Found out it's going to be a boy - am shocked! Please tell me your lovely little boy stories!!

[Itsablue]

Have name changed for this as don't want any RL people to know how I feel who may know me on here...

Last Friday we had the 20 wk scan and I have been CONVINCED, absolutely convinced that it was going to be a girl. I don't know why. Maybe because there are a lot of girls in both our families. Before I got pg I totally didn't mind what we had but since the day I found out I was pg, it was "always" going to be a girl. DH and I have stupidly got caught up in this mythical princess baby girl.

Just for confirmation of my sure suspicions, we asked to know what sex the baby was. Imagine my surprise when she tells us "definately a boy".

Now I know I am delighted that the baby is healthy but I must admit I was knocked for six on the day when we found out it is a boy. I found it hard to take in. All I kept thinking was "where's my girl gone?!?!" I cannot imagine myself with a boy - what do you DO with boys, if that makes sense?! (probably not but I am an irrational pg woman).

DH says he's pleased with either boy or girl but I know I was so convinced and convincing that we were having a girl, I've got him all excited about the girl we are now not having. This is making me feel worse.

I am trying really hard to replace all the girl fantasies with boy ones - but it is hard and every time I see baby girl clothes/prams/toys I feel a bit sad. I know its terrible to feel like this. I just see boys as being somehow not as much fun (ridiculous ridiculous ridiculous).

I would find it so helpful if you could tell me your gorgeous little boy stories please, so I can paint out the girl for good and genuinely look forward to my boy.

I know how you feel - I grew up in all girl family and although I was a tomboy I was really wising for a baby girl.
I can honestly say that I have completely reversed on that position. I LOVE little boys, they are such fun, less complicated and easier to deal with.
I will admit however, that in the very long term (ie when dcs become adults) it would be nice to have a dd that I could talk to woman to woman. I can't help feeling that the closeness I have with DS now will ebb away as he gets girlfriends, partners etc etc...agh!

I think the thing about finding out before the birth is that you haven't fallen in love with the baby yet, so it's easy to feel disappointed. When he's born, I'm sure you'll be so bowled over with delight you won't give girls another thought!

I would second everything people have said about boys on here - boys are lovely, funny, affectionate, cuddly, warm, loving, and really straightforward. They don't throw hissy fits, they're easy to clothe, their tantrums are (mostly) very straightforward (I want this! No. Waaaaaaaa! Shall we play, Mummy?)

And they really really love their Mums.

And you don't have to worry about them getting pregnant when they're teenagers

I love my son. He's the light of my life.

Itsablue how you are feeling rang so true for me too... We didn't of course have a preference either, and didn't find out the sex at scans, but as I come from a family of girls and just started to assume I was having a girl- and couldn't even imagine a little boy having had no experience with them!! Then things went a bit pear-shaped, I developed severe pre-eclampsia and very suddenly my little one had to be delivered at 30 weeks. Can you imagine my shock when I was told we had a boy?!! To cut a long story short he was/is fine, but that night I just couldn't stop thinking what will I do with a boy as he grows up?! Of all the things to be thinking while you lie at deaths door and your baby is fighting for his life- I felt so bad But it was just such a shock...

Now 3.5yrs down the line I am blessed with a sensitive, funny, boisterous but gentle, imaginative, wonderfully affectionate little boy. He makes me laugh in so many ways every day- he is at the moment very much a mummy's boy, which I know will change, and like me in ways I couldn't have imagined (both good and bad)- we have so much fun together that when I went on to have my daughter I worried how I'd now cope with a girl!! (think she might end up being a tomboy mind...!). The activities we do differ a bit from what you do with similar aged girls- DS won't sit still for as long - but he loves being outdoors exploring, climbing rocks, riding bikes, walks on the beach, running about like a loon!- but also loves reading, painting, playdoh, cooking- and I think is more affectionate often than girls his age.

When your little man arrives you WILL fall head over heels in love- remember he'll be your son and won't fit in any box of how boys are supposed to behave... I have to say I dread my daughters teens more than my sons (shouldn't probably say that)!!

Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy.

PS. This morning my son looked at me and said "Thank you, Mummy, you made me in your tummy- clever girl Mummy! I like you, Mummy" (he doesn't use the word love yet...and is currently obsessed with pregnancy and babies as quite a few friends are pregnant...) I nearly wept

I have 3DSs and no girls. They are lovely-very affectionate and love their Mums! I think they are much easier at teenage. The only downside (not tested yet but gleaned from these threads)is that DILs might be difficult!

I have 1 DS and 2 DDs, give me a boy every time. DS is so simple, hes either tired, hungry or a combination of the 2, and ok boys clothes are boring but their toys r so much better.

You can also get away from pink!

Was just off reading the other thread that bluestocking helpfully put up, it is reassuring to know how I feel isn't completely unusual.

Thanks all of you with the lovely boy stories (would love to name you all personally but so many of you have been kind enough to write I would be here for a long time!!)

Also thanks to those who have been so honest and forthcoming about how they felt the same. I am sure I will get used to it all and mostly I should be so grateful that the baby is healthy, for his sake not mine.

In fact seeing as how there have been so few boys in the family, it is nice to think there's a new little boy on the way for a change!

I had always wanted a girl - lovely dresses etc. However, we had major problems on the ttc route - 6 years down the line, when I finally was pregnant, all I wanted was a baby - it didn't matter as much. During the pregnancy I subtley changed from this to perhaps favouring a boy - already had 2 dns in family - quite nice to 'keep the line going' etc - and be the first at something at least. So, when ds arrived, didn't have any misgivings about having a boy not a girl.

I occasionally look enviously at all the pretty dresses and lovely coats that you can get for girls. You have to search around if you don't want to be typically navy, grey and blue for a boy, particularly as they get a bit bigger - but having a bundle of energy dashing around in bright colours is fantastic.

I also agree with the comments on the amount of love, cuddles, kisses etc that you get - this without having too much drama is good.

And, of course, you'll be able to teach him to go 'EUUUGGGHHH' at the adverts for all the awful dolls/plastic tatt designed for girls on the TV - much more prevalent than boys toys (the answer for the boys toys is that they are plastic and will break ! [evil grin]) We do have to plan a route through the cars, lego, brio, and play mobile - but certainly better than over some of the dolls that I see advertised or that are brought to the house to visit by a friend's daughter!!!

Boys are just gorgeous. They are cuddly and effectionate, noisy, cheeky and full of energy and mischief.

What more could you possibly want?

We are ttc number 2 and although a girl would be lovely, I would be over the moon with another son. My friend has 2 boys and I think its lovely.

I think as soon as you meet him you'll fall in love with him. The boy/girl issue just won't come into it

I have 3 lovely ds's, they are funny, messy & brilliant!! (& sometimes a bit annoying!) (me- biased????) & most importantly love their mum

My eldest son is wonderful. Loving, thoughtful, affectionate, and at 11 he is really beginning to be good company. I love him to bits.

DS#2 is....well... DS#2. Unique. Also wonderful but bloody hard work. One thing in common is that they are both physically affectionate in a way that my DD isn't.

DD is damned near perfect as well inspite of that. I am so proud of her independence and competence and I am so glad I have one girl as well as the boys, but I have a feeling that she'll be off just as soon as she can. in fact she's said as much.

Have to say that re puberty changes, my 11yr old DS is getting very moody and teenage at times atm. So not sure it's just girls.

My ds, my only child, is 18 days old. All through my pg I felt he was a boy, and the only name I felt strongly about was a boy's name. Delighted when 20 scan was pretty certain he was a boy too. I am not a girly girl myself - I'm an engineer and into outdoor sports, and have never worn pink , and loved the idea of having a boy. Now he is here, we are having great fun! Much as I love my niece, I never know what to do with her (she is very girly, and there's only so many dollies tea parties I can take). Can see me and ds having all sorts of adventures as I have done with nephews. I know he is stll only tiny, but ds is a complete mummy's boy, which makes me feel really special!

"...handy if our son ("Our son"! Ooh) ..."

See, I told you!

I would have loved a daughter and fear I won't have anyone to pass on my more girly kids' books to, though I don't like a lot of girls' clothes.

But we're completely besotted with our lively, crazy, chatty, flirtatious, outgoing ds, and we're expecting another little boy in January.

When you go to baby groups or parks etc you can also see lots of other little boys and get an idea of how yours might grow up. OK, there are occasions when that might be offputting but I met an adorable nearly 4 year old when DS was a tiny baby. He had a little sister and a number of us had met at a postnatal class and were round at his house, all the other babies were girls. He was so pleased when I changed ds's nappy and he noticed ds was a boy. Awwwwwwww.

When your baby is born you probably will find it hard to imagine him being anyone other than who he is, your ds.

When I was having DS, we didn't find out the sex but I became convinced that I was having a girl so was shocked when they dumped him on my belly and I saw his boy bits.

He was a wonderful placid, if very hungry, baby. Slept through from 6 weeks and was always smiley. Talking to friends with boys and girls, boys tend to be easier babies so there's one benefit

Now that he's walking and sort of talking, he's very very active but not really naughty. Just inquisitive and energetic. He's very affectionate, gives loads of kisses and cuddles to us all the time, is always happy and laughing.

I adore him. I'm having a girl this time but if have a third I hope it's another boy like DS1

I was a bit baffled because there are so few boys in our family, but they are ACE! Advantages of boys IME:-

• I don't need a gym, or exercise regime, can eat whatever I want and yet have finally lost the saddlebags on my thighs which I'd had since my teens. He just keeps me really, really active, lots of games of chase, football etc. My legs are a totally different shape
• He is so affectionate and loving, funny, cuddly and entertaining little chap
• He and his Dad go off and do 'boy' things together, giving me free time, and them 'male bonding' whatever which is kind of adorable.
• I have two men who are totally in love with me and think I'm the most important, beautiful and clever woman in the world.

that's why i'm glad in hindsight that the scanner couldn't see what i was having. at 20 weeks i would have been disappointed to find out he was a boy. 5 seconds after giving birth to him my 'mythical little girl' had vanished in a poof of smoke and now, 12 days old, i couyldn't imagine him being different and i adore him.

I wrote the same thread as you when I found out the sex of my DS a few months ago. I was sure I was going to have a girl and when the scan said it was boy I was really really disappointed. However I've since given birth to a gorgeous son and I can honestly say I love my DS so much I can't describe it and I feel a bit foolish for wishing for a daughter because honestly if I had the choice now I'd choose a boy everytime.

This happened to my friend...she was absolutely convinced - bought loads of girly stuff, and scen showed a boy.
She now has 2

I have one of each, and my boy is clever, thoughtful, sporty, and above all, my biggest fan..

My girl (who is home sick today) is so bright and has us in stitches ALOT, but she is emotional, and def harder work.

However, we look at make-up and shoes togther -I love them both

OOh Becster, I have 3 males who worship me!
I have 2 DS's. They are fab, loud, boisterous, sweet and adorable (mostly).

DS1 runs all the time, just so active. DS2 is clever and funny. Both love me like I've never been loved before, they fight over me, call me their beautiful princess and I am so very proud of them.

Op, I was convinced DS1 was a girl, it was a big shock, I knew DS2 was a boy though. You will adore your boy and he you.

Boys clothes aren't as fab as girls, but I personally prefer their toys!

Don't have time to read whole thread only OP, but just to reassure you I felt exactly the same after I found out we were having a boy at the 20week scan. Had had a beautiful lovely girl first and wanted another. Having had 2 mcs, I felt awful that I was disappointed to be having a boy, when I just should have been overjoyed the baby was healthy.

However, I wouldn't change 12 month DS for the world - he's so much fun, so much more cuddly and loving than DD was and just a joy to be around, and I just can't imagine ever thinking that boys weren't as much fun as girls!!

TBH - it is the character of the child that makes them different not the sex anyway - only thing I would say is that you just can't get pretty pink clothes to look good on boys!!

Yes, I'm not sure now whether it was good to find out at the scan.. but at the time I was proudly wanting confirmation of how right I was!!

Have been reading a baby book at the moment which is written by a lady celebrity, and she thought she was having a girl, at the scan, when it DID show a girl,she says that it proved no-one knew her little girl like she did, (or words to that effect). That is what I expected before the "definately a boy" bit from the sonographer. If I hadn't been careful I might have said "You're wrong!" . After the scan news I found that book and re-read her scan bit before bursting into tears and shoving the book at the back of a drawer

Before we found out last week I was all fired up about decorating the nursery, making cot covers etc - and then after the result I just couldn't think about the lack of pink etc that was going to go in there that now won't. (I have started to think about it again tho).

It is such a wierd phenomenon this gender preference. Before I got pg I honestly never boy/girl thing a seconds thought. This might work in my favour as when the surprise and the pg hormones wear off I shall hopefully go "back to normal"!

boys are true to their heart, they love and adore you and you feel privledged to be helping the future men of the world on the track to be caring sharing men. i'm preg with no.3 and hoping its a boy (of course either is wonderful...but they are bliss!!)and i do want to be queen bee this house thankyou very much. i just imagine my gorgeous boys when they are teenagers coming home from rowing or rugby looking all healthy and full of lifeand giving their wee mum a hug and patting their dad on the head.

Good grief. D'you know, I should remind myself of all the TTC/miscarriage/poorly DC threads on here, then go and slap myself over the face with a wet kipper for being so Flipping Ridiculous. How lucky am I to be told I have a healthy baby boy on the way? A job and a roof over our heads? Family ready and waiting to love our little boy? And I am MOANING about something?!?!

Thank Goodness for you lot, your kindness and understanding is giving me an outlet to offload, freeing up space for me to see the light x

god boys are to die for. ALL my buddies have girls who are little princess's already - tantrums,precocious etc (my SP is awful BTW!!) DS is cute, full of life and adores me, he is always kissing and cuddling everyone and is sooooooooo adorable i want to shout it from the roof top! However I do find I have to exercise him like a dog, 2x a day else he is a bit of a nightmare!!

boys rock, you will love him