok enough, we were chalk and cheese and there was a lot of hair pulling and whining going on. She was very bossy and galumphing (sp?) so not at all a "little princess" , nor was I come to think of it. I always wanted a brother too particularly a cool older one.

My DH initially was going on about boys a bit (playing football etc) so feel a bit guilty that I "sold" him so hard on having a girl. I'll never make that mistake again even though I didn't do it deliberately, should we have any more.

I have one of each, and although I love them both dearly my ds is just so loving and absolutely delicious
I would have 10 more if I knew they would all be boys

You can get lovely boy's stuff as well, and at least you won't be dressing your tiny baby in fussy dresses and frills (not that you would anyway, of course . I have a 2 year old and am expecting DS2 - was v pleased to be having another boy. They are cuddly, energetic, interesting and straightforward.

I did, effie. When I got pregnant, we all assumed it would be a girl, so my sister kindly donated all her daughters outgrown clothes. One day I dressed ds1 (a few months old) in a frilly pink frock and he looked delightful.

In my defence, my husband worked long hours and I got bored a lot

I have 2 girls and was thrilled they were both girls, and it was nice doing all the girly things with them. I became pregnant with DC3 when my DDs were 11 and 9 - so a big age gap. I have to admit to being fairly unfussed about whether I had a boy or not.

I did have a DS, now just 2 years old. The reality is that he is so gorgeous and adorable. (as indeed my DDs were). He has energy yes, but he's so cute and so funny, and I would say that having a boy is just as much fun as having a girl.

My DDs are now a teenager and a pre-teen - and they are hard work! DS is sooo easy in comparison.

You will love your son, don't worry!

My first two DCs are girls I then had a MC who was a girl too. After I lost her I just wanted her back so much (I had really bonded in a very short time) and it took what felt like ages to conceive again. When I finally became pregnant again things didn't feel quite right. I was a bit paranoid that something was wrong - I just felt different and I guess after losing one I worried a bit more than I might usually have done about losing this one too.

At my first scan at 11 weeks I found out my little 'nugget' was a BOY. It took a while to come to terms with the fact that I would never get my little girl 'back' but I really can honsetly say he is the most fantastic little person and I am so proud of him. He is great fun already (at 17wo). He spends much of his 'nappy off' time with his hand on his willy and when he has his nappy back on he has to have his hands down my top and on my boobs - typical male I guess . He is incredibly friendly towards everyone - much more so than my girls.

I had put special clothes aside for my MC'd DD - ones that I had really liked on my DDs or had spotted in the shops that I felt might suit her. I had chosen her names almost immediately and I felt I knew what she would look like. One of my good friends had a baby girl on my MC'd DDs due date (a year ago) and I have only now been able to hand over the things I had saved for my little DD3. I still feel close to her and I know one day we'll meet somehow but there is no way I could regret having my little man instead. Boys really are good fun...

When the time comes to meet your boy you'll wonder why on earth you were concerned. I can understand how you feel though - pregnancy hormones and all that.....

Congratulations.

I didn't find out the sex of my baby because I really wanted a girl and didn't want to feel disappointed while I was pregnant. I had a boy. I adored him from the moment he was born and would be very happy to have another.

Tons of fab tales here!
Boys rock!

I reckon I am the luckiest mum in the world...and the luckiest gran!! I have had four sons and 4 months ago my first grandchild arrived............a little boy

Little boys believe everything their mums tell them, they love there mums with a passion, they like to snuggle, cuddle and kiss. I think they need a strong daddy (or father figure) to show them how to be a good man....but they need their mums for everything else

The greatest experience I have ever had with my boys was watching my son (26yrs old) holding his son and singing 'Danny boy' to him like I used to sing to my son years ago. I could blub now just remembering it.

You will be fine...just fine...remember how lucky you are to be having a healthy baby and enjoy every minute of your pregnancy. Boys are ACE!!!!

Itsablue - I was the same as you, convinced I was carrying a girl then told at 20 week scan it was a little boy. Was v apprehensive as not too sure how would connect with a little boy, but neednt have worried. Now pregnant again and convinced this one is a boy...

Little boys are wonderful. My DS (now 2) is so sweet - really caring, chilled out (most of the time at least), loving, chatty and funny. He's also really adventurous and active.

When he was little, he was so much easier than my friends' little girls to look after - much more easy going and happy to explore, smiling at everyone (still is) and not scared of anyone or anything.

Congratulations - you're going to love having a little boy.

hecate and effie... my ds cried because he wanted a dress on the other day..... so i let him.

he's 2 and he looked damn cute in a flouncy blue number daonated by dd

Ok not read thorugh the whole thread, only the op, so non doubt repeating myself - I was in the same situation when I found out the sex.

I can now tell you through personal experience how fab it is to have a boy.

They are sooo loving and affectionate. They love cuddles.

Boys toy are super too, wooden train tracks, go karts, etc. They also are more easily pleased I have found, and are generally happier to play wihtout constant adult interaction. Huge generalisations I know but true!

You can get lovely boys clothes now, all different styles, this has only happened recently IMO. Congratulations.

I look at pics of my DH when he was a toddler and he was an absolute heartbreaker, even more so than his sister!! Especially the ones of him giving his Mum a hug or doing his really big special smile . Even at 10 and 12 etc he was still looked a lovely child (in terms of his expression and personality, not just looks). He has been a great son to his parents so maybe we will be as lucky to have a great son too.

I'm starting to get boy-excited... I just wish my reaction hadn't been so strong when I first found out. I said the right words and looked delighted but I was just so shocked I couldn't wait to get out of there and afterwards DH accused me of being disappointed (which I was but denied , I said I was only highly shocked, not disappointed (rather than a bit of both).

It's not real disappointment though fortunately - I never had a girl in the first place, also if the sonographer had said anything was amiss all the boy/girl stuff would have gone out of the window in an instant.

I had a DD first and was convinced our second child would also be a girl - he wasn't! I went into a bit of shock, especially as I felt I didn't know how to "do" boys.

Well, let me tell you something amazing about little DS's. They are SOOOOO affectionate. My little boy (13months) just can't stop throwing himself and me for cuddles. He's a joker, and an utter joy. I obviously adore DD just as much, but she was SO much more independant and from very early on would wriggle out of a cuddle with seconds to be off doing her own thing.

I often have visions of him in 18 years time, putting his big strong arms around his decrepit old ma saying don't worry mum, I'll get it fixed. Here, let me lift that for you. It's lovely to know there's be a big strong man around to look after me in my dotage, which is just as valuable as having a girl around to go shopping with and keep you young.

Congras on your DS. You'll never look back.

We are House of Boys - 4th due any day now. Even the cat is male.

I would completely second everything said here about boys - mine are incredibly affectionate and caring. They are also loud and physical, but who cares about that when you get told every day that you are the most beautiful mummy in the world (!)

Obviously I can't speak for girls, but my boys are so funny and loving I can't imagine what life would be like without them! Congratulations.

Sycamoretree, that's a good point! My dad was a super son to his mum, always looking after her and doing things for her, as opposed to my auntie who was very independant from an early age it seems and scooted off to live elsewhere at 18, returning infrequently.

Plus come to think of it, I don't really do the shopping thing all that often with my own mum (in fact I prefer going shopping/doing craft stuff on my own - handy if our son ("Our son"! Ooh) is off doing whatever with his sports mad dad). Of course he may not be into sports and all that but who cares as long as he's happy.

It's all for the best probably, I may have got a little "precious" about a girl so having a boy is probably the best thing for me!

Thank you all so much. I am feeling loads better. It's a bit taboo to admit a strong preference for boy or girl in RL (esp if you don't get it) so there has been no real outlet for my feelings, but this has really helped.

I wrote almost this exact post nearly 3 years ago when I was pregnant with DS. I had a DD first and was absolutely convinced I was having another DD only to find out it was a DS. I was so disappointed. I WAS WRONG!!! DS is the most gorgeous, lovely, amazing, affectionate, mischeivous little monkey ever and I adore him!!!

I had a look for the thread but it must have been in chat because it's gone.

Be reassured, once your lovely boy arrives you will adore him. He will be your everything. Boys Rock it would be completely impossible for me to love DS any more than I do. He's amazing.

Your little boy will be your life, you will love him. Congratulations!!!