Found out it's going to be a boy - am shocked! Please tell me your lovely little boy stories!!

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Have name changed for this as don't want any RL people to know how I feel who may know me on here...

Last Friday we had the 20 wk scan and I have been CONVINCED, absolutely convinced that it was going to be a girl. I don't know why. Maybe because there are a lot of girls in both our families. Before I got pg I totally didn't mind what we had but since the day I found out I was pg, it was "always" going to be a girl. DH and I have stupidly got caught up in this mythical princess baby girl.

Just for confirmation of my sure suspicions, we asked to know what sex the baby was. Imagine my surprise when she tells us "definately a boy".

Now I know I am delighted that the baby is healthy but I must admit I was knocked for six on the day when we found out it is a boy. I found it hard to take in. All I kept thinking was "where's my girl gone?!?!" I cannot imagine myself with a boy - what do you DO with boys, if that makes sense?! (probably not but I am an irrational pg woman).

DH says he's pleased with either boy or girl but I know I was so convinced and convincing that we were having a girl, I've got him all excited about the girl we are now not having. This is making me feel worse.

I am trying really hard to replace all the girl fantasies with boy ones - but it is hard and every time I see baby girl clothes/prams/toys I feel a bit sad. I know its terrible to feel like this. I just see boys as being somehow not as much fun (ridiculous ridiculous ridiculous).

I would find it so helpful if you could tell me your gorgeous little boy stories please, so I can paint out the girl for good and genuinely look forward to my boy.

AnnVan, LOL at the tree climbing. When not heavily pregnant, I can normally be found somewhere outdoorsy with the boys, riding bikes, camping or climbing trees. I love it!

I have 2 boys and 2 girls.

I love boys they are so cool. I love my girls too, of course but if I had another baby and was able to pick the sex I would have a boy

I have 3 girls but felt very much like you did when I was pg with dd1, convinced she was a boy so when they handed me a girl I was in complete shock.

It wasn't that I didn't want a girl, I just hadn't expected one, silly I know. Felt a little lsot for a couple of days afterwards really.

Anyway, almost 4 years on and our house is full of Thomas the Tank and dinosaurs - exactly like my brother's house (he has a boy). I'm sure the differences will become more apparent once they age a bit more, but for now, they're just children.

Enjoy your son, you will love him more than anything else in the whole world and he will bring you so much joy, you'll look back and won't even be able to remember feeling like this.

""Definately a puppy"!!!""

This rang a bell with me. I remember saying to Dh, very insistent and matter of fact, that I was having a boy or a girl as if there was a third option.

A friend predicted 3 boys for me and 2 boys and a girl for my Dh and tbh I would have been happy with 3 boys and no girls too.

Megglevache My son (age 7) will tell me I look pretty when I wear a skirt, followed a few minutes later (so I don't make the link) with can I have the tv/computer on. My 3 year old will tell me I look pretty and ask what is wrong without any ulterior motives!!

Charmers, the lot of them!!

Another boy fan here! Tis true they are very, very loving and adore their mums.

Gem from my 6yr old ds to me the other day, 'you're too beautiful to be a mummy!'

AnnVan, you've had your baby? What happened in the end? I remember you were nervously awaiting induction or something, very overdue.

elkie - gave birth normally to 9lb 8oz boy 17 days overdue! I wasn't induced in the end although the sweep I had may have helped kick things off I think

Erm

They need plenty of fresh air and exercise.

Congratulations

Lucky you! Haven't read the whole thread but SO identified with the title. Always wanted girls and had one first then my little boy came along and couldn't believe I'd ever expressed a preference. What can I say? He's just totally adorable - I'm converted. If I had any more I'd be hoping for boys. Completely love my girl of course, but there is something amazing and magical about producing a boy. He's five now and every moment with him has been fantastic - he makes me look at the world in an entirely different way. Good luck with the pregnancy and look forward to your little boy.

Boys are FAB!! I have a toddler son and he is adorable...yes, he's full of energy and quite mischievous but he's also very loving and always wants a cuddle. Friends who have girls say that they aren't as cuddly and don't seem as affectionate?

Congrats and am sure that when you meet DS you will love him no matter what.

Imnotmamag (great name)

They learn young (but I am in denial and tell myself that he does mean it and wants nothing from me !)

I have loved reading the boy posts on here
I have 2 and am so absolutely bowled over by them[and bemused]I am so lucky.I agree with so much people have said on here.Many,many congrats to you.

Gawd he's going to have soooo many girlfriends he'll know eactly what to say/do won't he?

My 1st was a girl, I was sure from the start.

Was also sure until 37 weeks that ds was a girl. i had to have a scan for other reasons and the doctor said 'i know what you are having' - dh had worked with him as a junior and when we got in the car he said 'it's a boy, he only says that when its a boy!'

We were shellshocked. But got our heads round it quick, and we have a fabulous ds age 6 (with sisters of 8 and 4), who is the most boy-ish boy you could imagine (football, star wars, Dr Who, Indiana Jones, Lego, more football, running around like a crazy thing) and he is utterly adorable.

I'm very, very glad I have been lucky enough to have both. I have my 'best big girl', my 'best little girl' and my 'best boy'. I love having a boy!

Though he is no more affectionate than his sisters - all our kids are very cuddly. He does want me more than the girls do though - they're more daddy's girls. Maybe thats what people are referring to.

Thanks again for all the new stories, they are fab. I am sloooowly getting my head round it (with a little wibble here and there). Helped by the fact that DH was (unusually) sensitive and inspired last night when we talked about it and has realised that its not as simple as saying "how can you be disappointed".

He pointed out to me that as I had a difficult early relationship with my own mum, I possibly focussed on having a girl to "put right" what I felt hadn't been done right for me in the past, at least in part. (A bit "Trisha" but whatever )

Seeing as it provoked an instant and unexpected flood of tears from me, I guess he was at least partially right .

This is no good basis to want a girl on. I was looking forward to doing everything absolutely perfectly for my "little girl" ie recording all her birth details faithfully, making her a cot blanket and lots of girly toys as keepsakes etc. Keeping her first shoes and drawings. Taking pictures of her month by month, indulging her in pretty pink stuff, going to ballet lessons - all things I desperately wanted but I didn't get. There are no pictures existing of me growing up at all (not even school photos, my mum was too busy and unsentimental to keep safely all this sort of thing and she was a very un-girly mum).

Therefore my childhood only exists in my memory as there are no physical momentoes of it. (I know I can do all that for my DS but I don't think boys care as much for all that sentimental malarky. Or the pretty pink stuff .

It's SO good to admit all this and is so useful for blowing all the cobwebs away in time for my little DS's arrival. I have already started picturing what to do in the nursery that doesnt involve hand-made dolls and pink gingham curtains with appliqued hearts (sigh)

Plus all your lovely DS stories are just so fab!!

Just have a look at my profile pics... boys are lovely. Mine currently has a habit of running across the room with his arms wide saying mama mama and giving me a big hug! It's just about the nicest feeling in the world. I don't know about girls, I don't have one, and to be honest I was really worried about having one. I think girls can be a bit hard work, all that back chat, and they're so cheeky. Plus I couldn't face all those arguments over pink plastic tat at Christmas. Boys are just lovely and cuddly, they love their mothers and are happy with a football and some space to run around in.

By the way, I've kept everything of ds', his first shoes are super cute, dh and I have taken something like a 1000 photos of him, and I've recorded every detail of his life (pfb anyone? ) You can still do all those things just because you're having a boy. DS's bedroom is a lovely sunny yellow, with pale blue and white curtains and he has loads of sweet teddy bears which he loves.

Headfairy... Your DS is absolutely Delightful with a capital D!!! I just have to reprogramme to a DS and stories/pics like yours are really helpful. He is truly adorable and is a heart melter - in fact I haven't seen a pic of anyone's DCs on here who aren't heartmelters! They are all gorgeous!!

I realise I am probably looking too far in the future with all my ballet nonsense etc, I should wait for the baby to arrive and then just let his personality and my skills as a mother develop in good time.

It's true, I am thinking of little girls aged 6 and under, all pocket-sized and cute - when I picture them say 7 and above it's definately a bit more sulky, back chatting and cheeky!, funny how I don't spend too long lingering on that side of things! (I'm sure they are still great really at 7 and above but you know what I mean - they're growing up from being cute little princesses by then)

The unfortunate thing is I am kinda drawn to some plastic pink tat... because I never had any myself! Maybe I should buy some, play with it and give it away, arf arf

Boys are definitely best. I also thought I was having a girl (not necessarily because that's what I wanted I just sort of assumed??!!!). Anyway didn't find out sex until birth and was absolutely delighted.

The odd thing was when I got pregnant the second time I was completely overtaken by surprise at how much I really, really wanted a boy. I actually had secret little worries that if it was a girl I wouldn't love her as much as DS1 (ridiculous I know!!) and was really worried at the feelings of disappointment I would get if she was a girl (I am sure that wouldn't have happened either).

Anyway I had a second son and have been asked on a number of occasions if I'll go for a third to get a girl and I seriously have absolutely no interest in having a girl (except fleetingly in the girls dept of Next when I have considered dressing my baby DS in a girly outfit just to get that bit out of my system!!!)

I felt a bit like that about having a girl and then my little boy popped out. I was surprised how happy I was. It is great to have a boy first as you can really learn about how they play and think. They are so great. They are so easily distracted so I would say that in the past 6 years he has probably only had about 15 tantrums. I have 5 brothers and dreaded the idea of another male but I have been so surprised. I loved seeing the way he played and his interactions with others. He is so gentle, affectionate and caring. He plays beautifully with his little sister and really looks after her. My little girl is now just 2 and she is such an independent little madam. She has never been as cuddly as him as a baby or as a toddler. Whilst it is great to do the princess thing, it is also cool to do the knights and superhero thing as I had never actually been bothered by that as a child!!You will love your little man to bits -I promise!!

Thanks Grumpalina, and Maggieb52!

On a seperate tangent Grumpalina, it amazes me when I read about people being asked if they are "trying for a girl/boy next time round", I must be very naive because, in my book, that is both plain rude and assumptive! I am already to have been asked about my pg: "Was it planned", "Is your DH happy about you being pg" and "How long have you been trying?" ?!?!(all this from acquaintances/strangers - obviously my close friends and family already know the answers to all of these!!!)

Maggieb52, your DS sounds like such a lovely little boy - how nice for your DD to have such a super big brother! I did think briefly, well the next DC we have could be a DD then I stopped myself because I won't have learnt anything from this experience.