Found out it's going to be a boy - am shocked! Please tell me your lovely little boy stories!!

[Itsablue]

Have name changed for this as don't want any RL people to know how I feel who may know me on here...

Last Friday we had the 20 wk scan and I have been CONVINCED, absolutely convinced that it was going to be a girl. I don't know why. Maybe because there are a lot of girls in both our families. Before I got pg I totally didn't mind what we had but since the day I found out I was pg, it was "always" going to be a girl. DH and I have stupidly got caught up in this mythical princess baby girl.

Just for confirmation of my sure suspicions, we asked to know what sex the baby was. Imagine my surprise when she tells us "definately a boy".

Now I know I am delighted that the baby is healthy but I must admit I was knocked for six on the day when we found out it is a boy. I found it hard to take in. All I kept thinking was "where's my girl gone?!?!" I cannot imagine myself with a boy - what do you DO with boys, if that makes sense?! (probably not but I am an irrational pg woman).

DH says he's pleased with either boy or girl but I know I was so convinced and convincing that we were having a girl, I've got him all excited about the girl we are now not having. This is making me feel worse.

I am trying really hard to replace all the girl fantasies with boy ones - but it is hard and every time I see baby girl clothes/prams/toys I feel a bit sad. I know its terrible to feel like this. I just see boys as being somehow not as much fun (ridiculous ridiculous ridiculous).

I would find it so helpful if you could tell me your gorgeous little boy stories please, so I can paint out the girl for good and genuinely look forward to my boy.

Don't worry itsablue, I felt shocked when I first saw Ds1's testicles (was my first view of him, ventouse ), I was so sure I had been carrying a girl, for 9 months.

I agree with swifty, Boys rock (and yes, they do need to be exercised regularly)!

Hee, swiftyknickers! Good thing my DH is an outdoorsy type who is always wanting me to go to the park for a kickaround with him!!!

My cousin's little girl was very cute to look at but a complete mardy handful, never happy with anything (possibly because she was treated like a princess from the start and never told "no" for anything) - so having a (hopefully uncomplicated) DS has probably saved me from myself!!

I think I had a fantasy of DH having a daddy's girl too - but that's all it is, a fantasy. Nobody can say how their DC will turn out and TBH having had experience of a lot of girls/women in the family it did get a bit toxic and claustrophobic at times anyway. A DS could be a breath of fresh air and it will be a new thing for my family to "do boys"!

When I look back on me as a child I don't think I always liked myself - I was categorised as "the whiny/sensitive one" (I did whine (for attention, not materialistic things) mainly because my older sister was maddeningly bossy and brutally unfair at times, so I should remember that DC's will be their own people regardless of being boy or girl - it's not fair to label or have expectations because I know I hated it myself.

Our eldest was the first boy on my side for 25 years

he now has 3 brothers and 3 male couins, n girls and my, do they span every personality type! ds1 likes choosing handbags (for me- well atm anyway) and wants to be a make up artist; ds2 loves footie and fish; ds3 t (ds4 still tiny- breastmilk and rattles LOL). They're all so very..... indivdual

When I found out that I was expecting twins, shock was an understatement. Being told that they were most likely boys made me deliriously happy, though! Always wanted a boy and would have been gutted with twin girls - eeeck! Main thing is of course a healthy child but I'm sooo happy that mine are boys!!! My DH agrees that I would be bored to tears having to play with Barbies etc. Give me science experiments and adventure books anyday! Oddly he also says that I am the girliest girly he knows... Go figure.

Nonsensical last post but I sort of knew what I meant!!

Lizzielou, I know that had I not had the boy result on the scan I would have been highly likely tempted to paint the nursery pink in preparation of the girl I was definately, definately carrying by 9 months along!!

DH says he couldnt make anything out on the screen but I saw two legs and a squat little "mushroom" between (well that's what it looked like from lying beneath the screen whilst tilted head downwards on the bed). I went on Google the day after the scan to look at other ultrasounds and have concluded, that yes, boy's bits do look like that whereas girl's bits are often a) not sticking out!! and b)have three white lines instead of a mushroom. So reluctantly I concluded maybe the sonographer had got it right I could probably be an expert on sexing babies from ultrasound myself now .

I meant MY last nonsensical post of course, not anyone elses! Gah..

Your boys sound fab Peachy and Rollmops I have to remember I am not getting some "cookie cutout" boy, I am getting a DC who is unique and individual regardless of being a boy or girl.

I am a very lucky and proud mother of 2 gorgeous boys (see my profile for pics, although I may be a little biased!) and am excited expecting ds3 in 5 weeks time. It is amazing how many people presumed we tried for a girl or really wanted a girl and they were either shocked or didn't believe us when we said we honestly were not bothered so long as the baby is healthy. See, ds2 has congenital heart disease which was not diagnosed until he was 9 months old. He was a very difficult baby, very poorly and it was obvious something was terribly wrong but we didn't know what (medical staff were stumped too). We spent most of ds2's first year of his life thinking he would not live to see his 1st birthday. He is stable now thankfully and our bond is incredibly strong.

so the 20 week scan for this baby rolled around and I knew it was a boy a good 5 minutes before the sonographer even asked if I wanted to know! If you have seen that shape once, you have seen it a thousand times, lol! I can honestly say I was elated to hear I was having another boy and was very upset that my family were upset and angry with my family for being upset that I wasn't having a girl.

As for my life, I am the queen in my house, the boys are energetic, incredibly funny, loving and love hugs, kisses and story time with mummy. They are now 7 & 4 and have competitions as to who loves me more. There is nothing more heart melty than hearing your boys saying they love you to the end of the universe and back a million times. Ds1 is harder work than ds2, but I have to remember that having such a poorly brother was hard on him too. Ds2 is incredibly independant, but loves his snuggles and gets upset if I get dressed in the morning before we do snuggles in bed!! I am now beyond excited to meet my newest son, I have almost reached the end of my patience and want to see him, smell him and kiss and cuddle him....NOW!!!

Like the others have said, the moment you lay eyes on your son, you will adore him, be besotted and will end up wrapped around his little finger, lol! I speak from experience!

Itsablue, I just wanted to let you know you are not mad to feel like this. I was convinced I was having a girl as my first had been a girl (although with her I thought I might be having a boy. When he was born I almost felt as if they would come back in a few minutes and say (oh sorry, we got it wrong). It is normal and fine to feel like this as long as you know when to keep it to yourself, which you very evidently do. I could tell you lots of brilliant boy stories, but I could also tell you lots of pink ones too- I think it's just babies.

Incidentally, when I was born and the news was relayed to my gran, she excitedly woke everyone up to tell them she had a grandson. Shortly after, she had to go back and tell them all I was in fact, a girl.

When I got pregnant with my first child I was convinced she was going to be a girl, hoped for a girl as I had nannied for an adorable girl and also as my DH's family were mostly boys.

I bought everything white or unisex and towards the last few weeks I prepared myself for him to be a boy as I didn't ever want to feel disappointed, even for a second. I even imagined a little boy in a cot with jeans and a check shirt on.

Get to 38 weeks, baby born by emergency section, last thing I am thinking is what sex it is but is it alive, DH announces we have a boy, I just feel calm, I knew.

I have boy/girl/boy and it is all good. If we are able to adopt in the future I would hope for a girl but purely to give my daughter a sister.

Heartmum2Jamie, your boys are... just absolutely adorable. Thanks so much for your post. I am sorry to hear of your DS2's heart disease and so pleased his condition has been stabilised.

It's true - I will never mistake that ultrasound shape again ! I always wondered exactly how the sonographers could really tell but it's so obvious when you know what to look out for! I would also be very upset with family if they suggested I was upset for not having a girl. It's just as well I have kept my outward feelings neutral on the boy/girl topic as I wouldn't like to be reminded of it right now, and certainly not when DS is born, it would be awful.

The thing is whenever I have asked people what they have/are having I have honestly never ever given a thought about it if they say 3 girls, or 4 boys, or two girls or one of each or whatever. I just say (and think) "ooh, 4 boys (or whatever number/combination), how marvellous! Bet that's a lot of fun". That's why I am finding it so hard to realise how deeply I thought I wanted a girl!

As it's my first baby I hope I will naturally fall in love with the baby regardless of it being boy or girl, and if and when we have another one I will at least know what to do with boys if we are lucky enough to get a DC2! I also remind myself that if this one had been a DD, then the next I would have likely wanted a DS for DH as it were - and would have felt like he was missing out if we ended up with all DDs! You can't win - and that's because its not a game, or something you can realistically influence - you are simply blessed with what you get.

And TBH I think my thoughts on girls probably run in the main quite shallow-ly to girls' dresses, toys, pink things - but it's a child and a person, not a dolly. Once they are old enough to choose own clothes (ie 6+) maybe a DD wouldn't want all that pink girly stuff. That's just my preference, not my individual DC.

I hope that when I have had our lovely DS, I can be on here lending support and saying exactly the same thing as you do about your wonderful DS's, to someone else in my position now. Thanks again for your post and all the best to your two lovely DS's and the new little DS on the way!! PS You look AMAZINGLY on your bump pics, I am so [jealous] of your legs!!

I expected a girl first time and had that same "what do you DO with a boy?" feeling. DS is lovely and when I was having a second baby I thought it was probably another boy. On discovering that DD was a girl I even had the reverse "but what do you DO with a girl?" feeling.

The Myleene Klass book is entertaining enough, but it's just a dump of what she happened to think. It doesn't mean there's any wider validity to any of it. She may have believed that "knowing" her baby was a girl meant she had some deep mystical connection to her daughter, but that doesn't mean she's right -- IMO it's twaddle.

Since having a boy I have found that I have an amazing talent for building anything with blocks or lego related products.
I have also learnt the names, numbers and colours most of the Thomas characters.
These are 2 useful skills which I believe I may not have found so quickly (obv girls read Thomas and build things too) if I'd had a girl. He's not even two years old, but I feel I could retrain as an architect and enter Mastermind with Thomas as my specialist subject.
Plus, he's hilarious and will shout out "fart, burp, willy etc" which is highly amusing to my immature sense of humour.
Also, find nice boys clothes is really hard, so I don't go as mad as I would as if I had a girl. Its more of a challenge.
I love it.

Thanks Glasgowgal and ImnotMamaG. I have tried to have boy thoughts before we found out on the scan but they were always more token than the girl thoughts. I even said to DH on the way in "It COULD POSSIBLY be a boy, you know!" but this was said almost tongue in cheek There was always 50:50 chance of it being a boy so why the heck was I so bowled over at it being a boy/convinced it was a girl?!

Honestly, it was as if the sonographer had said "Definately a puppy"!!! Some of the other threads on this topic describe running from the room in tears at their news. Whereas I didn't want to do that, mentally the scratched record noise sounded! She was so quick to find his little extras too, it was all the more shocking for the speed of it all.

I have loads of time to get used to a DS now anyway!

Boys are fab. Bit boisterous at times, but still very cute. You can play dinosaurs, lego, cars, ball games etc.

With a bit of luck your DH will have a whale of a time playing in the garden with him when he is bigger. While you get some peace .

I didnt know what sex Ds was until he was born, had a fair idea it was going to be a boy but secretly hoped for a girl. I was a bit disappointed when he was born.

But now he is 12 and is the light of my life, having had 3 dds after him, I am so glad he was a boy. He is so easy going, loves his sports, I nearly know as much about soccer teams and the premership thanks to 'match attaxs' and other sticker books as his father and him. I am now even coming to grips with Rugby. I love standing at the sidelines screaming my support .

You never receive as much affection from a girl as you do from a boy, and even at 12 will still want a hug and sit on my knee and loves nothing more on a saturday morning to climb into my bed for a cuddle.

I do feel guilty over my initial reaction, which incidently this is the first time I have confessed to this but i know I have made it up to him and I am so so so glad he was my fabulous 7 and a 1/2 lb baby boy.

Here's two nice boy stories
ds1 woke me the other morning whispering "you're my best friend" in my ear...
and before he went up for a sleep today, I was looking a bit fed up (too much to do this morning!), and he came up and said "what's up mummy? Let me give you a cuddle, awwwww I love you!"
Usually he's tearing around, manic wrestling with his little brother, so these little moments are brilliant. Yours will be lovely, boys are great!!!!!

Boys are gorgeous, cuddly and adorable. You have to let them out for runs to let off steam, mind. A bit like having a large non-furry pet.

It doesn't sound silly to be convinced you're having one or the other. Through my pregnancy DP and I were both convinced we were having a boy - in our case we were right, but when it comes down to it, you don't care when baby arrives. We didn't find out the sex at the scan, but when baby was born, not breathing, neither of us asked what it was, we just wanted to be sure he was ok. My sister was convinced she was having a boy both times, and has had two girls. She still loves them both, even though she wants a boy.
My little boy is now 9 days old, and he is adorable!(besides they do say that girls and their mothers don't get on)

My boy is great we couldn't of wished for a better child, he is super cute, very clever, so loving always wants a hug, great manners, always makes you laugh and he is very cheeky.
Boys are great

geraldinetheluckygoat my ds tells me im his best friend too its lovley

You are all lovely!

Good point Meglet - DH would like nothing more than swimming/football/swingball etc going on a lot of the time, whereas I do like to have some quiet time to work on crafts etc! I also love working on crafts with children too so I'm sure will do plenty of that with DS, but some of the time DS is likely to be having dad/son bonding time with DH doing outdoorsy things.

Your post is also really lovely Cikecaka esp as this is the first time you have said how you felt initially about having a DS.

I hope I have the same bond with this DS as you have with yours geraldine.

Thanks also portandlemon and lizzzombie!!

LOL Itsablue!! Thanks so much for your compliments, I think my boys are the most stunning creatures, but so does every parent! As for the legs, it is just my bump that makes everything appear smaller, like an optical illusion! Perhaps another advantage as I have carried all 3 of my boys like this.

You know though, I had a m/c between the 2 boys and am somehow convinced that was my daughter and that it is her who watches over my ds2 (although maybe I feel this way as it is almost easier to picture a girly angel)

There needs to be more people like you around, who would say nothing but nice things to people who have children of all the same sex. It is amazing how many people have negative opinions or insist that I MUST want a girl. Very few people say things like, ohhh, how lovely, I bet you are spoiled with love or that sounds like such fun (it's fun with 2, I should imagine adding a 3rd is just adding to the fun!). I did laugh yesterday though, I was in Holland & Barret and the cashier was asking how long I had left and if I knew what it was. I told her a boy and 5 weeks. Ds2 was with me (he's never far from my side, lol!) and she was saying he was going to be a big brother and we got talking about the biggest brother and how ds2 was the next big brother. When she mentioned my having 3 boys and the usual "you will have your hands full" comment and I said, "yes, but imagine how much I am loved and all the cuddles I get", all the little old ladies behind me were nodding and saying how true and right that was, lol! Made me smile at any rate!

Oh, and I have to agree about boys toys. Soooooo much better than girly ones. Maybe it is just that I was tomboyish as a child, but I can't imagine playing tea parties, dollies and barbie. Give me train tracks, lego and matchbox cars any day (incidentally, mummy's belly makes a great car park these days!)

I have 2 boys, they are so spirited and funny.
They are affectionate, loving and full of life.

You will love you baby boy when he comes along as much as you would have a girl.

Heartmum - I'm like you rather relieved that I've had a boy, as I was always a tomboy growing up - I loved my BMX, climbibng trees etc and can't stand princessy girly girls, so if I do one day have a DD I hope she'll be a tomboy like me, so I'll know what to do with her lol

My son makes me feel so special. I can look woofer rough and he will stroke my cheek and say "Mummy you are a princess and so beautiful, will you marry me when I am big?"

He's annoying too, but when he says stuff like that and really means it, it's hard not to melt- having said that it's normally followed up with, "can I have a biscuit?"

Train him up nice and early too and he'll love going shopping with you, friends of mine have started asking me if I will hire out ds he lives to shoe shop with me and chooses me amazing stuff.

Congratulations, that's lovely news.